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Post by Really Red on Sept 12, 2022 13:15:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. It sounds like the mom wanted someone to live in and be "on call." Fingers crossed that you hear from someone wonderful.
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Post by mikewozowski on Sept 12, 2022 13:46:43 GMT
sounds like they don't know what they want, if they wanted "older" and got an au pair.
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Post by edie3 on Sept 12, 2022 14:11:40 GMT
I'm so sorry. I hope the perfect family and job are right around the corner.
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Post by Lexica on Sept 12, 2022 14:52:32 GMT
Well, darn it! I was so sure this was going to be your job. Do you know what country the au pair is coming from and whether she speaks English? I guess, as a parent, there is an advantage to having the person live in your home if you have enough room. And it certainly sounds like they have plenty of room. I would have to really have that person vetted to be able to fall asleep knowing they had full access to not only my baby but to my husband and myself. I know it is also cheaper to hire an au pair versus a nanny. But the au pair is also expected to clean and do a bit of cooking. I don't know the extent of expectations for cleaning, but I sure wouldn't want to clean a house of that size.
I will keep on praying that you find the right fit and ASAP.
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Post by anniefb on Sept 12, 2022 19:15:24 GMT
Im so sorry it didn't work out @bergdorfblonde. That sucks.
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Post by Deleted on Sept 16, 2022 3:52:07 GMT
Thank you all. I'll come back on here tomorrow to read more. I've spent my days really searching everywhere for a job. I'm either over-qualified or these people are really trying to get people to care for their children for below minimum wage. And, heck, they throw in 1 or 2 more of their kids, thinking the caregiver won't care. Yeesh!!!!!!!! I DO care and I treat each infant/toddler with the utmost of care. (I REALLY thought that I was all set with that French family--they seemed perfect.) I'm still trying. I have 2 weeks until rent is due...... Crazy times.
Also, it's been an emotionally heavy few weeks. Can't say too much about it but I had 1 nephew brought to a behavioral health hospital on suicide watch (yeah, scary and unexpected!!!!!), and another nephew who just cancelled huge lifeplans because he believes he's gravely ill. He's seeing doctors but not discussing seeking mental health help. It's frustrating. Worried about him too.
The worst part is that DS32 has been so supportive and wonderful with both of his cousin's moms, reassuring them... Well, this all added up for him and maybe it was too much at once for him??? He had just stupid things go wrong and he overreacted. He realized right away what it was and felt that things were out of control, so he called his therapist (who is also a sponsor). I felt so badly for him. He's been so strong and SO on-point with everthing about his cousins. He didn't stop to see that it was affecting him. It did.
He was honest enough to tell me that he had those thoughts (when things seem like to much) and then his brain spins out of control and he thinks of way too much. I tried to calm him down and get him to tell me 1 or2 things that are bugging him. He did--it was both of his cousins. Okay fine. I told him that he did all he all he could to point then to getting the help, and then put the work in honestly. But this is on his mind too much. When he gets passed this phase, I'd like him to really do some small sessions I hate being far away from him. I miss him SO very much. It'll b weird for him to come here without Gary not being here. It'll be weird............ I can be really good for him to help himself now. I keep telling how he's doing well. I do see progress, but on his end it's not good enough; Tough time..
Took my sleep pill so i'm rambling. Hope you have a good night. Love youl xoxo Chris. xoxo
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Post by greendragonlady on Sept 16, 2022 5:33:07 GMT
I'm so sorry things are so rough right now for you, your son and your nephews. I sincerely hope everything starts looking up soon!
As far as your rent, are there any places to get emergency rent assistance down there?
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Post by Basket1lady on Sept 16, 2022 11:55:22 GMT
Well, darn it! I was so sure this was going to be your job. Do you know what country the au pair is coming from and whether she speaks English? I guess, as a parent, there is an advantage to having the person live in your home if you have enough room. And it certainly sounds like they have plenty of room. I would have to really have that person vetted to be able to fall asleep knowing they had full access to not only my baby but to my husband and myself. I know it is also cheaper to hire an au pair versus a nanny. But the au pair is also expected to clean and do a bit of cooking. I don't know the extent of expectations for cleaning, but I sure wouldn't want to clean a house of that size. I will keep on praying that you find the right fit and ASAP. Au pairs are very common in Europe. They are considered a part of the family and it’s a desirable situation for both the au pair and the family. They are hired through an agency who vets them and their welfare is carefully monitored by the agency so that a family doesn’t take advantage of them. They don’t do housework, but are allowed to do the children’s laundry and meals. And their hours are strictly regulated (at least in the EU). Chris, maybe that family could recommend you to a friend(s)? Often families look for overnight care for family weddings, holidays, or the like. I know you are looking for steady work, but those jobs often pay well and you would get your name into the community.
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