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Post by petenthusiast on Jun 29, 2014 16:24:43 GMT
That's almost all I wanted to know, easy peasy, now is there a reason we can't post the PayPal screen name to send to? I don't think there is personal info with that... Because, as I said, her FULL NAME IS her Paypal account and none of us are interested in putting her full name out there. That is why we will not post the Paypal account publically, because it is HER FULL NAME. Unless you want to post, publicly, YOUR full name as well? It wasn't clear that the actual PayPal screen name is her full name or the info behind the account...either way "as you said" you didn't provide the info until I asked. Thanks
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Post by PinkPrincess77 on Jun 29, 2014 16:26:12 GMT
I answered it to begin with...."It's going directly to Beth's Paypal account, which has her full name..." ETA: But you are welcome.
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Post by petenthusiast on Jun 29, 2014 16:29:26 GMT
I answered it to begin with...."It's going directly to Beth's Paypal account, which has her full name..." ETA: But you are welcome. Yes, you did...AFTER my initial questions. This info was not given PRIOR, hence then questions. We're not psychic here...perhaps you open your wallet to every good cause used with no questioning, but most people aren't that naive to just do so with NO info
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Post by annabella on Jun 29, 2014 16:33:38 GMT
Good lord petenthusiast why so much drama? If you PM someone through this site (not using their yahoo address) you are not sharing your name with anyone. And even if they gave you the paypal info, they don't even know if you go through the process of actually donating. Since your screen name is pet enthusiast no one would even recognize your donation by your name. You don't tell people how to run something, if you don't like it, just don't get involved.
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Post by Kelpea on Jun 29, 2014 16:34:07 GMT
I just went in and donated again for Beth and her husband and wanted to remind everyone to check your Paypal choices: if you select to send money via credit card linked to your Paypal, it will charge a fee. If you select your bank account it won't charge a fee.
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Post by mollycoddle on Jun 29, 2014 16:36:55 GMT
<applauding Annabella>
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Post by petenthusiast on Jun 29, 2014 16:40:35 GMT
That would be a first. She sure showed me though! Honestly, people, all you had to say was it was 1) DIRECT 2) Her full name is the paypal screen name Neither was stated before I asked, so not sure why so defensive--so any "drama" is being incited by those having a problem with simple questions about donating, and the ensuing pile-on since that is apparently so missed by some here. Anyone turning this thread away from its cause are those, not me. SeeYa
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Post by PinkPrincess77 on Jun 29, 2014 16:42:06 GMT
I answered it to begin with...."It's going directly to Beth's Paypal account, which has her full name..." ETA: But you are welcome. Yes, you did...AFTER my initial questions. This info was not given PRIOR, hence then questions. We're not psychic here...perhaps you open your wallet to every good cause used with no questioning, but most people aren't that naive to just do so with NO info You directly quoted me in a previous post, where I said that Beth's e-mail account that is attached to Paypal is her full name (paraphrased) while completely ignoring that I typed that and continued to ask for more information that was already given to you. I posted after your first post. Sarah*H beat me to being the 'original' answer to your question, but I responded to all of your questions and you continued to ask WHY were weren't posting her Paypal publically. If you don't want to donate to Beth and her family, it's completely understandable. However, there is no need to make a big stink about it, as those who DO want to donate are getting the information they need to make a decision to continue to donate or to not. No one is trying to be shady. We ARE trying to help a long time Pea who is dying. <also applauds Annabella>
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Post by M in Carolina on Jun 29, 2014 16:43:42 GMT
I can volunteer to 'man' the paypal info PMs since I'm at home almost all the time and usually on late at night/early morning as well.
I have no problem giving those few peas already involved my name, contact info, whatever to be vested.
I just don't have much money due to my own ongoing health issues and want to help as much as I can.
One thing my mom and her sisters loved when my Grandmother was in hospice was a photo shoot of Grandmother and her 3 girls. She'd been so sick so long that no one had any really great photos. So one Sunday my mom, a hair dresser, fixed Grandma up, we all went to church, and I took photos after. Those photos are so cherished. I wish we could do this for Beth.
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Post by petenthusiast on Jun 29, 2014 16:44:01 GMT
Yes, you did...AFTER my initial questions. This info was not given PRIOR, hence then questions. We're not psychic here...perhaps you open your wallet to every good cause used with no questioning, but most people aren't that naive to just do so with NO info You directly quoted me in a previous post, where I said that Beth's e-mail account that is attached to Paypal is her full name (paraphrased) while completely ignoring that I typed that and continued to ask for more information that was already given to you. I posted after your first post.
