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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 2:12:14 GMT
I'm agnostic leaning towards atheism.
I have known the gift-giver since I was 15. In those 27 years, I have never joined in a prayer at dinner with them (I do bow my head out of respect), I have never gone to church (my wedding was held in one because it was the "expected" thing to do in my town, and that was ten years AFTER I met this person), I have never given any sign that I was religious in any way. And actually, I've always said I was a "heathen" or "hedging my bets". No religion (although I do love singing Christmas carols, but it's the music not the words) expression, period.
They gave me a birthday gift last night and I opened it today. It is a set of miniature dishes that have very religious quotes on them. I could easily look past the horrible background (an animal print which is even wrapped around one of the crosses) or put them away until this person came to visit (about once a month) but they are so very religious that I cannot.
I really, truly, do not understand the thought process that went into this gift.
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Dec 22, 2016 2:13:45 GMT
Wow!
do you collect miniature dishes?
I would be totally confused.
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Post by Delta Dawn on Dec 22, 2016 2:15:57 GMT
Maybe she thinks you need Jesus? I have nothing. I find it not offensive but thoughtless. Can you donate them? I don't know what else to suggest.
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Post by Zee on Dec 22, 2016 2:20:38 GMT
Hmmm. Normally I'm not one to look a gift horse in the mouth, but that's just odd. I think I'd have to say something, such as "I really appreciate the gift, but I'm not at all religious. Did you think I was? Or that I need it." Just to clarify the thought behind it.
Because it could be a thoughtful gift, or it could be more of a bit of an insult.
I'd be more likely to let it go if it was an older religious relative, of course, but if it's someone I consider a friend I'd want to get to the bottom of it.
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 2:23:01 GMT
The weirdest thing is that they gave me a Christmas present that I will use every day until it wears out. It is the best present, one that they HAD to have paid attention to notice that I use.
Dh says I should blame whatever happens to them on the cats or my MS. I'm assuming he means they should "accidentally" be left lying about.
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Post by annabella on Dec 22, 2016 2:28:39 GMT
Who is the gift giver? I would donate the plates to goodwill and never give it another thought. Everyone has plates, why would you buy someone plates? Maybe your cabinets are full, it's clearly not to your taste, I find the gift rude and wouldn't feel the need to use it to please the gift giver.
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 2:32:41 GMT
Wow! do you collect miniature dishes? I would be totally confused. Nope. Can't stand knicknack-y things unless there is a family history. |
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Post by Deleted on Dec 22, 2016 2:37:24 GMT
Perhaps they regifted a gift or just grabbed something as an afterthought because your birthday is so close to Christmas? DS is born the day after Christmas so while his Christmas gifts are usually more personalized, his birthday gifts are usually just GC/money or sometimes forgotten altogether.  |
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Post by jeremysgirl on Dec 22, 2016 2:37:37 GMT
My response really depends on the relationship of the gift giver. If this were a.friend, I would straight up ask. If this were a friend of my parents I would simply thank them for the gift and then donate them. If this were a family member I'd probably be insulted they did not know me well enough or that they were trying to insinuate I needed Jesus.
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Post by scrapmaven on Dec 22, 2016 2:38:32 GMT
Say, "Thank you" and donate them to a church.
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Post by carhoch on Dec 22, 2016 2:38:59 GMT
Maybe they got it as a present  |
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Post by Rainy_Day_Woman on Dec 22, 2016 2:41:39 GMT
Those sound the the kind of perfectly weird kitchy religious items that I collect.  . I am also a heathen- I just think they are funny. So I say embrace them and have tiny tea parties for Jesus. |
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Post by mikklynn on Dec 22, 2016 2:52:16 GMT
The weirdest thing is that they gave me a Christmas present that I will use every day until it wears out. It is the best present, one that they HAD to have paid attention to notice that I use. Dh says I should blame whatever happens to them on the cats or my MS. I'm assuming he means they should "accidentally" be left lying about. Weird! I love your DH's solution. |
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 2:52:47 GMT
Who is the gift giver? I would donate the plates to goodwill and never give it another thought. Everyone has plates, why would you buy someone plates? Maybe your cabinets are full, it's clearly not to your taste, I find the gift rude and wouldn't feel the need to use it to please the gift giver. It is family. The plates are only four-five inches across. |
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 2:54:45 GMT
Those sound the the kind of perfectly weird kitchy religious items that I collect. . I am also a heathen- I just think they are funny. So I say embrace them and have tiny tea parties for Jesus. I dunno. I think Jesus would wonder "what's up with the giraffe print?" |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Dec 22, 2016 4:39:37 GMT
That is pretty weird! I wouldn't waste a minute donating those bad boys, and bonus points if there is a church in your area having a white elephant sale you can donate them to!  |
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Post by ktdoesntscrap on Dec 22, 2016 4:47:56 GMT
I think we need a photo.....  |
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 4:57:46 GMT
I think we need a photo..... Yo Ave to wait until after Christmas. I wrapped those bad boys back up and set the package near the tree so the giver won't ask what I thought. |
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Post by cycworker on Dec 22, 2016 5:36:40 GMT
I must see a picture. I must.
