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Post by spitfiregirl on Mar 5, 2016 18:20:55 GMT
I was ticked that he even let the guys use the hall bathroom when they were here. Totally sleeves me out. your bathroom is too good for them? seriously? maybe they should go in your yard. Can you imagine being on a job and having to use the bathroom.... you really have to go....ok? and the homeowner says no. you can't use their restroom. Go find someplace else to do your business. If I was a worker and i was in your house, but not allowed to use your toilet, id feel degraded, and humiliated.
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Post by Dani-Mani on Mar 5, 2016 18:23:47 GMT
I don't understand being afraid to let workers in because your DH isn't home. I live alone. I'd never get work done to my place if I didn't.
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Post by CarolT on Mar 5, 2016 18:24:48 GMT
I worked 7pm-7am for a long time, and understand how frustrating it is when people don't respect your sleep schedule. In the situation you described (and before the actual day of the work arrived) I would have had to find someplace else to sleep that day or rescheduled the work for a better time. There is no way I would have been able to sleep with people in and out of my house and construction going on.
However, if I was at the condo and dh wasn't there when he said he would be, I would have put some clothes on, let them get started, and been annoyed with dh, not the workmen. And I would let them use my bathroom ...
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Post by anaterra on Mar 5, 2016 18:26:48 GMT
You know what they say when the peas agree... and i also think you were wrong... i work nights... i have for 17 yrs.. it sucks but sometimes sleep doesn't happen when we want...
I would've let them in to do the job they were being pd to do... i also would be ok with the restroom being used as needed...
I think u acted sorta ridiculous..
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Post by moodyblue on Mar 5, 2016 18:28:50 GMT
I can't imagine being able to sleep while workers were installing windows in my home. I would have arranged to go somewhere else to sleep (your husband's place, since he would be at yours?), or stayed up until they were started.
And I'd never deny a worker in my home access to a bathroom.
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Post by scrapmaven on Mar 5, 2016 18:41:10 GMT
When workers show up here I offer coffee and water and with our huge landscaping project a few years ago I stocked their favorite beverages and every Thursday was pizza day. Granted they had a port-a-potty outside. As for window guys, just letting them in and of course, letting them use the bathroom is essential. Do you ever pay attention to how hard these men work? Holy cow. The least I can do is offer them a beverage and a bathroom. Yes. IMHO, you overreacted and if they charge you for having to wait I wouldn't blame them. The sooner they get started the sooner they're done and the sooner you can rest.
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Post by ihaveonly1l on Mar 5, 2016 18:50:08 GMT
I'd have let them in and using the bathroom wouldn't bother me. I use the bathroom at work...
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Post by *KAS* on Mar 5, 2016 18:54:51 GMT
You said it's your condo and your husband doesn't live there. If you want the windows replaced at a time convenient to you, schedule it yourself. Otherwise, you're at the mercy of those helping you out. And you weren't sleeping and we're talking a 30 minute window / not that they showed up 3 hours early.
I'd throw on a sweatshirt and open the door. Your husband was on his way. It's not like I would sleep with people in my house replacing windows anyway.
I definitely wouldn't open a window and yell outside that my husband would let them in when he got there. And I wouldn't be upset if they used a guest bathroom...
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Post by lucyg on Mar 5, 2016 19:02:00 GMT
I don't think you're a bitch. But I would have let them in to get started, and I agree with others who said they'd never be able to sleep with workmen in the house. So I'd be sleeping elsewhere, anyway. The sooner they're in, the sooner they'll finish up and be out of your hair. And I always, always tell workmen they can use the bathroom if needed. They almost always say no (they're guys, they don't have to go every other minute like some of us) but I want them to know it's okay. I also offer them water, but usually they bring their own.
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Post by mom on Mar 5, 2016 19:07:08 GMT
You know, I could 'kinda' see being irritated that they were early and maybe you weren't comfortable having them in your home by yourself.
BUT then you added the not letting them use your bathroom and well? I don't get that. At all.
Now it seems like you are being a bit of a princess and you don't have the time to deal with those minions.
And honestly? That quality doesn't look good on anyone!
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Post by tinydogmafia on Mar 5, 2016 19:13:23 GMT
As someone who has worked nights, I understand it is difficult, but necessary to work around day time hour life.
You were going to sleep with them IN your home? So I don't see what the big deal was about letting them in early? That just means they'd be out sooner. To me, that would be a win-win situation.
I'm definitely on your husband's side. You were kind of bitchy to open a window and yell out to them. I can't imagine that was very welcoming. And I'd want people working in my home to feel welcome and be considerate of ME, but you were not considerate to them, no matter if they were 20 minutes early or not. Where did you expect them to go to the bathroom? Your home is their work site. Are you suggesting they stop work and drive to a gas station each time they need to go? Yikes!
