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Post by leannec on Jan 17, 2020 16:20:13 GMT
Hey ladies! We are giving the Peas some entertainment if nothing else A friend of mine is going out of town and offered her house to me for "whatever" I really only need it if I want to see Justin because he lives three hours away and my house is not an option because I live with my two dd's ... I texted him and told him he would need to come to see me next weekend and he actually said that he could probably make that work This is the 30 year old I have been texting, phoning and Snapchatting with for 2.5 months ... I don't want to get my hopes up but I really hope he does show up ... fingers crossed Give me an update on you if you've got one! I'm loving our thread and all the fun we're having Link to last week's Single Ladies Thread
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Post by mrssmith on Jan 17, 2020 16:45:22 GMT
Sounds fun, leannec! I put my profile back up and "liked" a bunch of guys. No one has contacted me so I don't know if my profile is not enticing enough or what. I should clarify that none of the guys that I've "liked" have contacted me. I don't know how to start the conversation. Working up to that! I did find out XH is dating a 26 year old! (We're 49). I find it humorous. And I bet he likes being with someone with less baggage, no kids, etc. I guess I see the appeal of dating someone younger. LOL
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River
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Post by River on Jan 17, 2020 19:35:55 GMT
Well, here's how my first week on match went...
I had about 30 likes and 12 messages. The first night I started chatting with 3 guys and after about 2 days they all asked me out. 😳 I decided to meet guy #1 for drinks Friday night and it went fine. I stayed about an hour. Nothing earth shattering but good conversation. He hugged me goodnight and asked to see me again.
On Sunday night, I went to dinner with guy #2. Swoon!!! He was wonderful, sparks flying and the conversation was fun and never ending. We closed the restaurant down and he asked if I'd like to go have a cocktail, that he wasn't ready for the date to end. Of course I said yes. When I finally went to leave he gave me a small kiss and hug and turned to leave, then turn around and gave me a more passionate kiss. My knees were shaking let me tell you! We agreed to meet up the next night and watch the championship football game at a local bar.
Monday night: Same thing, we had a blast watching the game. Easy banter all night long. We went outside for air during halftime and I got another steamy kiss. After the game we just kept talking by my car and more kisses. When he left he asked if he could see me again on Thursday night.
Thursday night: Oh my my my!!! We went to dinner, then drinks, then to his place for a night cap. He was a perfect gentleman the whole night. We did a little heavy petting and he asked me if each step was ok. I could so fall for this guy so I need to be careful. I ended up staying until like 3 in the morning.
Here's the scary thing about him. He's a professional race car driver and a little celebrity like. At dinner there would be streams of people shaking his hand. He said he wanted to show me that part of his life to make sure I was ok with it. And I truly was. I could tell girls were making small passes at him so I asked him why he joined match. He said he was looking for a mature woman that could hold intellectual conversations. Girls he meets are giddy, even the older ones and go glassy eyed over anything more than a how's the weather remark. Heaven forbid try to talk about politics.
He's not racing at the moment, taking a much needed break and so he's fixing up old cars and owns his own garage. His work is amazing. But his whole crazy party type life scares me. I mean, he's going to a cocktail party for the current Ms. America while she's in town tonight. 😲
We are seeing each other tomorrow night. I hope we get busy!!!
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 17, 2020 22:30:38 GMT
leannec River- Hope you both get some! I saw my guy Tuesday night and it was good as always. He will be out of town next week, so no fun... Unless I get a normal date haha.
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Post by leannec on Jan 17, 2020 23:29:52 GMT
We are seeing each other tomorrow night. I hope we get busy!!! I'll cross my fingers for both you and me
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 0:06:16 GMT
River, that’s very exciting! I’m happy to hear you’re having a good time!
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 0:10:36 GMT
I took my profiles down for a bit, but have still kept texting a few men that I matched with before. I don’t feel like any of them are actually going anywhere though, no plans to meet anyone.
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 18, 2020 1:04:57 GMT
ashley Did you ever FaceTime with that guy?
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 1:12:06 GMT
ashley Did you ever FaceTime with that guy? Not yet, it hasn’t worked out with our schedules. Maybe this weekend?
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 18, 2020 6:23:59 GMT
River! I’m so happy to read your awesome dating experiences!