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Post by Kelpea on Jun 29, 2014 16:51:41 GMT
As one of the (Peas) who has been communicating with Beth's husband directly, it makes me rather sad that there is all this hullabaloo about our attempts to help a woman who, by an overwhelming majority of Peas, has been loved and appreciated for years. In all honesty if you are uncomfortable about the process, you don't have to participate. But keep the thread positive, as this family is completely wrecked at the moment. Thank you.
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Post by PinkPrincess77 on Jun 29, 2014 16:54:28 GMT
As friends of Beth, we are all completely wrecked and feel very helpless as to what we can do for them, being all over the country ourselves. This was the best idea we could come up with and I KNOW that her husband is grateful.
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 29, 2014 17:00:17 GMT
Thank you minchicago. I think a photo shoot is no longer something that is feasible for them but it is a very kind thought, nonetheless.
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Post by lovetodigi on Jun 29, 2014 17:15:18 GMT
It's BethAnne's personal PayPal account. There are no intermediaries receiving the money and paying them out to her. The money is going directly to her. Her personal email is linked to the PayPal account. Thank you for answering that half of my question. Not sure why it was a big deal It became a big deal because you made it a big deal. It is because of garbage like this that has gone on on the pea board, that people feel that they have to be protective of the privacy of a friend that is going through the last days of their life, and her family. Beth has been a part of this group for years and deserves some respect, especially now. There are many on here that care about her and would want to help. If you don't have anything positive to say, just please don't say anything. This message board is not private. Although only members can post, anyone, anywhere can see and read posts. Would you want your personal information on here? I wouldn't think so. There are several people on here, listed as contacts, that have been around for years and are known to not be the kind of people that would try to scam others. Our only interest is in helping Beth and her family. Only Beth and her family will know who donates and what they donate. We are just trying to provide the information needed for anyone that might want to help.
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Post by doesitmatter on Jun 29, 2014 17:22:09 GMT
Thank you for doing this. PM sent requesting info. Thank you.
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Post by scrappammie on Jun 29, 2014 17:22:28 GMT
I'm terribly sorry, PetEnthusiast, that we all missed your private messages and emails asking what you could do to help out Beth and her family. New boards are hard to get used to aren't they?
I apologize that you became frustrated by our lack of response, and took that to mean perhaps something nefarious was going on with the donation process.
Clearly this statement (from the original post) is confusing: Perhaps you could help us think of ways to make it less so, in order that other compassionate Peas, such as yourself, won't have the same experience. I think you'll agree that the important thing is to help Beth and her family, and any way that we can work together to make that happen is appreciated.
I know that your generous donation will make a difference.
Pam
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2014 17:34:08 GMT
I was finally able to send. I was having a blond senior moment and didnt realize I had to go to my own paypal account in order to send something to Beth's account. Thank you.
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Post by petenthusiast on Jun 29, 2014 17:36:22 GMT
Hey, great job girls with the alienation tactics...very retro.
There seems to be a lot of unwarranted defense about privacy, & the rest. Surely, had someone said PRIOR to my questions that there was a paypal 1) directly to them and 2) that the privacy issue was that paypal screen name was her full name (hence WHY not posting it), there would have been no need for anyone to dare question you.
My only concern that was someone trustworthy (like Sarah*H) was actually handling the $ not just a random bunch of people gathering funds by having people buy their crap. Glad you all knew all of the details that AHEAD OF TIME, but most of us don't.
Did you wonder why, before the pileon that the vast majority of posts were simply BTT. People have reason not to trust---just because you happened to have other info close to the vest, doesn't mean we should trust everyone.
Way to honor Beth's memory with a pile-on. Don't be surprised if the usual tactics hurt what you CLAIM to be wanting to help. Let me know how that works out.
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Post by dawndoll on Jun 29, 2014 17:37:38 GMT
Please send me the Paypal account. I would like to donate.