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Post by tduby1 on Mar 5, 2016 19:17:12 GMT
Not seeing the issue with letting them in and getting started. I think it was rather rude to deny them entrance just because you were in your pyjamas and were just feeling selfish. Same about the bathroom. Big deal that he used the bathroom. People have to pee when they are at work. It honestly sounds like there's a bigger problem than just these windows. As someone who lived alone, I had to let workers in by myself, so I really don't see the big deal since you knew someone was coming shortly. I was wondering the same thing, perhaps the anger us actually with her DH, but is being projected on the workers? This is exactly what I was thinking.
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Post by tduby1 on Mar 5, 2016 19:25:47 GMT
Yes, I think you were unreasonable and from what you've described, I suspect it may be a pattern of behavior but I wonder if it isn't tied to some underlying issues with DH. Because the two issues you mentioned (having to let the workers in and him allowing them to use the bathroom) are very petty things to get upset with him for. You seem to be seeking reasons to be irritated with him. The living situation and your reactions leads me to wonder if you happen to be separated. (No need to answer if you are not comfortable).
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Post by StephDRebel on Mar 5, 2016 20:06:17 GMT
[quote author=" scrapsuzy" source="/post/1025089/thread" I was ticked that he even let the guys use the hall bathroom when they were here. Totally sleeves me out. I sure as hell wasn't up for making them comfy while waiting for him. [/quote] Farrah? Is that you?
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Post by georgiapea on Mar 5, 2016 20:12:06 GMT
I too would have let them in. Don't you have a bathrobe? I'd have put on sweats so I'd feel more comfortable, and stayed up till DH got there? You resent them using your bathroom? Did you want them to pee out a window? Or go downstairs and water the plants?
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Post by momto4kiddos on Mar 5, 2016 21:19:43 GMT
I would have let them in to get started and I also let people use my bathroom.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Mar 5, 2016 22:01:49 GMT
I would have let them in when they arrived to go ahead and get started and I would not have hesitated to welcome them to use the facilities as needed.
These are people IN YOUR HOME. Don't you worry about them not being careful - or worse, even being somewhat vindictive - as a result of you being so rude to them?
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Post by hollymolly on Mar 5, 2016 22:04:29 GMT
I have a really hard time sleeping, and not falling asleep during my "window" can cause me to not sleep at all, which can really cascade into a lot of negatives for me, from not doing well at work to actual physical illness. I'm borderline irrational when my sleep is disrupted.
What would I have done? First, there is no way I wouldn't have known the exact time someone was scheduled to be at my house, especially if I let someone else do the scheduling. I would advise the person scheduling the work (your DH) of my sleep schedule, and tell him not to schedule close to bedtime, but at least 2 hours later. There is a big difference to me between being disrupted as I'm trying to fall asleep and being awakened after I've been down for a while. With the latter, I can easily fall right back to sleep. With the former, I may never go to sleep at all, because it would trigger anxiety about not getting enough sleep, and the longer it took to fall asleep, the more anxious I would get until my sleep time was over and I hadn't slept at all.
If my DH was going to be traveling to my house to meet them, I would advise him to be at least a half hour earlier than they were expected, and tell him in advance that I would not be interrupting my sleep to let them in. All of this would have been done first, because I am really neurotic about sleep schedules.
If, after all of that, they arrived earlier than DH, I would have just ignored them and pretended to not be home. If I couldn't ignore them, I would throw on some clothes and let them in, but I would be disproportionately pissed at both the workers for arriving early and DH for arriving late. I am not rational when my sleep is disrupted.
For the record, I always let workers in my home use my restroom.
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Post by AussieMeg on Mar 5, 2016 22:08:42 GMT
Of course I would have let them in. I think it's really quite petty to make them wait outside. Were you wanting to punish them or your husband?
And not letting them use the bathroom? WTH!
Your husband must have been so embarrassed at your behaviour (as you should be).
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Post by justkaren on Mar 5, 2016 22:15:54 GMT
[quote author=" scrapsuzy" source="/post/1025089/thread" I was ticked that he even let the guys use the hall bathroom when they were here. Totally sleeves me out. I sure as hell wasn't up for making them comfy while waiting for him. Farrah? Is that you? [/quote] Best comment of the day!!
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Post by anniefb on Mar 5, 2016 22:17:05 GMT
I would have let them in and just stayed up until DH got there. Sometimes we have to adjust our schedule for things. Yeah, I would have just wanted the work to be finished.
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Post by Rhondito on Mar 5, 2016 22:32:28 GMT
I think you were being very unreasonable and I also wonder if you and your husband are having problems. If so, I think maybe you're letting your frustration with him wash over into this situation.
