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Post by Merge on Jul 5, 2016 22:33:47 GMT
How much, if any, input did they have into what kind of car was purchased? There is some disagreement in our home about this.
UPDATE: thanks for the comments. We've had quite the evening as DH had arranged a "deal" on an older used pickup truck he wanted to get for our 15 year old to learn in, and then to drive when she turns 16. DD was adamant that she did not feel comfortable driving such a big truck in the relatively narrow streets and small parking lots of the area where she attends school. DH accused her of being ungrateful. I took her side and mentioned that I would not be very comfortable driving a large truck in an urban area, either. DH is thinking mostly of safety and wants her surrounded by as much steel as possible, which I get. Unfortunately, smaller cars with very high safety ratings are generally out of our price range for this first vehicle.
So I don't know what will happen. If the kid doesn't get to work on her online drivers' ed course, she may never get her license anyway!
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 5, 2016 22:35:48 GMT
Our 17 yr old got very little input. But it's also the car we are using to tow behind our RV so we knew what requirements we wanted/needed for a tow vehicle. She is fine and happy with what we bought. She really just didn't want a stick and she's happy to not have to share the SUV or 4 door truck ETA: She actually had no idea we were going to look at a car until the day dh and I went and we brought one home. She was in school that day.
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Post by Kerri W on Jul 5, 2016 22:41:41 GMT
It was kind of a joint decision. The whole thing was a process that was very important to DH.
He wanted to teach them how to shop for a car. They sat down and went over everything from budget, to milage, to what makes it a good value, etc. They came back to him with a list of cars they were interested in. He then made them look up safety ratings and call insurance companies to check on insurance rates. They narrowed the lists down to 2-3 cars and would send him links to what they were interested in. He took them for the test drives, then coached them through the negotiating.
DD1 ended up with a VW Jetta which wasn't anywhere on her radar but she thought was the best value. DD2 found a VW Beetle which was exactly what she wanted. DS1 decided to go the "project" route after he assured DH he had the additional money set aside to do the projects that would need to be done and bought a Jeep Wrangler.
I was given an old awful embarrassing to drive grandma car that I really hated. DH was allowed to get whatever he wanted. I would have been completely fine telling them they would be happy with whatever we chose to give them, but it was important to DH to get them what they wanted.
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Post by Giraffe on Jul 5, 2016 22:41:59 GMT
We bought our daughter her (used) car when she was 15 so she could practice on the car she would be driving. We had a budget that we pretty much stuck to. She had to pay for gas, so she knew she could get something with great gas mileage and therefore cheaper to buy gas for, or a bigger car or SUV, which would cost her more. We ended up getting her a Jeep Grand Cherokee Laredo, hoping it would get her through high school. She just graduated from college in May, and she is still driving it
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Post by 950nancy on Jul 5, 2016 22:44:27 GMT
I think both of my boys were just so happy to have a vehicle to drive that they didn't ask for much. In hindsight, buy your kids the safest car you can.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 22:45:00 GMT
DD told us what she wanted and after investigating, we did buy that one. She's got a pretty good head on her shoulders and was thrifty and careful with what she wanted. DS got DH's hand-me-down truck.
So they both had input but we made the final decision. If they'd asked for something stupid, the answer would have been a resounding no.
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Post by Zee on Jul 5, 2016 22:45:29 GMT
DD got my old car when she turned 16, no choice.
When it was time to help her with the financing for a newer used vehicle, she got all the say other than price bracket.
