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Post by Katie on Jul 23, 2016 13:22:46 GMT
DH is 6'5 and snores. I am 5'11 and snore. Been married 21 years this Fall. For the first 5 years we were married we had a queen and it was fine, until we were given a new king size bed. OMG it was like a dream...love at first sleep! We do ok in the same bed, but DH is gone 5 days a week and I have to admit I love sleeping alone. When we go to a hotel or to someone's home and have to sleep in a queen we sleep horribly.
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Post by chlerbie on Jul 23, 2016 13:31:46 GMT
We still sleep in a full. But like someone else mentioned, we're one of those couples that are generally cuddling or touching all night. He CAN be a snorer but we solved that by just getting him another pillow and that helped tremendously.
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Post by paget on Jul 23, 2016 14:24:38 GMT
Dh and I no longer share. We did until I started working full-time outside the house and really needed my sleep! Before, I was a SAHM and worked on our business at home and could catch a nap during the day when his snoring kept me up. (daily)
I ADORE sleeping alone! Love. Besides not hearing the snoring and weird mouth and nose noises dh makes, his moving around doesn't disturb me now. Also important, I found when he wasn't in the bed anymore, I could really stretch out - I like to sleep in some weird positions - and as a result, my back was feeling better in the morning. I'll never go back to sharing. I also didn't like being touched at night - I need my space! I tried earplugs but they were uncomfortable to me and I couldn't sleep in them. Before we stopping sharing the bed, we stopped sharing blankets and each had our own because we both like to kind of wrap up in them.
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Post by basketdiva on Jul 23, 2016 14:29:59 GMT
Several people have mentioned the reason for sleeping in different rooms is the loud snoring and even one mentioned "flopping like a fish". So I was wondering if any of these snorers have been tested for sleep apnea?
I am a light sleeper so I could tell when my husband stopped breathing. Also the flailing arm that hit me a few times was the reason he had the sleep study done. That machine made a world of difference for both of us.
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Post by kelly316 on Jul 23, 2016 14:32:33 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms!  |
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Post by Judy26 on Jul 23, 2016 14:37:38 GMT
DH finally went for a sleep study last week. He has the worst sleep apnea ever. You can hear his snoring at the other end of the house. He says he doesn't want to wear the mask but he is going to or he won't be sleeping anywhere near me. I need my sleep or I am one cranky futhermucker.
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Post by bc2ca on Jul 23, 2016 14:46:25 GMT
DH finally went for a sleep study last week. He has the worst sleep apnea ever. You can hear his snoring at the other end of the house. He says he doesn't want to wear the mask but he is going to or he won't be sleeping anywhere near me. I need my sleep or I am one cranky futhermucker. DH had to try a couple of different styles of CPAPs before he found the one that worked for him. He ripped the full mask off every night and is okay with the nasal pillow style. kelly316 separate bedrooms are usually for sleeping and don't necessarily get in the way of an active sex life  . SaveSave |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2016 14:56:01 GMT
About 18 months ago I moved to my daughter's old bedroom (she was away at college). My husband has always snored but it was pummeling I would get during the night that finally chased me out. He would be dreaming or something and start punching out. Then he started kicking. I was to the point I was incredibly tense in bed and I finally decided I wasn't going to do that anymore. In May/June, my daughter had graduated college and while her fiance (now wife) had an apartment, she came to stay with us because she was going to be moving to Denver and wanted to spend time with us. And we had cable TV I decided it would be a good time to try and get back into our bedroom. I thought it was going well. Then, after I returned home from driving with our daughter to Denver, he admits that he slept a lot better during the 10 days I was gone! So I'm back upstairs in her old room. I occasionally sleep in our bed on the weekends. |
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Post by maryland on Jul 23, 2016 14:59:30 GMT
My husband snores something awful, and although I hate it, we sleep in separate rooms. His snoring, keeping me awake, was affecting my health, I have MS and rest is critical. Sometimes it just has to be done. My husband says I snore so I sleep on the sofa in the family room. My 18 yr. old will be a sophomore in college, so I will sleep in her bed when she is away at school. |
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Post by wallyagain on Jul 23, 2016 15:04:10 GMT
My husband snores something awful, and although I hate it, we sleep in separate rooms. His snoring, keeping me awake, was affecting my health, I have MS and rest is critical. Sometimes it just has to be done. I have two words for you (and others like you still suffering): Ear Plugs Not even joking, using them has literally saved us.  Thanks, but they do not work for me, if he's in the same room. I wear them now and he's at the other end of the house.😅 |
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 23, 2016 15:07:34 GMT
People originally started sharing beds because it was too expensive for each spouse to have one. So probably, they even wanted separate beds way back in medieval times or whenever, but it just wasn't feasible. As for my house, DH often falls asleep on the sofa and spends at least a portion of the night there. I use earplugs as well. Even the very rich shared their beds. Not always with their partner who would have their own room but with servants. The reason was usually for warmth and to have someone close by to fetch and carry. They also surrounded the bed with curtains to confine the body heat. Stone castles are very cold places to inhabit. Peasants did it for the same reason. Except they shared with other family members. The concept of privacy is relatively modern, maybe the 18th or 19th century. The invention of the chimney flue is probably to blame, heat became a little easier to spread around the room. |
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Post by oldcrow on Jul 23, 2016 15:14:43 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! I suppose if you have multiple bedrooms and like to play musical beds it might put a damper on things or at least tire you out. But if you want sex you will go looking. Besides sex starts or at least should start long before everyone is tucked in tight. Unless you are talking about that *pokey stick* thing guys like to do. I'll do without that thanks. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2016 15:21:28 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! Not at all. We have plenty of sex and sleep in separate bedrooms! |
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Post by Freefallfast on Jul 23, 2016 15:27:50 GMT
I'm the snorer. Ugh. He seems to do okay with it. 27 years. But with our different hours ( he stays up late. I get up early) we have thought about separate rooms.
