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Post by jumperhop on Jan 17, 2017 21:53:53 GMT
One of my kids was convinced all the time they had some fatal or dire disease. It was exhausting. If they were quiet when they were home we knew they were really sick. One time they told me there was a disease going around school where kids just stopped bresthing and they died. They followed that little gem up with, "I am pretty sure I have it." Disgusted by my laughter and sensible argument that if there was such a widespread disease at their school surely I would have seen something on the news or the school would have told us. Child stormed off. Came and found me 15 minutes later to tell me, "I had a drink of water and feel better, I guess I was just thirsty,". I don't have any wisdom on how to deal with it, but unless they are puking or having bathroom issues my policy was they can get through the 6 hours or so of school, Reminds me of the time my 12 year old DS came home from school and said, "just so you know I am going to be sick tomorrow." He had a book report due! Jen
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Post by sfscrapper on Jan 17, 2017 21:55:50 GMT
Both of mine let me know about all their aches and pains. Sometimes it is exhausting. With my son, I always pushed him to stay the day b/c he would stay home with each sneeze or sniffle. My daughter hates to miss school and just needs to "talk" about how she feels. She has to feel really awful to come home.
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Post by jumperhop on Jan 17, 2017 22:01:06 GMT
My DH and I often joke that our ds14 would die if he had to go through child birth. We never know if he's actually in that much pain or if he just doesn't know how to handle discomfort. Reminds me of the one time he wasn't feeling well with a stomach bug. On our way home he is spazzing about the pain in his stomach. At that point we worried if he needed to get his appendix looked at. So I took him to the er, while in the waiting room he tells me he feels like he needs to have a bowel movement... shortly afterwards he comes out and he's feeling much better. Before I can say let's go home, we're called into the doctors office where I end up looking like a Paranoid mom who doesn't know the difference between a stomach ache where your child just needs to poop vs appendicitis. We had a stern talk on the way home... Appendix is always my concern too. Years ago I missed Amish Country on our trip to PA because she had a horrible stomach ache and my DH was worried about her appendix. We took her back to the hotel to "rest" she spent the rest of the day in the hotel pool. I was ticked. Jen
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Post by jumperhop on Jan 17, 2017 22:04:11 GMT
My daughter (high school) has been texting me all day. "I am in so much pain" "Hurts" "Very uncomfortable" "seriously, I might throw up" "pain" "stomach hurts" Last week she was on her period and I got the same texts the entire week. She came home one day early. She can't come home from school every time she feels an ache somewhere. She over dramatizes so much so that I don't know when to take her serious. And if God forbid she ever had something seriously wrong with her I would not take her seriously. Am I the only Mother with kids who do this? How do you deal with this? Jen If I kept doing that, my mom would probably text something snarky back like, "Fart and you'll feel better". Then again, I'm just like her and can't seem to settle down and rest when I'm sick and really should be resting. I am so going to use this next time.
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Post by finaledition on Jan 17, 2017 22:17:06 GMT
Haha yes this is my dd. She is a senior and just turned 18 so I'm not sure why she is texting me and just doesn't sign herself out of school. I think she just likes to complain. Today's complaint....my neck hurts.
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Post by johnnysmom on Jan 17, 2017 22:35:19 GMT
Omg yes. I'm nearly ready to push mine off a cliff today. He's got PMS something fierce. His neck is stiff and his teeth hurt (braces tightened yesterday) and he's tired because I allowed yds to ask him to play video games instead of letting him sleep in.....it was 10:30!! (Stupid snow days) I'm taking them both to school tomorrow.....snow day or not
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Post by birdy on Jan 17, 2017 22:48:24 GMT
DD is only 10, so no texts yet. But she is a complainer, about EVERYTHING!!! Every little ache, pain, bump, bruise, cut, and on and on. When she is "sick" and wants to stay home I tell her she can, but she is not allowed out of her bed at all (unless to use the bathroom). She gets 1 hour of screen time either tv or iPod, her choice, but the rest of the time is quiet relax/sleep time. It's funny how quickly she gets "better" and can suddenly go to school.
Same child also hates to take medicine. It is a fight every time. So, when she tells me her head hurts or stomach hurts, or something hurts, I get the appropriate medicine out and start to get it ready. Suddenly, "I think I'm feeling better." Ha!
I know she's really sick when she's willing to take medicine or forgo tv time to just lay in bed!
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Post by AllieC on Jan 17, 2017 22:59:55 GMT
if her complains are menstrual related, take her to a gynecologist to find out what the best treatment is for her. Don't try to let a pediatrician or gp treat her. Time to move to a specialist. The gyno can also help you determine when it is a real issue and when you need to hand out a "suck it up butter cup" I agree with this. I suffered terribly from period pain when I was young. I had days off school every month, I had a very high pain threshold but this was debilitating. When my dd started getting the same pains I did not dismiss them, I took it seriously and got a treatment plan from our GP. She has been so much better since.
I understand drama queen behaviour etc but I think if you haven't suffered from serious period pain, it is hard to understand how bad it can be.
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Post by melanell on Jan 18, 2017 0:20:24 GMT
now that they are older - I relax the rule when there are specific symptoms that require them to stay home (fever, vomiting/diarrhea within 24 hrs) or if they've seen the doctor and been told to stay home but for the vague 'I don't feel good' days...no screens Yes, I agree. I do that as well. For instance, they have to be fever free for 24 hours to go back to school. So if my kid is home because he's got a temp. of 100, but otherwise is feeling must better, I'm not going to insist that he stay in bed all day. But for the vague "Oh, I feel so bad. I totally can't even get out of bed" type dramatics...then fine, stay in bed, buddy. Save
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Post by ellen on Jan 18, 2017 0:44:08 GMT
When my oldest daughter had her appendix removed we made the comment that she had diagnosed herself with appendicitis several times prior, it was just the first time she was actually right. Once she hit her teen years she let me know every little ache & pain she had. She's in college and still does. Sometimes I text her back with a list of my current ailments.
