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Post by leslie132 on Oct 17, 2016 0:21:09 GMT
I'm not going to get into the specifics in this post. I will update later on.....I think if I state what I am directly meaning it will effect people's reply.
So my question is this......if there was something you wanted to do, but thought people may hate it or think you have horrid taste, would you still do it?
ETA...., Yes, this can be changed if needed, it isn't a life long commitment!
***I updated this post in the middle of pg 1. It truly isn't a life and death situation....although it may be causing a brain bleed because I am way over thinking it!!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2016 0:22:28 GMT
It depends. Are you doing that something for yourself or for someone else?
If I wanted to wear fur and leather, then I don't care what other people think.
If I wanted to throw my husband a surprise birthday party with a stripper, it matters what he would think. (ETA: Example for illustration only because there's no way I'm throwing my husband a party with a stripper, just in case anyone is keeping track, put me in the "no" column.)
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Post by scrapsotime on Oct 17, 2016 0:23:26 GMT
There will always be someone who doesn't like something you do. Doesn't keep me from doing something I want to do.
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Post by meridon on Oct 17, 2016 0:24:42 GMT
If I respected those people's opinions, then I would reconsider. For instance, If I decided something and my sister and my best friend both gave me honest opinions that they thought it was a really bad idea, then I would reconsider. but it kind of depends, so without more context, it's hard to say.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2016 0:27:38 GMT
Not really. Life is to short.
I really don't care if somebody doesn't like what color I put on the wall or wear. Or what I eat, read, watch or buy.
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Post by padresfan619 on Oct 17, 2016 0:27:39 GMT
Good lord no. I figured out long ago that people care much more about themselves than anyone else. I am not an insecure person because I know no one gives to figs about what I am wearing or doing. The majority of people are too wrapped up being worried about themselves to judge others, despite what it seems like on here.
Perfect example, I went swimming on my lunch break last week and forgot my mascara. No one said a word about it until I said something.
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Post by Zee on Oct 17, 2016 0:28:04 GMT
In my professional life, yes. Otherwise, not usually...in your scenario, if I think something might be questionable, I'll do it anyway if it's not something that I think might make it look like I'm desperately clinging to my youth or is simply unflattering.
Like, a crazy cat lady t-shirt, I'll wear if I feel like it and not worry. I'd embrace the tacky. Booty shorts? No. Galaxy-print tights and matching nails with a tank top to go to the store? Sure, whatever. But not to meet DH's boss. The setting is important also.
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Post by Kerri W on Oct 17, 2016 0:28:18 GMT
Too few variables. In general, I have worked really hard to be confident in my own choices and just enjoy my life, my way.
That said, I do think about how my actions may affect other people. I would love to paint my living room navy. DH would hate it. Since it's a shared space, I take his opinion into account. I don't take anybody else's opinion into account when I choose a hairstyle or what I'm going to wear because it doesn't affect anybody but me.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Oct 17, 2016 0:31:18 GMT
I do care what people think, but sometimes really wish I didn't.
Obviously, at work I have to take into consideration what is acceptable there. That consists of uniforms and very conservative makeup & hair styles.
I also care about what my mother thinks. You'd think I wouldn't pay any mind to it, seeing that I'm well into adulthood, but I do. She would think I was ridiculous if I dyed colorful streaks in my hair, or wore an overly youthful shirt (like with Eeyore on it). I also think she'd frown on visible tats and non-traditional piercings. Funny enough, my brother has lots of the last two.
I'm not very good at handling negative judgements against me.
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 17, 2016 0:35:49 GMT
I'm not out to impress anyone and I'm not a teenager. If I don't fit in w/the crowd I won't perish. It depends upon what you're talking about.
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Post by myshelly on Oct 17, 2016 0:40:54 GMT
I guess it depends what you mean
In terms of do I care what other people think about how I dress, my nails, my decorations, etc.? No
In terms of I know something is rude/bothers/hurts other people, but I don't care I'm going to do it anyway? That deserves more thought.
