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Post by samantha25 on Nov 30, 2019 4:43:17 GMT
I thought that I would scrapbook in the wee hours of the night in between feeding twin new borns, because I have all this time. Why not scrapbook? How delusional I was- LOL
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Post by ntsf on Nov 30, 2019 4:54:59 GMT
I thought I would be going on hikes and out a lot with my twins (and toddler).... mostly what I really could do every day is read the paper, take a shower and take care of kids... I was often alone for weeks.. so that was a big accomplishment. the twins are 30 and still do not have baby books...I can't remember either.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 30, 2019 4:59:19 GMT
I thought of course my kids would get into UC Berkeley.... things have changed in 25 years and the only people I know getting in are athletes. It's crazy how things have changed but it's all for the best. Amazing what I thought back then.
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Post by ~summer~ on Nov 30, 2019 5:01:01 GMT
I thought that I would scrapbook in the wee hours of the night in between feeding twin new borns, because I have all this time. Why not scrapbook? How delusional I was- LOL I think the best advice I got was "sleep when they sleep". I thought I was supposed to clean up and scrapbook. Once I started sleeping when my colicky newborn actually slept, my world changed...
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Post by scrapmaven on Nov 30, 2019 5:44:37 GMT
I thought that you could schedule a baby shower during the 3rd trimester. Both times the baby was at the baby shower. No one prepared me for preemies.
I thought that the baby would sleep through the night after 2 or 3 days, sort of like training a kitten. HAHAHAHAHA!
The interesting thing is that having little ones seems so worrisome, but the true worry starts when they drive alone the first time.
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Post by malibou on Nov 30, 2019 8:02:54 GMT
I thought that if we introduced lots of new foods over and over that he would be a good eater. Not. I am however a master class maker of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. ~summer~ are you a Berkeley grad? I finished up there about 25 years ago.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 30, 2019 8:38:04 GMT
I thought that if we introduced lots of new foods over and over that he would be a good eater. Not. I am however a master class maker of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. Ha, this is mine too! How many times do you reckon I've given DS tinned spaghetti on toast because he won't eat what we're eating? 15yo and still having tinned spaghetti more times than I'd like to admit. As for being delusional about how much time I'd have to myself when my babies were born, I'm actually the opposite. At my pre-natal classes they made it seem like we'd barely have time for 3 hours sleep, and forget about showering, not going to happen! In reality I was getting about 7 or 8 hours of (broken) sleep, and not once did I ever nap while my baby was sleeping - I spent all my baby nap time scrapbooking or sewing. I loved those days! When they were a bit older they were both terrible sleepers though - those days were bloody tough.
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Post by AussieMeg on Nov 30, 2019 8:42:51 GMT
Another one I just thought of - my daughter (my first child) was was really well behaved, never threw a tantrum, and could be reasoned with from a very early age. I was pretty proud of my superior parenting skills, especially when I saw other not-so-well behaved kids. Then my son came along...... and I was brought back down to earth with a crash! That was proof positive that behaviour is more nature than nurture!
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Post by malibou on Nov 30, 2019 9:07:43 GMT
Another one I just thought of - my daughter (my first child) was was really well behaved, never threw a tantrum, and could be reasoned with from a very early age. I was pretty proud of my superior parenting skills, especially when I saw other not-so-well behaved kids. Then my son came along...... and I was brought back down to earth with a crash! That was proof positive that behaviour is more nature than nurture! My son was a super laid back baby and toddler. When he was sleeping thru the night at 6 weeks, I knew it was a trick to get me to have another. I'm not falling for that.
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Post by gar on Nov 30, 2019 9:32:28 GMT
It never crossed my mind I'd have post natal depression and would sit on my bed holding my perfect baby girl wondering how I could persuade Dh that getting her adopted would be the best idea because then I could have my life back Thankfully someone recognised it and it didn't last too long.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Nov 30, 2019 10:32:36 GMT
I was silly enough to think that if I fed good meals that my kids would be good eaters.
I thought if I read to them enough they would love reading and neither of them do.
I assumed if I talked as though college was right, they would just go.
And I thought that if I handled my mental illness well and got them early intervention, they would have an easier time of it than me.
I was wrong on all accounts.
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Post by gillyp on Nov 30, 2019 11:09:58 GMT
I expected the Walton’s and got the Addams.
