tduby1
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Post by tduby1 on Jun 24, 2016 2:24:29 GMT
Never used the words "should" or "must". It's a personal choice. Some people do like to cover the cost of their plate plus extra for the bride and groom. Never been to a catered event that cost $10/plate. My guess is neither have you. Actually, catered affairs around here *can be had for $10 a plate. Generally, it's buffet style and nothing fancy. I would say its pretty *normal around here, to be honest. |
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Post by myshelly on Jun 24, 2016 2:45:03 GMT
Hijacking here for a minute to ask the Peas what you think of this scenario: a co-worker recently told me about a wedding she attended a few months ago. It was very formal, out of town, and the reception sounded beautiful. She not only attended the wedding, but a breakfast the next morning and a bbq before departing the next afternoon. She raved about the amount of food, the music, the venue, and the lovely hotel they got for a song because of the group rate. When she mentioned that she brought her sister along, as well as her adult daughter, I asked if they all three were invited or just her? She said only her, but she didn't want to go alone so she brought the two of them without a thought. Of course, nosy me, I asked what gifts they all brought, and she told me that she alone gave a check for $25. I was surprised at the small amount of her gift, knowing she was spending the weekend at so many events that would be of little cost to her otherwise. Her sister and daughter did NOT bring a gift. She basically got a spa-like weekend for the cost of a $100 hotel room. She said there was no way she would ever pay more than $25 for a wedding gift, no matter the size of the event. I felt like since she basically had three meals on the bride and groom, this was a case where the "cover your plate" rule would certainly apply. Yea, I still don't believe in or care about the cover your plate rule. The couple chose to have a weekend long festivity. That choice of theirs has nothing to do with how much I'm giving them as a gift. Bringing two uninvited guests is a separate issue entirely. |
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jun 24, 2016 2:59:07 GMT
We just attended the wedding of our neighbors, who we have only known for about 15 months, and aside from conversations in our yard we don't socialize (dinners, hang out, etc) together. We gave $100 cash.
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 25, 2016 1:40:48 GMT
Never used the words "should" or "must". It's a personal choice. Some people do like to cover the cost of their plate plus extra for the bride and groom. Never been to a catered event that cost $10/plate. My guess is neither have you. I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. |
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Post by SockMonkey on Jun 25, 2016 1:59:52 GMT
Hijacking here for a minute to ask the Peas what you think of this scenario: a co-worker recently told me about a wedding she attended a few months ago. It was very formal, out of town, and the reception sounded beautiful. She not only attended the wedding, but a breakfast the next morning and a bbq before departing the next afternoon. She raved about the amount of food, the music, the venue, and the lovely hotel they got for a song because of the group rate. When she mentioned that she brought her sister along, as well as her adult daughter, I asked if they all three were invited or just her? She said only her, but she didn't want to go alone so she brought the two of them without a thought. Of course, nosy me, I asked what gifts they all brought, and she told me that she alone gave a check for $25. I was surprised at the small amount of her gift, knowing she was spending the weekend at so many events that would be of little cost to her otherwise. Her sister and daughter did NOT bring a gift. She basically got a spa-like weekend for the cost of a $100 hotel room. She said there was no way she would ever pay more than $25 for a wedding gift, no matter the size of the event. I felt like since she basically had three meals on the bride and groom, this was a case where the "cover your plate" rule would certainly apply. I would put her in the "cheap as hell" category. She should have given at least $150, in my mind. AT LEAST. She brought 2 uninvited guests to a formal wedding and only gave $25? No. |
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Post by quiltz on Jun 25, 2016 2:16:32 GMT
Never used the words "should" or "must". It's a personal choice. Some people do like to cover the cost of their plate plus extra for the bride and groom. Never been to a catered event that cost $10/plate. My guess is neither have you. I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. Where do you live? What kind of meal do you get for $7.83? A hot meal? Who is serving the food? Church volunteers? Is the hall free? I am curious as I do some catering & there is simply no way that I could do a 3 course meal for $7.83 (salad, chicke, potato, veggie, roll, butter & cake for dessert. |
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Post by Citygirl on Jun 25, 2016 2:52:58 GMT
Never used the words "should" or "must". It's a personal choice. Some people do like to cover the cost of their plate plus extra for the bride and groom. Never been to a catered event that cost $10/plate. My guess is neither have you. I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. Where on earth do you live so we can alert bride magazine of this hot destination spot for all brides on a budget? |
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Post by Belia on Jun 25, 2016 5:52:48 GMT
I never give less than $100 to any wedding. I just don't.
