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Post by Basket1lady on Jun 12, 2020 18:03:06 GMT
No. Studies are showing that prolonged exposure to respiratory droplets is the biggest risk. And that’s a large group, too.
I would feel sad to say no, but I would still say no. Your poor DD. I feel for her. It’s a tough time to live through.
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Post by tracylynn on Jun 12, 2020 18:09:33 GMT
Schools are open, so yes, I would. ETA as long as it’s not in my house. They'll be bringing back whatever all those kids and the family who lives in that house had - so your house or not, really doesn't matter. |
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Post by freecharlie on Jun 12, 2020 18:13:57 GMT
My atea probably would have one that large, but ive let my 15 year old stay the night at friend's houses and four of them went fishing in the mountains the other day
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Post by miominmio on Jun 12, 2020 18:18:46 GMT
Schools are open, so yes, I would. ETA as long as it’s not in my house. They'll be bringing back whatever all those kids and the family who lives in that house had - so your house or not, really doesn't matter. Well, where I live, We’ve haven’t had any new cases for weeks, so that’s really not an issue currently. But sleepovers are stressful, especially with that many kids. |
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Post by peaname on Jun 12, 2020 18:47:20 GMT
Heck no. And that’s just irresponsible of the parent to invite kids. And the other parents who are saying yes. But it’s the start of peer pressure and there will come a time when her values will force her to say no to something the crowd is doing. It’s so hard to be a teen!!!
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 12, 2020 18:50:10 GMT
Not right now, no.
A sleepover with one really good friend when you know their family has been really good about being safe up till now? Yes.
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Post by RosieKat on Jun 12, 2020 18:51:33 GMT
And I am also being the bad guy in my home. My DD loves and lives for basketball, and I'm not letting her play in tournaments right now. Practice is OK(ish) with me because half of the practices are outside, the others are in a massive huge gym with tons of air volume, and it's the same 9 girls and one coach.
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Post by joteves on Jun 12, 2020 19:00:16 GMT
No way! Gatherings of more than 10 aren't allowed in my area anyway (Portugal).
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Post by scrapmaven on Jun 12, 2020 19:40:37 GMT
We're not aloud to do so here. We can socially distance w/masks outside, but no more than 10 people and we're not doing that, either. Where is this mother's common sense? No one is an exception. We might as well be diligent and get this over w/as soon as we can.
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Post by maryland on Jun 12, 2020 21:22:09 GMT
I always let my kids go to sleepovers and hang out with friends, but not now.
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Post by gina on Jun 12, 2020 22:09:02 GMT
Absolutely not! I'm pretty relaxed and my kids have been hanging out with their friends, but I won't allow any sleepovers, not even with one person right now. This is a hard no for me.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jun 12, 2020 23:49:01 GMT
Ha, I had a similar scenario here on Thursday night. My son wanted to go and stay the night with his cousin and some other boys at his cousin's best mate's house. 6 boys in tents. I said no way (although to be honest, that was just as much about DS having school the next day as my COVID concerns). DS went on and on and on, begging for a good hour - I had to leave the room. I then rang my brother and said, and I quote, "What the fuck is wrong with you people?!"
I am stunned that in your daughter's friendship group, so many parents are allowing their kid to go to this sleepover.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jun 12, 2020 23:54:45 GMT
Tell your daughter that you would have let her go, but the peas voted you down. Another no vote from me.
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Post by yodutchess on Jun 13, 2020 0:32:05 GMT
No.
I let my son go to the park with his drumpad and drum with another kid. That is the extent of socialization in person.
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Post by cycworker on Jun 13, 2020 0:34:26 GMT
No, no and no! It would also make me question the common sense of the person (hope it isn't you!) hosting this and thinking it is okay right now. Even if you live in the state with the lowest rates of covid, it only takes 1 person to infect everyone in such close quarters. No, it's not me that's hosting. My daughter is friends with twin girls and it's their dad who is hosting. He rented an Airbnb place that is about 20 minutes from where we live. He invited their soccer, volleyball, basketball teams and school friends. So far 12 girls have confirmed and 3 are maybes. There could be more coming! My husband and I said no to our daughter. She started crying (and crying). The drama. The girls having the sleepover are already posting on social media about it. Party is tonight so I know the other girls attending the party will be posting tonight. I texted a friend who I really respect and admire. I was a little shocked when she said she is allowing her daughter to go. At the beginning of this Covid thing she herself had a sleepover planned for her daughter and canceled it. Her father-in-law has cancer and she didn't want to potentially expose him. Of course now I'm feeling bad. My daughter really wants to see her friends. I'm just not comfortable with the whole situation. I would've said yes regardless, but especially with that added info re: your friend allowing her daughter to go. That said, I live somewhere that has COVID under control. We are allowing group gatherings of 50. |
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Post by threegirls on Jun 13, 2020 2:48:46 GMT
A great big thank you to everyone who replied. The party was tonight and my daughter stayed home. The party girls (they are twins) kept sending my daughter messages to please come join the party. I'm still surprised that their dad had this sleepover party at an Airbnb and sent a mass email out to their three sports teams and school friends. I like their dad and he is a nice guy but I wish he didn't put me and lots of other parents in this position.