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Post by peano on Nov 30, 2019 12:50:33 GMT
On my way to a new mother’s support group, one of my first times out of the house with DS, I wanted something to drink. “I’ll just quickly run into this little market and buy something” I told myself. Oh. Wait...
Just when I had DS figured out—he changed.
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Post by bearmom on Nov 30, 2019 13:53:02 GMT
Another one I just thought of - my daughter (my first child) was was really well behaved, never threw a tantrum, and could be reasoned with from a very early age. I was pretty proud of my superior parenting skills, especially when I saw other not-so-well behaved kids. Then my son came along...... and I was brought back down to earth with a crash! That was proof positive that behaviour is more nature than nurture! I am sooo glad that my more challenging child as first. One thing I learned early was to never say: my child will never do ............ My naive thought, a baby only cries when they need something and I would never use a pacifier as that was being a bad parent.
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Post by hop2 on Nov 30, 2019 14:15:19 GMT
I thought that you could schedule a baby shower during the 3rd trimester. Both times the baby was at the baby shower. No one prepared me for preemies. I thought that the baby would sleep through the night after 2 or 3 days, sort of like training a kitten. HAHAHAHAHA! The interesting thing is that having little ones seems so worrisome, but the true worry starts when they drive alone the first time. I don’t know, I weathered the child’s car accident better than I did the first Co Ed non chaperoned camping trip. I was all sorts of anxious about that. ( and I wouldn’t mind being a gramma, so that was not it ) It went from please sleep thru the night I’m exhausted; to ‘promise me I won’t need to hire you a lawyer!’ faster than you think. And my kids are good kids. But you hear stories about other good kids whose life went to hell in a handbag with one unfortunate incident. Like the pea who’s daughter was the oldest passenger in a car and an empty beer can was found by the cops. She wasn’t driving, she wasn’t drinking, and yet she had legal trouble. So now I see ‘problems’ in every semi normal growing up right of passage. My 22 DD had to say, calm down you raised us right now trust us. But it’s not them I don’t trust! I tell you I’ve had way more sleepless nights with young adults than I did with infants.
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Post by cakediva on Nov 30, 2019 14:23:42 GMT
Haha - I foolishly thought with my first that I should set my alarm for every two hours through the night so I could feed her. 😂😂😂 Little shit was on her own time schedule - how dare she? 😂😊
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Post by Merge on Nov 30, 2019 14:26:54 GMT
Another one I just thought of - my daughter (my first child) was was really well behaved, never threw a tantrum, and could be reasoned with from a very early age. I was pretty proud of my superior parenting skills, especially when I saw other not-so-well behaved kids. Then my son came along...... and I was brought back down to earth with a crash! That was proof positive that behaviour is more nature than nurture! I am sooo glad that my more challenging child as first. One thing I learned early was to never say: my child will never do ............ My naive thought, a baby only cries when they need something and I would never use a pacifier as that was being a bad parent. I also had my more challenging child first. Would not sleep unless she was beside me, co-slept with us (because we could not get sleep any other way) until she was 18 months and I had to figure out how to displace her because her baby sister was on the way. Little did I know that baby sister would sleep sweetly when placed in her crib from the time she was born. She slept 5-hour stretches from birth and was sleeping through the night by the time she was three weeks old. Easiest baby ever (and still a much easier child than her older sister, and they're 16 and 18 years old now). What I also did not know is that anxiety is real and inborn and even babies and toddlers can have it. Poor girl. If I could go back and do the oldest one's baby and toddler years over again, I'd do it very differently. And I'd manage/treat my own anxiety before having kids.
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Post by smcast on Nov 30, 2019 15:03:28 GMT
I thought maybe my dd would talk to me more since I'm open, available, and cooler than my mother. Nope!
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Post by jjpeapea on Nov 30, 2019 15:12:30 GMT
At the new mother’s playgroup, one of the other mothers was talking about how special her baby was. I thought that she had no idea what she was talking about. It was obvious which baby was the cutest, smartest, and most precious. Luckily I had an epiphany that every mother loves her baby most. That came in handy as a teacher - I knew why parents were so defensive about their kids and I could take it into account during conferences.
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Post by teddyw on Nov 30, 2019 15:32:04 GMT
I thought my oldest dd wouldn’t have tantrums. Hahahahaha! She was the queen of tantrums after my niece.
