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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2015 4:27:17 GMT
Your poor guy.  I'd like to send one too. I still need to buy some for my son's class anyway!  <<--procrastinator |
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Post by willscrapforfood on Feb 13, 2015 4:35:08 GMT
I have two little boys (one with autism who knows how it feels to be left out) that would love to send Kyle a card!  <3 |
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Post by betty on Feb 13, 2015 4:36:05 GMT
Poor kid. I 'd love to send him one! I was just cleaning up the left over Star Wars (for the boys) & Kitten (girls, of course. He insists on two kinds each yr!) cards from my son doing his tonight. He wrote them all himself but I'm seriously questioning his spelling of names!!  |
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Post by J u l e e on Feb 13, 2015 4:46:07 GMT
I am having trouble falling asleep, so I'm getting back out of bed to make it right now. I hope he "gets" Grumpy Cat, because I'm sending the one my daughter created on the computer a few years ago. (It's what I have available off hand. Sadly/thankfully, we don't do valentines in middle school.)
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Post by Hayjaker on Feb 13, 2015 5:21:22 GMT
Me, me!
i want to send a valentine too!
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Post by jumperhop on Feb 13, 2015 5:51:26 GMT
Good night Ladies,
Just wanted to say Thank You again.
Jen
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Post by crittsmom on Feb 13, 2015 5:57:53 GMT
Jen, I just saw this and I would like to send a card too.
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Post by lucyg on Feb 13, 2015 6:38:34 GMT
My kindergartener would be delighted to send a treat bag. Please PM the address. Oh I'm so sorry, that really stinks. I was in elementary school 20 years ago and even then we always had to bring enough for the entire class. I was in elementary school 50 years ago and we had the same rule. What is wrong with people?? |
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Post by gramma on Feb 13, 2015 6:48:50 GMT
I'll send one. Name and address please
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Post by Grom Pea on Feb 13, 2015 7:36:02 GMT
What perfect timing, was just sending Valentines today and had one stamp left over, feel free to pm me an address :-)
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Post by georgiee on Feb 13, 2015 7:40:00 GMT
I'd love to send him one too.
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Post by MaryMary on Feb 13, 2015 7:42:59 GMT
Poor Kyle. I'm sorry.
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Post by CarolinaGirl71 on Feb 13, 2015 8:21:55 GMT
So sorry. I was always the one to dread it because I didn't know if I would get any valentines. I usually got one with something nasty written on it too. Ah, memories. But then a couple of years ago, my dd asked me to help her write her cards. I told her she could write the names herself, and she said no, she could totally do that, she needed me to help her write on each card for every child (plus teachers) something she liked about each person. Some she had to think about and she wrote one compliment to each person. It won't last I'm sure, but that idea was straight from her little heart and I was so touched. I love your DD. What a sweetheart! A true, kind and loving act that surely blessed the kids in her class! |
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Post by christine58 on Feb 13, 2015 12:00:58 GMT
PM me your address...I'll send one to your son!! Does he have a favorite candy???
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Post by Restless Spirit on Feb 13, 2015 13:34:26 GMT
I'd love to send a card! I was *that* kid too. It was hurtful.
I had such a wonderful experience with the 2Peas Refugees Christmas card exchange,that I'd like to continue the "pay it forward" experience!
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Post by pierkiss on Feb 13, 2015 14:31:11 GMT
Oh man, I'm so sorry that happened to him. How hard is it to make sure the kids send in enough valentine's for everyone??? |
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Post by Nicole in TX on Feb 13, 2015 16:24:32 GMT
I would love to send him a card too!
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Post by ReneeH20 on Feb 13, 2015 16:32:06 GMT
That bites! When my kids were in school, we always got a list of kids' names in the class. I made sure they gave out one to each kid.
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Post by paperaddictedpea on Feb 13, 2015 17:16:29 GMT
I'd love to send him a card if you feel comfortable sending your address. I'm not a well-known Pea but I've been around quite a while - I just don't post much.
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Post by mrsscrapdiva on Feb 13, 2015 17:38:27 GMT
So seriously I have tears in my eyes thinking of kids that didn't get a valentine.
We would love to exchange valentines - I am sure my sons would love doing this.
