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Post by Deleted on Aug 29, 2016 2:25:59 GMT
Two of our nieces joined sororities, and they said they are very, very expensive. The younger one is a senior this year, but had to go alum because she is pregnant. Oddly enough, her fraternity member boyfriend did not have to go alum for impregnating her. Interesting double standard. This definitely deserves a WTF!
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Post by dockmaster on Aug 29, 2016 3:14:34 GMT
My dd rushed last year and is in the thick of the process this year. She joined a soriety for friendship. For her it made meeting people much easier, she instantly had 60+ women who truly wanted to know her. She has thrived in the Greek life setting. She is AOII. So glad she is enjoying her time as an active! I am a 40 yr. member of AOII and was a little disappointed that DD rushed but opted not to pledge any sorority. She's too much like her GDI father. My younger dd is looking at Universities now and she is looking at schools that have AOII so that she can rush too. I think oldest dd will continue to be active for years to come and hopefully younget will too. This was all new territory for me last year, but it has been very positive.
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 29, 2016 18:24:59 GMT
I think I am missing out on why this is so important to a family? or anyone? it's a sorority right? So what exactly is the benefit of it? Maybe it's a southern thing again, do they carry VB backpacks? LOL Sororities are NOT a southern thing. They are involved in colleges all over he country That's not what I said. Of course I know they are everywhere. The them being a big deal. Families stressed out, etc. It doesn't seem such a big deal up here, nor of any real benefit. My dd rushed when she was in school . It was stressful For me because it was stressful for her... We talked on the phone a. LOT. That week. And it has been a benefit for her as she has met Kappa Deltas in many places .... It even may have helped her get her first job on the business world.
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Post by debmast on Aug 29, 2016 18:29:10 GMT
So what has everyone pledged? Next year I will be a 50-year member of Delta Gamma. Loved my years as a collegiate and love my years as an alumna. I served as president of our alum group for 7 years. Our philanthropy is sight conservation and aid to the blind. When I was in college I worked with a blind girl scout troop in Baton Rouge. My DD is a Junior and did not pledge Freshman year because she didn't think being in a sorority was for her. But after seeing what it is all about, she has changed her mind. Delta Gamma is returning to University of Arkansas (I believe they left in the early 1990's). There isn't actually a rush this year as they are "new" to campus. But she is going thru recruitment as it is open to all and is really hoping to get in. Awesome to read your feelings on Delta Gamma.
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Post by mlana on Aug 29, 2016 18:44:30 GMT
My DD pledged DPhiE her first year of college.
Not gonna lie, I wasn't on board with it. I didn't think it would be worth the money, even though it was the least expensive sorority on campus as they didn't have a house until this year.
I was wrong. DD has benefited in a number of ways from belonging to this group. She's received help from sisters when she was having school or guy problems and all of her jobs during this time have been obtained via recommendations from her sisters.
One of her sisters saw Hev's BF cuddling with someone else. She and several other sisters kept an eye on him for a couple of days before letting Hev know what they'd seen. They made sure of the facts before they told her and they stayed close while she got over him. Hey had been honest with them about her dealings with depression, so they made sure she was alright. As far as I was concerned, their behavior during that time was worth whatever dues she paid.
This year her sorority got a house and Hev's going to live in it her final semester of college. She is so excited!
Marcy
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Post by sunraynnc on Aug 29, 2016 19:50:22 GMT
Two of our nieces joined sororities, and they said they are very, very expensive. The younger one is a senior this year, but had to go alum because she is pregnant. Oddly enough, her fraternity member boyfriend did not have to go alum for impregnating her. Interesting double standard. Very, very expensive is subjective. I paid the dues out of my pocket. It also depends on the college. Some sororities have floors in a dorm, some have university owned Greek housing, some live in houses. Some live in mansions with staff! So there are some variables. You can also run up a bigger bill with socials, formals, t-shirts, fines, etc. I'm sorry to hear about your niece. I hope her boyfriend is being a stand up guy. Both of their carefree days are over.
