grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 22, 2015 14:04:31 GMT
Our venue max is 92... I'm guessing that's how many people will come. We point blank refused to do the big wedding because we'd have to water down the quality to pay for everyone. 300 was the expected amount for us... no way jose. Way too big. I agree with you. I much, much rather have quality over quantity. I rather have an amazing event and experience with all the details I like for 50 people than to have to cut back on things to accommodate hundreds of people. Exactly. I didn't want the ugly church hall with oodles of people in it event. I wanted a nice, pretty, not a dark church hall for my wedding with good food (not the homestyle church caterers). So we cut the list. Big time. I don't regret it. Nor does FH. |
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Post by freebird on Jun 22, 2015 14:09:40 GMT
Invited 60, 40 came. Probably would have more but we were married on a holiday weekend.
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garcia5050
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Post by garcia5050 on Jun 22, 2015 14:10:59 GMT
In 1996, invited 310, 290 came. No church hall, no lack of quality. We both have large families. No regrets either.
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Post by melanell on Jun 22, 2015 14:13:16 GMT
I don't remember exactly, but it was right around 100. It was a good number for us. We got to spend a little time with everyone, and yet still have time together, too.
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kate
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Post by kate on Jun 22, 2015 14:15:13 GMT
We had about 65, I think. One of the best days of my life!  |
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jun 22, 2015 14:15:13 GMT
Very small and just right at 11 people.
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Post by txsweetpea on Jun 22, 2015 14:18:22 GMT
There were 16 people at my wedding.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jun 22, 2015 14:20:28 GMT
I have a huge extended family, DH's is almost non-existent. So in an effort to be fair and keep costs down, we had a very small wedding. I don't remember how many were invited but I would say less than 80 people attended. Probably more like 60. We had a church hall reception but not the church lady food, and no dance or bar.
I wanted to elope, DH insisted on having a church wedding even though he never went to church (and still doesn't now), so even though it was small it wasn't as small as I would have liked. We invited more people to our anniversary party last year than we did to our wedding!
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Post by Anne-Marie on Jun 22, 2015 14:22:26 GMT
It was the second time around for both DH and I. I wanted to elope. Or at the very least go TINY with just us and our girls. He initially said he didn't want to do it without our parents, then it became his sisters (really, they probably would've found us and come no matter what, lol), then he decided it was important to him that we be married in the church, it continued to snowball and we ended up with around 250 people. The entire six months I was planning it I only said "AND I'M THE ONE THAT WANTED TO ELOPE!" (usually just teasing him and maybe only one or twice with actual tears) fifty bazillion times.
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Post by ahiller on Jun 22, 2015 14:23:26 GMT
We had about 250-ish. We both have very large extended families, I think we have nearly 50 first cousins between the 2 of us.
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Post by mnmloveli on Jun 22, 2015 14:24:24 GMT
100. Immediate family and close friends. It was perfect. I tell every bride & groom enjoy every minute of your day because it goes sooooo FAST !!! Everyone's there to watch YOU and have a great time with YOU !!!
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Post by rhhdk on Jun 22, 2015 14:27:59 GMT
I think we were about 40-45 (30 years ago) close familly and a few friends. Very lowbudget, but exactely as we wanted it. DD got merried last year, and I think we were about 60, again familly and close friends
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Post by leannec on Jun 22, 2015 14:34:26 GMT
We were married in Las Vegas with 10 other people ... it was very traditional ... no Elvis  The following week, we had an at home reception for about 50 people ... I wouldn't have changed a thing other than I wish that FIL had been able to join us for the wedding in Vegas ... long story  |
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Post by KelleeM on Jun 22, 2015 14:35:33 GMT
First wedding there were 29 people total. Second was about 85 on New Year's Eve in my BIl's house...best party ever followed by our ceremony at midnight!
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Post by eebud on Jun 22, 2015 14:35:59 GMT
I ordered 100 invitations and mailed out most of them. Many of them went to people who lived very far away and I sent to them more because they were family or family friends that I wanted to invite but knew they would not come. I didn't bother with RSVPs. I was able to go through who I mailed to and figure out who would make it and who wouldn't. I had 2 people make it that I never thought would be able to come. Just so happened they had a road trip about the time of my wedding and had to come through town so they decided to time it where they could make it. There were a few that didn't make it because it sleeted the day/evening of my wedding and there was some ice on the roads. All in all, I figured about 75 to 80 would make it to the wedding. I believe I ended up with 78. Pretty good estimating considering I didn't ask for RSVPs.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 22, 2015 14:48:40 GMT
70 ish.
