breetheflea
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Post by breetheflea on Oct 10, 2016 0:38:11 GMT
When I was probably 7 or 8 my mom bought me a book, complete with naked pictures of real people that was all about where babies come from. When I was about 11 she bought me a book about Periods (called Periods of course). When I started reading her romance novels (probably around 12-13) she told me everyone skipped "those parts."
There was no talking.
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msliz
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Post by msliz on Oct 10, 2016 0:39:06 GMT
Karen from across the street told me. I was in first grade and she was in kindergarten, but her mom was pregnant so Karen got "the talk." I still miss Karen. She and her little sister used to dress up like Sonny and Cher and lipsync to "I Got You Babe." They cracked me up!
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 10, 2016 9:47:31 GMT
Very interesting reading everyones' experiences! M in Carolina .....Wow, I LOL over them telling the teenagers NOT to read Song of Solomon!! Becuzzzzzzz, telling teens NOT to do something GUARANTEES they won't, right !?!? The one thing I didn't understand in your post was "no thinking of pink elephants".... what does that mean?
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Post by Deleted on Oct 10, 2016 11:03:11 GMT
I think it was 3rd grade when all of the girls went to the gym to watch a film about puberty which included a basic coverage of where babies came from. I want to say it was 8th grade health before I truly understood how they were born and the whole messy process of it.
It's kinda strange. I'm the youngest of my cousins on one side and the middle on the other side. The two younger cousins were born in a different state so I never saw my aunt being pregnant. I had seen many pregnant women but didn't know any personally until at least middle school. I never asked either. I actually read up on it instead of asking after that film. My cousin's kids are in their 20's now but they lived on the west coast. I did not hold a baby until I was in high school.
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anniebygaslight
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Post by anniebygaslight on Oct 10, 2016 11:40:47 GMT
My ultra catholic mother gave me a book when I was about 11, and about to change schools. it was one recommended by the Church and so wrapped up in allegory and 'as Mary did' that I didn't understand a word. I found out more in the playground.
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Post by hop2 on Oct 10, 2016 13:03:12 GMT
I grew up in a farm from the age of 6 so I pretty much knew exactly how babies came out and where from, and how difficult it could be.
How they got started I guess I sort of knew but not really. So I was smacking myself in the head in 7th grade health class because I really did know but had been lied to. I was pissed I had been so gullible.
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Post by smcast on Oct 10, 2016 13:24:51 GMT
I was nine years old, helping my mom carry groceries into the house form the car. I had asked her that question. She looked at me when a serious look and said, "We can talk about it inside. Lets sit down." I thought, oh, oh, now what? In my mind, a married couple just sat down on the couch, discussed that they wanted a baby together, and Bam! God made it happen. Little more to it than that.
I will never forget how technical my mother was, her embarrassed, red face, and then my embarrassment for her.
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grinningcat
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Post by grinningcat on Oct 10, 2016 13:46:11 GMT
I honestly have no idea when I learned about it. I assume when my cousins were born? But I have no recollection of learning about it until biology class but by then I already knew. Huh. No idea. Weird. I'm kind of surprised that people remember. Not sure why I'm surprised though, it's not that weird.
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Post by newfcathy on Oct 10, 2016 14:21:15 GMT
I can't remember the sex talk, I remember the period talk. I also read lots of 'inappropriate ' books from the library, my mom's magazines, the happy hooker book, while babysitting.
My MIL told her kids that any other position, other than missionary, was like dancing in a rowboat... we are still trying to figure that one out. We never asked her and she's been gone for 3 years.
Because I read so much, I did share my knowledge, particularly that there was no blowing involved in a blow j0b.
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craftykitten
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Post by craftykitten on Oct 10, 2016 16:45:10 GMT
Very interesting reading everyones' experiences! M in Carolina .....Wow, I LOL over them telling the teenagers NOT to read Song of Solomon!! Becuzzzzzzz, telling teens NOT to do something GUARANTEES they won't, right !?!? The one thing I didn't understand in your post was "no thinking of pink elephants".... what does that mean? Because if someone tells you not to think about pink elephants, you are guaranteed TO think about them!
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Post by lisae on Oct 10, 2016 19:08:17 GMT
I don't remember the exact age. Probably around 10. I learned more about sex from Judy Blume books than anything. We did have a sex ed class in junior high. My mother told me as little as she possible could. At one point I remember her saying "don't they teach you this in school."
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Post by katiejane on Oct 11, 2016 7:14:50 GMT
I had a very clear and detailed picture book when I was 4 all about special cuddles and using the right terminology. Then the info increased as I grew older. No special talk. More books, chats about TV programmes etc.
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Post by miominmio on Oct 11, 2016 8:46:08 GMT
When I was 6, we moved to a different part of the country, and our new neighbour bred racing horses, and of course most of the little girls visited the horses as often as they could. So I'm pretty sure I knew how new life is created from that age.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 14, 2016 10:48:54 GMT
katiejane....I LOVE the term "special cuddles"
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Post by RedSquirrelUK on Oct 19, 2016 20:40:58 GMT
My Mum was a nurse, my Dad was a pharmacist - I grew up surrounded with conversation about bodily functions. Also I was a child with permanent curiosity and would be highly likely to ask loudly and at an inappropriate time and place. I think Mum told me the age-appropriate basics when I was about 5. I can't remember not knowing. I could and still can talk to my Mum about anything. Both she and Grandma (Dad's mum) would answer any personal questions in a matter-of-fact, unembarrassed way. Having a pharmacy at the front of our home meant that I never suffered the embarrassment of buying sanitary supplies in public.