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Post by refugeepea on Oct 17, 2016 0:42:35 GMT
Before reading your OP, the only thing I thought of was my kids. Not that I should be their best friend, but it's really cutting when they can have an attitude.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2016 0:42:57 GMT
Everybody does, and they believe that they don't.
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Post by eleezybeth on Oct 17, 2016 0:43:48 GMT
Really quite a vague scenario but in general, one of my favorite quotes ever is "Someone else's opinion of you is none of your business." When you think about it, there is really nothing you are going to do to change it, it's really annoying to think you can control what anybody else thinks, etc.
But, I also know that occasionally I can act a fool and that's not always a good thing.
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Post by disneypal on Oct 17, 2016 0:47:05 GMT
No, if I really want to do something, I will do what I want...it doesn't matter what other folks think. Life is short...do what makes you happy
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Post by chaosisapony on Oct 17, 2016 0:48:05 GMT
If I respected those people's opinions, then I would reconsider. That's how I feel about things too. Generally speaking, I don't care about what "people" at large think. But my friends and family? Yes, I care what they think and in some circumstances may change what I want to do if they think it is a bad idea. |
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Post by kate on Oct 17, 2016 0:50:05 GMT
I work in a school and in churches. I take those things into account when I decide about some things.
That said, I am fat, and I wear horizontal stripes with joy. If people want to judge me for that, let 'em!
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Post by Nink on Oct 17, 2016 0:51:27 GMT
Strangers on the internet, no. My family, yes.
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Post by mollycoddle on Oct 17, 2016 0:52:27 GMT
Sometimes. It depends.
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Post by bc2ca on Oct 17, 2016 0:59:52 GMT
I'm not going to get into the specifics in this post. I will update later on.....I think if I state what I am directly meaning it will effect people's reply. So my question is this......if there was something you wanted to do, but thought people may hate it or think you have horrid taste, would you still do it? ETA...., Yes, this can be changed if needed, it isn't a life long commitment! Including this makes me think it is a design decision. I would consider the opinions of anyone that had to live with whatever I want to do, but if I felt strongly enough AND it was reversable, I would go ahead. I painted my house purple once and didn't really care what the neighbors thought. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2016 1:01:30 GMT
I have a very short list of people who I allow to influence my life decisions. Without context I can't say how it would play out. In theoretical general vagueness, if my choice doesn't impact them personally then I don't care what someone else thinks about my choices. The main caveat is my boss's opinion on something like a tattoo or hair color as his opinion has a direct impact on my work, and what I look like has a direct impact on our bottom line.
eta: how I decorate my home, garden, or what I wear on my personal time is not subject to anyone's scrutiny other than someone who might share the living space. Since I live alone I don't care what my mom, sister, bff think of my home decor (or lack there of)
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Post by originalvanillabean on Oct 17, 2016 1:02:13 GMT
Probably not, but as other folks have mentioned, depending on the arena/context perhaps so.
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Post by leslie132 on Oct 17, 2016 1:03:04 GMT
Ok. I could wait a little bit longer to reply but I have the general vibe.
My situation is this.....I live in a terrific area. Custom homes are everywhere, and smaller plans are situated through out as well. I do not have a custom home, but we built our home 8 years ago and I love it. Having said all of that it is time for our exterior to be touched up. Shutters and front door to be exact. I saw a home a few months ago that is very comparable to mine.....creamy white siding and dark shutters. Their front door was painted blue. Not "Tiffany Box" blue, but a darker, deeper version of that color. Their shutters were dark brown/black. To say I LOVE it would be an understatement....but I am very hesitant. I don't want to be known as the lady with all the crazy colors!
We have a shed at the end of our driveway. It looks like a tiny cottage. It is built to match my home exactly. My husband is willing to paint both doors the color blue that I love. He thinks that I can make it look warm and welcoming....God I love his faith in me...I'm just worried about what people will say!