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Post by sunraynnc on Aug 29, 2016 19:55:27 GMT
Sunraynnc, are you a KD? My dd just graduated college this past spring. Rush was a great experience when she was a freshman, and although I was thousands of miles away it was stressful for the reasons you say- hoping she would not be disappointed etc. Happily she got her top choice (KD) . She also had a blast participating in rush as a sister later years. I was not in a sorority in college, but when I saw how meaningful it was for my dd, I was sorry I missed it. She was at a large university and it was a wonderful way to meet a smaller group. She didn't have to worry about finding friends to do things with, there were lots of social events, and she had a clean, safe place to live as a sophomore. As an upperclassman she continued to live with her sisters off campus (living in the house is so popular they can only accommodate sophomores and the officers). They had great philanthropy activities too. (By the way, she was NOT in the South). YES! I hope your KD lady enjoys her alumnae years as much as I have!
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Post by craftedbys on Aug 29, 2016 21:16:47 GMT
My freshman DD is already registered to rush, although rush week isn't until the beginning of October. I am already a nervous wreck. She is rushing at a school where the quintessential stereotypical southern sorority girl is the norm, and that is so not DD.
My sorority does not have a chapter there, so I am not wanting her to join a particular house over another, I am just hoping that she will find a group of girls that will make her feel like she belongs.
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Post by monklady123 on Aug 29, 2016 21:57:02 GMT
My freshman DD is already registered to rush, although rush week isn't until the beginning of October. I am already a nervous wreck. She is rushing at a school where the quintessential stereotypical southern sorority girl is the norm, and that is so not DD. My sorority does not have a chapter there, so I am not wanting her to join a particular house over another, I am just hoping that she will find a group of girls that will make her feel like she belongs.I hope so too. My dd was a recruitment counselor last year and she had one girl in her group who really wanted to belong to a sorority but who didn't "click" with any of them that she'd been to. My dd was advising her to keep going to the open houses and not to join one just so she could be in a sorority. Dd told her she needed to find the one that would be her home. On the next to last day of the open houses dd was doing her office hours in case any of her girls needed her and she heard sobbing coming down the hall. Dd thought "oh boy, guess I'll be using my counseling training in just a few seconds".... And in burst this same girl, crying. The girl said "You were so right! I found my girls, I felt like I was coming home!" awwww.... And indeed that was the sorority she ended up joining. Which happened to be dd's sorority. Dd told me that the whole recruitment thing was hard for her when she was a recruitment counselor because for the duration of recruitment, and the month leading up to it all the counselors had to disaffiliate from their sorority, lock down their Facebook, Instagram, whatever, couldn't wear their letters, etc. because they had to be unbiased during recruitment. At the every end of the ceremony when the new girls run to their sororities the recruitment counselors do a song and then take off their generic recruitment tee-shirts to reveal their sorority letters. They do that one at a time and then "run home". Dd said that the girl who had had the hard time during recruitment shrieked and ran up and hugged her and everyone started crying again. I get the impression from dd that a lot of mostly happy crying goes on during recruitment. lol. SaveSaveSaveSave
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Post by cadoodlebug on Aug 29, 2016 22:12:26 GMT
My freshman DD is already registered to rush, although rush week isn't until the beginning of October. I am already a nervous wreck. She is rushing at a school where the quintessential stereotypical southern sorority girl is the norm, and that is so not DD. My sorority does not have a chapter there, so I am not wanting her to join a particular house over another, I am just hoping that she will find a group of girls that will make her feel like she belongs.I hope so too. My dd was a recruitment counselor last year and she had one girl in her group who really wanted to belong to a sorority but who didn't "click" with any of them that she'd been to. My dd was advising her to keep going to the open houses and not to join one just so she could be in a sorority. Dd told her she needed to find the one that would be her home. On the next to last day of the open houses dd was doing her office hours in case any of her girls needed her and she heard sobbing coming down the hall. Dd thought "oh boy, guess I'll be using my counseling training in just a few seconds".... And in burst this same girl, crying. The girl said "You were so right! I found my girls, I felt like I was coming home!" awwww.... And indeed that was the sorority she ended up joining. Which happened to be dd's sorority. Dd told me that the whole recruitment thing was hard for her when she was a recruitment counselor because for the duration of recruitment, and the month leading up to it all the counselors had to disaffiliate from their sorority, lock down their Facebook, Instagram, whatever, couldn't wear their letters, etc. because they had to be unbiased during recruitment. At the every end of the ceremony when the new girls run to their sororities the recruitment counselors do a song and then take off their generic recruitment tee-shirts to reveal their sorority letters. They do that one at a time and then "run home". Dd said that the girl who had had the hard time during recruitment shrieked and ran up and hugged her and everyone started crying again. I get the impression from dd that a lot of mostly happy crying goes on during recruitment. lol. SaveSaveSaveSaveOh yes. My sister was a senior when I was a freshman. During the preference party (the last night) one girl who I had really bonded with whispered *I would love to be your big sister*. They were singing this incredibly emotional song while the rushees were leaving and I'm the last one. I kept thinking I could hold it together as long as I didn't see my sister. Of course, she was the last person standing by the front door and when I saw her I burst into tears. She thought it was because I was going to pledge another sorority. It was an anxious 24 hours before bids were accepted and she knew I was a DG sister.
