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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 8, 2014 4:29:53 GMT
Practical, but I've pretty much trained the romantic out of him, eg he would get me cut flowers but I really don't enjoy them so I told him to stop. I'm very practical so I'm generally never disappointed in the lack of "romance" if you equate romance with jewelry or chocolates or flowers. He always does stuff for me, so I consider those to be affectionate gestures. This for me, too. When we were dating, he would buy expen$ive flowers that would be dead in a week because it was what he thought he should do, and I'm much too practical for that. Now he will buy living flowering plants in the spring and plant them outside. I also don't get into jewelry, but anyone can give me chocolate any day of the week and I'll happily take it, LOL! He is fairly clueless when it comes to finding gifts I'll love, mostly because he hates shopping and doesn't spend any time paying attention to the things I slow down to look at but put back. He just wants to get the heck out of the store. If I don't beat him over the head with a list (including the exact size, color, store, etc.) he will NEVER pick up on even the most blatant hints. He knows that eventually I will just buy the things I want and let him pay for it. But then he will do things that are thoughtful in an off the wall kind of way, and I do appreciate that. It's just kind of funny now.
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Post by smokeynspike on Dec 8, 2014 4:35:56 GMT
We are both practical people. If I was the type of girl who needed flowers and romance all the time, I would have spent my life very upset. LOL I knew what type of man I was getting though when I married him. I wouldn't change him after 17 years together.
Melissa
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Post by suzastampin on Dec 8, 2014 5:05:01 GMT
Practical. He gave me snow tires for Christmas the first year we were dating. LOL. They came in handy and turned my little Duster into a tank.
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Post by papersilly on Dec 8, 2014 5:19:53 GMT
Practical, but I've pretty much trained the romantic out of him, eg he would get me cut flowers but I really don't enjoy them so I told him to stop. I'm very practical so I'm generally never disappointed in the lack of "romance" if you equate romance with jewelry or chocolates or flowers. He always does stuff for me, so I consider those to be affectionate gestures. Absolutely this. i am practical too. As a matter of fact, if he doesn't ever want to see me bust out in laughter, there are 3 things he knows NEVER to do as a romantic gesture: 1) get down on his knee to profess anything 2) never cry when professing anything 3) never write a song or poem to profess anything we cringe then laugh when we see it happen on t.v. Instead we do things for each other. Thoughtful practical things. After 24 years of marriage, we don't fix what isn't broke.
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 8, 2014 5:27:04 GMT
He is more romantic than he gives himself credit for. Not in the traditional way with flowers and chocolate. He scratches my back every night before I fall asleep. He watches whatever crappy reality tv show I'm watching just to be near me. Before I started working from home we worked on the same street and he would meet me at least once a week for lunch, and he usually had to seriously alter his schedule to be able to do that.
But my most favorite of all? Every once in a while when he goes to the gas station he will pop inside and grab a bag of hot cheetos for me. It is my most favorite snack but I won't buy them for myself.
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Post by gorgeouskid on Dec 8, 2014 5:49:41 GMT
LOL... He's totally both. I was in a grumpy mood yesterday, so he suggested I take a bath. I moaned about the getting up from bed and waiting to fill the tub, etc. He said he'd do it for me, and when I went into the bathroom, he had set up candles on the tub rim. Romantic.
Of course it made me cry, but instead of comforting me, he went into the attic and brought down the holiday decorations and put up the lights while I was in the tub. Practical.
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Post by canadianscrappergirl on Dec 8, 2014 6:10:43 GMT
He is practical but I think he thinks he is being romantic. He is always helping with the laundry, cooks at least 2 or 3 days a week, is a hard worker and great provider.
Does he get me flowers for no reason, nope hardly ever. Tell me every day he loves me, no not so much.
Does he say to me just out of the blue lets go to a movie and out for a nice dinner, yes!
Does he email me silly little messages that make me laugh, all the time!
Did he take me to Edmonton on Good Friday this year just so I could go to the scrapbooking stores I love (he hates driving there), you bet and never complained once about how long I took in the stores!
Does he drive me all over Spokane when we go on holiday so I can get to all the stores I love to shop at like Ulta, TJ Maxx etc., yes every year and never complains.
I have had lots of GF's over the years whose husbands treat them very badly, and aren't romantic to boot so given the choice I would rather have a hubby like mine.
Even though he doesn't do the things that others would deem romantic, in his own way he is very romantic and when it comes down to it after almost 25 yrs of marriage I am not going to be able to teach this dog new tricks lol.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2014 7:13:30 GMT
Dingbat.
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Post by brandy327 on Dec 8, 2014 12:47:30 GMT
He's romantic with a big splash of practical and we're perfectly matched.
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Post by Ramona on Dec 8, 2014 13:11:17 GMT
Both. He makes sure my car always has a full tank of gas, I haven't been to a gas station in years! That's one example of him being practical. His romantic side, he gives me big bouquets of flowers for every occasion. He's done this even before we were married, 41 years this year.
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Post by Kerri W on Dec 8, 2014 13:25:53 GMT
Mostly practical, which I like. Romantic makes me slightly uncomfortable. DH wouldn't bring me flowers randomly but when he gives a gift for an occasion he has put a lot of thought and care into it.