I don't criticize other folks who give less (within reason, of course.. I think a $10 gift to a wedding would be weird for most people). Everyone has to do what's best for their situation. I wouldn't blink an eye if you gave a gift for this wedding of $50.
I'm just saying.... I never give less than $100.
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Post by AnotherPea on Jun 25, 2016 10:59:46 GMT
I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. Where do you live? What kind of meal do you get for $7.83? A hot meal? Who is serving the food? Church volunteers? Is the hall free? I am curious as I do some catering & there is simply no way that I could do a 3 course meal for $7.83 (salad, chicke, potato, veggie, roll, butter & cake for dessert. Traditional southern food. BBQ, baked and fried chicken, rolls and hush puppies, collard greens, two other sides, banana pudding. |
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Post by tduby1 on Jun 26, 2016 14:35:28 GMT
I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. Where on earth do you live so we can alert bride magazine of this hot destination spot for all brides on a budget? There are plenty of caterers in my area at that price point. Basic meal, buffet style. Decent food. (Shrug) |
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Post by tduby1 on Jun 26, 2016 14:46:00 GMT
I have. And my daughter chose a caterer that is charging $7.83 per person. It's her second choice. The first choice charges a tad more - $9.50 per person and is the most sought after caterer in a 100 mile radius. That one does have higher packages as well as one lower price option. Where do you live? What kind of meal do you get for $7.83? A hot meal? Who is serving the food? Church volunteers? Is the hall free? I am curious as I do some catering & there is simply no way that I could do a 3 course meal for $7.83 (salad, chicke, potato, veggie, roll, butter & cake for dessert. Why would the hall be free in order to have cheap catering? and yes, the caterers around here within that price point DO serve hot meals, and in fact the menu ypu listed above is the basic menu for the discount caterers. They don't use "volunteers" but it is served buffet style and usually in a pretty nice hall that the couple pays for separately from the catering. Ive been to 50$ plate weddings that the couple financed, or robbed Peter to pay Paul, in order to have but have been to far more of the economical kind that are 10$ a plate and below and while it is a different type of menu between the two, the food is the same basic quality. |
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Post by quiltz on Jun 26, 2016 15:02:07 GMT
Where do you live? What kind of meal do you get for $7.83? A hot meal? Who is serving the food? Church volunteers? Is the hall free? I am curious as I do some catering & there is simply no way that I could do a 3 course meal for $7.83 (salad, chicke, potato, veggie, roll, butter & cake for dessert. Why would the hall be free in order to have cheap catering? and yes, the caterers around here within that price point DO serve hot meals, and in fact the menu ypu listed above is the basic menu for the discount caterers. They don't use "volunteers" but it is served buffet style and usually in a pretty nice hall that the couple pays for separately from the catering. Ive been to 50$ plate weddings that the couple financed, or robbed Peter to pay Paul, in order to have but have been to far more of the economical kind that are 10$ a plate and below and while it is a different type of menu between the two, the food is the same basic quality. Thanks for the information. |
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Post by Citygirl on Jun 26, 2016 15:23:53 GMT
Where on earth do you live so we can alert bride magazine of this hot destination spot for all brides on a budget? There are plenty of caterers in my area at that price point. Basic meal, buffet style. Decent food. (Shrug) That's terrific. Things are priced much differently where I live, and I can't recall the last time I attended a wedding where the food was served buffet style. (Shrug) |
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 26, 2016 15:33:00 GMT
Hijacking here for a minute to ask the Peas what you think of this scenario: a co-worker recently told me about a wedding she attended a few months ago. It was very formal, out of town, and the reception sounded beautiful. She not only attended the wedding, but a breakfast the next morning and a bbq before departing the next afternoon. She raved about the amount of food, the music, the venue, and the lovely hotel they got for a song because of the group rate. When she mentioned that she brought her sister along, as well as her adult daughter, I asked if they all three were invited or just her? She said only her, but she didn't want to go alone so she brought the two of them without a thought. Of course, nosy me, I asked what gifts they all brought, and she told me that she alone gave a check for $25. I was surprised at the small amount of her gift, knowing she was spending the weekend at so many events that would be of little cost to her otherwise. Her sister and daughter did NOT bring a gift. She basically got a spa-like weekend for the cost of a $100 hotel room. She said there was no way she would ever pay more than $25 for a wedding gift, no matter the size of the event. I felt like since she basically had three meals on the bride and groom, this was a case where the "cover your plate" rule would certainly apply. Well, to me it depends. If that's all that you can give, I think that's one thing. If you can afford more, it sounds cheap to me. But, to each their own. Bringing 2 uninvited guests-well, that's just tacky. To the OP, $50 seems like an OK amount in this instance. |
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