That’s how it was for me, I joined Tinder late one night feeling sorry for myself back in May or June. I wasn’t sleeping or eating, having found out about Low Life Cheating Asshat (LLCAH) in March. World falling apart after 22 years and all. All the messages were disconcerting, I left it like 2 weeks. Decided to go on a date with a German guy who was here just for work for a few weeks, seemed safely non commitment. Almost backed out to go to the sauna on the way to meet him. He saw me and stood up and my heart sunk, he was way cuter in person and I just thought “oh this guy will never be interested in me”. But we had a great time, and he was, and the next time I saw him I decided to go back to his hotel with him- I was so curious to see what sex with a person who was t LLCAH was like. Well it was great 😂 We stayed up almost all night talking and such. I messaged LLCAH I would be home in the morning, he sent a flurry of texts he was “worried about me”. Uh huh. The unsafest I’ve ever been was with him...
So we go out with his work buddies. I stay over in his lovely hotel with a sauna in it. It’s really fun. At the end of the three weeks he was going back to Germany and he said he was in love with me- that was really unexpected. I told him point blank my life was a mess, I was in no way ready for anything like that. We kept talking, he called every day, he was back in Seoul another few weeks, he flew me to San Francisco for a couple weeks when working there. He really was a good guy but just majorly wrong time for me.. when my dad died in October and I was back in Seattle I broke it off with him, I just could not handle an emotional relationship at all and I didn’t care for long distance.
But, it’s like life found the absolutely perfect person to help me heal after what LLCAH had done. I don’t think he will ever realize it, but he was the perfect person for me to meet then.
I think the universe knows you need some happy River, and is sending you some!
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 12:38:42 GMT
Oh brutal... a super hot guy I matched with a while ago but never messaged asked me last night if I wanted to go to the Drake (a really nice hotel and night club in Toronto) with him tonight. Figures! No one ever asks me to do fun stuff like that and I just can’t do that right now.
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Post by leannec on Jan 18, 2020 13:50:57 GMT
Oh brutal... a super hot guy I matched with a while ago but never messaged asked me last night if I wanted to go to the Drake (a really nice hotel and night club in Toronto) with him tonight. Figures! No one ever asks me to do fun stuff like that and I just can’t do that right now. That is a total bummer but at least you know he's interested
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Post by leannec on Jan 18, 2020 14:06:09 GMT
Well, here's an update on me ... I had some texting yesterday with the newest guy, Brad, that was reeeaaalllyyy fun He's away all weekend but I'm hosting Book Club tonight so that's fine ... hopefully, we can get together during the week But my friend that was going out of town and lending me her house has decided not to go Ugh! Now I have to make other arrangements if Justin comes here next weekend Oh, and I've also been texting another guy His name is Laurent ... he's from France but lives in Canmore, Alberta which is about an hour away from Calgary ... near Banff ... in the mountains ... one of the most beautiful places on earth He's close to my age ... a chef ... that sucks because he has chef hours ... works weekends ... I have teacher hours But he's really nice ... texting someone with an accent is funny ... they text like they speak but I get it I know you guys are going to need a spreadsheet to keep track of all of my men ... Justin, Andrew (?), Jay (probably done), Jory, Brad, Laurent
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Post by mrssmith on Jan 18, 2020 20:01:21 GMT
Had my first chatting w/ a guy. He told me he's sure my inbox is full. I said not really, but I have some what could be dealbreakers in my profile (kids still pretty young, am a liberal pro-choice feminist). Who knows. He said he promised himself he wouldn't talk politics or religion. I think that's important though. Because if someone wants a church-goer, that's not going to be me. Nor will I be attending a Trump rally.
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 20:11:34 GMT
That guy that asked me out tonight wanted to go dancing at the Drake! I can’t dance! And I have nothing I’d wear out to a place like that anyway.
Does anyone else feel like they need a “date wardrobe”? Not that I’m going to dress like someone I’m not, but I don’t have clothes to wear to places like clubs. Or anything other than dressy work clothes or jeans and plaid shirts. Lol
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Post by leannec on Jan 18, 2020 20:26:37 GMT
Because if someone wants a church-goer, that's not going to be me. Same .. if they talk about God or Jesus in their profile I'm out
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Post by leannec on Jan 18, 2020 20:36:35 GMT
Does anyone else feel like they need a “date wardrobe”? Not that I’m going to dress like someone I’m not, but I don’t have clothes to wear to places like clubs. Or anything other than dressy work clothes or jeans and plaid shirts. Lol I'm a teacher so I wear what I wear to work which is a little off beat ... I normally wear Lululemon leggings with a top and blazer and cowboy boots ... unique I know
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 18, 2020 20:47:36 GMT
Because if someone wants a church-goer, that's not going to be me. Same .. if they talk about God or Jesus in their profile I'm out Once I had sex with a guy who wears a cross on a necklace and the cross kept hitting me in the face repeatedly and all I could think was: 1) how annoying, and 2) I don’t think God and Jesus would approve of this. Lol
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Post by alexa11 on Jan 19, 2020 3:00:52 GMT
Does anyone else feel like they need a “date wardrobe”? Oh, I love date wardrobe! I love dressing up and sexy for the right guy. I can't dance, either but I could look good sitting at a table and drinking.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 19, 2020 3:26:20 GMT
I haven't ordered anything lately so no postie for me. He seemed nice. Probably already taken.
