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Post by maryland on Jul 20, 2022 17:20:22 GMT
This stresses me out trying to think of how we would do this. We made a rule when the kids were little that vacations are only for our immediate family. So much less stress. It's hard enough trying to go on a vacation that all 5 of us can go. The kids are 19-23 so working out their vacation time was so stressful. At this point I would rather stay home, haha!
I do think it would be fun to go on a vacation with friends and stay in our own places, but meet up to spend the day and go to dinner together. I get so bored sitting on the beach by myself most of the day, it would be fun to have a friend to talk to. When my kids were little, they would be out with me all day, but as they are older, they prefer spending a lot of time in the condo.
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Post by busy on Jul 20, 2022 17:32:37 GMT
Everyone contributes a set amount for food into the pool at the beginning of the trip and general groceries are purchased from that pool of cash. At the end of the trip, whatever is left in the grocery cash pool is split up evenly among the participants. Idk, I just see a lot of potential of hassle there. I like to cook a certain way and I'm super particular about ingredients and I guarantee a lot of people would think I spend too much. If I'm sharing pooled cash with folks, I either have to adjust the way I cook, or risk pissing people off for spending "too much." That's why I like couples/families each "owning" a dinner and providing all the ingredients for it - it's no one's concern but mine if I want to serve $25/lb sockeye and stupid expensive locally foraged wild mushrooms or whatever. If want to splurge and spend $350 to serve the group a special meal, I want to be able to do that without worrying that I'm affecting anyone else's finances or upsetting anyone.
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Post by pilcas on Jul 20, 2022 17:37:35 GMT
I have never done large group travel and I would be most comfortable with breakfast and lunch on my own and having each family take care of one dinner. Don’t overthink how many kids each family has. Our typical breakfast at home has always been cereal/oatmeal, fruit since both my husband and I worked. It is still what we eat for breakfast. Certainly on vacation my choice of lunch would be sandwiches and can’t imagine anyone really wants to spend vacation time cooking elaborate breakfast and lunches for 20. There is also the time issue. Who gets up early and wants to eat, who might want to do something independently during the day, who might want to check out a local spot. I would have each family shop for their dinner items. Personally, one of the fun things about a vacation for me is eating out so having free lunchtime would be nice..
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 20, 2022 17:49:46 GMT
I have never done large group travel and I would be most comfortable with breakfast and lunch on my own and having each family take care of one dinner. Don’t overthink how many kids each family has. Our typical breakfast at home has always been cereal/oatmeal, fruit since both my husband and I worked. It is still what we eat for breakfast. Certainly on vacation my choice of lunch would be sandwiches and can’t imagine anyone really wants to spend vacation time cooking elaborate breakfast and lunches for 20. There is also the time issue. Who gets up early and wants to eat, who might want to do something independently during the day, who might want to check out a local spot. I would have each family shop for their dinner items. Personally, one of the fun things about a vacation for me is eating out so having free lunchtime would be nice.. There's not over thinking it - and there's one family having 7 kids 13-22 - that's just a huge percentage of the group of 17. I'm not one to nickel and dime and if everyone bringing families and one having 2 kids vs 3 - sure - no biggie. But if you have 3 couples and one family of essentially 9 adults, it's just not fair to divide by 4 "families." I'd expect the dinners to be divided to include the adult children.
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 20, 2022 19:37:42 GMT
It sounds like the group is easy going and you all will be able to find a fair solution. Would it be easier to eat some meals out (and each family pays for themseslves) and just cook a few easy inexpensive meals to eat at the house? Of course that depends on the affordability of the eating out. I do believe the goal will be to have a couple of dinners out probably at least once at a nice place. But I'm betting we will probably cook at least 4-5 of the evenings. I can see maybe one or two big breakfasts and the rest cereal, toast, etc. Lunches will most likely be sandwiches/ leftovers and maybe some eating out. (They do have a Whataburger where we're going! LOL!)
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 20, 2022 19:40:25 GMT
Everyone contributes a set amount for food into the pool at the beginning of the trip and general groceries are purchased from that pool of cash. At the end of the trip, whatever is left in the grocery cash pool is split up evenly among the participants. Idk, I just see a lot of potential of hassle there. I like to cook a certain way and I'm super particular about ingredients and I guarantee a lot of people would think I spend too much. If I'm sharing pooled cash with folks, I either have to adjust the way I cook, or risk pissing people off for spending "too much." That's why I like couples/families each "owning" a dinner and providing all the ingredients for it - it's no one's concern but mine if I want to serve $25/lb sockeye and stupid expensive locally foraged wild mushrooms or whatever. If want to splurge and spend $350 to serve the group a special meal, I want to be able to do that without worrying that I'm affecting anyone else's finances or upsetting anyone. Very good point! ;-) I know other's on the trip feel this way too, but there are a couple of families that may not.