Is there any possibility the giver gave you the wrong gift? Maybe these were meant for Aunt Martha who DOES collect miniature dishes?
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Post by gar on Dec 22, 2016 7:51:14 GMT
I would guess at simple thoughtlessness perhaps. They liked them and just went from there. But thoughtlessness can be hurtful if it's from someone close who really shouldn't be casual about what they give as a present to someone they love.
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Post by ceepea on Dec 22, 2016 8:04:15 GMT
giraffe print with a religious quote? Yikes, they sound awful. Maybe they thought you would think they were funny? Thank them then get rid of them. If they ask you what you did with them you can always say you put them away for safe keeping.
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Post by inkedup on Dec 22, 2016 8:06:13 GMT
Those sound the the kind of perfectly weird kitchy religious items that I collect. . I am also a heathen- I just think they are funny. So I say embrace them and have tiny tea parties for Jesus. "Tiny tea parties for Jesus!" |
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Post by **Angie** on Dec 22, 2016 8:21:45 GMT
I must see a picture. I must. Is there any possibility the giver gave you the wrong gift? Maybe these were meant for Aunt Martha who DOES collect miniature dishes? There's going to be four layers of tape if I cut it open again! Lol |
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Post by camcas on Dec 22, 2016 9:08:12 GMT
I agree...maybe this can be the start of an epic thread......let's have a " my Christmas gift was weirder and more hideous than yours " thread!!!
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Dec 22, 2016 11:14:25 GMT
I have had the opposite problem with my sister in law who is not religious. She will buy me the most ridiculous gifts that have some resemblance of Christianity for every holiday but they make no sense. One year she bought me a toy, nothing cute or collectible, Noah's Ark. When I opened it she made some comment about how I like "God things". She would totally buy me animal print miniature plates with crosses! I don't think her intentions are bad, I just think she's clueless.
It used to bother me but now I just thank her and move on.
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Post by LavenderLayoutLady on Dec 22, 2016 11:41:14 GMT
Who is the gift giver? I would donate the plates to goodwill and never give it another thought. Everyone has plates, why would you buy someone plates? Maybe your cabinets are full, it's clearly not to your taste, I find the gift rude and wouldn't feel the need to use it to please the gift giver. I totally agree with this. |
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Post by RosieKat on Dec 22, 2016 14:50:35 GMT
So I say embrace them and have tiny tea parties for Jesus. ROFL, almost literally! I did completely snort with laughter, though! |
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Post by tincin on Dec 22, 2016 15:17:15 GMT
I say regift them back to the gift giver next Christmas explaining that you enjoyed them so much that you felt she should have a set as well. |
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Post by pastlifepea on Dec 22, 2016 15:21:15 GMT
I have had the opposite problem with my sister in law who is not religious. She will buy me the most ridiculous gifts that have some resemblance of Christianity for every holiday but they make no sense. One year she bought me a toy, nothing cute or collectible, Noah's Ark. When I opened it she made some comment about how I like "God things". She would totally buy me animal print miniature plates with crosses! I don't think her intentions are bad, I just think she's clueless. It used to bother me but now I just thank her and move on. Okay, this reminds me of a fun family story. Non-religious MIL & SIL were visiting us one year and we went to a huge flea market. We split up and she was with DSIL for a couple of hours while DH and I explored on our own. While alone, DH and I came upon a booth with these horrible religious holographic clocks. They were very, very bad. Think lots of fake gold, shininess, ornate Jesus pictures, etc. We laughed about them. A lot. Met up with MIL later and she proudly showed us the Christmas gift she bought for BIL & SIL. Yep, a big Jesus clock. Because, "They like Jesus." Yeah...trying to not burst out laughing was not easy. Next time we were up visiting BIL & SIL, we did ask them about their Jesus clock and told them the story. Something had "happened" to the clock and they didn't have it anymore. Imagine that...lol. |
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Post by Mary_K on Dec 22, 2016 15:25:49 GMT
I want to know what the other gift was that you loved and will use every day.
In other words, I'm still looking for ideas!
Mary K
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