(Yes, I know this is silly. I also know that this stems back to when we moved in and I had my first floor painted. A neighbor walked through and was like "Oh, you really went for color in your house". It was very snide. She acted like my house was a crayon box.....I have golds, cinnamon and now that blue color through my first floor. I (again) love it. She on the other hand couldn't pick colors and called our model home and used those exact colors. She never in all these years did anything to make her home "special to them". So that is why I asked my question. My husband provides a beautiful home and I just don't want to make it look like a crazy house!
Thanks for answering!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 17, 2016 1:06:46 GMT
Ok. I could wait a little bit longer to reply but I have the general vibe. My situation is this.....I live in a terrific area. Custom homes are everywhere, and smaller plans are situated through out as well. I do not have a custom home, but we built our home 8 years ago and I love it. Having said all of that it is time for our exterior to be touched up. Shutters and front door to be exact. I saw a home a few months ago that is very comparable to mine.....creamy white siding and dark shutters. Their front door was painted blue. Not "Tiffany Box" blue, but a darker, deeper version of that color. Their shutters were dark brown/black. To say I LOVE it would be an understatement....but I am very hesitant. I don't want to be known as the lady with all the crazy colors! We have a shed at the end of our driveway. It looks like a tiny cottage. It is built to match my home exactly. My husband is willing to paint both doors the color blue that I love. He thinks that I can make it look warm and welcoming....God I love his faith in me...I'm just worried about what people will say! (Yes, I know this is silly. I also know that this stems back to when we moved in and I had my first floor painted. A neighbor walked through and was like "Oh, you really went for color in your house". It was very snide. She acted like my house was a crayon box.....I have golds, cinnamon and now that blue color through my first floor. I (again) love it. She on the other hand couldn't pick colors and called our model home and used those exact colors. She never in all these years did anything to make her home "special to them". So that is why I asked my question. My husband provides a beautiful home and I just don't want to make it look like a crazy house! Thanks for answering! PAINT IT!! Don't worry about what miss snide monochrome likes or doesn't like |
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Post by kelly316 on Oct 17, 2016 1:06:50 GMT
What you are describing is very "in" right now. Go for it!
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Post by beachbum on Oct 17, 2016 1:11:25 GMT
I think the blue door would be beautiful. Go for it.
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Post by secondlife on Oct 17, 2016 1:11:31 GMT
In general, I don't care what other people think, no.
I try to be good to my family and coworkers and take care of the feelings and needs of people around me. I am well regarded at work and have healthy relationships with my family and friends.
I wear what I like, drive what I want to drive, paint my walls the color I like, wear my hair how I like... I am who I am and I don't worry about other people's perception of me.
Edited since I see the update - I think you should paint your doors how you want to. My doors are the HOA mandated color. I like my doors that way. Inside my house most of my paint is very neutral. I like it that way too. You should paint your doors how you want to. I don't care what people think about my paint colors - why stress what people think of yours?
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Post by AnotherPea on Oct 17, 2016 1:15:37 GMT
it really depends. with some things, I'm going to do what I want to do. To hell with what anyone thinks. With others, I'm cautious. Typically if my choices are going to impact those I care about, my finances or my job, I'll be more careful.
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Post by gritzi on Oct 17, 2016 1:18:22 GMT
I honestly wouldn't give two sh*ts what a neighbor down the street would think about a deep blue painted door & dark shutters. I don't think those colors sound bad at all. Shutters & doors can easily be repainted should you paint & dislike your color choices.
My answer might be different had you chosen PeptoBismol Pink w/lemon yellow polka dots. Even then none of my business if your colors were allowed by the neighborhood covenants / HOA.
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Post by AnotherPea on Oct 17, 2016 1:20:42 GMT
read the follow up. paint it. Something like that wouldn't bother me and I wouldn't care if it bothered my neighbors. However, when dh and I were buying paint for our home's exterior, I noticed that a neighbor two doors down was doing the same thing I wanted. I did go and ask him if he minded that ours was similar. He didn't care. That was a year ago and we still haven't painted. @@
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