SweetieBsMom
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Post by SweetieBsMom on Dec 10, 2014 14:28:05 GMT
I work for a large company (40k+ employees all over the world). We have a Christmas party every year (each location has a party) and spouses are not allowed. Never have been.
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Peal
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Post by Peal on Dec 10, 2014 14:38:20 GMT
Sometimes spouses are invited and sometimes not. This year spouses were not, I don't think. DH chose not to go to it either.
Dh is invited to my work party. I just started there a few months ago and he hasn't met any of my co workers yet, so he wont know anyone, but he's a pretty outgoing guy so it wont be awkward for him. And we a re a mostly friendly group.
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Post by annabella on Dec 10, 2014 14:43:48 GMT
My company had our holiday party last week and yes everyone was allowed to bring a date. A couple people and the CEO told me they told their significant other to stay at home because they have to work the party. See our company is only 30 people but we had 300 guests at our party, it's a fun vibe with lots of alcohol and a way to network with people.
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Post by ~Susan~ on Dec 10, 2014 14:46:08 GMT
DH's company is too large to host a party. We have been to several that the managers have given themselves and had a very nice time.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 10, 2014 15:24:58 GMT
DH's work is weird. The first two years he worked there, they had a holiday party that included spouses. We didn't go to either one due to living an hour away. Then they went to employees only. The last two years, the departments did their own thing. The engineering department just went out for a big lunch and probably will soon.
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Post by Dictionary on Dec 10, 2014 15:33:09 GMT
Yes and on top of the party which does include alcohol (these guys are partiers) they pay for a night at a hotel with valet service, provide transportation to and from the restaurant. These are really nice hotels that run $300 a night. I love his company they do so much for their employees. Best Christmas party was in Saint Helena at a high end resort. They paid for 2 nights and gave us $200 spending money on top of that. I tried to go back there for our anniversary but {gulp} prices started at $600 a night and there was a 2 night minimum..hoping the company goes back to that place because I don't see myself spending $1200 on a weekend.
They have also been known to fly the employee and spouse down to Mexico for a week and pay for it all, except I think meals unfortunately the only year they did that while my husband was employed with them was the year my son was getting married. They haven't been back since.
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Post by bianca42 on Dec 10, 2014 15:44:21 GMT
I have no idea. DH wouldn't go if there was one...so he probably wouldn't even tell me about it. I would guess no, but I'm not positive.
Our work party is a afternoon catered luncheon in the warehouse. No spouses...no fancy clothes...no booze. But, the food is good and free, so I'm not complaining.
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Post by PEArfect on Dec 10, 2014 16:07:25 GMT
My LH was a police officer and spouses were always included for holiday parties. I was actually invited to the shift party this year, but I'm not sure if I'll go. There have been a few new hires on his shift since he passed away, so I'll only know half of the shift. Not only that, it would just be really difficult going without him.
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Post by Aheartfeltcard on Dec 10, 2014 17:42:41 GMT
Yes. My dh's holiday party includes the spouse. Noone wears "holiday" wear. It is right after work on a Friday night. I usually wear a work type dress or suit. Last year I wore tall boots that had memory foam in them. It makes all the difference! Maybe you could find a pair? I bought mine at Kohls . They aren't leather but no one can tell. I get compliments on them all the time!
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Post by peasapie on Dec 10, 2014 17:51:51 GMT
Not for the holiday, but they do occasionally have parties that include spouses. I usually don't go unless it's something my husband really wants me to attend. Most of the time it feels kinda boring and obligatory - and I do my part if he needs me there, but otherwise I stay home.
Do you really want to wear exactly the same thing as last year? Could you maybe switch out something like a different top? I know it's a pain buying fancy stuff just for one day, but I think just a classic outfit is nice, too.
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Post by jonda1974 on Dec 10, 2014 18:19:41 GMT
It's kind of sad actually. At my previous job, we were able to judge the inevitable by the change in employee events. When i first started there were 3-4 huge events for employees every year, and usually Christmas had a great turnout, but I don't remember a +1 event. They usually did huge giveaways including several extra week vacations. I won a 37" flat screen TV one year. Eventually though it turned into catered events and then pot luck. It was sad to see the decline.
The thing I appreciated is that these events were always during work hours. I'm not able to attend my new company's Christmas this year, but not sure I would go if I could. It's an hour after work, on a casual Friday, no opportunity to change, and it's in a nice restaurant. I don't like the idea of giving up my Friday's near Christmas like that any way. My old coworkers from my previous job and I are all getting together right after Christmas for a party.
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Post by ChicagoKTS on Dec 10, 2014 19:20:23 GMT
We both work for large corporations and neither of our employers host any kind of holiday parties with spouses welcome. My employer even stopped it for employees this year.
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Post by Skellinton on Dec 10, 2014 20:02:41 GMT
My husbands job does, nothing super fancy, but dinner buffet one drink (with cash bar if you want more) and sometimes raffles. I actually think it is kind of odd that businesses would have a work holiday party not during work time where significant others were not invited. If spouses are not invited why not just have a nice lunch or something during work? My husband works in an office and he sees the same people all day every day. I can't imagine he would want to just go and have a party with just them. Maybe it is because I work in a school and don't understand the office dynamic, though? When we have a year end gathering or holiday gathering spouses are invited and I enjoy meeting the husbands, wives, partners of my coworkers.
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Post by mjmone on Dec 10, 2014 20:06:08 GMT
yes, our company pays for employee plus one. We are a smaller company of @60 employees. The party is held at the Silver Legacy in Reno...so we also comp a hotel room so there will be no drinking and driving.
