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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 22:30:58 GMT
This is just a vent thread - I don't need advice, I just need to vent a little. If you have any helpful tips, feel free to share, but don't feel you need to! Both of my boys have autism - ds#1 is 15, high functioning, and mostly mainstreamed, but cannot write with a pen or pencil, so always uses a laptop at school; ds#2 is 13 and moderately severe with behavior issues that resulted in him being placed in a small special school for the most challenging kids in our very large school district (approximately 200 schools). Got a call from ds#2's school that he was having a meltdown and they couldn't get him on the bus, so I had to drive 40 minutes across town to his special school to get him. It took me and 3 staff 45 minutes to get him into my van. He finally calmed down on the way home. I walk in the door 2.5 hours after I left to have ds#1 tell me that someone stole his laptop computer out of his locker during P.E. He already reported it to the Security Officer, and there was an email from his case manager in my inbox. It was after 4, so when I called the Security Officer, he was no longer there, so I left a voicemail and followed it up with an email. DS#1 had no issues throughout middle school - 7&8 - nor through 9th grade so far, so I really think it was probably stolen, rather than him losing it. He is not great at locking things - even though I have had to supply locks that he can manage (he can't do the dial combo locks) - so it wouldn't surprise me if he left his locker unlocked. When it rains, it pours! At least ds #2 will be going to respite care tomorrow after school - a local facility takes a number of kids at his special school on Wednesday nights and then brings them back to school on Thursday morning. So, some relief is in sight. Anyone having a sucky Tuesday too? Because this is a case, for me, where misery would love to hear if she had any company. Thanks for listening.  |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 22:34:48 GMT
Awwww, I'm so sorry you are having such a crappy day. Understandable. I hope his laptop turns up, and you get some rest during the respite care.
I'm having a pretty good day. Except that my street wasn't plowed until about half an hour ago. It wasn't passable with about a foot of snow. I made DS walk through it to and from the bus stop. You know the walking through 3 feet of snow a half a mile uphill? That's what I've been hearing since he got home. Whiner!
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 22:41:30 GMT
Awwww, I'm so sorry you are having such a crappy day. Understandable. I hope his laptop turns up, and you get some rest during the respite care. I'm having a pretty good day. Except that my street wasn't plowed until about half an hour ago. It wasn't passable with about a foot of snow. I made DS walk through it to and from the bus stop. You know the walking through 3 feet of snow a half a mile uphill? That's what I've been hearing since he got home. Whiner! I'm glad your day hasn't been too bad considering the snow issues. Just tell DS that he is creating valuable experiences to throw in the faces of his progeny when they complain about how hard they have it!  |
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Post by liya on Feb 10, 2015 22:42:16 GMT
Sorry elaine. That is a sucky day. Vent away. |
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Post by donna on Feb 10, 2015 22:48:56 GMT
elaine that does sound like a pretty yuck day. In the future can he leave the laptop in the class before PE or the class after PE? PE locker rooms are the worst for things getting stolen.
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Post by peabay on Feb 10, 2015 22:50:39 GMT
I'm sorry. That's a day of major suckage.
You deserve to vent and whine.
I hope tomorrow is better.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Feb 10, 2015 22:52:53 GMT
Wow, you ARE having one of those days! Hopefully the laptop turns up. I don't have much to add other than we decided last night that we should probably paint our walk in closet before the shelf guy comes tomorrow. Yeah, we've known for over a week when he was coming but it wasn't until we took down the old wire closet stuff YESTERDAY that we noticed just how bad it looked in there. So now we're smelling paint fumes.  And it's winter and snowing outside. That's all I've got! |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 22:53:10 GMT
I'm sorry, that's a really bad day!! Tomorrow has to be better, right? |
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Post by eebud on Feb 10, 2015 22:56:40 GMT
I am sorry you are having such a sucky day. Calgon, take Elaine away!
