samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 12, 2014 0:40:03 GMT
This is just a general story of my life, that's happening currently. I am having a tough time and thought writing out this crazy story may help. My family (not my immediate family), travels to Myrtle Beach, SC in a large RV from the mid-west every year. It's my mom, dad, sister, her BF, my sister's teen children and friends, etc. When they arrived to SC, my dad was feeling terrible. They took him to the ER and he was diagnosed with SC lung cancer and it has spread to his liver and probably his brain. So now it's the crazy story of how to get him home into hospice care. They are trying to get him home in the RV as other options would be so expensive. The RV seems to be too big to get into the hospital parking lot and near the emergency entrances and the stairs to the RV have broken. My dad is too weak to walk up the steps, so how to get him in the RV. I think they will try and have an ambulance meet them somewhere, not sure. A family friend, who is a nurse, is flying to meet them and travel home with them. There's a very good chance that he won't make it home. I called him today to say goodbye, as my mom thought he was "aware". I told him we all loved him and that J (my son) liked his trains that he gave us and he said that I'll have to get back to you on that. My family knew this day would come as my dad was a 3-pack a day smoker and heavy drinker, but this was so sudden. In February his lungs were clear. I live in Colorado, so all I can do is wait. I've cried so many times today.
So should the family bring porn along for the ride? Not really funny, but trying to be.
Update- I thought he would make it home. He just passed while traveling home in the RV. RIP Dad.
Final update- Due to a potential legal situation, the family decided to stop at a funeral home and have him cremated and remains sent home. We will have a memorial service at his favorite, hometown park, where he loved to watch the baseball games. It will be an informal celebration. I think this is exactly what he would want. He knew that he was coming home to family and friends. Thanks to all of you for the support and listening.
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Post by christine58 on Jul 12, 2014 0:45:02 GMT
I am so sorry that your dad got so sick so fast. Glad a nurse will be with them to be honest...I hope he makes it home because if he dies in the RV----What then is the plan??? They need to have this all planned out. Have they looked into an Angel Flight to get him home quicker??? They really really need to be prepared for the worse possible outcome as they travel home.
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Post by susans sister on Jul 12, 2014 0:48:15 GMT
so sorry to hear this. I hope he will make it home.
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scrapngranny
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Post by scrapngranny on Jul 12, 2014 0:49:00 GMT
Sorry to hear you were blindsided with this news. It is odd your dad was able to start the trip and go downhill so fast. Hopefully, he will make it home and be in a comfortable place. I hope he isn't suffering. Pray you find strength and comfort for what is ahead.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 0:49:35 GMT
I just did supplication for you and your family (Duah). It's hard to come up with comforting words but I wish you tomorrows that are better than today. I pray your dad makes it home even if it's a long shot. It's good to have hope. I am so sorry to get this kind of news. I am heart broken for you.
You can turn to us for support all the time. We won't judge, we listen, there is someone on here 24 hours a day and will give you mega (((((((HUGS))))))) when you need them.
Please know you are in my prayers.
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Post by Memo on Jul 12, 2014 0:55:23 GMT
Oh man, what a dilemma. I'm so sorry to hear about your dad and how fast this is happening. I hope and pray that he makes it home safely. Hugs to you and your family.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2014 0:56:30 GMT
I'm so sorry this is happening. What a shock for you all having this happen so suddenly. Praying.
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 12, 2014 1:07:45 GMT
Thanks everyone. My dad is very stubborn and would not see a doctor. He hasn't been feeling well for about 2 weeks before the trip. One thought, especially as we all grow older: is what if a loved one does not want to go to the doctor? Can you physically make them go? I, too question, what happens on the way home? My family said that it would be best to get him home and if he passes, he loved traveling in the RV, so maybe it's best in the end. I can't imagine leaving him in the hospital in SC.
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luvnlifelady
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Post by luvnlifelady on Jul 12, 2014 1:12:19 GMT
Aww sorry to hear that. We went through 2 years of that with my dad with lung cancer. It's awful. There's no two ways around it. If it's your dad's time, I hope it's swift and as pain free as possible. Try to be kind to yourself. Losing a parent sucks!