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Post by styxgirl on Jul 20, 2022 19:43:49 GMT
I have never done large group travel and I would be most comfortable with breakfast and lunch on my own and having each family take care of one dinner. Don’t overthink how many kids each family has. Our typical breakfast at home has always been cereal/oatmeal, fruit since both my husband and I worked. It is still what we eat for breakfast. Certainly on vacation my choice of lunch would be sandwiches and can’t imagine anyone really wants to spend vacation time cooking elaborate breakfast and lunches for 20. There is also the time issue. Who gets up early and wants to eat, who might want to do something independently during the day, who might want to check out a local spot. I would have each family shop for their dinner items. Personally, one of the fun things about a vacation for me is eating out so having free lunchtime would be nice.. There's not over thinking it - and there's one family having 7 kids 13-22 - that's just a huge percentage of the group of 17. I'm not one to nickel and dime and if everyone bringing families and one having 2 kids vs 3 - sure - no biggie. But if you have 3 couples and one family of essentially 9 adults, it's just not fair to divide by 4 "families." I'd expect the dinners to be divided to include the adult children. For sure! Our family is by far the biggest of the group and I'm happy to contribute more to the food, that's for sure! We have several couples that should for sure pay way less!
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Post by pilcas on Jul 20, 2022 21:50:04 GMT
I have never done large group travel and I would be most comfortable with breakfast and lunch on my own and having each family take care of one dinner. Don’t overthink how many kids each family has. Our typical breakfast at home has always been cereal/oatmeal, fruit since both my husband and I worked. It is still what we eat for breakfast. Certainly on vacation my choice of lunch would be sandwiches and can’t imagine anyone really wants to spend vacation time cooking elaborate breakfast and lunches for 20. There is also the time issue. Who gets up early and wants to eat, who might want to do something independently during the day, who might want to check out a local spot. I would have each family shop for their dinner items. Personally, one of the fun things about a vacation for me is eating out so having free lunchtime would be nice.. There's not over thinking it - and there's one family having 7 kids 13-22 - that's just a huge percentage of the group of 17. I'm not one to nickel and dime and if everyone bringing families and one having 2 kids vs 3 - sure - no biggie. But if you have 3 couples and one family of essentially 9 adults, it's just not fair to divide by 4 "families." I'd expect the dinners to be divided to include the adult children. I can just imagine my adult 22 yr old cooking for a group of 17! I’m pretty sure everyone would be wishing they’d had take out!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jul 20, 2022 21:59:04 GMT
There's not over thinking it - and there's one family having 7 kids 13-22 - that's just a huge percentage of the group of 17. I'm not one to nickel and dime and if everyone bringing families and one having 2 kids vs 3 - sure - no biggie. But if you have 3 couples and one family of essentially 9 adults, it's just not fair to divide by 4 "families." I'd expect the dinners to be divided to include the adult children. I can just imagine my adult 22 yr old cooking for a group of 17! I’m pretty sure everyone would be wishing they’d had take out! Well everyone's different - my 18 year old is better cook than me!
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 21, 2022 1:41:39 GMT
Everyone contributes a set amount for food into the pool at the beginning of the trip and general groceries are purchased from that pool of cash. At the end of the trip, whatever is left in the grocery cash pool is split up evenly among the participants. Idk, I just see a lot of potential of hassle there. I like to cook a certain way and I'm super particular about ingredients and I guarantee a lot of people would think I spend too much. If I'm sharing pooled cash with folks, I either have to adjust the way I cook, or risk pissing people off for spending "too much." That's why I like couples/families each "owning" a dinner and providing all the ingredients for it - it's no one's concern but mine if I want to serve $25/lb sockeye and stupid expensive locally foraged wild mushrooms or whatever. If want to splurge and spend $350 to serve the group a special meal, I want to be able to do that without worrying that I'm affecting anyone else's finances or upsetting anyone. This makes perfect sense. I can see it working out pretty well though for groups that are making fairly standard, easy meals which is how DH and his guy friends tend to cook/grill. I can guarantee none of his gang is going to make $25/lb sockeye, LOL.
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Post by maryland on Jul 21, 2022 12:24:14 GMT
I can just imagine my adult 22 yr old cooking for a group of 17! I’m pretty sure everyone would be wishing they’d had take out! Well everyone's different - my 18 year old is better cook than me! My kids (19, 22 and 24) are great cooks too. They didn't receive any special lessons, I hate to cook. But they watch people on tik tok, young people cooking great meals and they follow the recipes. It's so much easier to watch a video of someone doing it and it gives them the confidence to try. I am wondering if the tik tok generation will enjoy cooking because of the fun videos.
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Post by caangel on Jul 21, 2022 14:21:21 GMT
Idk, I just see a lot of potential of hassle there. I like to cook a certain way and I'm super particular about ingredients and I guarantee a lot of people would think I spend too much. If I'm sharing pooled cash with folks, I either have to adjust the way I cook, or risk pissing people off for spending "too much." That's why I like couples/families each "owning" a dinner and providing all the ingredients for it - it's no one's concern but mine if I want to serve $25/lb sockeye and stupid expensive locally foraged wild mushrooms or whatever. If want to splurge and spend $350 to serve the group a special meal, I want to be able to do that without worrying that I'm affecting anyone else's finances or upsetting anyone. This makes perfect sense. I can see it working out pretty well though for groups that are making fairly standard, easy meals which is how DH and his guy friends tend to cook/grill. I can guarantee none of his gang is going to make $25/lb sockeye, LOL. I also think it is very different when you are dealing with all adults (who are capable of cooking) vs families with children of all ages.
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