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 10, 2015 22:57:05 GMT
{{hugs}} it does sound like it is all pouring down in your world today
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 23:03:56 GMT
Sorry elaine. That is a sucky day. Vent away. Thanks! elaine that does sound like a pretty yuck day. In the future can he leave the laptop in the class before PE or the class after PE? PE locker rooms are the worst for things getting stolen. We may look into that. It is a huge school, 3 stories, so it may be hard to get the laptop to a classroom and get back to the gym in time, but I bet that the school will work with us. I'm sorry. That's a day of major suckage. You deserve to vent and whine. I hope tomorrow is better. Thanks! And I may have some wine with my whine later.  Wow, you ARE having one of those days! Hopefully the laptop turns up. I don't have much to add other than we decided last night that we should probably paint our walk in closet before the shelf guy comes tomorrow. Yeah, we've known for over a week when he was coming but it wasn't until we took down the old wire closet stuff YESTERDAY that we noticed just how bad it looked in there. So now we're smelling paint fumes.  And it's winter and snowing outside. That's all I've got! oof! I hate that smell too. Just think about how nice your closet will look tomorrow! I'm sorry, that's a really bad day!! Tomorrow has to be better, right?  Ashley, thanks! Yes, tomorrow has got to be better. I hope. |
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 23:07:16 GMT
I am sorry you are having such a sucky day. Calgon, take Elaine away! Bath - definitely in my future! {{hugs}} it does sound like it is all pouring down in your world today Thanks! I can use all the hugs I can get. Ds #2 is getting big (145 lbs), and when he hits and kicks me during these meltdowns, it hurts. A bright spot is that I started Chicken and Dumplings in my slow cooker this morning, so we are having comfort food for dinner. |
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 23:09:09 GMT
This is just a vent thread - I don't need advice, I just need to vent a little. If you have any helpful tips, feel free to share, but don't feel you need to! Both of my boys have autism - ds#1 is 15, high functioning, and mostly mainstreamed, but cannot write with a pen or pencil, so always uses a laptop at school; ds#2 is 13 and moderately severe with behavior issues that resulted in him being placed in a small special school for the most challenging kids in our very large school district (approximately 200 schools). Got a call from ds#2's school that he was having a meltdown and they couldn't get him on the bus, so I had to drive 40 minutes across town to his special school to get him. It took me and 3 staff 45 minutes to get him into my van. He finally calmed down on the way home. I walk in the door 2.5 hours after I left to have ds#1 tell me that someone stole his laptop computer out of his locker during P.E. He already reported it to the Security Officer, and there was an email from his case manager in my inbox. It was after 4, so when I called the Security Officer, he was no longer there, so I left a voicemail and followed it up with an email. DS#1 had no issues throughout middle school - 7&8 - nor through 9th grade so far, so I really think it was probably stolen, rather than him losing it. He is not great at locking things - even though I have had to supply locks that he can manage (he can't do the dial combo locks) - so it wouldn't surprise me if he left his locker unlocked. When it rains, it pours! At least ds #2 will be going to respite care tomorrow after school - a local facility takes a number of kids at his special school on Wednesday nights and then brings them back to school on Thursday morning. So, some relief is in sight. Anyone having a sucky Tuesday too? Because this is a case, for me, where misery would love to hear if she had any company. Thanks for listening. Yes, and boy can I relate! Two kids with Autism. One is high functioning. The other is low functioning. I've had the flu, killer cold, and now a cast on my left hand (because of kid#2) within the last month. He does not and has never slept well. He was doing fine with potty training, it's *me* that's been inconsistent. I am soooo tired. We are on day 4 of only using diapers. At my dd's parent teacher conference she said argumentative essays were boring. She was glad they didn't finish reading a book because it wasn't a subject she cared for. She only likes to read certain books. I pointed out that she ended up liking Ray Bradbury. Yeah, but those were short stories. It sounds so snotty, but it was funny the way she was trying to make her point. Her teacher laughed. The journalism teacher was beyond frustrated with her and her partner. The counselor did tell me the other kid should not have been in that class and she was a saint for putting up with him. Then I go to a couple more teachers and say she an excellent student.   Her theater teacher is making a behavior chart because my daughter sees things he DOES NOT notice and it's her duty to tell him. Then there's the "normal" one. I cannot figure him out. I told the doctor today I need a really good cough syrup, because I need to be knocked out. I'm sorry, but know you are definitely not alone. |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Feb 10, 2015 23:09:25 GMT
*hugs* I hope the rest of the week is better for you.
