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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 22:31:30 GMT
Today I was reading posts by a couple of folks on this board and decided enough and blocked them.
I never thought I would block a member on this board. I always I felt I could just scroll on by if I didn't like their attitude. But too many times I would read these individuals posts and end up grumbling to myself.
It was probably a good thing for me to block these individuals but I still feel like I kind of failed somehow as well.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Jul 5, 2016 22:32:07 GMT
I know just what you mean!
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MizIndependent
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Post by MizIndependent on Jul 5, 2016 22:46:12 GMT
I always I felt I could just scroll on by if I didn't like their attitude. But too many times I would read these individuals posts and end up grumbling to myself. I used to feel this way too...but then I realized my grumbling was merely me trying to understand why their attitude bothered me so much. I mean, everyone is entitled to their own opinion and if I try looking past the emotion of what I am reading, I might even see their point - which I believe is the whole purpose of solid discourse. To see and fully understand that which is diametrically opposite to what I believe and to further understand that I can still buy that person a beer and toast them. I have found that by reading those opposing views, I want to try and understand why they feel that way - are they basing their responses on facts or feelings? What has made them so angry? Am I being a jerk? Should I be apologizing (which has happened frequently)? This board has helped me to grow up in a lot very good ways, so personally, I have no one on ignore. I completely get, though, the removing of an element that would otherwise cause too much stress. I fully respect anyone's decision to do so.
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Post by Zee on Jul 5, 2016 22:47:54 GMT
Failed, how? Who cares? Sometimes you just don't see eye to eye with someone, and it's better for everyone to not respond. You can always unblock later.
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Post by Zee on Jul 5, 2016 22:48:34 GMT
Of course, maybe I'm one of them, and you'll never see this...hehe
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Post by mollycoddle on Jul 5, 2016 22:49:45 GMT
I've only blocked one person-a long time ago. I'm not sure that it's a practical solution-for me, at least.
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Post by hop2 on Jul 5, 2016 23:01:06 GMT
I can still scroll on by. I really have learned so much on here about all sides of situations and I like to try to understand even if I can not agree. But sometimes I can't and i need to scroll. Or sometimes we will be having a perfectly civilized discussion and then someone takes it off the rails with personal stuff and insults. Then i usually just leave a thread.
I figure if anyone really wants me to respond to something I said they'll ring the bat bell (tag or quote ) and i'll know. But mostly no one cares but those who are getting personal on both sides of an issue and the thread is no longer comfortable.
UNLESS of course others then post hoff, jello, recipes, and Haiku, then i might pop back in for the comic relief. I'll admit I had backed out of that thread by the one brand-new person I don't even remember the topic, something political, and never went back until someone mentioned it in another thread and I have to admit it was hysterical after that.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 23:13:09 GMT
I've never had that feeling because I've never blocked anyone. I just don't understand the concept. I picture two little kids, one jumping up and down yelling; the other with eyes closed, their hands over their ears, going "LALALALALA I can't hear you!"
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ginacivey
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 5, 2016 23:14:25 GMT
i've never blocked...i'm really good at ignoring
gina
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mjmone
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Post by mjmone on Jul 5, 2016 23:38:05 GMT
I will block those that resort to name calling, or trolls whose only purpose is to stir things up. But as someone else said I will look at the merits of a decently stated discussion.
No guilt, just feel like life is too short to tolerate that kind of behavior
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 23:41:16 GMT
I've blocked two people...didn't feel weird. The way I look at it is I come here to interact not to be attacked. I don't deal with those people in real life and I refuse to deal with them here.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 5, 2016 23:41:48 GMT
No guilt from me if I block someone, it just means I don't want to even see their nonsense. I come here for enjoyment and fun, not fighting and bickering.
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Post by Woobster on Jul 5, 2016 23:44:12 GMT
You know what? If someone's posts are making the board less enjoyable for you, why keep their posts around? I have 3 people blocked because I just don't enjoy reading what they have to say.
