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Post by melanell on Jul 22, 2016 13:53:55 GMT
Someone to whom everything bad happens. I know a couple. The stories are endless, from a new home build where nothing was done right to new furniture delivered with all kinds of problems. Leaking RVs, problems with cars, kids always have problems at school, and on it goes. It just amazes me that so many things go wrong for some people and I am thankful I'm not one of them. I've never heard that term, but I definitely know people who never seem to catch a break. Also, I think that to a certain degree, a string (sometimes very long) of bad luck can happen to anyone. But the bad things are either more severe for some people or some people are simply more likely to tell everyone about the problems they are experiencing than others. Save
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Post by tiffanyr on Jul 22, 2016 13:55:08 GMT
I had never heard that term before! I think sometimes you have a run of "bad luck" through no fault of your own. I am in one of those ruts right now...
I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in April My husband was cycling and thought he pulled a muscle...turned out he had a pinched nerve which required surgery 2 weeks ago DS2(15) was riding his bike yesterday and hit the curb and threw him over the handlebars and broke his wrist
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Post by melanell on Jul 22, 2016 14:04:44 GMT
Yes, She had skin cancer, beat it Her husband injured his back and went down hill from there He died Her dad died And then everything around her broke. Including both kids Then she received a diagnosis of melanoma in her lungs. How awful. These are the people my heart breaks for. So much going wrong---all of it major, and to a large part, completely unforseeable and sometimes unpreventable. This isn't being pessimistic or a case of drama begets drams, but truly a tragic string of events. Save
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Jul 22, 2016 14:05:13 GMT
I had never heard that term before! I think sometimes you have a run of "bad luck" through no fault of your own. I am in one of those ruts right now... I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in April My husband was cycling and thought he pulled a muscle...turned out he had a pinched nerve which required surgery 2 weeks ago DS2(15) was riding his bike yesterday and hit the curb and threw him over the handlebars and broke his wrist (((hugs))) I hope you all feel better, and recover well. Yours is truly no-fault-of-your-own bad luck. You're definitely not one of the people who we are talking about who makes their own bad luck.
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Post by melanell on Jul 22, 2016 14:11:24 GMT
Sometimes bad things happen to good people and it's completely out of their control. I feel sad for those people. I think bad things happen to all people. And sometimes it's just so unfair. I have a dear friend who lost both of her parents to cancer before she turned 25. At 27 she married the love of her life. Went on their honeymoon and he passed out at the airport. Brain cancer. They found out 2 weeks later she was pregnant. But to hear her tell it, her life is beautiful and everyday a gift. Her resilience is inspiring. I also think it's about perspective. When real tragedy strikes, then a bummer vacation or a broken pipe or something like that feels like a trivial thing to deal with. Or for some, the real tragedy creates such a difficult time for them, that when they then experience the trivial things, those things become the straw the broke the camel's back, kwim? Aunt Janie might typically be able to knock back day to day problems like water from a duck's back, until she is blindsided by a family death or a major illness and then those day to day things are more than she can deal with anymore. I think it has to do with the timing of the minor things---if they come years after the initial major thing, then they can be viewed for what they are---minor issues. But if they come right at the time when the person is reeling from the major problem, then they are just compounding the larger problem. Save
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Post by idahopea on Jul 22, 2016 14:13:27 GMT
I had a family member like that only it wasnt her own doing. Her family was dirt poor, but most of the problems were a result of medical issues. She had breast cancer and fought it for years and years. She lived near a teaching/research hospital and was a guinea pig for every kind of experimental treatment there was. She's a hero to me and I know many women today are benefitting from what she went through. While she was going through all that her grandson was diagnosed with a very rare genetic disease. No one else in the family had ever had it, but somewhere along the way something mutated and he got this terrible degenerative disease. It seemed like every time I talked to her there was some other terrible thing that had happened, but she never complained and always had a positive attitude about her own problems. Sadly both she and her grandson have passed away, but their suffering has ended so that brings a bit of comfort.
I also know someone who has so many issues that even the best doctors of every kind cannot seem to help her. She has several mental health issues, but also won't/can't do the things that are recommended that would help her feel better. So many people have tried to help her, but things only get worse. It's so hard to watch and she is so needy, that you have to set boundaries or your whole life would be taken over by her. Some things are due to her not learning basic life skills as a kid/teen that her family should have taught her, but I'm sure it was easier for them to do things for her than to teach her how. I know she was an extremely difficult child and continues to be a difficult adult. It's very sad and she has no will to live and would like to die because she has no life at all. I wish I lived closer so I could help her, but I also know that when I did live closer I had to set limits. Even the professionals who work with her set time limits and I don't blame them, but I wish they could find the right medications to help her. I'm sure she is one of the most challenging patients any mental health doctor would ever see and she has seen many different ones. Very sad.
