scrappinghappy
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Post by scrappinghappy on Jun 30, 2015 5:10:53 GMT
No! never! Not at my age. I'll sleep with dh, obviously, and any of my kids. That's it. I wouldn't share, even with my girlfriends. Which is going to be awkward because they want to plan a weekend getaway and there are 4 of us. I make all kinds of noises all night, and use the bathroom for a long time in the morning getting ready and nope, wouldn't share! Especially for work. Is it even legal to require that?
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georgiapea
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Post by georgiapea on Jun 30, 2015 5:19:40 GMT
Really? I'm surprised so many are opposed to sharing. Like StampBooker I've shared convention rooms with people I only knew on line and it was always fine. Of the 3 women I recall sharing a room with, 1 was a talker but that was the only difficulty I had - too much conversation.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2015 5:32:31 GMT
I would prefer a room to myself, but would be ok with sharing a room and most of the time a bed.
It's kind of funny though because I have a tough time sleeping in public - I don't even nap on the couch at my mom's house. Sleeping on a plane is really tough. But a room where we are all sleeping? Not a big deal.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jun 30, 2015 5:36:27 GMT
Wait? What? Never in a million years would I share a room with a stranger.
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Post by darkchami on Jun 30, 2015 6:31:43 GMT
My best friends and I have had this conversation many times. It isn't that unusual in education. School districts need to keep costs low. I honestly didn't even realize it was weird until I was relating one of my conference adventures to my friends. I swear their eyes almost popped out of their heads.
At this point, it is my normal. It isn't my favorite part of the job, but it has always turned out okay.
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lucybelle
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Post by lucybelle on Jun 30, 2015 6:49:58 GMT
I am going to the Close to My Heart convention and will be sharing a room with three ladies I have never met. Whatever. We will be having far too much fun to care.
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Post by gar on Jun 30, 2015 7:24:48 GMT
I would be apprehensive but I'd do it. It's only sleeping and it's only a very short time. Worse things can happen
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Post by grate on Jun 30, 2015 11:57:33 GMT
I would not like it either!
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 30, 2015 12:08:55 GMT
I've done it before. I have to admit, it was not the most comfortable time, but at the same time it was kind of fun. I got to know work people better and in a way that we would have never done prior to the room share. I really appreciated the opportunity.
I think it was good for my work experience too. I can be a bit of a introvert and very reserved, and that sometimes comes across as being standoffish. Sharing a space with someone you don't know more or less forces you to come out of your shell a little bit and gave my co-workers an opportunity to see *me* differently as well.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 30, 2015 12:09:13 GMT
Really? I'm surprised so many are opposed to sharing. Like StampBooker I've shared convention rooms with people I only knew on line and it was always fine. Of the 3 women I recall sharing a room with, 1 was a talker but that was the only difficulty I had - too much conversation. I'm surprised anyone would be okay with sharing with strangers... especially coworkers (though your "people I only knew online" totally freaks me out too). I am a grown woman, there's no way in freakin' hell I am sharing accomodations with someone outside my family or close friend circle. No way. My privacy is too important. If the company is too cheap (and that's what this comes down to, a company being too cheap to get proper accomodations for their travelling employees) to get me my own private room, they can send someone else. I did my time sharing rooms with strangers when I was a kid. I need and demand my down time after an exhausting and annoying day of being with my colleagues.
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cycworker
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Post by cycworker on Jun 30, 2015 12:10:48 GMT
I wouldn't share a bed , but a room? No problem.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 30, 2015 12:13:06 GMT
I've done it before. I have to admit, it was not the most comfortable time, but at the same time it was kind of fun. I got to know work people better and in a way that we would have never done prior to the room share. I really appreciated the opportunity. I think it was good for my work experience too. I can be a bit of a introvert and very reserved, and that sometimes comes across as being standoffish. Sharing a space with someone you don't know more or less forces you to come out of your shell a little bit and gave my co-workers an opportunity to see *me* differently as well. What way would you get to know them better? Honestly, it sounds like sheer hell. But I also keep work and home life very very separate. I am not interested in being friends with my colleagues or getting to know their sleeping habits or anything like that. None of that benefits the job. Keep it professional is how I see it. But I'm curious. How did it help?
