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Post by eversograceful1 on Jan 3, 2015 3:06:34 GMT
DD: please, for all that is holy, please go to sleep. You need to get up early for basketball practice. She doesn't want to go to bball practice because it's a bit overwhelming and she hurt her finger last time. She is nervous and I'm trying to be patient and understanding and reassuring but I'm not sure its good enough.
I'm tired and want to go to bed so she needs to go to sleep. I'm really not looking forward to tomorrow morning when we have to go to practice and I feel bad for her that she is nervous.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 3:09:21 GMT
Last night my brother asked me again "what do you do all day?" I'm a sahm. I wanted to say, "everything I've always done, plus everything that my husband did, all while grieving." He's so compassionate. That's awful. He has no clue what you are going through obviously. Grief in itself is serious business and not only are you grieving but your girls are too. And my friends that are sahm are among the busiest people I know!
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Post by myboysnme on Jan 3, 2015 3:10:04 GMT
I have a strange vent: Last week a coworker of mine murdered his wife from whom he was separated and then killed himself. They lived in my neighborhood. At work we had a big meeting with a chaplain and lots of people attended and talked about what a wonderful man he was, a wonderful employee and how much he loved his children. Except in the neighborhood we know that his wife was a very good mom, trying to get away from him because he was a controlling nut. So I was sitting there listening to one person after another talk about him with such admiration, and no one said, "Hey, I'm angry. He murdered his wife. He didn't love his kids enough not to murder their mom and their dad (him). I wanted to say that so bad. But I didn't. I just said it with my neighbors. Then someone made a Go fund me site to raise money for the kids. They used a photo of the dad with the kids. Nothing about the mom. He freaking shot her in her own home. Ugh! I am so upset about it! How is it that people are empathizing with a murderous sociopath? I just found out that someone has started a go fund me page for the wife's funeral so she can be buried in the Philippines. I will share that page with my coworkers on Monday....
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 3:24:20 GMT
Mine right now would be that I know it's annoying but I really need help buying a car. I don't know enough about cars to buy one on my own. I need someone to go with me and check them out. I hate it because right now I feel like a burden asking for rides.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2015 3:32:11 GMT
Look - I understand there are 12 days of Christmas and you like to leave your stuff up until Epiphany. I wanted to put my tree away so I did. I'm not making a statement and I'm not here to tell you what you should do with your decorations. But for Pete's sake - could you lay off just a little? Because your lecturing about Christmas not being over yet doesn't exactly fill me with holiday cheer. And kind of makes you look like an asshole. Which autocorrect really wants to make into "assailant". Sheesh. If you live in the US your holiday visuals begin in October or even earlier. I think the 12 days Christmas is such an old tradition that the when you add it to the 2-3 months prior to the holiday anyone can be sick of it. We had our four trees down on Monday. I was done.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 3:34:25 GMT
Your apartment is 750 square feet. I could clean it in like 24 seconds. What do you do all day?
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2015 3:36:31 GMT
Last night my brother asked me again "what do you do all day?" I'm a sahm. I wanted to say, "everything I've always done, plus everything that my husband did, all while grieving." He's so compassionate. This just breaks my heart. I am sure he has no idea he sounds like such an ass. "Hurry up and move on. I work why don't you." Ugh. I cannot imagine being both mom and dad to my kids.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2015 3:42:20 GMT
My son and husband got home from a two day ski trip at noon. Why wasn't there lunch prepared? I never make lunch for my 18 year old and husband. Why didn't you replace the paper towel roll? There was still one on there. Why didn't you run the dishwasher? It isn't full. OY. Ask me why I stayed home!
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 3, 2015 3:44:46 GMT
Your apartment is 750 square feet. I could clean it in like 24 seconds. What do you do all day? I am slightly fascinated by this (not the cleaning part). Is it just two people? Do you live in a large city? I don't mean to ask the same things everyone else probably does, but we lived in a 980 square foot apartment and it was really hard for me. I like levels.
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Post by Dixie Lou on Jan 3, 2015 7:01:58 GMT
This is going to sound very bitchy. I apologize in advance.
1. washing machine broken. DH can fix it but can't get the part until Thursday. 2. fridge leaks from where you get water out of the door though it leaks from underneath. 3. when the shower is used, water leaks into one of the bedroom closets. DH fixed it today, thank goodness. Same problem with second bathroom but we don't use the shower in there anyway. 4. of course all this happens while we have guests 5. DD's BF/family drama times ten. (at least) Latest drama is BF didn't tell his mom that we were coming to get him (so we can take him to the airport tomorrow) Everyone is upset that he left when he did (abruptly) although he texted DD and said we can come right now. He didn't bother telling her that he wanted her to stay there for the night and drive home in the morning. We would have been fine going to get him tomorrow but he had said he wanted to come back tonight and had already driven the hour in the pouring rain. She said there was no way she wanted to spend her last night there plus I was waiting in the car (in the pouring rain) for 20 minutes at least. Not my problem really but his passport problem hasn't helped. Now I don't get to see my DD tonight because he needs to unwind from his horrible day so I'm staying in the bedroom while they watch a movie without me. 6. Oldest DD (25 year old) was a big jerk to her younger sister (20 year old) last night WHY CAN'T SHE BE NICE! 7. I cleaned the whole house and when I got back from picking up DD's boyfriend the sink is now full of dishes again. 8. I feel very insecure with my DH these days and today is one of those days.