I think this is so important. DH isn't romantic and it is just as important for ME to realize what makes him tick as it is for him to consider me. It has to be a balance. When he makes an effort I appreciate it even if it isn't a home run. The story above about the ice cream machine because she loves DQ soft serve to me would be a win. There was thought and care put into that gift no matter that it wasn't perfect.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2014 19:52:13 GMT
I too think more practical than romantic....but I'll take it! He shows his love by taking extremely good care of his family!!! His is loyal, trustworthy, dependable and honest! He has raised two sons that were not biologically his...the other day he said we needed to take his change to the bank to be cashed in...I took the ride with him. After he cashed it in, he said the $200 was for my upcoming trip to Ireland (what a surprise).
He is definitely a keeper!
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Post by genny on Dec 8, 2014 20:17:48 GMT
Mine is pretty practical and a little self involved with his hobbies but when he decides to throw on the romance, he does it with style and panache. I wish he were a little bit more in balance with the two, because sometimes he just really pisses me off, but I guess I can't have everything LOL
He does surprise me sometimes though, in ways I don't expect and I think I fall in love with him again a little bit when he does.
For instance, we had a very large unexpected unexpected expense come up on Friday - in addition to payroll and a large tax bill (that were both planned for). We are typically a little slow (meaning money is tighter than usual) this time of year, and i am a worrier anyway. I was crazy stressed, I mean I was almost in tears - DS had a swim meet out of town and I was trying to wrap up payroll and the rest of my day so I could pick up the other kids and get on the road when this miniature disaster struck. I was like 'how the F are we gonna deal with this?' He is usually super pissy about any money issues that come up and that made me even more stressy waiting for him to act out.
He texted me while I was at the place paying the bill to ask me how much it ended up being -- I replied with the amount and 'yes, I'm serious'. This was his response "Money. It cometh and goeth like the wind, unlike you and I who will be here for each other no matter what's going on in the world or the balance in the bank." <sigh> Never expected that response and the rest of my day was 100x better than before just because of his sweet response that was SO out of character.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2014 20:22:27 GMT
He's probably more romantic and I am more practical and clueless. But I think as long as you know you are different in this area, you can appreciate his way of doing things and he can appreciate yours. Maybe you both are wanting the same thing, but go about doing it differently? I don't know, just thinking out loud. Our daughters take after me, there is not a romantic bone in their body (yes, they are only 11, 15 and 17, but I can tell already!). The 17 yr. old would get so mad at her boyfriend because he loved to compliment her and hold her hand at school as he was proud that she was his girlfriend. She wanted no part of that! Again, not romantic! She will have to look hard for a man who is not romantic as he will be the onle who will make her happy! Maybe there is hope for my 15 yr. old who is loving all the boys telling her how pretty she is. You have a 17 year old who you know isn't romantic because she has a boyfriend. My son who is 19 tells me nothing about girls (even though he said he has "had" a girlfriend and been on dates before" after I trapped him in the car and asked. I got a yes and a yes answer. End of conversation. I wouldn't know if he is romantic or not. He is affectionate with me but anyone else? No idea in the world!)
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Post by maryland on Dec 8, 2014 21:16:12 GMT
He's probably more romantic and I am more practical and clueless. But I think as long as you know you are different in this area, you can appreciate his way of doing things and he can appreciate yours. Maybe you both are wanting the same thing, but go about doing it differently? I don't know, just thinking out loud. Our daughters take after me, there is not a romantic bone in their body (yes, they are only 11, 15 and 17, but I can tell already!). The 17 yr. old would get so mad at her boyfriend because he loved to compliment her and hold her hand at school as he was proud that she was his girlfriend. She wanted no part of that! Again, not romantic! She will have to look hard for a man who is not romantic as he will be the onle who will make her happy! Maybe there is hope for my 15 yr. old who is loving all the boys telling her how pretty she is. You have a 17 year old who you know isn't romantic because she has a boyfriend. My son who is 19 tells me nothing about girls (even though he said he has "had" a girlfriend and been on dates before" after I trapped him in the car and asked. I got a yes and a yes answer. End of conversation. I wouldn't know if he is romantic or not. He is affectionate with me but anyone else? No idea in the world!) My daughters hate when I ask them questions! My daughters will tell each other about their boy "friends" but never want to tell me. The thing is, we love hearing about who they like, etc. We aren't strict at all, even the kids admit we are very reasonable, and we love when they do things with their friends. But they don't tell us much about anything (school, activities, etc.). I guess that's typical teen behavior!
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Post by huskergal on Dec 9, 2014 4:02:24 GMT
If two people are either the same, both romantic or both practical, I think that' s easier. How do you handle "disappointment" if you are one way, but your husband is the other? And does it work long term if you keep trying to see the bright side of things and put a positive spin on things? K You described my life. We have been married 21 years, but there have times I have been very unhappy. I get over it when I look at how much dh does for our family. He may not be romantic but he works his butt off both at work and at home. Makes up a bit for the lack of romanticism.
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