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Post by donna on Feb 10, 2015 23:10:06 GMT
Yum, chicken and dumplings!
In a school that size they surely have cameras. Maybe they can get some idea of who stole it. Did the laptop have some type of tracking device on it?
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Post by purplebee on Feb 10, 2015 23:15:49 GMT
Oh Elaine, and Coilstrand too, I sure hope your week improves.
Definitely a sucky day, and makes my problems seem much more bearable in comparison. Prayers and hugs to you both.
Wine with the whine sounds excellent!
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 23:20:36 GMT
This is just a vent thread - I don't need advice, I just need to vent a little. If you have any helpful tips, feel free to share, but don't feel you need to! Both of my boys have autism - ds#1 is 15, high functioning, and mostly mainstreamed, but cannot write with a pen or pencil, so always uses a laptop at school; ds#2 is 13 and moderately severe with behavior issues that resulted in him being placed in a small special school for the most challenging kids in our very large school district (approximately 200 schools). Got a call from ds#2's school that he was having a meltdown and they couldn't get him on the bus, so I had to drive 40 minutes across town to his special school to get him. It took me and 3 staff 45 minutes to get him into my van. He finally calmed down on the way home. I walk in the door 2.5 hours after I left to have ds#1 tell me that someone stole his laptop computer out of his locker during P.E. He already reported it to the Security Officer, and there was an email from his case manager in my inbox. It was after 4, so when I called the Security Officer, he was no longer there, so I left a voicemail and followed it up with an email. DS#1 had no issues throughout middle school - 7&8 - nor through 9th grade so far, so I really think it was probably stolen, rather than him losing it. He is not great at locking things - even though I have had to supply locks that he can manage (he can't do the dial combo locks) - so it wouldn't surprise me if he left his locker unlocked. When it rains, it pours! At least ds #2 will be going to respite care tomorrow after school - a local facility takes a number of kids at his special school on Wednesday nights and then brings them back to school on Thursday morning. So, some relief is in sight. Anyone having a sucky Tuesday too? Because this is a case, for me, where misery would love to hear if she had any company. Thanks for listening. Yes, and boy can I relate! Two kids with Autism. One is high functioning. The other is low functioning. I've had the flu, killer cold, and now a cast on my left hand (because of kid#2) within the last month. He does not and has never slept well. He was doing fine with potty training, it's *me* that's been inconsistent. I am soooo tired. We are on day 4 of only using diapers. At my dd's parent teacher conference she said argumentative essays were boring. She was glad they didn't finish reading a book because it wasn't a subject she cared for. She only likes to read certain books. I pointed out that she ended up liking Ray Bradbury. Yeah, but those were short stories. It sounds so snotty, but it was funny the way she was trying to make her point. Her teacher laughed. The journalism teacher was beyond frustrated with her and her partner. The counselor did tell me the other kid should not have been in that class and she was a saint for putting up with him. Then I go to a couple more teachers and say she an excellent student. Her theater teacher is making a behavior chart because my daughter sees things he DOES NOT notice and it's her duty to tell him. Then there's the "normal" one. I cannot figure him out. I told the doctor today I need a really good cough syrup, because I need to be knocked out. I'm sorry, but know you are definitely not alone. (((Hugs))) BTDT. Even down to the cast on the left hand/wrist all summer long. Mine never slept well. Clonidine has helped amazingly in that arena. But, as I mentioned in the end of my rope thread, mine didn't sleep through the night until 18 months. And older ds won't sleep the whole night before anything that excites him. And he can't keep quiet, so I'm awake with him. With both my boys, all attempts at typical potty training strategies were complete failures. For both of them, to the week, just decided at 4 1/2 years that they would use the toilet rather than diapers and then there were very few accidents. They both just had to do it on their schedule. It was maddening, especially when well-meaning moms of typicals kept giving me advice. Some days there is nothing wrong with better living through medication. I hope that you feel better soon. |