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Post by littlemama on Jun 30, 2015 12:13:28 GMT
I wouldn't be comfortable with that, and it has NOTHING to do with being uptight as someone said earlier on the thread. I have a hard time with meeting new people to start with, I surely don't want to start out sleeping in the same room as a new person. I think if you shared a room at some point in your life, whether dorm, camp, military, etc, you wouldn't mind, but if you have never shared and/or are introverted, you wouldn't want to do that.
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Post by littlemama on Jun 30, 2015 12:16:25 GMT
They can't make you share a room. Talk about harassment!!! Yuck Of course they can't, however, they can offer to pay for one room per two people. And it's not harassment. That's a little over the top. I would probably get my own room, but I wouldn't think for a moment that the organizers were doing anything wrong by wanting people to share.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 30, 2015 12:19:00 GMT
As long as they don't smoke, it seriously wouldn't bother me. I can't believe how uptight y'all are. It has nothing to do with being uptight, it has everything to do with maintaining professional boundaries. It is unprofessional (and extremely cheap) for a company to not provide proper accomodations for their employees, and forcing a roommate situation is not acceptable. Or proper.
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Post by anxiousmom on Jun 30, 2015 12:24:49 GMT
I've done it before. I have to admit, it was not the most comfortable time, but at the same time it was kind of fun. I got to know work people better and in a way that we would have never done prior to the room share. I really appreciated the opportunity. I think it was good for my work experience too. I can be a bit of a introvert and very reserved, and that sometimes comes across as being standoffish. Sharing a space with someone you don't know more or less forces you to come out of your shell a little bit and gave my co-workers an opportunity to see *me* differently as well. What way would you get to know them better? Honestly, it sounds like sheer hell. But I also keep work and home life very very separate. I am not interested in being friends with my colleagues or getting to know their sleeping habits or anything like that. None of that benefits the job. Keep it professional is how I see it. But I'm curious. How did it help? For me, I am not sure of the why of it, just that it did. Maybe because it was in a smaller, less formal space-but it made it so that during the times we were in the room, it was less...formal? Maybe it was because we were not surrounded by clients and telephones-but it gave us a chance to connect on a more personal level. It gave us a different impression of each other. The kind of work I did was dependent on differing departments sharing information and doing small pieces of the puzzle. When you see the person on the other end of the phone as a person, who you saw drinking a cup of coffee in their jammies while you talked about shared experiences like kids, rather than a person who just can do this task for you, it changes the dynamics. It becomes a more collaborative experience. And, I freely admit it helped me too. That perceived standoffishness was seen more as shyness and my relationships with co-workers changed for the positive when someone sees that you struggle with shyness rather than being a stuck up princess.
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Post by myboysnme on Jun 30, 2015 12:30:03 GMT
I've done it many times and as I have gotten older I hate it even more each time. I like privacy and alone time. I would decline to go if I had to share a room in most cases.
And I do snore so I worry the entire time that I'm disturbing the other person.
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Post by eversograceful1 on Jun 30, 2015 12:34:25 GMT
I have serious anxiety and sharing a room with only one bathroom, with a stranger, would put me over the edge. I get anxious when I have to share one bathroom with people who know my issues.
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Post by Ellie on Jun 30, 2015 12:37:59 GMT
When I was in my mid to late 20s I working for a gaming company (rpg's) and had to work at many conventions. We always shared rooms. And there were only a couple females, so we shared rooms (usually suites) with guys! Oh my! I was fine with it.
Fast forward to my current job in higher ed. We do NOT have to share. It's lovely. I'll be attending a conference in New Orleans at the end of July. Three nights in a Marriott all to myself! What luxury.
Seriously though, I'd probably be OK sharing if it made the difference between attending a fantastic conference and not budget-wise for our department. But I'm SO grateful I don't have to.
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Post by giatocj on Jun 30, 2015 12:45:00 GMT
I would have paid for my own room before sharing with a stranger. Somethings are just not meant to be shared...hotel rooms with strangers ranks VERY high on that list for me!
