missing bloger, Suse Fish, anyone know what happened to her?
Nov 30, 2016 22:26:55 GMT
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Post by sleepingbooty on Nov 30, 2016 22:26:55 GMT
All the input here has been very helpful to understand several things. While many point out that a lack of separation between private and public life can lead to feeling the need to erase the public one to "save" (protect, preserve) the personal one, I think that all the mentions of her addictive personality push Occam's razor towards the addictive behaviour taking over (it's often very extreme: all or nothing as nicolemann9 put it).
Here's an interesting article on PsychologyToday about social media, disconnecting and which personalities should tread more carefully than others.
An excerpt that could relate to what Suse did (bolding is my own emphasis):
I wish her well. If she has quit over addictive behaviour issues, I hope she gets medical help in the form of therapy to help her approach social media and the other areas in life she struggles with due to her tendency to addiction in order to build and develop those skills.
@amayalylac Assuming your profile pic is your own work, you're very talented! Every time I've stumbled across it on here it has captured my attention.
Here's an interesting article on PsychologyToday about social media, disconnecting and which personalities should tread more carefully than others.
An excerpt that could relate to what Suse did (bolding is my own emphasis):
Will going “off the grid” and giving up social media become a trend?
Social media satisfies too many key psychological needs and provides too many economic and social benefits to make it common for people to choose to go off the grid. As social media becomes more “normal” and less “shiny penny,” people will have the experience to be more thoughtful about what they use and when and how they use it. It is normal to experiment with new and popular things to better understand what they do—that’s how we figure out how to use them. People are just getting to that point of reflection, which is driving a lot of the talk about social media breaks and total withdrawal. Withdrawing is easier than figuring out a solution where some use works for you, but it has costs.
Is there a certain type of person or personality who/that should avoid social media?
People who have low self-esteem, poor impulse control or a tendency toward addiction should pay attention to their social media use—but social media use is only one of many places problematic behaviors will manifest. Contrary to many peoples’ fears, social media does not make someone more socially avoidant or isolated. In fact, it can do the opposite by providing access to people and resources. People who have problems with social media--whether it's severe FOMO (fear of missing out), negative social comparison, need for validation or overuse--will have similar issues in other aspects of their life. Rather than avoid social media, it is more effective to identify behavioral problems and learn skills to address and manage them, such as goal setting, self-regulation, and self-control. Those skills are key life skills, transferable to other domains and tend to be the critical determinants of life success—professionally and personally. Positive social media use may, in fact, be an indicator of future success given the need for self-control and goal-setting implied in controlling it.
Social media satisfies too many key psychological needs and provides too many economic and social benefits to make it common for people to choose to go off the grid. As social media becomes more “normal” and less “shiny penny,” people will have the experience to be more thoughtful about what they use and when and how they use it. It is normal to experiment with new and popular things to better understand what they do—that’s how we figure out how to use them. People are just getting to that point of reflection, which is driving a lot of the talk about social media breaks and total withdrawal. Withdrawing is easier than figuring out a solution where some use works for you, but it has costs.
Is there a certain type of person or personality who/that should avoid social media?
People who have low self-esteem, poor impulse control or a tendency toward addiction should pay attention to their social media use—but social media use is only one of many places problematic behaviors will manifest. Contrary to many peoples’ fears, social media does not make someone more socially avoidant or isolated. In fact, it can do the opposite by providing access to people and resources. People who have problems with social media--whether it's severe FOMO (fear of missing out), negative social comparison, need for validation or overuse--will have similar issues in other aspects of their life. Rather than avoid social media, it is more effective to identify behavioral problems and learn skills to address and manage them, such as goal setting, self-regulation, and self-control. Those skills are key life skills, transferable to other domains and tend to be the critical determinants of life success—professionally and personally. Positive social media use may, in fact, be an indicator of future success given the need for self-control and goal-setting implied in controlling it.
I wish her well. If she has quit over addictive behaviour issues, I hope she gets medical help in the form of therapy to help her approach social media and the other areas in life she struggles with due to her tendency to addiction in order to build and develop those skills.
@amayalylac Assuming your profile pic is your own work, you're very talented! Every time I've stumbled across it on here it has captured my attention.