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Post by monklady123 on Feb 10, 2015 23:23:15 GMT
Yes, that sounds like a vent-worthy day. I just unpacked all my groceries which includes a large bottle of wine. If we were closer I'd bring some over. I have nothing really to vent about today, unless it's stupid drivers and traffic. But since that's a daily occurrence I don't really need to mention them.  |
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 23:28:21 GMT
*hugs* I hope the rest of the week is better for you. Thanks! Yum, chicken and dumplings! In a school that size they surely have cameras. Maybe they can get some idea of who stole it. Did the laptop have some type of tracking device on it? Yes, from what I can gather from my son, they are checking film. It is frustrating because we live in an area where townhouses start at $300K and houses start at $550K through well over million, so none of the kids at our high school are lacking in $$$. So, it is a case of doing it because they can, not because they need to. And all the kids who would have been in the locker room know that my son has Autism - we have lived here for 11.5 years and he has been in the this track of schools since he was 3.5. It is just disappointing. Dh and I just discussed about making sure that the next laptop we get can be tracked like we can with our apple gadgets. Oh Elaine, and Coilstrand too, I sure hope your week improves. Definitely a sucky day, and makes my problems seem much more bearable in comparison. Prayers and hugs to you both. Wine with the whine sounds excellent! Thanks! Your problems are just as sucky as ours, because they affect you! |
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Post by elaine on Feb 10, 2015 23:29:57 GMT
Yes, that sounds like a vent-worthy day. I just unpacked all my groceries which includes a large bottle of wine. If we were closer I'd bring some over. I have nothing really to vent about today, unless it's stupid drivers and traffic. But since that's a daily occurrence I don't really need to mention them. Thank you! There was a smidgen of ice on the roads this morning, so all DC area drivers MUST panic all day long. |
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Post by peanutterbutter on Feb 10, 2015 23:33:32 GMT
Vent away and may tomorrow be a better day!
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Post by azredhead on Feb 10, 2015 23:33:57 GMT
Hugs!!! Sounds like a rough day! Hope the week ends better for you!
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Post by hop2 on Feb 10, 2015 23:38:18 GMT
Maybe he can leave it in the PE instructors office during PE?
I'm sorry your having a sucky day. Glad we could listen to your vent. {{hug}} I won't rain on your thread but rest assured your not the only one having a sucky day.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 10, 2015 23:39:27 GMT
(((Hugs))) BTDT. Even down to the cast on the left hand/wrist all summer long. Mine never slept well. Clonidine has helped amazingly in that arena. But, as I mentioned in the end of my rope thread, mine didn't sleep through the night until 18 months. And older ds won't sleep the whole night before anything that excites him. And he can't keep quiet, so I'm awake with him. With both my boys, all attempts at typical potty training strategies were complete failures. For both of them, to the week, just decided at 4 1/2 years that they would use the toilet rather than diapers and then there were very few accidents. They both just had to do it on their schedule. It was maddening, especially when well-meaning moms of typicals kept giving me advice. Some days there is nothing wrong with better living through medication. I hope that you feel better soon. I've tried Risperidol, Clonidine, and now Tenex. He's 6 and non verbal so I know it will take longer. I also worry about him getting bigger. He's over 50 pounds and probably at 4 feet. |
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Post by Heart on Feb 10, 2015 23:45:35 GMT
I am having one of those weeks? months? it seems like forever.
back in NOVEMBER my husband went to the ER because he was sick- he wanted to vomit but nothing would come up and he felt the urge for a BM but nothing would come out that end either. He had shallow breathing and chills and just felt WRONG. so we went to the ER. they do a bunch of tests on him and tell him it's pneumonia. this doesn't make a lot of sense to us (except he did have a persistent cough) but took the medicine and went home.
he went back to his doctor who read the files from the ER and said "nope, not pnuemonia, it's a hernia". my husband had hernia repair surgery two weeks ago.
my 18 yr old DD found a lump in her breast 6 months ago and went to get it rechecked and it had grown. It's causing her discomfort, so surgery for her too- scheduled for the 19th.
