breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Jan 3, 2022 16:33:47 GMT
No. I have no idea how his closet is "organized." I also don't wash his clothing since I have no idea what pile is clean and dirty and I'm not sniffing to find out. I wash all the laundry in the house, DH folds it (the house could be covered in trash and DH will be in the living room folding laundry... I could care less if it's folded as long as it's clean) and the kids put it away, ensuring everyone's clothes go to the wrong person and are never seen again...
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Post by Zee on Jan 3, 2022 16:33:54 GMT
No, he does all his own laundry and he prefers it that way.
But I wash all the towels, rugs, blankets, sheets, cloths, etc.
He will help with anything I ask him to but he doesn't notice or think about the things I do like baseboards, that kind of thing. And I'm pretty sure he hasn't cleaned a toilet, sink, shower, or mirror since we've lived here. I don't mind because he takes care of other things like trash, outdoor maintenance, that stuff.
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christinec68
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Post by christinec68 on Jan 3, 2022 16:38:28 GMT
No, I do all the laundry, he puts it all away.
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Post by ~summer~ on Jan 3, 2022 16:41:40 GMT
Just a reminder to be inclusive of all peas you might want to say SO instead of DH.
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Post by scrapmaven on Jan 3, 2022 16:57:06 GMT
Dh insists upon doing his own laundry. Once in a while I'll fold his laundry and put it away, but he wants to do it himself. Far be it from me to stop him.
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peppermintpatty
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Post by peppermintpatty on Jan 3, 2022 17:01:33 GMT
No because he does all the laundry. Wash, dry, fold, iron and put away. Where did you find such a paragon? Lucky you!! Should I dare to tell you that he also does the grocery shopping? I am very lucky. His mama raised him right.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2022 17:33:05 GMT
I do the laundry, and fold it in our closet. If it goes on a hanger, I'll put it in the rod for him. Anything else gets put on his dresser for him to put away.
When we were first married, he thought I should put his clothes away for him... like his mom used to do. Nope. My kids started folding with me as toddlers as a "fun" matching game. By the time they were in second grade, they were doing their own laundry. Laundry is a team sport.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2022 17:33:59 GMT
Yes, I do all of our laundry. I love to put it away -- all the socks and undershirts lined up in the drawer make me smile. Haha. I am very left brained, but only my lined up drawers make me smile!
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Post by papersilly on Jan 3, 2022 17:44:56 GMT
I wash, dry, and fold clothes but I don’t put them away. nope, nope, nope and nope.
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kelly8875
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Post by kelly8875 on Jan 3, 2022 17:46:53 GMT
Nope. I will wash it, if it makes it to the hamper. I will give it a loose fold (wrinkly control) into a laundry basket for him to put away on his own.
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Post by gramasue on Jan 3, 2022 17:53:04 GMT
Of course I do. There's only the two of us, and I like to get the job DONE. Our laundry room doubles as our computer room. I don't want folded clothes all over the washer and/or dryer. I also don't want folded clothes on the bed. The only thing I don't put away are his socks. I pair them up and make a little pile and put that pile on his dresser so he can put them away in the drawer himself.
This is not a big deal for me.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2022 18:01:33 GMT
My DH is a SAHD he does all the laundry and puts it all away. My teen daughter did hers before she got depression. I like doing laundry but he's actually kind of territorial about it and I don't care enough to make it an issue. I sometimes tongue and cheek feel it's his house...I'm just helping out! I do as much as I can to help but I seriously think he is happier if I leave him to it. I do bathrooms a lot and dishes when I can. Before the pandemic the kids had more normal chore expectations but now they are more spoiled. His mom is like this as well, has her rituals and routines...he did nothing growing up. I did enough housekeeping growing up as the oldest of 5 that it's kind of okay with me, but we should probably have a family meeting to balance things out more again. We have just been reaching some level of semi normal function as a family again with my daughter coming out of her very deepest depression. So much hope that 2022 will be better.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jan 3, 2022 18:09:38 GMT
Nope.
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Post by melodyesch on Jan 3, 2022 18:10:18 GMT
Yes. DH hauls the laundry down our narrow basement stairs and does the washing/drying and hauling it back up. I fold and put away.
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scrappert
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Post by scrappert on Jan 3, 2022 18:24:39 GMT
I do. Like some others have said, I want the job done. I don't want stacks for clean clothes laying on the bed or dresser. If I am putting mine away, I certainly can put his away. Daughter puts hers away, but I have folded it.
SO is very particular on how HE does laundry. I don't want him to do it because it takes him all day to do one load and then he sorts everything by color so there may be 8 different loads to do for 3 people. NOPE. I will take care of it!
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rgibson
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Post by rgibson on Jan 3, 2022 18:27:30 GMT
Dh and I do our own laundry. He puts a load in once a week - he has it washed, dried, folded and put away all within the same day. I on the other hand operate much like myboysnme and my laundry often stays in the dryer until dh is ready to do his.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jan 3, 2022 18:40:20 GMT
Some. I put the underwear & t-shirts away because I can reach his drawers, and it's easier to put them away tidily than to clear up when he's tried to do it. He's tall so he gets the high shelves that I can't reach for woollens and shorts. Those go on the bed for him to put away himself. Every now and then I get a sweater land on my head when I open the wardrobe door!
