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Post by monklady123 on Jan 24, 2023 22:04:46 GMT
Always women. Except the OB/Gyn who delivered dd was a man. That was by default because apparently he was the only doctor in the practice who had the malpractice insurance...? I loved him as an obstetrician but wouldn't have wanted to continue to go to him for my regular checkups. Which I didn't. lol
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Post by Gem Girl on Jan 24, 2023 22:05:20 GMT
Female. I mean would you take your car to the plumber to get it looked at? My version is "I don't have my Porsche worked on by someone who drives a Pinto."
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Post by scrappert on Jan 24, 2023 22:05:59 GMT
It never made a difference to me until in my early 20's I went the the gyno and left feeling like I was assaulted. It was a very bad experience and feeling. I have now only had females.
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Jan 24, 2023 22:08:19 GMT
Male. I don't actually see a gyn regularly, because our GP takes care of routine paps and such, but I ask to see him for anything out of the ordinary.
I normally only see females, if I get a preference. I just accidentally ended up seeing him with my second pregnancy. He's literally the only doctor I have ever liked, who treated me with respect and like a human (!) He does a rock star level consent discussion that I stole for my own practice. He's just brilliant and kind and he holds a weird gynecologist shaped space in my heart 😂
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Post by busy on Jan 24, 2023 22:15:36 GMT
Female. I mean would you take your car to the plumber to get it looked at? Would you only go to an oncologist who has had cancer? An endocrinologist with diabetes? Do you require a female OB to have given birth? There are excellent doctors of all genders in all specialities. I care a lot more about their bedside manner than their anatomy. The worst OBGYN I've ever seen, by far, was a woman.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 24, 2023 22:26:14 GMT
I’ve been going to the same male gynecologist for probably 25 years now. He delivered my last child 21 years ago. I drive 2-1/2 hours each way for my appointments with him. We were good friends when I lived in that town - his wife and I were in clubs together and his girls went to school with my boys. I intend to see him up and until he’s no longer practicing.
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Post by katiejane on Jan 24, 2023 22:32:28 GMT
We don't see them routinely in the UK. Our pap tests are done by nurses, and maternity care is done by a midwife unless there are complications and you are high risk and then its an ob. When I had to have to have tests and was referred to one she was female. But gender didn't worry me, as much as the problems I had at the time and I just wanted answers.
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Post by carhoch on Jan 24, 2023 22:49:43 GMT
I am 59 years old and for the first time I have a woman obgyn, I felt that she really listens and could relate. I saw her only once but it was really a great experience.
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Post by Mystie on Jan 24, 2023 22:55:51 GMT
I honestly can't fully remember back through time, but I think I've had more male GYNs than female. The two that are tied for best are a female NP and a male OBGYN, both from the same practice, both beyond wonderful. I saw her till she left to teach, then I saw him till he left to teach (!), and for the past several years I've seen another male OBGYN, one of the founders of the practice. He's sort of on probation with me, a lovely nice man, but I'm not sure he took my questions about menopause seriously last year.
I see him again for my yearly next month and I figure I'll give him another shot and switch to whichever female I can get with in the practice if I still feel dismissed. He's gotta be coming up on retirement age, anyway.
I know men can be stellar OBGYNs because I've had several, but I can understand why some women might prefer to just see female OBGYNs. Heading through menopause, I m wondering if a more up-to-date woman might not be a better fit for me.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 24, 2023 23:49:53 GMT
I used to have male OB/GYNs and some of them were wonderful. But then I had one who, I began to realize, clearly did not understand issues that matter to women. (He understood the medicine, but not the women.)
Since then I’ve stuck with female GYNs, and felt more comfortable about it.
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Post by kate on Jan 25, 2023 0:06:06 GMT
I had a male through all my years of childbearing - he was funny, charming, and a really sharp doctor. Then he moved his practice way downtown... I had closed up shop re: childbearing, and I wanted a doc who focused more on gyn care than obstetrics. I also want to move most of my medical care to doctors affiliated with the hospital near my house (my obstetrician was not).
My current doc is a woman, and she's very matter-of-fact and easy to talk to. She does do obstetrics, but she gives me adequate attention and is affiliated with the hospital down the street.
