Am I overreacting? - UPDATE ON PAGE 3

I really need some input on this - how would you feel in this happened to you?



My husband runs a local board-gaming group at our church. Church members, as well as non-members, are welcome to attend "Game Night", usually held the first Sunday evening of the month.



One woman, who is a member of our church, has attended once with her 10 YO daughter.



The night before his most recent game night, I got an email from this woman, asking what time game night started, and informing us she would be dropping off her daughter because she and her ex-husband were going out to dinner.



I said we could not accommodate her daughter, because we had not been CORI checked (a requirement for our church if unaccompanied minors would be attending events.)



The next day at church, my husband was first approached by the daughter (on her own), who, by her actions, was under the impression that she would be attending game night that night, so HE had to tell her she would not be able to come and why (very awkward for him). He was then approached by a staff member of the church, who was pressuring him to sign the authorization to have a CORI check performed.



My husband was upset with what happened (mostly because he had to disappoint this child), however, I'm furious about the whole situation. My husband was not ASKED if he would be willing to look after this child for the evening, I feel it was ASSUMED by the parents that they could just use us as a free sitter for the evening. I also feel that my husband was inappropriately pressured by the staff member (who is friends with this woman and her ex-husband) to sign that document simply so they could leave their child with us.



My husband is going to speak to our minister about the document, to get more information as to what it would mean responsibility wise if he were to sign it and therefore be responsible for unaccompanied minors at game night (game night has always been intended to be an adult event, but we would not turn people away if their children were old enough to entertain themselves while the adult played). Afterwards, he might or might not sign it - he has never been arrested for anything, so it's not like he is trying to hide anything in his past, he just wants to be fully informed before he signs the document.



(Some background on us: We are childless by choice, not because we don't like children, we simply chose not to have our own. We have been members of our church for 3 years, and this couple has been members for much longer and are very involved in church activities. I don't babysit as a rule, but was tricked into it once by this woman when she called me and asked if I was busy one Friday night - I said no, thinking she might be asking me to go to the movies, or something fun, but then she asked me to babysit so she could go to dinner with her husband - at this point, they were in the middle of a separation, trying to work things out. I could have told her I didn't babysit as a rule, but felt bad about what they were going through, and was trying to be supportive. I feel now that she was just trying to manipulate me into babysitting (and for free - she never even offered payment).



I'm concerned that by signing this, she will feel free to continue to use us as a free babysitter, and the word will spread, and game night will turn into day care.



What are your thoughts? How do we put a stop to this without looking like we hate kids?  Should I speak to our minister about this or would that make things worse?

Thanks