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Post by scorpeao on Jul 5, 2016 22:48:17 GMT
Zero! She got what I could afford. A standard without A/C. I'm a horrible mother
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 5, 2016 22:49:59 GMT
DS didn't have much input, but he got dh's hand me down. Dd will have some input, but the final decision will be ours.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Jul 5, 2016 22:50:27 GMT
It was kind of a joint decision. The whole thing was a process that was very important to DH. He wanted to teach them how to shop for a car. They sat down and went over everything from budget, to milage, to what makes it a good value, etc. They came back to him with a list of cars they were interested in. He then made them look up safety ratings and call insurance companies to check on insurance rates. They narrowed the lists down to 2-3 cars and would send him links to what they were interested in. He took them for the test drives, then coached them through the negotiating. DD1 ended up with a VW Jetta which wasn't anywhere on her radar but she thought was the best value. DD2 found a VW Beetle which was exactly what she wanted. DS1 decided to go the "project" route after he assured DH he had the additional money set aside to do the projects that would need to be done and bought a Jeep Wrangler. I was given an old awful embarrassing to drive grandma car that I really hated. DH was allowed to get whatever he wanted. I would have been completely fine telling them they would be happy with whatever we chose to give them, but it was important to DH to get them what they wanted. Ours is a Jetta too and I agree with the value. It also wasn't on any of our radar, but we got a great deal on it and we all really like it.
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Post by River on Jul 5, 2016 22:55:42 GMT
My oldest DS was stuck driving our older SUV and he was perfectly fine with that. He never showed any interest in a vehicle and just wanted something reliable since he had to cart his two younger brothers to school. When he was nearing 18 and a senior in high school he started asking about trading in the expedition for a Mini Cooper like I drove. After a month of him basically describing my car exactly, we decided it was time for me to trade up. So on his 18th birthday we gave him a check for what we sold the expedition for or the keys to my car. He chose my car and has been very happy with it. I got a newer Mini Cooper for my long drive to work.
Second son will be 16 in two months and wants a truck. Since we don't have a vehicle to pass down, he'll get some input on what he gets. It'll be old and probably a fixer upper though.
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Post by cindyupnorth on Jul 5, 2016 22:56:04 GMT
She got a little input. Mainly she wanted a 4 door, good gas mileage. Our input was good gas mileage, something my dh could work on, something that could run forever with little troubles, good used value, and safe. She liked her older sister's car, which we did research on, and both my girls have Toyota Camry's and love them.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 22:57:26 GMT
My almost 20yo DD would've been happy with ANY.THING. I went to the dealership, test drove the car, took a pic for her and hoped to hear from her before I made the decision.
I picked her up from work and we drove to the dealership, I wrote the check, and that was it.
She was thrilled...as she should be.
Her car is a 2016 Honda Civic (that we got used...it had 1300 miles on it) that she owns free and clear. I have a 2015 Honda Civic (that I still love) that I am still paying on.
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Post by Linda on Jul 5, 2016 22:59:46 GMT
We listened to DD's opinions - she wanted a pickup truck and didn't like the Dodge style (too bulky) - but DH bought the actual vehicle without her knowledge/input since it'll be our name until she's 18 (she's newly 16) - she ended up with a 2001 Ford Ranger. We have a truck and DS's truck is here also but they are both full size trucks and DD is on the petite side - she's been learning on our truck but DH felt a smaller truck would be a better fit for her and it seems to be.
We considered extended cab/crew cabs but ultimately went for a 2-seat standard cab - we think as a new driver, having a max of 1 passenger will be less distracting and if she needs to drive more (like me and her sister) she can drive our van
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Post by monklady123 on Jul 5, 2016 23:02:26 GMT
None. We're a Honda family and they knew that's what they'd be driving. I don't think either cared because they were just happy to have a vehicle. lol Ds did want a larger vehicle so he requested a Pilot. We had to settle for a pretty old one -- 2005 -- but we trust our dealer. Ds drove it off to Georgia, and has been back and forth between here and there several times with no problems. Dd is a more timid driver, and learned on an Accord, so that's what we bought. In fact we just got it last week. Problem is that she's on the couch recovering from knee surgery and can't drive it. lol. I've been driving it. It's nicer than either our van or our car.
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Post by littlemama on Jul 5, 2016 23:04:52 GMT
We all wanted ds to have some sort of small suv. We had two family members tell us they would sell jus their Ford Escapes and then both backed out. That was found, because I find Fords very uncomfortable to drive in general. We then had a friend who needed money and had a 2007 Dodge Nitro that he wanted to sell to get the funds he needed. We ended up buying that for ds. It just got new brakes, rotors, tires, and a few other things fixed, so we expect he will be able to drive it through college.
