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Post by minimcguyvergirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:27:28 GMT
I've posted about this a$$hole before. New story. We planned a family vacation and against my better judgement, I invited my friend and her family. Her DH is a rude tight-wad. He got fired recently for making racial slurs at work, if that tells you what kind of person he is. Story 1: We were in our hotel room one night, and my friend and her DH went to the Cheesecake Factory. I asked them to bring us back some to-go cheesecake and we'd pay them back in cash when they got there. She brought what we requested -- cheesecake for myself, my DH, and my 2 kids. They also brought back a piece of cheesecake to share. They have a 6 year old daughter who is friends with my daughter. We all proceed to get out the cheesecake and eat it and I realize that their little girl doesn't have any, and the parents are stuffing their faces with cheesecake! I'm serving my 2 kids theirs and say, "Allison doesn't have cheesecake?" and the husband just says, "No. It's expensive." Poor thing starts getting really upset and saying, "But where's mine??" Since the parents are making no effort to share, I cut some off of my kid's pieces and give to Allison. The husband says, "Since you're sharing with Allison, I guess I wont ask you to pay your 15% tip for the cheesecake we brought back to you."  Story 2: We were at a restaurant together that I've been to previously, and the husband asks me, "Are drink refills free?" and I say, "I think so." So he gets the bill back, and they charged him for a Coke refill. He looks at the bill, shoves it in his wife's direction and says, "You pay for it. You can also mark this place off your bucket list because we wont ever be back." I love my friend, but I'm almost at the point where this dude isn't worth it. /ventover |
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Post by kimpossible on Jul 15, 2014 21:29:34 GMT
I don't blame you one bit. Talk about making people uncomfortable!
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Post by mimima on Jul 15, 2014 21:32:50 GMT
Oh, poor Allison. I'm so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 21:33:13 GMT
I refuse to spend any time with my BFF's husband. He is a class A jackass and she knows I don't like him. I totally understand where your coming from with your friends husband. Hope he didn't ruin your whole trip.
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Post by smartypants71 on Jul 15, 2014 21:34:01 GMT
That guy sounds like a jerk and a half!
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Post by hawkeyegal on Jul 15, 2014 21:34:14 GMT
What an ass.
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Post by minimcguyvergirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:35:58 GMT
They did post on Facebook, "We officially HATE Houston," meanwhile my kids, my DH and I are having a blast. They were miserable butts the whole time -- mostly because the husband was being a jerk and ruining everyone's fun because he had to spend money. They follow Dave Ramsey and he's not only a stickler for the rules, he's just really MEAN. This is the guy who we invited over for breakfast, the wife said they'd pick up Chick-Fil-A for everyone in addition to what we had (donuts), and then they call to say they don't have time, that they'll just eat our donuts, then the husband shows up with a bag of Chick-Fil-A only for him. Same dude, different day.
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Post by anniebygaslight on Jul 15, 2014 21:35:59 GMT
I can't get past the child/cheesecake incident. What a twat. Why does your friend stay with him?
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Post by minimcguyvergirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:40:30 GMT
I can't get past the child/cheesecake incident. What a twat. Why does your friend stay with him? That's the question of the century. She's such a sweetheart. I don't know. Maybe low self-esteem? He really has no redeeming qualities. He's not nice, he's not attractive, he's not charming, he's not any of those things. He's an Engineer, but that alone could never be enough for me to justify marrying such a terrible person. |
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Post by mellyw on Jul 15, 2014 21:41:32 GMT
That poor little girl.  What's your friends response in these situations? |
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Post by janeliz on Jul 15, 2014 21:42:24 GMT
Gah, this guy sounds like such an asshole. I'm always amazed that men like that find life partners.
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 15, 2014 21:42:32 GMT
what a schmuck
have you ever just said
'hey bill, why are you being such an ass?'
maybe he does it because he gets away with it
gina
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Post by 3SugarBugs on Jul 15, 2014 21:44:12 GMT
They did post on Facebook, "We officially HATE Houston," meanwhile my kids, my DH and I are having a blast. They were miserable butts the whole time -- mostly because the husband was being a jerk and ruining everyone's fun because he had to spend money. They follow Dave Ramsey and he's not only a stickler for the rules, he's just really MEAN. This is the guy who we invited over for breakfast, the wife said they'd pick up Chick-Fil-A for everyone in addition to what we had (donuts), and then they call to say they don't have time, that they'll just eat our donuts, then the husband shows up with a bag of Chick-Fil-A only for him. Same dude, different day. I totally remember your prior thread about that...and I immediately thought "DOUCHER"...my opinion hasn't changed!  for putting up with that...I couldn't do it! |
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Post by minimcguyvergirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:46:57 GMT
Gina,
I've said things like, "Did you really just say that, Bill?" to him before, and he's very confrontational and will go at it with me. My husband told him last time, "Dude, you're barking up the wrong tree. You're going to be sorry if you keep on." Most days I'm so over it, I just walk away. His wife says nothing. She's very demure and quiet when her husband is walking all over her and everyone else. Her eyes get really big sometimes when I tell him something.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 15, 2014 21:49:32 GMT
It might be time to say something snarky like "I always forget what a penny pincher you are."
