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Post by peasapie on Mar 24, 2024 9:45:17 GMT
This is so sad. I wish more kids would agree on a buddy system when they’re out like this.
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 24, 2024 11:46:26 GMT
Such a sad sad situation. As someone who has said numerous times (as have all my friends) that I feel so lucky making it through some of my teen and earlier years alive and with not a lot of trauma, but it is totally luck.
At anytime and in a matter of seconds there could have been a completely different outcome. It is very hard to navigate this anytime but even more so as a young person. And typically as the night wears on all the thoughts and plans that were agreed on/made earlier seem to fade away. There really needs to be not only a designated driver but also a designated manager when out in groups, especially at vacation places. Someone who will agree not to drink (or at least more than a couple of drinks) and keep an eye on everyone. Not an easy job though.
His family and friends’ lives will never be the same and my heart goes out to them.
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Post by bethany102399 on Mar 24, 2024 17:24:20 GMT
Roommate has been merciless with DD, who is heartbroken. Absolutely DD was right to call someone. Is roommate embarrassed that they passed out? could be why they're acting out toward her.
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Post by knit.pea on Mar 24, 2024 17:52:43 GMT
I was, thankfully, taken care of by my friends when I was hammered in my early 20s. And I took care of a friend of a friend when she wandered off at an outdoor concert venue; she was not my friend, but I knew she was drunk and who knows where she could have ended up. (Her friends didn’t want to miss any of the concert or deal with her. Unreal.) Sometimes you have to be the one who cares. Such a sad, preventable tragedy.
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Post by Bridget in MD on Mar 25, 2024 12:31:30 GMT
DD and her roommate are at an impasse because the roommate was passed out on the bathroom floor several weeks ago and DD called a mutual friend to ask her to come over for support. According to the roommate, that was totally out of line. I tried to reassure DD that she did the right thing, asking, "But who would be the first person to be blamed if something tragic had happened to your roommate?" I honestly don't care if they ever speak again. Roommate has been merciless with DD, who is heartbroken. I feel for so many of those involved in Riley Strain's situation. It's never the wrong thing to do to look out for your less-than-sober friends. My DD lives in an apartment with 3 other girls. She will comment that she is alone, not sure where the other roommates are. I was shocked, I said, "don't you all discuss schedules or let each other know where you are heading out?" She said she stopped bc the roommate before them basically accused her of being nosy, in her business, acting like her mother. When Laken Riley was murdered and then Riley Strain became missing, I reiterated with both kids the importance of having a buddy or at least letting people know your plans. This is one of the reasons I keep Find My Friends on both my kids, and my parents. I don't use it to be nosy, but kids always seem to think "it will never happen to me" or "I'll be fine." Im sure Laken thought she would be fine running in the middle of the day - if her roommate hadn't alerted the authorities so quickly, they may not have caught the guy so quickly.
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Post by compeateropeator on Mar 25, 2024 12:57:55 GMT
DD and her roommate are at an impasse because the roommate was passed out on the bathroom floor several weeks ago and DD called a mutual friend to ask her to come over for support. According to the roommate, that was totally out of line. I tried to reassure DD that she did the right thing, asking, "But who would be the first person to be blamed if something tragic had happened to your roommate?" I honestly don't care if they ever speak again. Roommate has been merciless with DD, who is heartbroken. I feel for so many of those involved in Riley Strain's situation. It's never the wrong thing to do to look out for your less-than-sober friends. My DD lives in an apartment with 3 other girls. She will comment that she is alone, not sure where the other roommates are. I was shocked, I said, "don't you all discuss schedules or let each other know where you are heading out?" She said she stopped bc the roommate before them basically accused her of being nosy, in her business, acting like her mother. When Laken Riley was murdered and then Riley Strain became missing, I reiterated with both kids the importance of having a buddy or at least letting people know your plans. This is one of the reasons I keep Find My Friends on both my kids, and my parents. I don't use it to be nosy, but kids always seem to think "it will never happen to me" or "I'll be fine." Im sure Laken thought she would be fine running in the middle of the day - if her roommate hadn't alerted the authorities so quickly, they may not have caught the guy so quickly. While I agree in theory with your comment, I do not think it is really realistic to think that college (or after) roommates discuss daily schedules or where people are going. I didn’t do that 35 years ago and we were all good friends. That was also before the day of cell phones so there wasn’t even the option of messaging, texting, etc. However we did let each other know if we were going to be away for a few days, but there were many times that someone stayed over somewhere else or at a girlfriend/boyfriend’s place, etc. Big trips or weekends away were usually communicated. I am almost 60 years old and my brother, my mother, and I all allow tracking of each other on Find my Friends. It was mostly so that I wouldn’t have to call when I got home after leaving their houses or our camp at night. It is not to be obtrusive, it is just to be able to make sure people get to where they are going. My parents have just turned 80. When we leave our camp I go 1.5 hrs in one direction, my parents go 2.0 hrs in another direction, and my brother an hour in another. I typically always called or FaceTimed my parents when I thought they should be home to just make sure all was well, now I can just do a quick look.
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Post by tuva42 on Mar 25, 2024 15:01:00 GMT
Binge drinking among college students is a huge problem and I think it gets ignored. My DD is 25 now, but when she was an undergraduate and in a sorority at a small university she saw really problematic amounts of drinking. There were days, like homecoming, when she saw people setting their alarms for 7 am so they could get up and start drinking. Bars would serve breakfast and mimosa specials. People would be dead drunk by noon, come home, sleep it off, and go back out around 5 pm to start drinking again for the homecoming game. What was even grosser was that the alumni and parents would be getting just as drunk in the parking lots. It was so bad that her sorority would assign volunteers to stay at the house to manage the girls who came back to the house so drunk they couldn't walk. Someone had to hold their hair back as they vomited and make sure they were they were still breathing when they passed out.
She is now in grad school and lives in Nashville. The drinking culture there on Broadway, in The Gulch and other parts of Nashville is just as bad. Soooo many bachelorette parties every weekend. She says there are groups of girls wearing their wedding party sashes and cowboy boots, stumbling into coffee shops at noon on Thursdays, looking for coffee so they can keep drinking the rest of the day.
The drinking starts early on Broadway, I expect Riley and his friends started in the afternoon that day. My heart breaks for that poor kid. He barely weight 150 pounds, he probably couldn't handle the amount of alcohol his heavier friends could. Those bars have to be careful that they don't get sued for over serving. Everyone wants to get stumbling drunk, but they bars can't afford to be sued for getting them that way.
Ubers won't even go down Broadway, you have to walk a couple of blocks away to get one.
I can't imagine the pain his mother is feeling right now. I wish I knew how we could teach kids that you don't have to be falling down drunk to have fun.
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