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Post by Anita on Jul 23, 2016 15:36:08 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! Sure it is, and I have the child to prove it! We have visitation rights  Anita |
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Post by Katie on Jul 23, 2016 15:48:27 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! You don't need a bed to have sex. |
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jul 23, 2016 15:56:36 GMT
My grandparents were married 65 years and the 25 years I knew them they had separate bedrooms on opposite sides of the house. My aunt and uncle did as well. I thought when you got old you slept in your own room. We share a bed but if one of us is sick or something we split up for the duration. I thought so, too! My grandparents had separate bedrooms and I thought once you became a grandparent you had to sleep in different rooms. Then I found out they hated one another. #thestuffyoulearn |
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Post by worldwanderer75 on Jul 23, 2016 16:28:16 GMT
I'm going to try ear plugs because I pretty much want to murder my husband every night because his snoring wakes me up multiple times every night. Sleeping in separate rooms is in our future which makes me sad.
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Post by tiffanytwisted on Jul 23, 2016 16:32:14 GMT
MY DH's snores could wake the dead too. We've been married 21 years this week. We shared a bed for the first few years, but as he gained a bit of weight the snoring got worse and worse. Finally we both gave up since neither of us were getting any sleep. We've been in separate bedrooms for the last few years and we both sleep much better each night. It's made our marriage happier. I'd love to find a house with two master bedrooms for the next house we buy. This. Plus, I like to fall asleep to the TV (on a timer so it's not on all nite). And add to it the fact that he travels 5 days a week, 51 weeks a year and you've got two people who are very used to sleeping by themselves. It's really hard to transition on the weekends, so we just don't. Two masters would definitely be on our list if we ever move. |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jul 23, 2016 16:45:32 GMT
Ex husband worked nights six nights a week and then would stay on his schedule on his night off. We never slept together. We weren't happy either so sex was rare. My current DH and I share a king and I love it. My snoring got really bad and I was keeping him up at night. I finally got tested for sleep apnea and since I got my cpap machine I don't disturb him. I love it when he holds me while I fall asleep. I never want to not share a bed with him.
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Post by refugeepea on Jul 23, 2016 18:02:25 GMT
I don't care about the size of the bed we share. I'll still hear my husband snore (been tested 2 times for apnea). I could not wear ear plugs. I need to be able to hear my son if he wakes up or wake up to an alarm. I sleep on the couch near my son's room. I'd love 2 master bedrooms and I'd share one room with 2 twin beds with my son. I don't need a lot of space to sleep.
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Post by myshelly on Jul 23, 2016 18:25:51 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! I didn't participate in that poll, but I don't think sleeping in the same room has anything to do with sex. We sleep in separate rooms and have sex at least twice a week. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 23, 2016 18:42:21 GMT
I like sharing a bed with the husband, we have some great conversations before we fall asleep.
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Post by cmpeter on Jul 23, 2016 19:20:37 GMT
I sleep like crap when we aren't sleeping together. If he or I are traveling for work I am a zombie during the day because I don't sleep well alone.
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Jul 24, 2016 2:41:02 GMT
This thread clearly explains the poll about how infrequently everyone is having sex! It's not possible from separate bedrooms! no-- respectfully I disagree!! you can have all the activity you want in whichever bedroom you want, and still SLEEP in separate bedrooms, lol!! I think having separate bedrooms maybe could spice things up a little, to tell you the truth!! eta: and I am really glad my BF doesn't snore THAT bad because I can NOT wear ear plugs... they bug the sh!t out of me. If it was that bad, I'd be forcing him to go to the doctor to get looked at. |
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