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Post by cristelina on Nov 30, 2019 16:32:41 GMT
I thought you would NEVER have to worry about your kids once they grew up. Ha! I worry more now (29 and 33 year old men) because I can't make things right for them when something goes wrong. When they are tiny tots all you have to do is hug them and they feel better in no time.
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Post by refugeepea on Nov 30, 2019 16:54:53 GMT
I thought I was a bad parent because breastfeeding didn't come easy with my first child. Luckily, by my second child I no longer cared. I stopped when she was six months and know it was the best decision.
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Post by julie5 on Nov 30, 2019 16:59:53 GMT
It never crossed my mind I'd have post natal depression and would sit on my bed holding my perfect baby girl wondering how I could persuade Dh that getting her adopted would be the best idea because then I could have my life back Thankfully someone recognised it and it didn't last too long. Hugs. PPD here too. It took me until she was 6 months old to say something because I thought for sure they would take my baby away. My ex was pretty useless too. Apparently I should have just been happy and never need medical intervention. 20 years later and I take a cocktail of 6 meds for severe depression and anxiety still. As for motherhood? I don’t know that I had any preconceived notions other than thinking my baby would hate me. 20 years later, she does.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Nov 30, 2019 17:02:18 GMT
I was going to be the perfect mother. My son would only eat the best food and whatever else. Flash forward 10 years and breakfast was instant ramen because he didn’t want anything else.
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Post by psiluvu on Nov 30, 2019 17:18:08 GMT
Another one I just thought of - my daughter (my first child) was was really well behaved, never threw a tantrum, and could be reasoned with from a very early age. I was pretty proud of my superior parenting skills, especially when I saw other not-so-well behaved kids. Then my son came along...... and I was brought back down to earth with a crash! That was proof positive that behaviour is more nature than nurture! My son was a super laid back baby and toddler. When he was sleeping thru the night at 6 weeks, I knew it was a trick to get me to have another. I'm not falling for that. These are me. My dd slept through he night at 7 weeks, breastfeed easily and was a very mellow baby. DS didn't sleep through the night until 15 months and then not regularly until he was 4. He also couldn't latch properly but I didn't realize it. I figured hey I did this once no problem. At his first month checkup he had lost a worrisome amount of weight and I had to supplement with formula He came out with fiery red hair and a big personality to match, nothing mellow about him. If he was my first he probably would have been an only. My most recent naivetes happened in September. DS is now 16 and I figured oh he can stay home alone and won't have a party. Yeah DH and I went away for the weekend and he had a party. Thankfully nothing damaged except maybe some livers and he said it really wasn't that fun because you had to watch everyone instead of having fun.
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Post by finaledition on Nov 30, 2019 17:23:17 GMT
I thought that if we introduced lots of new foods over and over that he would be a good eater. Not. I am however a master class maker of peanut butter and jelly sandwiches. ~summer~ are you a Berkeley grad? I finished up there about 25 years ago. Did you see that article about the mom who tweeted that she didn’t see the need for kid menu at restaurants? There were so many responses.
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Post by The Great Carpezio on Nov 30, 2019 17:33:38 GMT
I didn’t have my boys until 35, so I don’t think I was super naive. I think I had a lot of the same ideas many of you did, but because I had them later, I’d had a lot of chances to learn from all my friends and relatives. Also, I’d been teaching for ten years by then.
However, I am definitely more of a rager/yeller than I thought I’d be. And there is nothing that could have prepared me for high maintenance twin boys with anxiety and adhd.
Oh, and recently, I’ve learned I can check their grades twice a day and still be surprised by a grade shift.
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Post by 950nancy on Nov 30, 2019 17:49:35 GMT
I thought number two would be as easy as number one.
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Post by finaledition on Nov 30, 2019 17:58:06 GMT
I thought girls were easier than boys. Ha, not in my case.
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Post by pierkiss on Nov 30, 2019 20:36:04 GMT
I thought I would have gorgeous, organized scrapbooks detailing all the milestones my kids hit as well as all the little things I wanted to remember. I quit scrapbooking (the traditional kind) the year my first kid was born. No time to do it, and no patience for the giant paper mess! I switched to digital, but I didn’t love all the pages I made (even with premade templates). It turns out that you can hoard digital scrapbook supplies too! 😂.
I now do a digital p365, which I love. I put my fav cell phone pics in there, and that way they’re printed and out for the world to see. And it’s easy! Just pop them into premade templates and I’m done!
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