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bethany102399
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Post by bethany102399 on Jan 3, 2022 18:47:30 GMT
Count me as someone who does it because I want the job DONE. left to his down devices, DH's clothes would be all over the house, on the bed, moved in stacks from the bed to the dresser, to the laundry basket on the floor. We're STILL without a washing machine so I now have stacks of things that need to be washed, but I'm unwilling to haul them down to the laundromat added to the piles of cleanbutneedtobeputup clothes. I just let it go with him.
The kids on the other hand are expected to put up their own laundry. neither of them are particularly good at it, but they do try. One thing the lockdown brought home to both of them was how much I do around here, and I've seen a remarkable change in their willingness to do things or ask what I need done.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2022 18:53:36 GMT
Our teens have done their own laundry since they could reach the washer/dryer. I usually do mine and DH's (wash for sure - put away most of the time), but he is happy to help if I remind him. I just want it done right away so I usually do it. Today I stopped him to ask for him to help at least put his away. Unfortunately, he did put his clothes away which prompted him to question why I have more of the closet space than he does. ROTFL!! We have a walk in, but I asked when we moved into the house over two years ago if I could use his bottom shelf/hanger space since it doesn't work for him. Why this is the first time he has noticed, I'm not sure, but it was funny! We had a good laugh at how much he doesn't pay attention to.
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Post by maryland on Jan 3, 2022 19:21:37 GMT
I am a sahm and he works so I happily do it. When we both worked, we both shared the chores 50-50. Now I take care of most household chores and yardwork (mowing/shoveling snow). He works 50 hrs. a week (no travel the past 2 yrs) and supports us financially. He also does minor household repairs and every tech related thing for me as I am clueless. He also is pretty good with car repairs. I feel he does more than me, so I am happy to pack his lunch and do his laundry. He isn't picky at all about his laundry so it's really easy. We are both happy to help each other out, all we have to do is ask. His parents made sure he and his sister knew there were no mens/womens chores and they should both be able to do it all. They didn't want their son/daughter to rely on a husband or wife to do it for them. I love that! We are teaching our kids to do the same.
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FurryP
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Post by FurryP on Jan 3, 2022 22:58:08 GMT
Yes I do. He mops the floor every week without ever having to be asked. He takes out the trash whenever I ask him to. Sometimes before I ask him to. I can put his clothes away. He is not picky.
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Post by myshelly on Jan 3, 2022 23:13:23 GMT
Yes.
Not much gets folded (only socks and underwear). Having everything on hangers makes it super easy to put away.
We don’t own laundry baskets so we don’t fall into the trap of having stuff sit around in baskets when it comes out of the dryer.
Dryer is done, I pull stuff out, fold it real quick on top of the washer, call kids to come get their stuff, and take mine and DH’s to the master closet. Done in 2-3 minutes, tops.
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Post by cmpeter on Jan 3, 2022 23:52:05 GMT
If I fold his clothes, I put them away. He does the same for me. Mostly we each do our own laundry, but sometimes we mingle.
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Post by bc2ca on Jan 4, 2022 0:03:50 GMT
I wash, dry and fold. He puts his clothes away or pulls from his clean laundry basket on the closet floor depending on how the week goes. He also irons anything that needs ironing.
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Post by ntsf on Jan 4, 2022 0:11:38 GMT
i do all the laundry --hauling everything down two floors and up two floors. he is capable and knowledgeable.. but he is disabled and so I don't ask him to help with it. frankly I do the housework and he doesn't. it works for us.. and he can do it all.. it is not that he doesn't know how. he worked all those years and I mostly stayed home with the kids.
all of our kids left home knowing how to take care of themselves.
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Post by SockMonkey on Jan 4, 2022 0:15:02 GMT
We both do. There's only two of us, so it depends on who is doing laundry and who needs the machines. I'll put his away and he'll do mine (but I'm really particular - clothing in color order, t-shirts folded a certain way particular, so I prefer to put away my own).
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Post by Merge on Jan 4, 2022 0:30:14 GMT
No. He washes, dries, and folds almost all of our laundry. He leaves the folded laundry on the family room floor and I have to carry my own pile to the bedroom and put it away.
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Post by littlemama on Jan 4, 2022 0:32:25 GMT
I will hang up his clothes in his closet, but he is very particular about how his clothes are put away, so I dont mess with them.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Jan 4, 2022 2:07:28 GMT
DH does 99% of the laundry, and he does the full process, from washing to putting away, both his and my things. On the rare occasion I do a load, I fold but don't put away DH's things because he likes to have everything just so.
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Post by playingcinderella on Jan 6, 2022 2:49:47 GMT
Typically, but he will help if he sees me doing the laundry. He does all of the cooking, home maintenance, outside/lawn and takes care of the animals (or oversees the teens who do). I feel like we have a pretty even split on household duties so yeah I put away his clothes.
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