RedSquirrelUK
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Location: The UK's beautiful West Country
Aug 2, 2014 13:03:45 GMT
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 16, 2023 8:02:45 GMT
I have food allergies and also sensitivities, so I understand other people's, including their "mere dislikes". My brother won't eat anything with identifiable tomato in. Never has done, from when he was a tiny child. Could be picky, could be an allergy/intolerance that his body is filtering out before it gets in. I don't care. That's him and I'll do my best work around it.
I don't invite people these days except family and one friend, but I'll make sure they're all happy with what I'm serving. I will go a long way to avoid accepting invitations to eat with other people, except for the same family and friend.
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Post by katiejane on Jul 16, 2023 11:21:37 GMT
Not in detail. But I will find out food allergies and preferences beforehand. I usually make a choice of starters, mains and sides and desserts so people have a choice.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 16, 2023 12:28:35 GMT
Maybe she just didn't care for the type of bread I had made. Maybe she just liked your food and didn’t want to fill up on bread so she could eat your yummy pot roast
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Post by Merge on Jul 16, 2023 12:41:54 GMT
With the bread - one of my friends has found that limiting her carbs has all but ended her chronic migraines, so she is careful with bread and is likely to save her carbs for a small portion of dessert or wine instead. May be nothing more nefarious than that.
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Post by alsomsknit on Jul 16, 2023 15:12:11 GMT
Personally, I don’t care for many breads. Never eat sandwiches, except a homemade grilled cheese on my favorite bread. Recently discovered I am gluten intolerant and the idea of no grilled cheese is a loss.
Anyway, the dinner and picnic invites is why I would never go fully vegan/vegetarian. We aren’t regular meat eaters. Bacon at home, occasionally. Eating out: chicken or shrimp on a Caesar salad.
If we are having guests, I have always asked about food issues/sensitivity/allergy. It has always been made aware that I wasn’t going to take offense if someone didn’t want to/couldn’t eat something.
I was a picky eater as a kid. Had it been a thing, I would have been given OT as a child. Foods I like/liked weren’t always safe. Being treated poorly due to my food issues made me hyper aware of offering a safe space surrounding food. My favorite person from my childhood was the person who talked to me about food. She was a safe person.
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cycworker
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Jun 26, 2014 0:42:38 GMT
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Post by cycworker on Jul 16, 2023 22:03:18 GMT
Generally yes, because I tend to only have one particular friend over. It's a more casual, 'Hey - I accidentally put a pack of 2 porkchops in the freezer rather than separating them. Wanna come & eat one?' kind of thing. Or a big steak I forgot to cut before freezing.
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Post by melanell on Jul 17, 2023 1:14:14 GMT
For a dinner, yes, I typically tell people. Simply because so many people have dietary restrictions these days that I feel like telling people my plans helps us to be sure they'll be able to eat what is offered.
Now, at a party---then I tend to just try to offer enough different types of things that everyone ought to be able to find something.
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Post by zuke on Jul 17, 2023 11:47:50 GMT
ETA - my lactose intolerance is getting worse. I used to be able to handle it in small amounts and now have to avoid most diary. BIL was going to make homemade ice cream for a gathering. I didn't want him to feel insulted when I turned it down so I told him that I wouldn't be able to eat it but it sounds good. He ended up changing the whole thing just to accommodate me after I told him not to. Ugh. I'm also Lactose Intolerant. For years, I avoided eating at other peoples houses because I know what the end result would be. I spoke with my Dr about it. She said to try Dairy pills such as Lactaid. Take one whenever you're eating. If you're still eating after 30 minutes, take another. These pills just add the enzyme that your body lacks to digest dairy. I also use lactose free milk. I get the Fairlife 50% less sugar. Guess what? It's been about 6 months and I've been able to eat whatever I want now!!! It worked! You may want to try this. I also switched to the Equate (Walmart) brand of dairy pills. They have the same ingredients as Lactaid pills.
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Post by hopechest on Jul 17, 2023 16:35:38 GMT
Totally depends. If it's family or close friends, I know their allergies and know their preferences. I might say "come Saturday for a BBQ", but wouldn't list the menu per se. If it's new people that haven't been to my house before, I'll ask them preferences and allergies and will probably say something like.."I was planning roast chicken with potatoes and veg, is that OK with you"? I wouldn't list every little item. I do try to be accommodating and make a several different sides, so it's not obvious if someone doesn't take something by having an empty plate. I include items that have no dairy, gluten, etc. If there is a nut allergy coming, I avoid that in all dishes. I'm careful with cross contamination. I do like to cook and I'm good at it, so I like putting on a spread.
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craftymom101
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Jul 31, 2014 5:23:25 GMT
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Post by craftymom101 on Jul 17, 2023 20:45:36 GMT
Yes, I do. I have a friend who is picky and I want to make sure I'm serving something she will eat. I don't accommodate all of her preferences, but I do try to make sure 75% of the food I make is something she will eat.
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