Friday I was in my car and another vehicle hit me head on. My car is in the shop and has been since 11 am Friday. The other driver's insurance company hasn't even LOOKED at my car yet and it might be Thursday (my BIRTHDAY) before they get to it. No rental yet either.
I think my husband had a stroke on Sunday, but he can't get into his doctor to get looked at and they wont let him see the on call guy.
I want to run away and never come back but I can't because I am the "strong one" holding it together. Blah.
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Post by imsirius on Feb 10, 2015 23:48:21 GMT
I can relate Elaine. My son is in 8th grade and has Asperger's (ASD now, and he is high functioning as well but he is SO FORGETFUL! I write him notes in his agenda every single morning and he still forgets things! His teacher put a schedule in his locker (on the inside of the door) so he knows what to bring to each class. He always forgets something and then has to go back to the locker, disrupting the class. He also has high anxiety and if he forgets something, his anxiety goes through the roof and he won't tell her until it's too late. It's frustrating for him, his teacher, and me. We are currently trying to figure out other strategies for him to remember things.
Then, to top that off, DH went to Boston for four days. Got back on Sunday night. His suitcase is still sitting full in our room on the floor. Not emptied, nothing taken out, his suit bag with his tux and suit still inside is hanging off of his dresser drawer!
I REFUSE to put it away. It's driving me crazy having it just sit there, but I am not moving it. He is a grown assed man and can bloody well move it himself.
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Post by ~Lauren~ on Feb 10, 2015 23:49:21 GMT
Oh my, it sounds like some of you are struggling through some very tough times. Sending (((hugs))) to all.
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 10, 2015 23:54:25 GMT
No advice here, but that respite care sounds amazing! I have some former clients who would kill to have that. That's so cool
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Post by ingrid on Feb 11, 2015 0:20:49 GMT
I'm so glad you have respite care as an available resource. What a brutal day. ((hugs))
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Post by mlana on Feb 11, 2015 1:59:57 GMT
I am having one of those weeks? months? it seems like forever. back in NOVEMBER my husband went to the ER because he was sick- he wanted to vomit but nothing would come up and he felt the urge for a BM but nothing would come out that end either. He had shallow breathing and chills and just felt WRONG. so we went to the ER. they do a bunch of tests on him and tell him it's pneumonia. this doesn't make a lot of sense to us (except he did have a persistent cough) but took the medicine and went home. he went back to his doctor who read the files from the ER and said "nope, not pnuemonia, it's a hernia". my husband had hernia repair surgery two weeks ago. my 18 yr old DD found a lump in her breast 6 months ago and went to get it rechecked and it had grown. It's causing her discomfort, so surgery for her too- scheduled for the 19th. Friday I was in my car and another vehicle hit me head on. My car is in the shop and has been since 11 am Friday. The other driver's insurance company hasn't even LOOKED at my car yet and it might be Thursday (my BIRTHDAY) before they get to it. No rental yet either. I think my husband had a stroke on Sunday, but he can't get into his doctor to get looked at and they wont let him see the on call guy. I want to run away and never come back but I can't because I am the "strong one" holding it together. Blah. You have my sympathies on everything that is happening to you, but this stuck out to me. My DH had a stroke on Thurs and I can tell you that if you think your DH had a stroke, he needs to go to the ER at once. DH actually woke up on Weds with some stroke like symptoms, but because they involved a pre-existing condition, we wrote it off as just the next step in the evolution of the other problem. BIG MISTAKE! The drs think that was a TIA? (I think that's it) which was basically a warning. He woke up Thurs and it was obvious right away that something was not right. It took an MRI to confirm that it was actually a full stroke, i.e. bleeding in the brain. The response was completely different once they knew it was a stroke. He was immediately put on blood thinners, bp meds, and was monitored for 24+ hours because the first stroke is often followed quickly by other more devastating strokes. If we had been awake and realized what had happened, there is a medication that can be administered within the first 4 hours following a stroke that significantly decreases the damage. Marcy |
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