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Jun 30, 2015 12:53:12 GMT
What way would you get to know them better? Honestly, it sounds like sheer hell. But I also keep work and home life very very separate. I am not interested in being friends with my colleagues or getting to know their sleeping habits or anything like that. None of that benefits the job. Keep it professional is how I see it. But I'm curious. How did it help? For me, I am not sure of the why of it, just that it did. Maybe because it was in a smaller, less formal space-but it made it so that during the times we were in the room, it was less...formal? Maybe it was because we were not surrounded by clients and telephones-but it gave us a chance to connect on a more personal level. It gave us a different impression of each other. The kind of work I did was dependent on differing departments sharing information and doing small pieces of the puzzle. When you see the person on the other end of the phone as a person, who you saw drinking a cup of coffee in their jammies while you talked about shared experiences like kids, rather than a person who just can do this task for you, it changes the dynamics. It becomes a more collaborative experience. And, I freely admit it helped me too. That perceived standoffishness was seen more as shyness and my relationships with co-workers changed for the positive when someone sees that you struggle with shyness rather than being a stuck up princess. I see how that could help you. I completely disagree that that is how to create a collaborative experience, but yes, I understand what you're saying. I believe in distinct boundaries. There would have been no sitting around in my jammies with a stranger at any time. Especially coworkers. Such fodder to be used against you at another time.
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Post by auntkelly on Jun 30, 2015 12:54:05 GMT
I would hate sharing a room with a stranger and I'm an extrovert. I can't believe in this day and an age an employer would require it or even encourage it.
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Post by dockmaster on Jun 30, 2015 12:57:50 GMT
Having served in the Navy on a ship, I have "shared" with as many as 450 women. Only 10 showers and 20 toilets and sinks. Nobody is a stranger for long. We all had our own "rack" though. Sharing racks was frowned upon.
These days, I would share with my best girlfriend's and of course my husband and kids, anyone else, nope not gonna do it.
My feelings on sharing anything these days are that it is over rated.
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caro
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Post by caro on Jun 30, 2015 12:59:56 GMT
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Post by KikiPea on Jun 30, 2015 13:05:55 GMT
Been there, and, yes, it is very uncomfortable.
i'm sorry you have to endure that.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Jun 30, 2015 13:08:45 GMT
Yuck.
I once had to share a room with my Boss.
It was awful.
I liked her... but it was 4 days. She was flying out one day and I was flying out the next so then she moved me to a flea bag motel. It WAS AWFUL!!
None of this did she tell me until I arrived in Pittsburgh! I was pissed. The client when they found out we were in one room was appalled and made it clear that they were willing to pay for two rooms. She was having major cash flow issues. Had she told me I would have paid for my room and let the client pay me back!! I worked for her for 8 months at the end of it she owed me $8,000. Hopefully she will pay me the outstanding amount next month!!
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Post by Katie on Jun 30, 2015 13:20:41 GMT
I have serious anxiety and sharing a room with only one bathroom, with a stranger, would put me over the edge. I get anxious when I have to share one bathroom with people who know my issues. This is my whole thing. I snore, and in the mornings I need the bathrrom to myself due to IBS type issues. If I didn't snore, and didn't have bathrrom issues, I wouldn't mind sharing a room. But nowadays those 2 things make me very, very anxious. I do have a close coworker that I go scrapbooking with twice a year (weekend retreat), and I even get anxious about sharing a room with her, someone I consider a close friend.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 30, 2015 13:24:43 GMT
I just couldn't do it. I'd have to shell out the money to upgrade to my own room. I'm another shy introvert. I'd be okay in a camping situation, but not in a hotel room with just two people.
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julieb
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Post by julieb on Jun 30, 2015 13:26:24 GMT
I would have paid for my own room. I'm sure if administration went on a convention they would have it in the budget to get their own rooms!
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Jun 30, 2015 13:35:24 GMT
I have done it many times. I am an extrovert. I am not a germaphobe. I don't have many hang ups. I have shared with strangers I've met online and had a great time. I've roomed with friends, relatuves, co-workers. And you know what? I don't want to do it any more.
I'm a light sleeper, so snoring or reading on your tablet or playing with your phone or opening the balcony door to smoke (and then coming back into the room reeking of smoke and yes, you DO reek of smoke) or hogging the bathroom... so over it. Also, due to a medical problem, I often got hot and cold spells and I need to be able to adjust the thermostat or I can't sleep. I need my sleep.
I also think it is really problematic to share with co-workers due to almost inevitable breaches of privacy that can disclose personal issues or matters. Then you have to rely on the dubious discretion of coworkers...who may be all to eager to gossip.
I actually once filed a grievance about sharing hotel rooms with co-workers when I found out the men did not have to, only the.women. HR told the boss -- a man -- that the rule had to be the same for both genders. So no more room sharing!
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