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Post by brandy327 on Dec 8, 2014 2:31:57 GMT
My ds went to his first middle school dance on Friday. I was curious - it is typical for 6th graders to be slow dancing with the opposite sex at that age?
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Post by padresfan619 on Dec 8, 2014 2:35:54 GMT
Yea, I remember slow dancing with boys at middle school dances. Literally arms length apart and heads turned in opposite directions looking everywhere but at the boy I was dancing with.
The rest of the time the room was split with boys on one side and girls on the other.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 8, 2014 2:36:44 GMT
Not in my experience  . |
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 8, 2014 2:37:51 GMT
Yes. In fact around here they all get boyfriends or girlfriends right before the dance. They sswat back and forth and turn around in circles. It seems pretty awkward for most.
ETA: I'm thinking g 7th and 8th grade. Not sure about the 6th graders.
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Post by brandy327 on Dec 8, 2014 2:43:10 GMT
I was just curious. My ds danced with no one but himself. LOL But a girl in his grade had a friend take a pic of her dancing with a boy and posted it to instagram. I don't find myself old fashioned much but I immediately was like "WTF?" that's WAY too young. LOL I never danced with a boy at any dance so I had nothing to really compare it to.
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Post by chaosisapony on Dec 8, 2014 2:44:40 GMT
Lets see, I was in 6th grade in 1996 and yes we definitely slow danced with boys. It was awkward but we sure gave it our best effort!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2014 2:49:34 GMT
Yup I remember dancing with a boy then. It wasn't like we were romantically involved. It's just dancing
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Post by lesleyanne on Dec 8, 2014 2:50:10 GMT
I was "slow dancing" in the 7th grade, late 80's. Now as a teacher, I see the 7/8/9 grades slow dancing at the middle school in which I teach. But the 6's? no really. The younger grades in my school have a separate dance and they just dance in groups or not at all!
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Post by salem on Dec 8, 2014 2:53:27 GMT
Last year in 6th grade my DD said nobody danced together. They stood against the opposite walls and giggled and talked about it, but nobody was brave enough. Lol. This year at the 7 & 8 grade dance, different story.
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Post by brandy327 on Dec 8, 2014 2:55:25 GMT
Yup I remember dancing with a boy then. It wasn't like we were romantically involved. It's just dancing I understand that they're not romantically involved and that it was just dancing. I was just wondering if that's typical 6th grade dance stuff or not. It seems a little young but I was just wondering what the norm was for 6th graders. |
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 8, 2014 3:21:35 GMT
In fifth grade (back during the prehistoric period, haha) we had a dance, and I remember slow dancing with a boy.
It was awkward, but just a life learning experience and nothing romantic about it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 8, 2014 3:43:42 GMT
At my kids intermediate school 6th graders watched a movie and 7th graders had a dance. Yes, there's some slow dancing and it's typically awkward.
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Post by freecharlie on Dec 8, 2014 3:45:12 GMT
I held hands with boys at the skating rink
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Post by worrywart on Dec 8, 2014 3:48:17 GMT
no, they mostly huddle together on the dance floor in a large group or stand on the sidelines lol |
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Post by anonrefugee on Dec 8, 2014 3:53:53 GMT
I've chaperoned ours and volunteered at snack tables. It's a strange mix- sixth grade girls in groups dancing and cheering to every song; and boys walking in circles around perimeter. I know from both DS there are lots of "couples" but they spend more time texting than in physical contact.
It maybe my DS (s) are weird.
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Post by epeanymous on Dec 8, 2014 3:55:25 GMT
Happened when I was in middle school in the mid-80s, as well as at my daughter's middle school now.
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Post by turangaleela on Dec 8, 2014 12:32:07 GMT
I held hands with boys at the skating rink I remember this from the 80s. The drama!  |
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Post by pretzels on Dec 8, 2014 14:29:27 GMT
Here, we have a junior cotillion class -- it starts in fifth grade. They teach slow dancing and all that. Unless they were grinding on each other, I think it's not a big deal and something that's fairly normal.
