scrappinspidey2
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Post by scrappinspidey2 on Oct 14, 2016 22:28:04 GMT
we had plans. They were going to be awesome. Now Im lucky if I can plan a week in advance. Everytime I try to plan beyond that, things go to hell in a hand basket. its frustrating sometimes as I am a planner. i have a loose plan in my head about how I want things to be once my daughter is out on her own, but no clue how to get there. So I just keep planning a week at a time
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Post by ametallichick on Oct 14, 2016 23:55:17 GMT
I had a plan when I was 44 and decided to back to school to get my photography degree. At first, I just wanted to learn a little more but then decided to go all out and get the degree as a goal for myself and not because I needed it. I pursued photography work and my own stuff for a couple years with not much luck. I was able to build my portfolio but not my wallet. People are cheap and don't realize the time you spend away from the camera. I just wanted to take live action concert photography, which I have been able to do a few times and I absolutely loved it!!!
So, as far as a plan... I had grandeous plans for me and my camera and unfortunately they didn't come to fruition.
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PLurker
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Post by PLurker on Oct 15, 2016 0:23:10 GMT
Life is what happens to you while you’re busy making other plans. -John Lennon
I think I just have "ideas" that may or may not come to be.
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Post by jenjie on Oct 15, 2016 0:44:45 GMT
No *plans* as in let's map it out and make it happen. Dh talked about retiring to NC and I wasn't on board with it. I am working on determining where I want to be and how to get there. What I want for my kids and where I want to see myself.
Not right now but I'm considering taking some classes or attending conferences but I still need to see more of my end game first. I see a big picture purpose in coming alongside women and speaking life and hope but I don't have anything more definite at this point. A book? Blog? One on one? Public speaking? I'm open for anything but I'm not in a hurry.
In the meantime I need to get my house in order and be intentional with my kids. Opportunities will come. Just yesterday someone from my past sent me a PM on facebook. She needed someone to talk to because her brother has stage 4 cancer. She hasn't commented on any of my posts, I didn't even know she was reading but she has read enough to know I would be open to helping if I was able.
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scorpeao
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Jun 25, 2014 21:04:54 GMT
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Post by scorpeao on Oct 15, 2016 0:49:54 GMT
No, we wing it. Seriously. We have a loose plan that is always evolving. Things change, people get sick, jobs are lost, times are tough (then amazing). We just ride the wave. This is how I seem live my life too. No real plan...
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Post by Merge on Oct 15, 2016 0:55:16 GMT
DH is the long-term planner. I'm more of a free spirit.
I like to think of life as a hand of cards. You just keep playing the hand you're dealt, doing your best to get rid of the shitty cards and keep the good ones. Try to keep your options open and have an ace up your sleeve if things get sideways.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 15, 2016 0:57:18 GMT
We used to have a plan. It was clear and we were looking forward to it. Then life came to a screeching halt. Now we take it one day at a time. Of course, our retirement budget is planned, but travel, etc. is going to be hard to count on or plan in advance.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 15, 2016 1:09:00 GMT
We kinda sorta have plans. The only thing that is definite is after Boy2 graduates in 2020, we're going to look into selling this house and moving away. Where? It really depends. DH doesn't really enjoy his job much. If he sticks with it, he won't be the new guy and would be given more responsibilities. Maybe he'll enjoy it more then. If he stays there, we'll move to the city where he works (it's currently a 30 minute commute for him). If he gets a chance, we may move closer to Grand Rapids or even the UP. Part of me wants to wait and see what happens with the boys and don't move too far away.
Beyond that, it's all day by day, week by week. We tend to plan things no more than 3 months out save for events where you have to book things up to a year in advance.
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Post by 950nancy on Oct 15, 2016 1:24:18 GMT
Yes, I always knew what I wanted to do, with whom, and how it would work. I retired at fifty, we had the house paid off, and do pretty much what we want. I would like to think it was planning, but I also know a LOT of it was also luck and being in the right place at the right time. I am a planner and like things to go my way.
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Post by Drew on Oct 15, 2016 1:50:18 GMT
Stbxdh and his vices turned my plan inside out and upside down, then it was burned to unrecognizable ashes in a lava flow of infidelity. I got a new plan. Steps 1 and 2 are accomplished, 3 more to go.
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moodyblue
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Post by moodyblue on Oct 15, 2016 1:50:19 GMT
We make general plans, with not much locked in. I am a teacher and past the point when I could retire, but have not for several reasons. My husband is two years older than I am and his full retirement age is 66. We have been paying a chunk extra on our mortgage, with the goal of getting it paid off before either of us retired. BUT, things happen and plans and goals don't always work out the way we want.
A few weeks ago my husband got laid off. Business is soft so even with executives taking a pay cut, it wasn't enough so they laid off a bunch of people; my husband has been there 25 years so makes more money than others in his department = bigger savings for the company than laying off someone else. We have no idea if he'll get called back to work in a few months or if they will decide to terminate the people laid off.
So, we know that finding a new job at age 62 isn't easy. He will use unemployment for as long as he can and then we may be looking at him retiring within the next year. It won't be full retirement if that's the way things happen, and that was NOT in the plan. Financially we will be okay but I may end up working for several more years in order to provide the health insurance until he hits 65. Turns out it's probably a good thing I hadn't already retired.
Plans and goals are great, but you have to be able to adjust to the things that happen that aren't under your control.
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Post by melanell on Oct 15, 2016 2:26:25 GMT
Half the time I don't even have a plan for my day. And half the time when I do have a plan for my day, either I chose to change it or something happens and I have no choice.
So I guess instead of plans for my life, I have hopes for my life, and I try to more or less do things that I think might help make those hopes a reality.
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scrapaddie
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Post by scrapaddie on Oct 15, 2016 10:05:42 GMT
I have a packed it says that the key to a successful life is a great Plan B. Like other PAs have mentioned, I found myself divorced after a long marriage. (32 years). I had to work five years ylonger than I had originally planned. But I'm now retired. I volunteer in several places and I travel. One of the great things about retirement is that plans can be very flexible .
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Post by gar on Oct 15, 2016 11:02:34 GMT
We had a plan then we lost a business and a shed load of money so we're not quite where we thought we'd be at this stage financially but the general direction is the same 😊
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momto4kiddos
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Jun 26, 2014 11:45:15 GMT
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Post by momto4kiddos on Oct 15, 2016 11:48:06 GMT
Thanks for sharing all the stories, they certainly make me realize even the best laid plans can go awry.
I think maybe because there are so many changes looming within the next few years that it seems like I should know what the next step is. Maybe that is the problem I don't really know the next step... Mainly my now life looks very different than what I think it will look like in 5 years, as in there won't be anything the same (kids will be grown, house won't be the same, spouse and I will likely part ways.) I don't even have a job that I can say ok, i'll still be there in 5 years, lol.
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Post by craftedbys on Oct 15, 2016 13:17:10 GMT
DH and I always say that whenever we start making plans that's when God starts laughing.
We started out when we were engaged with a plan for our life and our life now is so far from what we had planned. Very few plans we have made have ever actually happened, and those happened with a Herculean amount of blood, sweat, and tears.
Now we no longer plan to be in a certain place of have x amount of dollars in the bank. Our only plan is to be together and be a happy family.
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Post by kckckc on Oct 15, 2016 13:32:57 GMT
We don't have a definite plan, but we discuss the possibilities often. I am retired. DH can retire in 3 years, but he likes his job and every additional year he works ups his pension so we are not sure when he will actually retire. When he does retire, we would like to downsize and move closer to one of our sons, but neither is married or owns a house and the oldest is still in grad school so they are not settled enough for us to pick a location.
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