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Post by I-95 on Jun 29, 2014 17:38:51 GMT
For the life of me, I can't understand what harassment could come from stating on the board who's screen name is handling the Paypal, or if it is even going directly to them? You can see why someone could have an issue with this. Yes the itself cause used is a worthy one, but the questions are valid and vague enough that not answering just draws more as to if it will actually end up in the right place. I do think this is where reading comprehension is so vital to one's existence in life. I went back and reread the initial post and managed to understand that some Peas, whose screen names were clearly shown, were offering to field questions and message the PP email address associated with BETH'S paypal account. There was nothing to suggest that any Pea was collecting money then forwarding it to Beth's DH, or anything of the sort. I would like to think that the vast majority of Peas grasped the concept from the get go, or if they had questions, they sent an email to one of the (well known) Peas listed in the initial post. If you didn't grasp the concept then, chances are you're too dense to handle a PP transaction anyway.
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Post by scrappammie on Jun 29, 2014 17:43:19 GMT
sent you a message, dawndoll.
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 29, 2014 17:46:51 GMT
Just an FYI, this is not the case. Dozens of peas have sent PMs to me and the others as requested in the OP. That being said, I apologize that my original post was unclear and I sincerely hope this can end the argument and we can bring the focus back to Beth. Thank you.
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Post by dynalady on Jun 29, 2014 17:47:02 GMT
Petenthusiast,please. No one is agreeing with you or defending your position, so just let it go and let this thread go on for it's intended purpose.
BTW, it was BTT'd by peas wanting it to stay on the first page so no one would miss it until it got pinned.
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Post by mirabelleswalker on Jun 29, 2014 17:50:24 GMT
Hey, great job girls with the alienation tactics...very retro. There seems to be a lot of unwarranted defense about privacy, & the rest. Surely, had someone said PRIOR to my questions that there was a paypal 1) directly to them and 2) that the privacy issue was that paypal screen name was her full name (hence WHY not posting it), there would have been no need for anyone to dare question you. My only concern that was someone trustworthy (like Sarah*H) was actually handling the $ not just a random bunch of people gathering funds by having people buy their crap. Glad you all knew all of the details that AHEAD OF TIME, but most of us don't. Did you wonder why, before the pileon that the vast majority of posts were simply BTT. People have reason not to trust---just because you happened to have other info close to the vest, doesn't mean we should trust everyone. Way to honor Beth's memory with a pile-on. Don't be surprised if the usual tactics hurt what you CLAIM to be wanting to help. Let me know how that works out. I think most of the previous posts were btt because people were requesting the information via private messaging rather than on this thread. *shrug* This board moves quickly. I was trying to keep it on page one so that people could see it when they logged in. If this thread offends you please do not open it again.
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Post by chlerbie on Jun 29, 2014 17:56:16 GMT
As someone who BTT'ed it, PetEnthusiast, I did so to help keep it up at the top, as this board moves quickly and doesn't have as many threads on the first page. Many people simply look at the first page and I knew that there would be people, interested in helping, who might like to see it. I'm really puzzled by all your animosity on this thread, when things were explained to you SEVERAL times and you still continued to argue whatever point it was that you were trying to make. Your continued doggedness about the issue isn't shedding a negative light on Beth at all--however, I feel that I'm going to be wary about interacting with YOU in the future.
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Post by lbrock44 on Jun 29, 2014 18:01:03 GMT
Perhaps we are being cautious because we are aware that in our friend's last few precious days, we do not want someone harassing her because they have her email address, which you have to have to donate to paypal. There is no screen name for paypal, just an email address. Hence the caution. Honestly, I think you are being an ass. Many of us are having a real hard time dealing with our dear friend's illness. By persisting on this thread, by saying we are trying to alienate you (how retro, indeed), and by you continuing to rub the wound raw, you win the prize for being the first new board antagonist/asswipe. Congrats. Is there a fucking badge for THAT?
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Post by scrappinghappy on Jun 29, 2014 18:20:39 GMT
Thanks. Got the PM and sent a donation. Please let us know if/when more is needed. I will budget for some moreover the next few weeks.
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Post by lucyg on Jun 29, 2014 18:25:23 GMT
Pet Enthusiast, WT everlovin' F is wrong with you?? Please just shut.up.already. and let people help out/grieve/whatever works for them.
No one but you seemed to have trouble comprehending the OP or any of the following eleventy-billion attempts at making you understand.
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Post by TankTop on Jun 29, 2014 18:26:20 GMT
Please send me the information as well.
My heart is breaking for her family.
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Post by Sarah*H on Jun 29, 2014 18:29:22 GMT
I sent you a message Tank Top.
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