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Post by Deleted on Feb 13, 2015 23:31:26 GMT
I sent it and who knew they added so much for a little treat inside? Tell Kyle, I spent more on him than on my 3 kids last year for a card. I'm a cheap mom, so it wasn't much at all! Totally worth it!  |
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Post by padresfan619 on Feb 13, 2015 23:35:26 GMT
I sent off a card today! I PMed you my full name and city so you'll know which one is from me . |
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Post by littlemama on Feb 14, 2015 1:48:25 GMT
I don't remember it needing to be a rule when I was in school. It's just common sense and good manners. Shame on the parents of the kids who only gave cards to a select few. It was always stated when DS was in elementary school, but we would never have thought not to give one to every child.
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Post by betty on Feb 14, 2015 3:11:23 GMT
My son and daughter each put a Valentine in the mail this morning. I think Kyle is going to have a lot of fun seeing where all these cards are coming from! I know I'm about as far from you as you can get in the continental US. |
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Post by AussieMeg on Feb 14, 2015 4:37:46 GMT
So sorry. I was always the one to dread it because I didn't know if I would get any valentines. I usually got one with something nasty written on it too. Ah, memories. But then a couple of years ago, my dd asked me to help her write her cards. I told her she could write the names herself, and she said no, she could totally do that, she needed me to help her write on each card for every child (plus teachers) something she liked about each person. Some she had to think about and she wrote one compliment to each person. It won't last I'm sure, but that idea was straight from her little heart and I was so touched. 1. I'm sorry you have such awful memories of V Day. I'm glad our schools don't do stuff like that, it's just too risky that someone is going to get hurt. 2. Your DD is so sweet, it must take her ages to do those cards. What a sweetheart!  3. I've had my avatars turned off for a few weeks..... is that you in your profile pic? You are just GORGEOUS! |
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Post by heartcat on Feb 14, 2015 11:49:27 GMT
I am one who does not believe that everyone needs to get invited to everything or has a problem with invitations to parties, etc. being given to friends at school.
But I cannot imagine doing something like Valentine's cards, Christmas cards, sending in treats, etc. and excluding anyone. I do think that that is hurtful and unnecessary.
The only time I would allow my child to exclude someone in a situation like that was if there was another child who was constantly mean to them, bullied them, etc. and who was a source of genuine distress for a child. If someone has been deliberately hurtful to another person I do think it's okay to leave them off the list. There should be ramifications for that type of behaviour. (I know that is not the situation in the OP though).
But if it's just a situation of not every child being friends with everyone in the class, or not knowing everyone well, then I think a simple Valentine should be extended in a group setting and class exchange like that.
I am sorry that your ds was hurt, it makes my heart ache. But it is also heartwarming how many caring, empathetic Refugee Peas there are who are reaching out to make up for it. And to read about caring, thoughtful children.
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Post by SabrinaM on Feb 14, 2015 13:40:35 GMT
What sweet peas!! I'm glad he's getting lots of Valentines!! PM me your address, babe. I'd love to send him one!!
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Post by julieinmd on Feb 14, 2015 14:03:08 GMT
I am sorry for your son and I'm sorry he was placed in this situation. It must be hurtful. We don't have a Valentine party at our school but the kids can exchange them during recess. I also tell the kids to bring one in for everybody or don't bring them in at all. Of course kids don't always follow this rule. I make sure I send a valentine to every child in my class with a kind note on it so they know at least one person in the room thinks they are terrific. I am of the opinion that not everybody needs to be invited and not everybody needs to get the exact same thing as everyone else. However, in a classroom, where exclusion is painfully obvious, the rules change. If you've never been the child who was excluded I'm not sure you can really understand how hurtful that can be.
On a side note, if you are asking why this happens, I think I can explain based on my observations as a teacher over the past 13 years. Many people are increasingly sending their kids the message that it is "all about them". That's a pervasive message when it comes to birthdays, report cards, class placement, behavior correction, sports, homework, really pretty much of anything. As long as the child is number one, it doesn't matter who gets emotionally romped on. There is absolutely no concept of serving others, or doing altruistic things for the general good in the majority of the children I teach. The wants and needs of the individual outweigh all other considerations.
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I'd like to send one too. I still need to buy some for my son's class anyway! 
<3
Time to get off the internet!
