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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 8, 2016 1:49:13 GMT
LOL did we have the same mom? Mine was like that too. Nothing fun ever happened until all the chores were done, and let's just say there were a LOT of chores.  While I tend to keep busy a lot of the time, I'm not the same kind of taskmaster with my own kid. She does have to help out with stuff, but because DH likes to spend the weekends NOT doing housework or yard work we try to chip away at the stuff that needs doing during the week so our weekends are more free to do whatever. I don't have kids but I am that taskmaster with DH. totally different upbringing with him so he's had to adjust. after 25 years, he's grown to understand that I'm most happy and agreeable to goofing off or just hanging out with him AFTER chores are done. We have a lake cabin an hour from our house, so if we get all the household stuff done during the week we can take off for the weekend and it's nice not having to deal with coming home to a mess.  The downside is having two places to keep clean! |
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Post by tmarschall on Jul 8, 2016 2:11:51 GMT
Yes. Then it affects my ability to fully enjoy being lazy  This! I do nothing a lot. Or a lot of nothing. But like many I ALWAYS have work I should be doing. I'm a professor, so reworking classes,revamping or updating syllabi, doing research, accreditation stuff...It hangs over my head and prevents me from fully enjoying my laziness. I wish I could let go...or not have long-term projects that intrude into my summer. And I know I'm lucky to have a break from teaching in the summer, but I also have a 10 month contract, so all that I'm obsessing about are technically not compensated. Boo. |
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Post by PLurker on Jul 8, 2016 2:28:03 GMT
but I don't get guilty, per se, more frustrated with myself if I keep not getting done what I want to.
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Post by papersilly on Jul 8, 2016 4:04:30 GMT
it's nice not having to deal with coming home to a mess. Exactly! Even if we are just running errands in the afternoon, go to dinner or the movies, it's nice to come home to a clean house. I can't begin to explain the top-to-bottom cleaning that occurs before a vacation. Lol. I couldn't enjoy my vacation if I was like those people who just pack and leave. No trash emptied or fridge cleaned out. |
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Post by Jili on Jul 8, 2016 4:08:33 GMT
Daily. I'm not working this summer, and I've done about 2 things on my huge to-do list.  |
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Jul 8, 2016 9:08:16 GMT
Yes, I feel guilty. Does it stop me being lazy? No. It just deprives me of some of the enjoyment. Frustrating, isn't it?
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Post by 2peafaithful on Jul 8, 2016 9:13:37 GMT
Basically yes. I consider some downtime (small amounts) vital to my health and well being but anything above that and yeah I would feel lazy. If we are doing family things, making memories and using the time for that I don't view it as a waste at all but if I were to take several hours or a day and do nothing I wouldn't feel good about it. I wake super early to have time to myself and my days are pretty full outside of that. Productivity feels good to me. If it is progressing on my to do list, spending time with family/friends, making memories, etc. When people say they are bored the first thought I have is, Oh your to do list is done? I realize not everyone works from a to do list but if it is an app, written or mental I can't imagine being bored if I still things I have to do. When I get or take time for me I am never at a loss for what to do. I have heard some people say that over the years (Gosh I don't even know what to do with myself) and that is foreign to me. My parents always had some downtime but also very much modeled a great work ethic.
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 8, 2016 10:14:38 GMT
Nope. I've accepted that I am lazy. I am really good at getting others to do stuff for me. Or I just decide it's not that important and let it go. Ditto! I just wish others around me could be as accepting of my laziness! |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jul 8, 2016 10:18:38 GMT
but I don't get guilty, per se, more frustrated with myself if I keep not getting done what I want to. I'm going to print that picture and quote out and stick it on my wall ! |
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Post by gar on Jul 8, 2016 10:18:50 GMT
Yes. Then it affects my ability to fully enjoy being lazy Me too sometimes:grin: I sort of bargain with myself - if X and Y are done you can justify being lazy and Z can wait, no problem:smile: |
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Post by Miss Lerins Momma on Jul 8, 2016 12:56:38 GMT
No way. I have three kids, so I'm beyond tired. I don't even call it lazy anymore!
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 8, 2016 13:42:23 GMT
I've semi adopted a 10 rule. If I get ten things done during a day I'm good. They can be big or small things but the magic number is 10. I have on occasion included things like breathing, showering or answering the phone on my list. But usually if it doesn't take at least ten minutes to accomplish, it doesn't count. Yesterday I painted my nails. I figured that since I have 10 fingers I was done for the day. I then sat on my front porch with a glass of tea and a book and enjoyed the afternoon. My mind is a very weird place to live sometimes!
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Post by genny on Jul 8, 2016 13:53:13 GMT
Yes, always.
I had to take DD to see her counselor yesterday (we go every two weeks) and I am antsy and feel guilty when I sit there doing nothing for an hour waiting, I am always worried about work and what I'm not taking care of.
When we go on vacation (we usually vacay only once a year to the beach and usually only miss 2 days of work, this year we are taking FOUR WHOLE DAYS OFF!) I obsess over every little thing and feel awful that I am not home tending my business instead of lazing on the beach with a good book and a cold beverage. I check my email obsessively and check in multiple times a day. Have I forgotten to pay the power bill? Did I forget a deadline? Ugh. I hate it. I also feel bad about putting the dog in the kennel while we're going and asking someone to feed the chickens and cats while I'm gone too.
I feel the same way about housework…but I'm usually so beat at the end of the work day that I let most thing pass and live with the guilt in the back of my mind until the weekend. It's a vicious cycle for me.
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Post by disneypal on Jul 8, 2016 14:07:43 GMT
I feel like I always have to be doing something - when I am at work, of course I am working but when I am at home, I feel like I have to be cleaning, doing laundry, organizing, etc. I can't even just watch TV without doing something (like crochet, knit, coloring, etc) - as you said, I feel guilty if I am just doing "nothing". I feel like it is wrong to waste time like that when there is always plenty to do. I wish I could be more lazy (relaxed) once in a while.
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Post by bigbundt on Jul 8, 2016 15:26:26 GMT
When people say they are bored the first thought I have is, Oh your to do list is done? I realize not everyone works from a to do list but if it is an app, written or mental I can't imagine being bored if I still things I have to do. When I get or take time for me I am never at a loss for what to do. I have heard some people say that over the years (Gosh I don't even know what to do with myself) and that is foreign to me. Same here. Drives me crazy when I am constantly doing something and my husband is moping around that he has nothing to do, he is so BORED! I have a to do/wish list about a mile long, I always have something I can be doing. And I don't feel guilty about being lazy but when I am being lazy I mentally go through my list and it stresses me out. But you know what? I've been on the working/mommy train for so long though that when I do have downtime, I never really know what to do. Most of the time I just end up taking a nap. Kind of like that old Jim Gaffigan joke, "You ever have so much to do that you just take a nap?".  |
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While I tend to keep busy a lot of the time, I'm not the same kind of taskmaster with my own kid. She does have to help out with stuff, but because DH likes to spend the weekends NOT doing housework or yard work we try to chip away at the stuff that needs doing during the week so our weekends are more free to do whatever.
The downside is having two places to keep clean!