Not that you are going to change him but it might be fun to mess with him...
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Post by minimcguyvergirl on Jul 15, 2014 21:53:07 GMT
It might be time to say something snarky like "I always forget what a penny pincher you are." Not that you are going to change him but it might be fun to mess with him... I think I'll say, "Can't take it to the grave with you, _______." We had to pay to park somewhere and we were a car ahead of them, so I just paid for them so I didn't have to hear him bitch on the last day. It's THAT bad. |
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Post by ladytrisha on Jul 15, 2014 21:56:11 GMT
I'd be tempted to drop a soundbite at dinner that "Houston hates you too" and then blink twice and smile. And yes, I have a friend with similiar husband issues ... too terrified of the unknown so she stays with the known - a class A jerk, horrible person who has ruined her life. And we've told her to just end it, but its the same thing year after horrible year.  |
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Post by tania7424 on Jul 15, 2014 21:58:18 GMT
What a douche. Also, I love your dress in your profile pic.  |
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Post by NoWomanNoCry on Jul 15, 2014 21:59:49 GMT
They did post on Facebook, "We officially HATE Houston," meanwhile my kids, my DH and I are having a blast. They were miserable butts the whole time -- mostly because the husband was being a jerk and ruining everyone's fun because he had to spend money. They follow Dave Ramsey and he's not only a stickler for the rules, he's just really MEAN. This is the guy who we invited over for breakfast, the wife said they'd pick up Chick-Fil-A for everyone in addition to what we had (donuts), and then they call to say they don't have time, that they'll just eat our donuts, then the husband shows up with a bag of Chick-Fil-A only for him. Same dude, different day. I actually remember this ^^ story. Please tell me he was only kidding about the 15% tip?! They were going there anyways correct?! I feel so bad for that little girl! Honestly I would put a stop to doing anything with your friend that involves her husband. I would only hang out wih her and her kids. Evidently she don't see this as a issue so there isn't much you can do. |
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Post by lovemybabes on Jul 15, 2014 22:01:39 GMT
Yep, I would be done with him. I feel bad for her. |
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Post by cmhs on Jul 15, 2014 22:03:29 GMT
I remember the other thread about this loser. My blood pressure is rising just reading about him. So rude.  |
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Post by mallie on Jul 15, 2014 22:05:02 GMT
He sounds like my MIL. The saddest part was her trying to control her dh's spending from her deathbed. It was remarkable. My FIL has since remarried a woman who encourages him to enjoy life and the 180 degree turn in his personality is more remarkable. (Of course, he was/is an adult and had free agency and made his choice to stay with her. But having seen my MIL in action, I know how she whittled away at his self esteem until he had none and thought he had no options because perception = reality).
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Post by scrapsuzy on Jul 15, 2014 22:06:36 GMT
I lost my bff that I'd had since the 3rd grade when she got married. My dh and I absolutely could not stand her husband, and she was so gaga over/controlled by him that she wouldn't do anything without him (and apparently still won't, 25 years later, I heard from a family member of hers not long ago).
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 15, 2014 22:06:57 GMT
If he is so horrible...WHY do you put yourself and your family in the same situations over and over? just start doing things with your friend. Maybe she'll get the hint?
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Post by krazykatlady on Jul 15, 2014 22:09:31 GMT
So why do you keep going out with them? I'd be really blunt with the wife and tell her I'll be glad to do things with just her and the little girl but for now on no more outings with this jerk. Ten to one she's scared of him and doesn't want to rock the boat by calling him on his actions. I hope he's not abusing her when no one is around but it certainly wouldn't surprise me.
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Post by lesley on Jul 15, 2014 22:10:26 GMT
What an utter waste of space. I cannot imagine leaving a young child to watch everyone else get a treat and saying it's too expensive for her (but not for himself,huh?) Disgusting creep.
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Post by elaine on Jul 15, 2014 22:17:02 GMT
Insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different result. I think you know that he isn't going to change, so do things without him.
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Post by beachhappy22 on Jul 15, 2014 22:21:20 GMT
I can't get past the fact that they both ate cheesecake in front of their daughter who had none! What kind of parent does that?! I feel sorry for their little girl who is growing up seeing all this. I had a good friend from college who married an obnoxious douchebag and our relationship has changed because of him. I can NOT stand to be in the same room with him. He just makes my skin crawl. My friend is one of the nicest people I have ever met. How she ended up with him is one big mystery.
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Post by marianne on Jul 15, 2014 22:25:55 GMT
The man is a putz. I wouldn't be socializing with him and I surely wouldn't expose my family to his nigggardliness. It's beyond time for you to find time to enjoy your friend without him.
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Post by rodeomom on Jul 15, 2014 22:27:49 GMT
What an utter waste of space. I cannot imagine leaving a young child to watch everyone else get a treat and saying it's too expensive for her (but not for himself,huh?) Disgusting creep. This^ How did you not say "you selfish jackass" why don't you give her yours" My DH would walk on fire before he would eat something his wife or kids didn't have! I also would be pissed at her for allowing that. Did she eat cheesecake? If she did it's not just the husband who is a Disgusting creep. |
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for putting up with that...I couldn't do it!