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Post by sunraynnc on Aug 29, 2016 23:34:10 GMT
My freshman DD is already registered to rush, although rush week isn't until the beginning of October. I am already a nervous wreck. She is rushing at a school where the quintessential stereotypical southern sorority girl is the norm, and that is so not DD. My sorority does not have a chapter there, so I am not wanting her to join a particular house over another, I am just hoping that she will find a group of girls that will make her feel like she belongs. You are a good mama. Make sure you get all her recs in!
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Post by sunraynnc on Aug 31, 2016 23:26:39 GMT
Any more bid day reports?
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Post by scrapaddie on Aug 31, 2016 23:37:01 GMT
(Sorry...OP disappeared.)
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KAPPA DELTA! (squeal, squeal) Can't believe my dd is going to be my sister!
Congrats. My dd was kappa delta
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Sept 1, 2016 1:58:15 GMT
I'm not tearing it down at all. I was just wondering what was the purpose these days? It doesn't seem to be the rich snotty girls anymore, but it's very expensive to join? so to ME that sort of rules out students with less money, correct? The benefits of having a sisterhood, volunteering, etc etc. can be met in so many different ways now these days. I think when sororities were 1st developed, those needs were not met. My dd's never joined ones in college. One dd was....what's the word, when they ask you to join? but she declined. She gets all those advantages thru other clubs on campus, volunteering, etc, all without paying a lot. If it's a big deal for your family, and carrying on a tradition, that is nice. But I sort of feel bad for if the girl doesn't get in like you mentioned OR they really can't afford it. It is tricky and can be elitist. I was in a sorority in college, but it was not a big deal at my university. I happened to be visiting over the summer and my friend was in our college town with her daughter, who joined our sorority, she said her daughter had to go to campus that weekend and have her outfits for "rush" approved by the recruitment committee. I remember needing specific clothes, but not having them approved. For me it was a good experience, I had plenty of opportunities for leadership in other areas of campus life, but I did enjoy the social aspect. I know that my alumni group raises money for domestic violence, the arts (specifically we sponsor a writing colony) and then for scholarships for our chapter for member who could not otherwise join. I would love to see them move towards being less elitist and less homogenous. Homogenous
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Post by chendra on Sept 1, 2016 2:04:00 GMT
I just posted this on another thread. It made me tear up. ClemsonLIFE Goes GreekI had never heard of it, but ClemsonLIFE is a program "for students with intellectual disabilities who desire a postsecondary experience on a college campus."