I will stop now though there's more. Guess it's time to take my ambien and go to sleep.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 9:57:56 GMT
Be nicer to Sheryl. She is my friend. She is smart, too.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 3, 2015 12:30:39 GMT
Wtf am I having dreams about people dying for the last few nights? Once it was my ex and the ass was haunting me! Then it was someone else the next night. I just woke up from another and this one was graphic. Not nightmare-ish, just graphic. I'm getting rather tired of it.
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Post by gailoh on Jan 3, 2015 14:24:26 GMT
jakietex...thank you for helping to save this dog...you still have a big heart and I really hope you can find a good safe loving home for this pup
I like reading all the posts here...takes my mind off our troubles ...hugs to you all...we all need a hug once in a while...
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Post by purplebee on Jan 3, 2015 14:33:39 GMT
I am a lunch lady and am exposed to primary school kids' germs every day of the world. I have not been sick this past year, at all. DH gets a cold/cough from a friend he was helping with a job before Christmas. Yep, I've had it for the last five days over my last week of vacation. Nothing terrible, but the coughing is driving me crazy. I am better today, but still annoyed.
Oh and I have a new tablet with autocorrect. I hate it with a passion. I need to find out if I can turn it off. I spend more time fixing what it wants me to say than actually saying what I want to say!
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Post by TankTop on Jan 3, 2015 14:43:58 GMT
I am tired of being the only one who speaks. The sound of your silence makes me feel alone.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 3, 2015 16:24:16 GMT
myboysnme I understand. We had that happen last year in our neighborhood. Somehow one spouse survived. It's disorienting for those of us acquainted with them both. But it's also hard for those that only knew spouse, even the murderer. Often the ones commiting this act are in some sort of mental breakdown. They aren't inherently evil throughout their lives and even the survivors loved and miss their friend and family member. Our neighbor planned and attended the funeral, even posting photos on FB from happier times. It's inportant for the kids to remember the love as they try to understand the mental illness that developed. I can't give advice because every situation is different. But here we've been asked to remember the whole person - the community volunteer and good neighbor. That doesn't whitewash the situation. For me it's been a time to teach my kids about mental health, seeking help for stress, etc. ETA I guess in this case I should've said "attempted murderer" since the intended victim managed to survive.
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Post by julieb on Jan 3, 2015 16:39:26 GMT
Add yours! We had our home inspection on Tuesday and still haven't heard anything. Our Realtor said it went well but they do have a list of things they want us to fix. I reminded him that we were just here until Sunday and that if they need us to fix something they need to let us know. and brrrrrrr it's to cold outside. Jen
We just sold a condo in Chicago in a "vintage" building and the buyer wanted the goofiest items fixed. Like putting a lock on the bathroom door. Ummm, no, the door is 100 years old with glass knobs. The key is long gone. The built in cabinets in the dining room don't lock. Of course they don't, they don't even touch - they are decorative.
Most of the items were ridiculous and a few were legit - putting the radiator back in bedroom, a window that wouldn't lock, etc. We gave him a $700 credit - well worth the hassle.
It probably would have cost us over $700 to fix the legit items. He started at a $2,500. credit and we settled at $700. I felt like we had the upper hand.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 3, 2015 16:44:46 GMT
julieb I'd love to have vintage cabinets and glass knobs! Selling a house is a total hassle, buyers are crazy.
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Post by anonrefugee on Jan 3, 2015 16:48:26 GMT
I forgot to post my own vent: DH we are at the end of our holiday break. Despite reminders you have not met with me to schedule and make decisions on numerous items. I have even said "lets do it now"- after you've said you could talk at any time. Admit you are a pro procrastinator. And do not complain when I proceed without you. I'm so over this.