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Post by AllieC on Mar 5, 2016 23:06:00 GMT
I would have let them in. I just can't fathom not letting them in and making them wait. Around here if they knew you were home and not letting them in, they would have left and you would have to make another time. I just don't understand why you wouldn't. I understand that you need your sleep but sometimes you just have to forego some of it if you need something done.
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Post by azredhead on Mar 5, 2016 23:30:22 GMT
Yup, I had contracters at my house do the same thing @ 7:30 in the morning. and sometimes they were there till 9:30-10:30 at night. It's just me and Dh. Sometimes just me and the dogs. One was a Sat and one was some not. We had had a flood two weeks before Thanksgiving. It took a month to redo our parts of our kitchen and our master bath. Long story short they were coming and going. So we had to work around our schedule and theirs. It's a little frustrating but you do what you have to get it done.
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Post by camanddanismom on Mar 6, 2016 1:10:20 GMT
I would have been unhappy, but I would have changed quickly and let them in. I would have waited for DH to get there, then gone to bed.
I had an appointment to have my furnace serviced this week. Made the appointment for 2:30 because I couldn't get home till 1:30 and I wanted to make sure the utility room was picked up before I let them in. I got home at 1:35 and they were already there! They arrived at 1:00, admitted it was their mistake. I told them that they would have to make do and shift things around as needed...I was highly annoyed, but didn't want to reschedule...
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 6, 2016 2:01:42 GMT
You're lucky they didn't leave and reschedule.
If they were there on time, ready to start, I'd agree that you were being unreasonable.
As for you not allowing/wanting them to use the bathroom "because it sleeves you out" is just being a bitch.
I can imagine that you'd bitch too if they had to leave just to find a restroom to use, effectively stopping their work.
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Post by eastcoastpea on Mar 6, 2016 2:16:03 GMT
I'd let them in. I'm all about making it as easy as I can for people doing work for me.
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Post by 950nancy on Mar 6, 2016 2:19:21 GMT
We had workers in our home for three months. My sleep schedule was often interrupted. They used our bathroom. I hated the inconvenience, but I asked for the home improvement, so i had to deal with it. I do have to say that the guys would also take my dog out at lunchtime to eat with them every day and the wife of the foreman came in one day because she felt so bad about the dust that she dusted the downstairs. They were good people.
On short projects, I offer drinks and snacks too. I would hate to have to work in the elements and like to be kind.
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Post by lesserknownpea on Mar 6, 2016 10:37:52 GMT
I have a really hard time sleeping, and not falling asleep during my "window" can cause me to not sleep at all, which can really cascade into a lot of negatives for me, from not doing well at work to actual physical illness. I'm borderline irrational when my sleep is disrupted. What would I have done? First, there is no way I wouldn't have known the exact time someone was scheduled to be at my house, especially if I let someone else do the scheduling. I would advise the person scheduling the work (your DH) of my sleep schedule, and tell him not to schedule close to bedtime, but at least 2 hours later. There is a big difference to me between being disrupted as I'm trying to fall asleep and being awakened after I've been down for a while. With the latter, I can easily fall right back to sleep. With the former, I may never go to sleep at all, because it would trigger anxiety about not getting enough sleep, and the longer it took to fall asleep, the more anxious I would get until my sleep time was over and I hadn't slept at all. If my DH was going to be traveling to my house to meet them, I would advise him to be at least a half hour earlier than they were expected, and tell him in advance that I would not be interrupting my sleep to let them in. All of this would have been done first, because I am really neurotic about sleep schedules. If, after all of that, they arrived earlier than DH, I would have just ignored them and pretended to not be home. If I couldn't ignore them, I would throw on some clothes and let them in, but I would be disproportionately pissed at both the workers for arriving early and DH for arriving late. I am not rational when my sleep is disrupted. For the record, I always let workers in my home use my restroom. I could have written this. I probably would have called DH to contact the workers so they knew he was on his way, then taken sleep meds and stayed in bed. I wouldn't have yelled out the window, though. When I'm trying to go to sleep, just the act of getting out of bed, putting on clothes, walking to the door and talking to people would ruin it for me. There would be no sleep. That would trigger a migraine. Which could last three days. I actually had had similar situations happen when I was married. XH would arrange to meet people on the property for some business reason or other, and then be late. Often. They would try his shop, and when he wasn't there, come try the house. If I was sleeping, or trying to, I would call his cell and tell him to call whoever was at the door. When we had people work on the house, we scheduled at a time that worked for me.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 6, 2016 11:06:58 GMT
I'd have let them in, in my pyjamas, offered them a drink and let them get on with the job. Are you this petty and mean about everything in life that doesn't go to your plan?
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