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Post by finaledition on Jan 25, 2023 0:40:25 GMT
The two I had throughout the pregnancy years were men and I was very satisfied. My last OB moved out of state and I was added to a female co-worker’s caseload. She was terrible. I had some issues and there was poor follow up and bad referrals. I’ve never spoken up to a doctor, but I verbally unloaded on her and left. Then I went to another woman. She’s a bit abrasive, but I feel like she follows through on things and has gone out of her way to make sure I receive good medical care when she’s needed to refer me to other physicians. So to me I would not exclude either gender.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Jan 25, 2023 0:47:57 GMT
Mine has always been male until my current one (this past year), who is a female. For this one, I just chose based on recommendations.
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Post by AmandaA on Jan 25, 2023 1:13:22 GMT
I have had the same female obgyn since she got out of residency and adore her. As a younger person I was more comfortable with a female, but having worked in a women’s hospital I wouldn’t equate gender with better care of bedside manner for either.
My RE was a male and he was fantastic. Most of the nurses and physicians I worked with had also picked him when they needed RE services. Before my first surgery he told me that he always treated his patients how he would want his wife or sister to be treated… and he always walked back to the OR with me and held my hand when I was put under. I saw his female partner on a few occasions and can’t imagine her doing the same.
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Post by chaosisapony on Jan 25, 2023 2:28:22 GMT
The two best gynos I've ever seen were male. I have a ton of doctor anxiety and the first one, an older man, taught me more about consent than anyone ever had before. At my first appointment to ever have a pelvic exam he sat down with me for a few minutes and made sure I understood that if at any point I was uncomfortable to say so and he would immediately stop whatever he was doing. He told me that *I* was in control of the appointment, not him. I could change my mind right then and there and walk out the door and that was ok. His talk made a huge impression on me and it helped me advocate for myself better when seeing other doctors.
I've only seen one female doctor for a pelvic exam, at a Planned Parenthood clinic to get birth control and she was horrible. Utterly judgmental and completely rude. I know that doesn't have anything to do with her gender but coming off the gentle, easy to talk to male doctors it's made me wary of getting another female doctor.
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Post by pjaye on Jan 25, 2023 2:28:32 GMT
I've always had female GPs. When I had a breast lump I was given the names of 3 surgeons - all male, so then I specifically asked for some names of female surgeons. Firstly because there's less of them, so I wanted to make a deliberate choice to support them and secondly I did want someone with the same anatomy.
I don't have a gynecologist because I've never been pregnant nor had any problems with those organs...but I would definitely seek out a woman.
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Post by TXMary on Jan 25, 2023 2:50:31 GMT
Technically, I don’t have a gynecologist but my primary care physician (internal med) did her residency in gynecology so I voted female. She does my Pap smears.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 25, 2023 3:09:40 GMT
I checked don’t have one because the clinic I go to now only has GP family medicine doctors. Right now I’m between doctors but I will only go to a woman for anything like that. I have doctor anxiety to begin with and male doctors poking around in my nether regions makes me even more uncomfortable. I had a male doctor for my hand last year, a female for my gallbladder surgery, a male for both foot surgeries. I wanted a woman to deliver my kid but as luck would (not) have it, the ONE guy OB/GYN in the clinic was who happened to be on call when I went to the hospital.
When I get around to picking a new doctor it will be a woman, but it won’t be the lady that my DD saw last for her school physical. I just didn’t feel like I clicked with her.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Jan 25, 2023 3:40:53 GMT
Always a female.
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Post by myshelly on Jan 25, 2023 5:14:13 GMT
I loved my male OB/GYN. He had life size posters of *hunks* on the ceiling so you could look at them while going through your examination. Kind of took your mind off of what was going on. When he moved, I was lucky enough to get in with a female who opened her practice to new patients for a few weeks. On the first visit, we sat in wingback chairs in her office chatting like old friends for about half an hour before my exam. She was wonderful. We eventually left Blue Cross and went with Kaiser and I had a great female doctor there too. This is one of the most disturbing things I have ever read. For a dr to imply that an exam is sexual and that women fantasize during it is beyond gross, insulting, unprofessional, and frankly scary. Talk about perpetuating rape culture.
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Post by malibou on Jan 25, 2023 7:16:31 GMT
My primary Dr is female. My OB is male. Love him to bits.