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Post by disneypal on Jul 5, 2016 23:45:15 GMT
I still feel like I kind of failed somehow as well. Goodness, you shouldn't feel like a failure because you dislike a poster's comments most of the time. That is why we have the option to block people, there isn't any blame, just a difference in opinions and sometimes they are VERY different. I only had one pea blocked on the old site. She is on this site too but I don't have her blocked anymore - either she doesn't post as much, she has lightened up, or I can just tolerate her better
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 23:50:41 GMT
There's one or two I wouldn't mind never seeing again, but I just can't bring myself to block them. I feel like it's almost like I'm giving them the satisfaction that they got to me, even though they would never know.
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Post by mom on Jul 6, 2016 0:31:18 GMT
I wouldnt' feel bad about it. Every day you come across people you'd rather not deal with. This board should be fun, and if someone is making it not fun, well, then, block them and move on!
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Post by kellybelly77 on Jul 6, 2016 2:31:01 GMT
You know what? If someone's posts are making the board less enjoyable for you, why keep their posts around? I have 3 people blocked because I just don't enjoy reading what they have to say. This is me! Except I have about 12 people on block. . People I never ever agree with and just don't find any enjoyment in reading their contributions. My list did get a bit longer due to all the recent political threads....
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The Birdhouse Lady
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Jul 6, 2016 2:35:25 GMT
I haven't blocked anyone but, there are a few I scroll right on past. If they start a thread I wont even go in.
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GiantsFan
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Post by GiantsFan on Jul 6, 2016 3:20:01 GMT
You know what? If someone's posts are making the board less enjoyable for you, why keep their posts around? I have 3 people blocked because I just don't enjoy reading what they have to say. This is exactly how I feel.
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RedSquirrelUK
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 6, 2016 9:12:49 GMT
I haven't blocked anyone but, there are a few I scroll right on past. If they start a thread I wont even go in. Same with certain threads too, I just scroll on by. Sometimes a thread will come up that has a title that upsets me. If it's a popular (or drama-filled) one and keeps being bumped up again, I don't open this site for a while until it's gone off the first page. I completely understand what you mean about the strange feeling and guilt of blocking someone. On Facebook you can block people, unfriend them, or the less dramatic stopping their posts appearing on your timeline. I've only unfriended people who have deleted their account. And I've only blocked friends of friends with foul mouths. But hiding the posts of people who go a little crazy at election time in another country is extremely useful.
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Post by gar on Jul 6, 2016 10:28:24 GMT
I haven't blocked anyone but I think it makes a lot of sense if someone is spoiling your enjoyment of the forum you should be able to do that without any guilt. There are certainly a few whose words make me want to pull my hair out or poke them in the eye occasionally but it hasn't made me want to block them yet. Their words are not that powerful.
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 6, 2016 14:04:06 GMT
I've only blocked one person, but I still find myself unblocking her posts just to validate that she's still a mean nasty person. I will not engage her though. However, I would like to meet her IRL because I am betting she's a meek, insecure individual.
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Post by annabella on Jul 6, 2016 14:04:47 GMT
I have a couple people blocked in this thread. I do it because I can't remember who is crazy/dumb/angry and don't want to engage with them on a seemly normal conversation. In real life you wouldn't either but you have facial recognition to remember who that person is, on the board I barely remember who is who.
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Post by grinningcat on Jul 6, 2016 14:54:32 GMT
I have relished blocking the people I have because I think they are a waste of space and air and I would prefer to not associate with them in any way. It's a shame that the board doesn't also block the post when they are quoted. Seeing them really ruins my day.
In other words, I have zero guilt blocking the people I hate.
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Post by marimoose on Jul 6, 2016 15:01:25 GMT
I've only blocked one person, but I still find myself unblocking her posts just to validate that she's still a mean nasty person. I will not engage her though. However, I would like to meet her IRL because I am betting she's a meek, insecure individual. I have someone bloked that I used to do the same thing, unblock to see if I was still right. I always was and I no longer have the desire to see her nasty words. She isn't a person I disagree with, we are all entitled to our own opinions and I get that but she is a nasty, vile person who never says anything nice and her tone is even worse. I feel no guilt for avoiding people who make my experience unhappy. Why woudl I continue to retun to a place that brings me no joy. Now I have far less worries about that. AND I didn't have to drop to her level to tell her how rude she was - like it would change anything anyhow. Blocking allows us to take the higher road.