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Post by melanell on Jul 22, 2016 14:13:48 GMT
I had never heard that term before! I think sometimes you have a run of "bad luck" through no fault of your own. I am in one of those ruts right now... I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in April My husband was cycling and thought he pulled a muscle...turned out he had a pinched nerve which required surgery 2 weeks ago DS2(15) was riding his bike yesterday and hit the curb and threw him over the handlebars and broke his wrist Hugs to you and your family! This is truly an awful string of "bad luck". My best wishes and thoughts for all of you. Save
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Post by mimima on Jul 22, 2016 14:20:14 GMT
I had never heard that term before! I think sometimes you have a run of "bad luck" through no fault of your own. I am in one of those ruts right now... I was diagnosed with stage 3 breast cancer in April My husband was cycling and thought he pulled a muscle...turned out he had a pinched nerve which required surgery 2 weeks ago DS2(15) was riding his bike yesterday and hit the curb and threw him over the handlebars and broke his wrist Oh, hugs. Love and prayers
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Post by raindancer on Jul 22, 2016 14:29:01 GMT
I think bad things happen to all people. And sometimes it's just so unfair. I have a dear friend who lost both of her parents to cancer before she turned 25. At 27 she married the love of her life. Went on their honeymoon and he passed out at the airport. Brain cancer. They found out 2 weeks later she was pregnant. But to hear her tell it, her life is beautiful and everyday a gift. Her resilience is inspiring. I also think it's about perspective. When real tragedy strikes, then a bummer vacation or a broken pipe or something like that feels like a trivial thing to deal with. Or for some, the real tragedy creates such a difficult time for them, that when they then experience the trivial things, those things become the straw the broke the camel's back, kwim? Aunt Janie might typically be able to knock back day to day problems like water from a duck's back, until she is blindsided by a family death or a major illness and then those day to day things are more than she can deal with anymore. I think it has to do with the timing of the minor things---if they come years after the initial major thing, then they can be viewed for what they are---minor issues. But if they come right at the time when the person is reeling from the major problem, then they are just compounding the larger problem. SaveI agree. It's where resiliency and ability to cope all mix up with timing.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jul 22, 2016 14:35:14 GMT
Most of the people I know who always say they have only bad luck are like this. I can think of one lady who has made bad choice after bad choice. And she has a lovely, sweet disposition and people feel sorry for her and bail her out so often. One such case was that she hadn't paid taxes on her house (said she didn't know she owed them?! How can you not know that after living there and paying them every year?!). Well, her boss "loaned" (gave it to her with no pay back date) her several thousand dollars to save her house from a lien, so she could pay the taxes and have it put behind her. Instead of paying the taxes, she nickels & dimes that money away! A month after she's given the money, she's buying everyone at work Christmas presents. Not expensive ones, or even useful ones. But lots of them, which used up (from what she said) several hundred dollars. Just blew my mind. I can relate. I have one kind hearted friend who is legitimately on SSI and living on a limited income. She frequently mentions not having enough money for groceries and needing to go to the food pantry. Ok, no shame there, you need to eat so that's what you do. But then when she does have a few extra bucks, she doesn't hang onto it for a rainy day or use it to stock her pantry with nonperishables. She immediately has someone drive her to the thrift store where she blows what little she has on useless stuff to give to her neighbors and family. The real kicker is that pretty much everyone has told her they don't need or even want the stuff she's buying for them! The whole thing is just sad.
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Post by craftsbycarolyn on Jul 22, 2016 14:38:57 GMT
My dad used to say if he didn't have bad luck, he wouldn't have any luck at all.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2016 15:29:39 GMT
Yes, She had skin cancer, beat it Her husband injured his back and went down hill from there He died Her dad died And then everything around her broke. Including both kids Then she received a diagnosis of melanoma in her lungs. That person truly could not catch a break. She is very on top of all of this. And very determined that her treatment is going to work!
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2016 17:31:42 GMT
And of their own making? My cousin!
She was born lazy, blames the world that she is poor ( because lazy takes all her social security check) and will probably take forever to die due to her laziness.
Everything that has happened to her is because if her extreme laziness.
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