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Post by DEX on Jan 19, 2020 11:50:15 GMT
Does anyone else feel like they need a “date wardrobe”? Oh, I love date wardrobe! I love dressing up and sexy for the right guy. I can't dance, either but I could look good sitting at a table and drinking. I call that "chair dancing". I am the undisputed queen of chair dancing. No one is better at that than me.
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 19, 2020 11:52:59 GMT
I haven't ordered anything lately so no postie for me. He seemed nice. Probably already taken. Ok Single Ladies homework: find out if he is single! I mean, it can’t hurt anything to try. Meet him at the box and ask him point blank if he is married, and would he like to have a drink (coffee, go to the park, whatever) sometime? Now trust me, I know this is waaayyy harder than it sounds. But men really, really get a kick out of a woman showing interest, so if he is single, he is bound to say yes, and if he is married he will smile all day so hey that’s nice. It’s a win win.
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 19, 2020 11:55:37 GMT
Does anyone else feel like they need a “date wardrobe”? Oh, I love date wardrobe! I love dressing up and sexy for the right guy. I can't dance, either but I could look good sitting at a table and drinking. I am so much cuter in the summer 😂 I hate wearing jeans with tights under, and 2 shirts and a sweater, and boots. I just look bulky and grumpy and do not feel cute in winter. It’s just way too cold- if I wear a cute coat versus the puffy down coat I’ll freeze and I’m not about freezing so the cute is greatly reduced.
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Post by leannec on Jan 19, 2020 15:54:49 GMT
New update! My friend went out of town after all ... I have the use of her place Let's see if I actually use it
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Post by ashley on Jan 19, 2020 15:57:50 GMT
Oh, I love date wardrobe! I love dressing up and sexy for the right guy. I can't dance, either but I could look good sitting at a table and drinking. I am so much cuter in the summer 😂 I hate wearing jeans with tights under, and 2 shirts and a sweater, and boots. I just look bulky and grumpy and do not feel cute in winter. It’s just way too cold- if I wear a cute coat versus the puffy down coat I’ll freeze and I’m not about freezing so the cute is greatly reduced. I have a similar problem... I have Raynaud’s disease so my feet and hands have serious problems in the cold so wearing cute shoes from about Oct-May becomes a problem for me. I have to choose between wearing two layers of insulated socks and super warm boots, or wearing cute shoes and being in a lot of pain for several hours.
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Post by gryroagain on Jan 19, 2020 16:30:05 GMT
New update! My friend went out of town after all ... I have the use of her place Let's see if I actually use it Hooray! Get busy girl!
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Post by leannec on Jan 19, 2020 16:34:28 GMT
New update! My friend went out of town after all ... I have the use of her place Let's see if I actually use it Hooray! Get busy girl! I hope to
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Post by leannec on Jan 19, 2020 16:39:36 GMT
I am so much cuter in the summer 😂 I hate wearing jeans with tights under, and 2 shirts and a sweater, and boots. I just look bulky and grumpy and do not feel cute in winter. It’s just way too cold- if I wear a cute coat versus the puffy down coat I’ll freeze and I’m not about freezing so the cute is greatly reduced. I have a similar problem... I have Raynaud’s disease so my feet and hands have serious problems in the cold so wearing cute shoes from about Oct-May becomes a problem for me. I have to choose between wearing two layers of insulated socks and super warm boots, or wearing cute shoes and being in a lot of pain for several hours. That sucks! I'm lucky I guess ... I can wear anything shoe wise ... but I live in my cowboy boots
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ashley
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Post by ashley on Jan 19, 2020 16:50:24 GMT
I have a similar problem... I have Raynaud’s disease so my feet and hands have serious problems in the cold so wearing cute shoes from about Oct-May becomes a problem for me. I have to choose between wearing two layers of insulated socks and super warm boots, or wearing cute shoes and being in a lot of pain for several hours. That sucks! I'm lucky I guess ... I can wear anything shoe wise ... but I live in my cowboy boots I used to be able to do that, I just developed this condition maybe 10 years ago. It is annoying.
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Post by leannec on Jan 19, 2020 16:52:13 GMT
That sucks! I'm lucky I guess ... I can wear anything shoe wise ... but I live in my cowboy boots I used to be able to do that, I just developed this condition maybe 10 years ago. It is annoying. I bet ... but you can wear cute glasses
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