I'm very, very aware how fortunate I was and am.
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Post by gmcwife1 on Oct 19, 2016 22:43:31 GMT
I'm a farm kid. I saw babies of all kind being "made" and born from a very young age. Not a mystery at all. Mine would have been early grade school because I saw my aunt's horse giving birth in the pasture. Don't remember any of the talk, but do remember seeing that live birth.
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Post by scrapaddie on Oct 19, 2016 22:43:33 GMT
r]** wow, that's ANOTHER thing that's changed---as far as I know, back in the 70's, I don't think our parents/ teachers/etc. even CONSIDERED we'd have our periods until at least our early teens. Amazing how some girls are starting WAY younger now!
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We got the movies and the school nurse in 5th grade.... and that was in the 60's
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Post by scrapaddie on Oct 19, 2016 22:44:59 GMT
I just kind of knew.... I saw cats and dogs, kittens being born, etc... there was no talk from Parents
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Post by AussieMeg on Oct 19, 2016 23:16:53 GMT
I have absolutely zero recollection of finding out about the birds and the bees. I vaguely remember having to go to a sex ed night at school with my parents, maybe in 5th or 6th grade, but I can't remember for the life of me what they told us. I also can't remember finding out that the Easter Bunny and Santa weren't real. We were SO innocent and naieve, still playing with our Barbies and stuffed animals until 8 th grade! Such innocent times! In Year 8 I was smoking and drinking (hadn't quite moved onto having sex yet thankfully) so certainly no Barbies or stuffed animals for me at that age. To be honest, nobody would have been game to take a Barbie doll to school in Year 8 for fear of what would have happened to them.
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Post by theshyone on Oct 20, 2016 6:14:22 GMT
r]** wow, that's ANOTHER thing that's changed---as far as I know, back in the 70's, I don't think our parents/ teachers/etc. even CONSIDERED we'd have our periods until at least our early teens. Amazing how some girls are starting WAY younger now! [ We got the movies and the school nurse in 5th grade.... and that was in the 60's[/quote] we had the movie in grade 5, did none of. Us any good that had started years earlier, totally unprepared.
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Post by worldwanderer75 on Oct 20, 2016 7:34:21 GMT
I remember knowing about sex in about 3rd grade which I definitely heard about from friends. Obviously I did not understand all the mechanics/biology of it at that point. My parents were pretty open and I remember having several talks over the years but never that young. Now, we talk to our kids pretty young about stuff and have the "official" talk with them when they're 8ish. My son thought it was fascinating and had a ton of questions while my oldest daughter cried when we told her.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 20, 2016 8:56:47 GMT
we had the movie in grade 5, did none of. Us any good that had started years earlier, totally unprepared. theshyone ---Unless "Grade 5" is something different than what I think it is---you knew girls that stared their period * YEARS* before 5th grade (BEFORE age 10-11 ...?!?!?) Wow, I thought that was VERY rare! I've learned something new today!
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mallie
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Post by mallie on Oct 20, 2016 10:30:59 GMT
Seventh grade bio class. Way too late.
I mean, I knew that men and women did something that made a baby, but I had no idea what it was. And neither did any of my friends. When I asked my parents, they lied to me. Very stupid.
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Post by scrappyesq on Oct 20, 2016 12:55:20 GMT
My mother gave me a book and told me to come talk to her if I needed to. Thank goodness for the hidden collection of romance novels in the den
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Post by theshyone on Oct 20, 2016 16:03:48 GMT
we had the movie in grade 5, did none of. Us any good that had started years earlier, totally unprepared. theshyone ---Unless "Grade 5" is something different than what I think it is---you knew girls that stared their period * YEARS* before 5th grade (BEFORE age 10-11 ...?!?!?) Wow, I thought that was VERY rare! I've learned something new today! I started between 3rd grade and 4th grade and thought I was dying, it was in mortifying circumstances. there was another girl that had it before me, and a few in 4 th grade.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 21, 2016 19:11:15 GMT
theshyone.....awww...you were SO young! Sorry it was so mortifying for you!
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Post by katieanna on Oct 21, 2016 23:10:38 GMT
I have an older sister (only a year older but she was physically advanced for her age at the time). My mom had given her a kit that included Kotex pads (the kind with the belt) and books that explained menstruation. I think Mom had a talk with her.
I heard stuff from my sister and her friends and it was probably from them that I became aware of the sex act. For some reason, though, I was convinced that only crazy people did that. It was my sister who finally told me that was how you had babies. I was shocked and convinced that I would remain childless. Not sure how old I was at the time but I'm thinking I was probably about 13 or 14.
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Post by cycworker on Oct 22, 2016 2:53:29 GMT
I was in 3rd grade. A friend told me. She just said that these two parts go together & then you make a baby. She didn't actually know how to explain how intercourse worked, so I didn't believe her.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 22, 2016 5:46:01 GMT
I did what every normal kid should do, go to the library. I did my own research.
My mother got really pissed off that I had done "it" with my husband and I got pregnant.
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Post by scrappintoee on Oct 23, 2016 11:15:09 GMT
@megmc---wait, did I read that correctly?!?!
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