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 1, 2016 2:59:14 GMT
I'm not tearing it down at all. I was just wondering what was the purpose these days? It doesn't seem to be the rich snotty girls anymore, but it's very expensive to join? so to ME that sort of rules out students with less money, correct? The benefits of having a sisterhood, volunteering, etc etc. can be met in so many different ways now these days. I think when sororities were 1st developed, those needs were not met. My dd's never joined ones in college. One dd was....what's the word, when they ask you to join? but she declined. She gets all those advantages thru other clubs on campus, volunteering, etc, all without paying a lot. If it's a big deal for your family, and carrying on a tradition, that is nice. But I sort of feel bad for if the girl doesn't get in like you mentioned OR they really can't afford it. It is tricky and can be elitist. I was in a sorority in college, but it was not a big deal at my university. I happened to be visiting over the summer and my friend was in our college town with her daughter, who joined our sorority, she said her daughter had to go to campus that weekend and have her outfits for "rush" approved by the recruitment committee. I remember needing specific clothes, but not having them approved. For me it was a good experience, I had plenty of opportunities for leadership in other areas of campus life, but I did enjoy the social aspect. I know that my alumni group raises money for domestic violence, the arts (specifically we sponsor a writing colony) and then for scholarships for our chapter for member who could not otherwise join. I would love to see them move towards being less elitist and less homogenous. Homogenous Maybe they felt the girls were wearing things that weren't appropriate. I have never heard of anyone doing that but maybe there is an underlying reason.
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 1, 2016 3:14:51 GMT
There can be a ripple effect through the whole family. DH's cousin (a freshman) came home crushed because every sorority she expressed interest in rejected her. Apparently her roommate got into her first choice. I don't know the backstory, and having never pledged a sorority do not know how the process works. I can say I have many friends who pledged and continue to work with their sisters as cadoodlebug does. If it's the right fit, it can be a valuable experience.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 1, 2016 5:06:53 GMT
There can be a ripple effect through the whole family. DH's cousin (a freshman) came home crushed because every sorority she expressed interest in rejected her. Apparently her roommate got into her first choice. I don't know the backstory, and having never pledged a sorority do not know how the process works. I can say I have many friends who pledged and continue to work with their sisters as cadoodlebug does. If it's the right fit, it can be a valuable experience. Speaking only for how it used to work, not sure if it is still done like this. At some point they take the number of girls rushing and divide that number by the number of sororities. Theoretically, there is a spot for every girl. Each rushee gets to select 3 sororities in the order of preference. Then the sororities have their list. Say *quota* is 100 girls. The sorority list the girls they want in order from 1 -100 on their first bid list and then list other girls they would like on their second bid list. A computer then matches up the girls with the sororities using both the girls and the sororities preferences. Some girls go *suicide* meaning they only list one choice. If that choice didn't list them, they don't get in a sorority. So just because a girl didn't get one of her choices doesn't mean the sororities didn't have her somewhere on their list. It just means she wasn't high enough. Clear as mud?
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Sept 1, 2016 10:08:49 GMT
It is tricky and can be elitist. I was in a sorority in college, but it was not a big deal at my university. I happened to be visiting over the summer and my friend was in our college town with her daughter, who joined our sorority, she said her daughter had to go to campus that weekend and have her outfits for "rush" approved by the recruitment committee. I remember needing specific clothes, but not having them approved. For me it was a good experience, I had plenty of opportunities for leadership in other areas of campus life, but I did enjoy the social aspect. I know that my alumni group raises money for domestic violence, the arts (specifically we sponsor a writing colony) and then for scholarships for our chapter for member who could not otherwise join. I would love to see them move towards being less elitist and less homogenous. Homogenous Maybe they felt the girls were wearing things that weren't appropriate. I have never heard of anyone doing that but maybe there is an underlying reason. Apparently, according to my friend, it is to "save" money. Many sororities now have all members purchase all their outfits from the same company. (I even saw a company on Shark Tank that manufactured these clothes). I don't know if the drive is that they all look identical or if it is just easier for the girls to buy from a catalog and not have to think about it. It just doesn't help in the perception of being elitist and homogenous.
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Post by mommaho on Sept 1, 2016 10:29:57 GMT
I have to admit that I didn't get what it was all about when our youngest (only one of our three to go to a 4 year) decided to go through the process. She was never one to join in for the sake of joining and no on in the family had been in. She learned so much from her sisters in DZ and has life long friends. Happy for you and your daughter OP.