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Post by jenjie on Jul 12, 2014 1:15:41 GMT
I'm so sorry. {{{Hugs}}}
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Post by Debbie on Jul 12, 2014 1:15:45 GMT
So sorry for what your family is going through. It must be very difficult for you to be so far away. Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way.
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mimima
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Post by mimima on Jul 12, 2014 1:18:02 GMT
I'm so very sorry, huge hugs and prayers
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Post by wiipii2 on Jul 12, 2014 1:48:00 GMT
I am so sorry
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Post by marmargirl on Jul 12, 2014 1:55:31 GMT
I'm sorry and will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by luv2scrapaboutmykids on Jul 12, 2014 1:59:32 GMT
Sorry this is happening. I hope that they get a plan made quickly. I doubt they would think that the porn joke would be funny but I did.
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Post by bdawnb on Jul 12, 2014 2:09:13 GMT
I am so sorry your family is having to go through this. Praying for you all.
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Post by justcindy on Jul 12, 2014 2:24:31 GMT
Samantha, I don't know you IRL, but my heart is aching for you. I lost my MIL to lung cancer in 2011 and I lost my father last Fall. The details are different of course, but the conundrum of how to get him home is the same....he was in Phoenix at time and my siblings and I flew there to see him and try to get him home.
I don't really have any advice for you, I just want you to know my heart is with yours, and my prayers are for you and your family right now. Please hang around here to keep your mind off things, if that's what you need, or to vent or cry or whatever you need to do to get through this time. We're here for you.
Cindy in Texas
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 12, 2014 2:33:41 GMT
Sorry this is happening. I hope that they get a plan made quickly. I doubt they would think that the porn joke would be funny but I did. I know- trying to be funny... because always on trips that they've made something crazy happens. They were traveling in Colorado on a visit with me and the brakes of the RV went out while coming out of the mountains (think major stinking brake smell). Then the next year, their car's electrical system (that they tow with the RV) went out on a major highway. They towed the car to my house and the tow truck driver could not get it off the truck because of the power outage, the brake was stuck or something... My family is pretty funny, so at times I think it's ok to laugh a little, because, I just can't believe this is happening.
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Post by auntkelly on Jul 12, 2014 3:50:03 GMT
I'm so sorry about your father.
I think ink it's great that you can still see the humor in such a sad situation. It's a great coping mechanism, and sometimes you might as well be laughing as crying. Neither tears nor laughter is going to change the sad truth of what is going to happen.
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samantha25
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Post by samantha25 on Jul 12, 2014 4:02:26 GMT
Yes, definitely, a coping mechanism. I have cried when I can't breathe, which I haven't done in a long time. I'm not one to let things out. I had hoped to take my kids to see him and go to the train museum. I thought he would survive and we could see him when we had a break from school. We weren't terribly close, because of the drinking problems, but my kids adored him when he visited in the RV....
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Post by smokey2471 on Jul 12, 2014 7:04:25 GMT
I'm so very sad for you. Sending hugs
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michellegb
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Post by michellegb on Jul 12, 2014 10:10:20 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending prayers and hugs...
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Post by KelleeM on Jul 12, 2014 10:23:17 GMT
I'm so sorry. Good you have a sense of humor...sometimes that's all that gets us through!
(((hugs)))
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 12, 2014 10:35:09 GMT
How awful. Sending best wishes. X
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 12, 2014 10:42:13 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by mommaho on Jul 12, 2014 11:06:39 GMT
Sometimes we have to see the humor in the situation to keep ourselves sane. My prayers and positives thoughts are with you and your family. Hugs
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Post by 1lear on Jul 12, 2014 13:08:28 GMT
So sorry and I'm praying for your family.
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Post by liya on Jul 12, 2014 13:17:29 GMT
I am so sorry for what your family is facing.
On a side note; my Dad passed 5 years ago. He would have loved the porn joke. We always laughed and joked as best we could even when he was is hospice. He wanted it that way.
Hugs!
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Post by purplebee on Jul 12, 2014 13:23:46 GMT
So sorry for you and your family. Sending prayers for comfort for all involved.
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Post by cynipidae17 on Jul 12, 2014 13:29:50 GMT
I am so sorry. Praying your family makes it home
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