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scorpeao
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 6, 2016 15:35:35 GMT
I've only blocked one person, but I still find myself unblocking her posts just to validate that she's still a mean nasty person. I will not engage her though. However, I would like to meet her IRL because I am betting she's a meek, insecure individual. I have someone bloked that I used to do the same thing, unblock to see if I was still right. I always was and I no longer have the desire to see her nasty words. She isn't a person I disagree with, we are all entitled to our own opinions and I get that but she is a nasty, vile person who never says anything nice and her tone is even worse. I feel no guilt for avoiding people who make my experience unhappy. Why woudl I continue to retun to a place that brings me no joy. Now I have far less worries about that. AND I didn't have to drop to her level to tell her how rude she was - like it would change anything anyhow. Blocking allows us to take the higher road. I wonder if it's the same person. I don't disagree with the person I blocked either, she's just nasty and adds nothing to any thread she comments on.
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Post by Dani-Mani on Jul 6, 2016 15:46:53 GMT
Today I was reading posts by a couple of folks on this board and decided enough and blocked them. I never thought I would block a member on this board. I always I felt I could just scroll on by if I didn't like their attitude. But too many times I would read these individuals posts and end up grumbling to myself. It was probably a good thing for me to block these individuals but I still feel like I kind of failed somehow as well. Um, if you're taking the board so seriously you feel like a failure, I think you need a serious break from the board to reevaluate your life priorities.
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Post by BeckyTech on Jul 6, 2016 15:53:54 GMT
People I never ever agree with and just don't find any enjoyment in reading their contributions. I may not agree with some and don't particularly enjoy reading their contributions, but I find that reading diverse opinions helps me to focus my thinking and really contemplate how my opinion was formed: facts, feelings, etc. Sometimes I modify my opinion as I consider other data and the content of other opinions. An old boss once told me that just because you don't like the person it doesn't mean you shouldn't listen to what they have to say: They might have a valid point (sometimes.)
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 6, 2016 15:54:09 GMT
Today I was reading posts by a couple of folks on this board and decided enough and blocked them. I never thought I would block a member on this board. I always I felt I could just scroll on by if I didn't like their attitude. But too many times I would read these individuals posts and end up grumbling to myself. It was probably a good thing for me to block these individuals but I still feel like I kind of failed somehow as well. Well, I suppose you did "fail" by not scrolling on by the posts. I "fail" at that all the time, here and elsewhere on the internet. My church has been involved in redefining our mission which ultimately led to us selling the building and moving out. Between the first stirrings of the idea and the final congregational vote we had some awful attacks from members who thought we were satan's spawn. When articles would appear in our local papers and online places these attackers would come out, anonymously of course, and say the most awful things. Our pastor started advising us all, especially those of us in leadership, "do not read the comments, do not read the comments, do not read the comments, do not..." And yet... I still read the comments! Comments about our church situation, as well as comments everywhere I go on the internet. I can't help it. I'm not sure why. sheesh I even keep a woman as friend on Facebook, someone I added years ago for a game (that I no longer play), who is one of the most hateful Republicans I know. (and yes, I know people in real life who are Republican, and none of them would ever say such awful disgusting things about our Democratic president, just as my Democrat friends would never say them about any Republican president, because whether or not we like who's living in the White House we need to respect the office... but I digress...) -- Anyway, I can't help going to her page and reading. And then I feel awful for doing it. And I still read threads here, or at least browse my way through them, when I KNOW -- I know DEFINITELY -- that it will fall apart into name-calling and awfulness. But, I still do it. This is one advantage I see to having a separate political board -- to save me from myself. I know I'd never go to another board so I'd just never see those threads. And yet, I didn't even vote for a separate board. lol at me. OP, at least you're one step ahead of me -- you've actually blocked people. I haven't yet.
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Post by gar on Jul 6, 2016 15:56:36 GMT
Today I was reading posts by a couple of folks on this board and decided enough and blocked them. I never thought I would block a member on this board. I always I felt I could just scroll on by if I didn't like their attitude. But too many times I would read these individuals posts and end up grumbling to myself. It was probably a good thing for me to block these individuals but I still feel like I kind of failed somehow as well. Um, if you're taking the board so seriously you feel like a failure, I think you need a serious break from the board to reevaluate your life priorities. I took it mean that she'd failed her own personal standard of ignoring the attitude she dislikes. Not failing in the big 'scheme of life' way.
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