I really appreciate the Peas input! I don't feel like an overbearing, no-fun mom! I hated saying no to my daughter because if things were different (no Covid) I would have said yes.
ETA: Cases are currently going up in my city.
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Post by mikklynn on Jun 13, 2020 11:23:40 GMT
I think you did the right thing. I can't even imagine a parent thinking this was ok.
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Post by Country Ham on Jun 13, 2020 13:18:19 GMT
Looking out my window right now, in this small town, I would. We still have less then 10 cases in our county all considered recovered. Both my kids hosted gatherings last night. Their closest circle doesn't equal that many kids though. My 17 year old and 6 of his friends all stayed at a family cabin last night (no adults.. another thread LOL). We have an in ground pool and my daughter had 5 friends over for a pool party. They didn't stay the night though. My husband has had leukemia twice, and just came home from an emergency appendectomy Thursday with an overnight stay in hospital (his dad begged me to let him go get him)and he was OK to have kids coming in and out of the house. I am not sure how I feel about "invite the whole team" things yet, but our sports teams are practicing on the field and on the courts right now (restrictions) and I feel super comfortable around our bubbles or circle of friends.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jun 13, 2020 13:22:07 GMT
Nope! Our state guidelines are 10 or less indoors and I would expect them to sleep 6 feet apart. I told my daughter she is 17, she could sleep over if they had three beds or if they have 6 feet between them.. she and her two besties are cleaning out a basement at her friends house so they can sleep over and hang safely!
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Post by ameslou on Jun 13, 2020 13:43:12 GMT
This is different but related. We are dropping our teen daughters at a 3 week overnight camp tomorrow. There a number of modifications to "normal" that the camp is implementing: at dropoff only one parent who doesn't exit the vehicle, campers stay with their cabin rather than mingling with girls from other cabins as usual, modifications to cabins, meal times, etc. Many of the activities are outdoors, and the cabins themselves tend to be well ventilated bc there's no AC and it's HOT.
Are we taking a risk? Yes. Am I worried about them getting sick, or bringing it home and getting us sick when they return? Yes.
I fully expect that our school district will have in person classes, at least at the beginning of the year. I think we're going to have an A/B schedule where only half of the kids will be physically in the building at one time. We will send them to school. I think the risk of contracting COVID is much greater at school than it will be at camp.
We're sending our kids to camp bc we've weighed the risks and decided that, for us, the fun experiences they have and the maturity they gain at camp is worth it.
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jun 13, 2020 14:15:28 GMT
Nope! Our state guidelines are 10 or less indoors and I would expect them to sleep 6 feet apart. I told my daughter she is 17, she could sleep over if they had three beds or if they have 6 feet between them.. she and her two besties are cleaning out a basement at her friends house so they can sleep over and hang safely! I think this is a great idea. You are saying no, I'm not comfortable with you doing activity A, but with modifications, activity B can be a good substitute. |
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Post by ellen on Jun 13, 2020 14:21:04 GMT
During this time, who would even consider hosting something like that? I would be an absolutely no on this one.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Jun 15, 2020 12:07:52 GMT
My daughter would give that one a hard pass without even telling me about it. She has just this week sat outside with her best friend.
She went to one other Sweet 16 party for a dear friend a few weeks ago, and she wanted me there to help enforce the rules. It was held at a picnic area by a lake, <10 people, and everyone wore masks (when not eating/drinking) and carried pool noodles - they couldn’t come any closer to each other than their 2 pool noodles. However, she refused to get together with these same friends the next weekend after some posted pictures at a 3,000+ person protest. They were wearing masks, but it was just too many people in a small space for her to feel comfortable with them for 2 more weeks.
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