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Post by icedcoffee14 on Jun 22, 2015 14:51:30 GMT
70-75 ish.. I can not remember the exact amount but it was nice and since I am not a dancer I spent a lot of time mingling. I did dance a few times with my husband and then a huge German style group dance but I prefer to mingle...lol
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Post by happymomma on Jun 22, 2015 15:00:12 GMT
5.
Myself, my husband, the officiant, two witnesses who happened to be my best friend and her significant other. No onlookers.
If I'd had my way it would only have been the first three, but we had to provide two witnesses to make it legal.
To me, the only thing that was important was that my husband and I were making our vows to each other and being united in marriage. It really was all about us.
I didn't need an audience to do that.
I'm not knocking big weddings at all, and that's cool if people want others around to witness it if that is what is important to them. For me, it was an intimate and important moment and I wanted to concentrate only on the vows I was taking and not have to deal with any details of anything other than what was actually taking place.
This was a second wedding for both of us. My first wedding wasn't much bigger but my parents, his mom, my grandparents and my brother did attend.
My husband had a big first wedding and was on the same page with me for this one. We were both already in our 40's and getting married meant something different to us than it does to a lot of people. Maybe we were selfish, but it really was 'all about the two of us'.
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Post by ntsf on Jun 22, 2015 15:15:35 GMT
about 100...church wedding..reception elsewhere. but a very simple wedding...ceremony only about 15-20 minutes. I made my dress, sister-in-law made a cake, mom brought in fresh fruit from eastern washington..had a dj. rehearsal dinner at my in-law's house..very very laid back.
it fit us...33 yrs ago.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2015 16:02:15 GMT
140
We were 19 and in college. Our entire college came to our very traditional church wedding.
If we were marrying today, 23 years later, it would be me, dh and a minister on the beach.
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Post by JoP on Jun 22, 2015 16:19:47 GMT
Ours was small - 34 including hubby and myself, 24 years ago. That was for the ceremony and wedding reception. We didn't have an evening reception either.
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Post by Ryann on Jun 22, 2015 16:34:51 GMT
We did a JOP wedding, there was was 12 people (my family + our 2 BFFs) in attendence there (including us). The day after we had our reception (but really was just a hosted dinner) at our favorite restaurant. We basically bought out the restaurant for 4 hours and there were around 30 people there - the original 12 from our wedding and then our friends. We invited 36 to the restaurant, so only 6 that couldn't make it.
I don't regret getting married at the JOP at all. I don't like being the center of attention, so doing a traditional wedding is not something I could do. I do regret not hiring a professional photographer for both days, but other than that I would do everything the same.
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Post by cmpeter on Jun 22, 2015 16:35:24 GMT
Two. We eloped. Two people we met at the resort agreed ex to be our witnesses.
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Post by bratkar on Jun 22, 2015 16:52:45 GMT
230. About 200 more than I wanted. We were young, allowed DH parents talk us into the big wedding.
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Post by papersilly on Jun 22, 2015 16:58:41 GMT
we had about 125 people. my parents were going through a bad divorce. my dad's entire side of the family, other than my grandfather and one of my dad's cousin, were not invited. my mom's side of the family lived overseas so no one from her side came. it was mostly DH's family and my family's friends that attended.
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Post by kath323 on Jun 22, 2015 17:00:03 GMT
149 (one person was sick and didn't make it). We invited 183.
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Post by gillyp on Jun 22, 2015 17:03:39 GMT
We invited 4, my mother, his father and two friends. As we were settling down in the room (register office like a JOP) his father came in with a load of uninvited family members. We were not amused.
Nowadays I would probably say something but then I was too nervous about the whole thing and we were running very late - my cab hadn't turned up and a neighbour took me, my mother and my friend in his converted rally car. There was no back seat and my friend and I had to sit on the floor of the car.
The day didn't get much better. We arrived at our honeymoon destination and I had forgotten to take the address of the hotel with me so we drove around for ages in the hope a street name would jog my memory. It was before the days of mobile phones. My mother didn't even have a land line!
We found the hotel, went for a walk on the beach and got cut off by the tide so had to scramble up a cliff to make it to safety.
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Post by Princess Amy on Jun 22, 2015 17:09:17 GMT
DH and I eloped in Vegas 24 years ago. I 've never regretted it. We plan on going to Vegas next year to celebrate our 25 th anniversary. I'm so finding an Elvis impersonator to renew our vows! Unfortunately the chapel we were married in is now defunct.
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Post by calgal08 on Jun 22, 2015 17:14:11 GMT
Well, apart from the two of us, plus the guy who married us (he also owned the hotel we stayed at) and 1 witness (who was the hotel receptionist and she acted as our witness and official photographer). That was it. Not a single guest. It was perfect.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Jun 22, 2015 17:41:36 GMT
If I remember right, 108. We could only seat 110 for the reception. Everyone replied yes to the invitation and then one couple couldn't make it.
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