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Post by ginacivey on Jul 5, 2016 23:12:10 GMT
none
dd got a chevy cobalt
and both boys got small trucks
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Post by polz on Jul 5, 2016 23:17:58 GMT
None. DD has a Suzuki Swift. One of the top selling cars in New Zealand.
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Post by leannec on Jul 5, 2016 23:26:42 GMT
None ... Dd#1, who will be taking her last driving lesson tomorrow and will be taking her road test next week, has a Toyota Corolla S ... we bought it from family so we know it's history She's just happy that she can fit four friends in it
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Post by freecharlie on Jul 5, 2016 23:28:13 GMT
Mine is only 15, so just got his permit, but he will probably get his grandpa's old truck.
However, whenever we talk vehicles, I tell him he will be grateful for whatever he gets and if he isnt, he can buy his own.
If he gets a pos car at first and it safely gets him from point a to b. That should be good.
Of course he has some friends whose parents are flashy and others who are keeping up with the jones. (Joneses?). Their kids will get nice newer cars and then their parents will bitch about not having money for x, y, and z.
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Post by mellyw on Jul 5, 2016 23:42:36 GMT
I'd say a combo. We also wanted DD to understand car shopping, so her & DH did the looking & buying.
We also put the loan in her name so she could build up credit. Worked out great, she's always been terribly grateful we did that for her.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 5, 2016 23:44:09 GMT
No input. We had an opportunity to purchase a vehicle from a family member that had been well taken care of and was what we could afford. That's what he drove for four years.
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Post by *KAS* on Jul 5, 2016 23:47:50 GMT
Didn't purchase for a teen driver, but was that teenager. I had 0 input (or idea) that I was getting a (used) car for my 16th birthday, and I thought it was the coolest thing ever. I also had 0 input (or idea) that I was getting a (newer, but used) car for Christmas when I was 18 and in college, but was also completely happy with it.
I would only think input was expected or necessary if they are paying for part of it, which I wasn't.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jul 5, 2016 23:55:41 GMT
We found the car, drove DS over to look at it and bought it. It was a cute little red Ford Focus with low mileage. DH and DS momentarily looked longingly at the red Mustang next to it but I said no way! We also drew up a driving contract which laid out expectations and behaviors that had to be strictly followed. He never let us down.
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Post by supersoda on Jul 5, 2016 23:57:26 GMT
None. Our priorities were safety and price and since we were buying used it was "you get what you get".
We also made clear that the car is ours and we are allowing her to drive it. That privilege can be revoked at any time.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 5, 2016 23:57:32 GMT
DD's dad paid for half of her car and she paid for the rest. DD spent months investigating cars and chose herself what she wanted to get. The only input we had was that it had to have a 5 star safety rating.
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Post by **GypsyGirl** on Jul 5, 2016 23:57:51 GMT
She had a lot of input, although the high end BMW was removed from the running, as was the F250 she begged for. We researched the reviews and ratings of the class of car she was getting together and test drove 6-8 different cars. It was her car and we wanted her to be comfortable with the way it handled. It was narrowed down to 2 cars and let her choose. We ended up with the ML350 and were very happy with it.
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Post by Basket1lady on Jul 6, 2016 0:03:52 GMT
None. The kids have my old van. It's free, which is what they cared about. DD isn't old enough yet to haul her friends around (must be 18 to have multiple, non related passengers), but DS likes that he can get all his friends in one car trip.
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Post by peano on Jul 6, 2016 0:06:54 GMT
We're right in the middle of this too. He knows the budget, and we're going to give him the reins in choosing but with veto power. He won't be allowed to buy something that will negatively affect insurance rates (more than he already has) or that doesn't have good safety and reliability ratings.
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Post by mom on Jul 6, 2016 0:16:53 GMT
None....DH went and bought him a truck without evening asking if thats what he wanted (we knew it was!). DS loves it.
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