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Post by bc2ca on Dec 10, 2014 20:10:19 GMT
DH's company has an afternoon tailgate style party at their warehouse location for 150+ employees that work on numerous job sites (LA, San Diego, Seattle) and is hosted by the Project Managers and higher level employees. No spouses or kids invited, but some serious swag bags, bonuses and gift opportunities means it is very well attended and a lot of fun. They do a "steal the gift" thing with about 20 gifts so not everyone gets something, and the gifts range from bottles of wine to TVs, a Go Pro and cash envelopes. Everyone gets a ticket in the swag bag, so if their number is drawn they can steal or open a new present. In January there is a formal dinner/dance event that the Principals, PMs and other senior employees and spouses attend at a hotel in San Diego, so we don't have a formal party in December. The company will pay for Ubers home or to stay at the hotel. As much fun as this event is, I hate buying a dress that may only get worn once or twice, so am thinking of doing Rent the Runway this year. Has anyone done that?
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Post by lbp on Dec 10, 2014 20:24:25 GMT
How I miss the grand, fun parties where I used to work in the 80's. I worked for a company that owned a large chain of hotels and our parties were formal and included a spouse. Always held in one of the hotel banquet rooms with wonderful food, a band, dancing, etc.
Where I work now we have a catered luncheon during work with door prizes. DH's company orders subs from a local sub shop.
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Post by PinkPrincess77 on Dec 11, 2014 0:41:26 GMT
Our main one is employees only. Our legal department one is also employee only. The department I'm with, within our legal department, is employee only, but I think just because our boss is new, wasn't informed and didn't budget for it. It's budgeted for for next year, though.
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Post by maryboys on Dec 11, 2014 1:59:09 GMT
yes...very small, privately owned company and my dh's first year there. it was comfortable but just not my thing since i cherish my alone time and am selective about who i spend my time with. i sound ungrateful - but really - i prefer parties without spouses.
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Post by kate on Dec 11, 2014 2:09:35 GMT
Mine is no spouses.
When I worked for the megabank, there were no spouses, and it was... mmmm... not pretty. Maybe because there were so many people, there was a lot of drunken flirting.
At my current job, there is NONE of that. We do drink and dance (nobody drives - it's Manhattan, after all!), but it's very tame.
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Post by Judy26 on Dec 11, 2014 2:19:59 GMT
No parties here. DH is retired and I am a teacher. The only way our admin would host a party is if they could find a way to tie it to the standards and it would improve our school rating! We used to be a friendly bunch but with the pressure for test scores no one even comes out of their rooms anymore. I miss the old days.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Dec 11, 2014 16:16:16 GMT
Dh's is a family holiday lunch event not fancy but with gifts for the kids. We've gone a couple of times but it's just dh, me and teen dd so of course we don't know anyone else. As dd has aged we've also gotten busier and usually have something else going on that Saturday.
My company has a lunch tomorrow and we each get a small gift. No family or spouses.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Dec 11, 2014 16:20:41 GMT
My CEO used to have a huge party at his home for employees and spouses. We would also have a company one at the office for just employees. We no longer have the CEO one. My dh's company does invite spouses and they are usually at nice restaurants although the location is 45 min away from our house. I don't know anyone so I don't really care and dh would rather spend time with his family . This year it is on Saturday and we said yes but if something else came up we would not go. Something else came up.
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Post by MerryMom on Dec 11, 2014 16:23:05 GMT
I work for the government and not only are spouse NOT invited to Holiday work parties, we don't have Holiday work parties.
I (the boss) take my staff out to lunch, but we are on our lunch time.
My husband (when he worked at the firehouse, but he is now retired), the FF's on their unit day for work would have a holiday dinner on a Saturday night out at a restaurant or a potluck at someone's house. Everyone pays for their own meal.
The fire department and their IAFF Local Union had a "Christmas lunch with Santa" lunch where the FF's and their kids could come to the firehouse and have a sandwich and snack type of lunch, Santa visited and they had these cute little stuffed bears or dalmatian stuffed dogs to give away to the kids. The bear or dalmatian had a little tshirt on with the fire department logo. They were really cute, I saved the ones that my son got. The FF's on duty could attend, but they were still "in service", so if a call comes in, off they go.
The fire department and IAFF paid for the food and the stuffed animals.
The IAFF Local puts on a Valentine Dance for FF's and spouse/date each year that is dressy, it's at a nice hotel and it is a fundraiser for MDA. I usually attend, and yes, early on, I didn't know people, but you can just make general conversation. My husband is very social and talky, so he often leaves me while he goes and talks to people. I just strike up a conversation with anyone around me. You can always talk about kids, sports, weather, the food, etc.
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Post by AussieMeg on Dec 11, 2014 22:57:14 GMT
My DSO's company doesn't include spouses at their Christmas party.
My work used to have a Christmas party with spouses up until a couple of years ago. This year they're not even having one for the employees!
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Post by MizIndependent on Dec 11, 2014 23:00:31 GMT
Hmmm. I don't know. I'll have to ask. My company has a truly wonderful party! It's tomorrow night; dinner at a local gourmet restaurant with wonderful end of year gifts/bonus. We play "Steal" with a bunch of provided gag gifts - it's great. Looking forward to it.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 11, 2014 23:15:37 GMT
Yes, but they do it in January and the weekend of the party, I'll be in Atlanta. I'm sure my husband will have a great time.
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