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Post by marienadine on Jan 3, 2015 17:59:52 GMT
my vent.... I have had this cough / sinus drainage since September... yes I know Dr A you want to refer to gastro Dr B about it being related to my acid reflux, but their office is already making me uncomfortable.... Can't I please see Dr C and be done with it.... nope instead I have to wait for Dr B to come back from vacation and be miserable... I am tired of feeling like I am having a heart attack everyday.... something has to give... oh and why must I be so dumb to grab a hot pan and burn my fingers yuck on the cough stuff. Sorry. Any chance you have asthma? I do and I had a cough and drainage a few years ago for 6mos +. I kid you not. I FINALLY saw a dr that was covering the weekend shift that thought I had junk in my lungs ( ya think!) And gave me advair. in 3 days, I was a different person. in a week the cough was GONE! I hope you get into the dr that you need too! It is hard to make it through the days / night when you are coughing ALL. OF. THE. TIME. And as for the hot pan. You touched it for the same reasons that I popped a spoon full of HOT rice in my mouth last night to see if it was soft enough. I burned my tongue bad! I hate it when I do something with out fully thinking about it! I wish it was asthma... all my asthma tests were a-ok
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Post by ~Susan~ on Jan 3, 2015 19:10:45 GMT
We had a missing Lego piece as well. They must be having packaging problems. I went online and ordered the missing piece at no cost. It should be here next week. My vent. My dog is very gassy today. And she is insisting on being within 10 feet of me wherever I go. The toxic fumes are killing me. I'm sorry, I had to laugh at your vent. We have one dog that farts nearly ever time she sits down next to you, thankfully she does not stink. She ALWAYS looks around after it happened like.... "What was that, Did you hear that, Was that you?" We have 2 others that are gassy occasionally. on those days, DH changes their names to Swamp Butt. I literally LOL! I guess I have been lucky in the gas department with my dogs. The lhasa apso I had used to get gas sometimes and it was awful. He would let the silent but violent ones that made me gag.
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Post by TankTop on Jan 3, 2015 19:15:21 GMT
yuck on the cough stuff. Sorry. Any chance you have asthma? I do and I had a cough and drainage a few years ago for 6mos +. I kid you not. I FINALLY saw a dr that was covering the weekend shift that thought I had junk in my lungs ( ya think!) And gave me advair. in 3 days, I was a different person. in a week the cough was GONE! I hope you get into the dr that you need too! It is hard to make it through the days / night when you are coughing ALL. OF. THE. TIME. And as for the hot pan. You touched it for the same reasons that I popped a spoon full of HOT rice in my mouth last night to see if it was soft enough. I burned my tongue bad! I hate it when I do something with out fully thinking about it! I wish it was asthma... all my asthma tests were a-ok So were my daughter's. Three times through out local hospital. I finally found a doctor that would test her herself. Come to find out she we only getting 40% of the air she needed. Regardless of the tests, she said she would have treated her based on symptoms. Literally has has changed her life!
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Post by julieb on Jan 3, 2015 19:47:48 GMT
julieb I'd love to have vintage cabinets and glass knobs! Selling a house is a total hassle, buyers are crazy.
My dd lived in the condo and it was very charming. She will miss it. He complained about a closet not closing correctly either and I told the realtor that we would replace the knob and keep it as a memory of the place. Unfortunately, he decided to live with it.
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jan 3, 2015 20:06:24 GMT
First world problem...we need more storage in this large house. I need to clean up from the holidays and there just isn't anywhere to put some things. I really need to purge some junk!
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jan 3, 2015 20:09:56 GMT
I have a strange vent: Last week a coworker of mine murdered his wife from whom he was separated and then killed himself. They lived in my neighborhood. At work we had a big meeting with a chaplain and lots of people attended and talked about what a wonderful man he was, a wonderful employee and how much he loved his children. Except in the neighborhood we know that his wife was a very good mom, trying to get away from him because he was a controlling nut. So I was sitting there listening to one person after another talk about him with such admiration, and no one said, "Hey, I'm angry. He murdered his wife. He didn't love his kids enough not to murder their mom and their dad (him). I wanted to say that so bad. But I didn't. I just said it with my neighbors. Then someone made a Go fund me site to raise money for the kids. They used a photo of the dad with the kids. Nothing about the mom. He freaking shot her in her own home. Ugh! I am so upset about it! How is it that people are empathizing with a murderous sociopath? OMG how weird is that. I'm sorry that would drive me nuts too!
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Post by polz on Jan 3, 2015 20:41:37 GMT
And kind of makes you look like an asshole. Which autocorrect really wants to make into "assailant". Sheesh. lol. Whenever I write my nephew's name - Ezekiel, my autocorrect wants to write eyebrow.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 4, 2015 0:43:50 GMT
Always, always speak up under these circumstances.
ETA: Didn't read far enough. I'm refering to the original OP.
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Post by femalebusiness on Jan 4, 2015 0:47:58 GMT
I have a strange vent: Last week a coworker of mine murdered his wife from whom he was separated and then killed himself. They lived in my neighborhood. At work we had a big meeting with a chaplain and lots of people attended and talked about what a wonderful man he was, a wonderful employee and how much he loved his children. Except in the neighborhood we know that his wife was a very good mom, trying to get away from him because he was a controlling nut. So I was sitting there listening to one person after another talk about him with such admiration, and no one said, "Hey, I'm angry. He murdered his wife. He didn't love his kids enough not to murder their mom and their dad (him). I wanted to say that so bad. But I didn't. I just said it with my neighbors. Then someone made a Go fund me site to raise money for the kids. They used a photo of the dad with the kids. Nothing about the mom. He freaking shot her in her own home. Ugh! I am so upset about it! How is it that people are empathizing with a murderous sociopath? I am completely nuts! When I said always speak up, I was refering to this post not the OP. I'll go sit in the corner now until my brain returns to normal.
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