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 1, 2016 15:10:17 GMT
So just because a girl didn't get one of her choices doesn't mean the sororities didn't have her somewhere on their list. It just means she wasn't high enough. Actually yes, it does. I was getting the update from the very upset mama so my view of what actually happened is skewed. The way she phrased it makes me think DH'S cousin listed more than one choice, but I don't know that for sure. As greek life was not for me when I had the opportunity, this has been a fascinating read.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 1, 2016 16:05:17 GMT
So just because a girl didn't get one of her choices doesn't mean the sororities didn't have her somewhere on their list. It just means she wasn't high enough. Actually yes, it does. I was getting the update from the very upset mama so my view of what actually happened is skewed. The way she phrased it makes me think DH'S cousin listed more than one choice, but I don't know that for sure. As greek life was not for me when I had the opportunity, this has been a fascinating read.
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Post by peppermintpatty on Sept 1, 2016 16:16:25 GMT
I'm surprised to hear that freshman are still rushing. Every school my dd looked into said they don't allow it until sophomore year because it just adds too much pressure and unnecessary stress to the kids. My dd is a freshman and she is so busy with her classes that she doesn't have time for it. My friend's son wanted to rush and my friend told him he would have to pay the dues and then he realized he would be paying for the guys parties and said "no way".
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Post by bethany102399 on Sept 1, 2016 16:37:19 GMT
So just because a girl didn't get one of her choices doesn't mean the sororities didn't have her somewhere on their list. It just means she wasn't high enough. Actually yes, it does. I was getting the update from the very upset mama so my view of what actually happened is skewed. The way she phrased it makes me think DH'S cousin listed more than one choice, but I don't know that for sure. As greek life was not for me when I had the opportunity, this has been a fascinating read. Sorry, I was meaning yes, your explanation made sense to me. Psychic friends network let me down on that one. I had a conversation with my DH today in which I didn't give him whole context either. Apparently I need more coffee or more people living in my brain today.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 1, 2016 16:52:18 GMT
So just because a girl didn't get one of her choices doesn't mean the sororities didn't have her somewhere on their list. It just means she wasn't high enough. Actually yes, it does. I was getting the update from the very upset mama so my view of what actually happened is skewed. The way she phrased it makes me think DH'S cousin listed more than one choice, but I don't know that for sure. As greek life was not for me when I had the opportunity, this has been a fascinating read. Sorry, I was meaning yes, your explanation made sense to me. Psychic friends network let me down on that one. I had a conversation with my DH today in which I didn't give him whole context either. Apparently I need more coffee or more people living in my brain today. Rereading your post, I now get what you were saying. It's all good. My DH often complains that I make random comments that he has no idea what I'm talking about. It's because I'm thinking things so the comments make perfect sense to me. You and I should hang out.
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Post by nicoleq on Sept 1, 2016 18:33:56 GMT
Congratulations to your daughter! I'm a KD, too!! I've loved being a part of this amazing organization at many levels for 30 years!
AOT!
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Post by colleen on Sept 1, 2016 19:14:05 GMT
(Sorry...OP disappeared.)
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KAPPA DELTA! (squeal, squeal) Can't believe my dd is going to be my sister!
Congratulations! Tell her welcome from this KD (Beta Rho - San Diego State)! AOT!
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Post by debmast on Sept 11, 2016 19:50:58 GMT
Mine didn't rush freshmen year. Thought her opportunity had passed.
Delta Gamma is re-establishing their chapter at University of Arkansas. She was able to rush as a Junior.
Today is Bid Day & she's a Delta Gamma. She's so excited!!
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Post by cadoodlebug on Sept 11, 2016 20:11:47 GMT
Mine didn't rush freshmen year. Thought her opportunity had passed. Delta Gamma is re-establishing their chapter at University of Arkansas. She was able to rush as a Junior. Today is Bid Day & she's a Delta Gamma. She's so excited!! So happy for her. She's now a sister of mine.
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Post by debmast on Sept 11, 2016 20:42:24 GMT
Mine didn't rush freshmen year. Thought her opportunity had passed. Delta Gamma is re-establishing their chapter at University of Arkansas. She was able to rush as a Junior. Today is Bid Day & she's a Delta Gamma. She's so excited!! So happy for her. She's now a sister of mine. Thanks! We really had no sorority knowledge. No one in our family has been involved in one. She knew how tv/movies portray it. But what she actually saw was not that at all. I'm glad she decided to do it. I think it will be a great experience for her
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