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Post by smartypants71 on Jan 25, 2023 13:17:12 GMT
I've had a male ob/gyn since he delivered DS over 21 years ago. I had such a terrible experience with a woman gyno before that. She basically had the attitude of "all women go through this, so suck it up." My male gyno is the kindest doctor I've ever had. He truly is special. Before he became an MD, he was a PhD food scientist. His wife had recurring UTIs and no one could figure out the problem, and just basically made her out to think that it was all in her mind. So he swore that he was going to figure out what was causing his wife's issues. He went to med school, became an OB/GYN and CURED her! It is literally the most romantic thing I've ever heard someone do.
Unfortunately, he's retired now, so I'm going to a new dr next week. The practice I'm going to is part of a large woman's hospital here, so I just asked for the first available appt. My appointment is with a D.O. which I've never been to before. Hoping my experience is good.
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Post by needtime2scrap on Jan 25, 2023 14:19:00 GMT
I've had both and I prefer my male gyno. The female gyno I had basically brushed off my concerns, didn't listen to me at all and told me i wouldnt be able to get surgery (I need a hysterectomy). I went for a second opinion and my male gyno listened to me and actually heard my concerns. We decided together to try treatment for 6 months first and then off that didn't work, we would do surgery. It finally felt like I wasn't crazy.
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Post by Just T on Jan 25, 2023 14:48:47 GMT
The first time I went to a gynecologist, I went to a female because I thought I would be more comfortable. She was awful, and the visit was very traumatic for me. She acted like I was a big baby because I sort of freaked out when she inserted the speculum. I had NO idea what she was doing, she didn't explain anything even though I told her it was my first time. I will never forget her saying, "have you never used a tampon???" LIke that is the same thing as a speculum???
That is the only time I went to a female gynecologist. The doctor who delivered three of my four kids is a man, and he is honestly, the most amazing doctor I have ever had. He was so amazing and kind and gentle. I went through several miscarriages with him, and I couldn't have asked for a better doctor to go through all that with.
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Post by jenb72 on Jan 25, 2023 15:10:55 GMT
My gyno has always been female. I recently switched because I got frustrated with my previous one (too busy, wasn't taking my issues seriously, hard to make appointments any less than two months out, etc.) and found a new one and absolutely love her so far.
Jen
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Post by huskergal on Jan 25, 2023 16:45:29 GMT
I went to 2 male doctors while I was in college. It was the most uncomfortable experience of my life. When I shopped for a ob-gyn, I specifically looked for a female. I have been going to a female doctor for over 30 years.
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Post by auntkelly on Jan 25, 2023 18:39:33 GMT
I've gone to the same OB/GYN since 1987. She delivered both my kids and she is just a few years older than me. If she ever retires, I would probably prefer another female, but it wouldn't be a requirement.
I can remember back in the day when I told other women my OB/GYN was female, about half the women would say "I would never go to a female OB/GYN. I just think it's weird that a woman would want to do that." I never understood what was weird about a woman wanting to help bring babies into the world or treat health problems that have to do with women's reproductive organs.
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Post by sweetshabbyroses on Jan 25, 2023 21:12:02 GMT
I have a female. I won't go to anything other than a female.
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Post by Cupcake on Jan 25, 2023 21:37:51 GMT
I’ve had the same male OB/GYN since he delivered my son nearly 23 years ago. It was an unexpected premature birth, and he saved my son. I had rotated through all the docs in the practice during my pregnancy and for some reason didn’t care for the female doctors in that practice. I was very lucky this doc was on call when I went into a quick early labor, as he was the chief of the obstetrics department at the time.
We are the same age (our kids are as well) so I have also felt comfortable asking him about topics like gardasil vaccinations, etc. He has never been anything but knowledgeable and professional, and has an excellent calming manner.
I did change my PCP about a year ago from one male (who was getting weird) to another male (who I absolutely adore, as well as his female PA). I guess I get a feel for my providers doctor by doctor. I’m much more concerned about their knowledge, skill, and overall manner. Their gender is pretty much irrelevant to me.
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Post by imkat on Jan 25, 2023 21:43:12 GMT
Four kids, four male OB/GYNs. The first was amazing, but we moved away. The middle two were terrible. And the last one was amazing, but he moved away.
After that, I had my GYN exam with my primary care physician (male) out of convenience, and that was fine.
In the past few years, I've had my first female OB/GYN, and she's been great.
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