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Post by sweetpeasmom on Dec 8, 2014 15:12:36 GMT
Well for starters, it's a dance. So if they do dance together it would be ok. However at that age, I wouldn't say it's the norm. My son (7th grade) went to dances last year and a few this year. Still hasn't had a slow dance.
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Post by Jili on Dec 8, 2014 16:26:31 GMT
At my girls junior high, they really didn't call them 'dances'. I think they may have called them 'gym jams' or something like that. There was a DJ in the cafeteria and some dancing, but I don't believe there was any slow dancing. There was open gym time in the gym for those who chose it. Basically, there were several different activities for the students to choose from. I liked that it felt very age-appropriate and that there was something for everyone to do there.
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Post by maryland on Dec 8, 2014 16:32:37 GMT
At our school they have a separate building for 9th/10th and 11th/12th. It's a big school! They have 2 different Homecoming dances, for the two buildings. Same night but each school has it in it's own building.
Even at the high school dances, there was only one slow song! My husband and I were really surprised! We always had slow songs playing at our high school dances.
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Post by leannec on Dec 8, 2014 16:37:51 GMT
I taught junior high for years and boys and girls definitely danced slow dances together ... even if they were "just friends" |
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Post by brina on Dec 8, 2014 17:51:16 GMT
the closest to slow dancing at our school dances is the hugging game - kind of like musical chairs with hugs
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Post by melanell on Dec 8, 2014 18:10:52 GMT
Yep, they do here. It's like others said they have a "boyfriend" or "girlfriend" for that one evening, basically. They dance a slow dance together, maybe he buys her a snack, and then they go back to practically ignoring one another at school the following week.  |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Dec 8, 2014 18:28:24 GMT
Memories. I attended my first boy - girl party in 6th grade many, many decades ago. Yes there was slow dancing - there might even have been some kissing, but I'll still deny that to my mother if asked. I don't think there was any dancing at the school dances through junior high when I was a kid. Mostly standing around and trying to sneak outside without the chaperones watching.
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Post by ferblover on Dec 8, 2014 18:32:23 GMT
Our school system does K-6,7and 8, then 9-12. We have a "dance" for the 5th and 6th graders at our school. We just tell the DJ no slow songs. Now we can use an iPod and hand pick the songs so even better, problem solved.
When I was in middle school though (6-8) we had school dances and yes there was slow dancing.
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Post by SallyPA on Dec 8, 2014 18:54:02 GMT
My middle school 6th grader is a little boy crazy right now  much to my dismay! They had a dance on Friday night and she informed me that she slow danced with her little love interest 3 times. She reassured me there were 8 slow songs total, lol, and that it's all arm's length dancing. I don't like this tween stuff!
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Post by myshelly on Dec 8, 2014 18:58:39 GMT
Yes.
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Post by lbp on Dec 8, 2014 20:59:16 GMT
I will never forget my DS's first middle school dance. I was on the decorating committee so I was just leaving as the kids were getting to the gym and I kid you not, 6th grade girls are pulling long, formal dresses out of their book bags and heading for the bathroom to change. I was like what the heck? Boys are wearing their shorts and T-shirts and girls are decking out!
And yes they slow danced, very awkwardly together! Mostly the girls danced together though. |
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Post by snappinsami on Dec 8, 2014 21:23:46 GMT
Well, back in the dark ages when I was in middle school, I/we did.
DD left middle school behind last year, but I think at their dances, very few kids slow danced with members of the opposite sex. Unless they were "dating."
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much to my dismay! They had a dance on Friday night and she informed me that she slow danced with her little love interest 3 times. She reassured me there were 8 slow songs total, lol, and that it's all arm's length dancing. I don't like this tween stuff!
Boys are wearing their shorts and T-shirts and girls are decking out!