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Post by grate on Jan 18, 2017 0:44:42 GMT
glad to know i am not the only one!
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Post by refugeepea on Jan 18, 2017 0:50:46 GMT
Me: Time to come home Her: Awwww please can I stay longer Me: No Her: Why??? It's dark and cold outside Can you get me then Me: No Her: It's dark Me: No Her: K She was at a friend's house less than 1/2 a block away.
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Post by kate on Jan 18, 2017 1:20:10 GMT
Like jumperhop, mine is a drama queen. Recently, she called to tell me she broke her toe ("I Googled it, and I have all the symptoms!"). DH, the other kids, and I were on the other side of town. I didn't consider going home, but then I second-guessed myself - what if she really did have a broken toe? But the likelihood was small, and you can't really do much for a broken toe besides ice, anyway... Sure enough, she was fine a couple of hours later when we got home. My fear is that one day Something Big will happen and I'll tell her to suck it up and go to school anyway. We've had many a discussion about "crying Wolf", but to no apparent avail.
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Post by lancermom on Jan 18, 2017 3:56:05 GMT
I had one like this. It started in Kindergarten. After keeping track for a couple years I decided to give a break. They could get a freebie. Anytime during the school year they could have one day off. No excuses for being sick. Just be up front and tell me, I need the day off. That was it, he knew he could at will say, I'm out. He used one or two days,(during elementary -Jr High) but that was it. Kind of odd how we went from being sick all the time to very healthy! He is now a senior. He has been sick twice this year, for real! Last week I had him stay home two days because he was needing rest. When he leaves the electronics on his own and goes to bed at 7:00, I knew he was sick. My youngest used a day last year. She had two nights of activities that didn't get her home until after ten. She had a test. Asked if she could stay home to study. Went to school the next day and took her test. My oldest was having friend issues her senior year. She called, I could tell in her voice something was up. She went home, cried it out and went to back the next day feeling better. My oldest and youngest are great students. My middle one struggled, but this year he has really improved. I know some do not agree, but it works for us.
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Post by debmast on Jan 18, 2017 12:43:36 GMT
I disagree with the last line. My college kid texts me often. Not to complain, but just to say hey, see how we are, tell me about classes, or sometimes tell me she loves. She doesn't complain, ask for money or look for advice. She has a life and so do I, but I'll always want to know what's up with her. My daughter texts too, but snapchats a lot! That's the only reason I do snapchat, to get pictures of her at school and with her friends/boyfriend. I screenshot every picture with her and other people. And it's my alma mater (so proud!) so I love when she sends me pictures of the beautiful campus! She is 5 hrs. away. She is actually much more talkative now that she is away at college! Yes, mind Snaps too! She's 8 hours away. Definitely a different communication level when they move away. I enjoy seeing what's going on in her life (and I'm sure I don't see it all LOL - and that's okay too)
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Post by Deleted on Jan 18, 2017 12:53:33 GMT
Haha yes this is my dd. She is a senior and just turned 18 so I'm not sure why she is texting me and just doesn't sign herself out of school. I think she just likes to complain. Today's complaint....my neck hurts. They can sign themselves out at 18? Shhhhhh...don't tell my dd.
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Post by smalltowngirlie on Jan 18, 2017 12:58:30 GMT
My DS is the opposite. He was about 8 or 9 years old and he walked up to me and said, "My throat is a little scratchy" I took a look and the back of his throat was bright red, white spots and so swollen. I got him into urgent care and I told the Dr. I think he may have strep. She took a look and literally said, "Ya think" She ordered the strep test and the anitbiotic shot at the same time. She said they have to do the test, but as soon as it came back positive he could get the shot and go home. She asked DS how much it hurt and he said, "A little". Even now if he says he is sick, I know he is sick. He just does not complain about stuff. BTW as for texting from college, I welcome every one from him, especially the ones that are longer than one word.
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Post by momto4kiddos on Jan 18, 2017 13:00:53 GMT
Most of mine are not complainers, but my youngest makes up for all of them. I take most of her complaints with a grain of salt because she's always complaining! If she makes her way to the nurses office, then I figure she may actually be sick, lol.
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Post by fredfreddy on Jan 18, 2017 15:16:08 GMT
Yes my oldest did that as a teenager. One year I counted, if I had let her stay home every time she said she was sick, she would have stayed home 18 times or 10% of the year. She had summer school and one morning called me 20 minutes in to come pick her up because she was sick. I refused. She couldn't afford to miss a whole day. She wasn't sick - just didn't want to be in school.
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Post by Anne-Marie on Jan 18, 2017 17:13:10 GMT
What if you text her back and say if you feel that bad I'll come pick you up and we'll go straight to the doctor's? I am going try this. Y'all are going to think I'm the meanest mom ever but not only do I tell her we'll go straight to the doctor but also that the doctor probably has a shot that'll make her feel better. She HATES shots so her reaction is generally is a pretty good indicator of how bad she really feels. A few weeks ago she was "feeling bad" on a Thursday night, and still on Friday morning, we sent her to school anyway (because if we kept her home every time she didn't feel perfect she would never be there). I was out of town for the day, started receiving texts from DD's best friend about how bad DD was feeling. DH left work and went to the school to pick her up and she seemed almost surprised to see him and he said she didn't seem to feel bad AT ALL once he got her home. So now the rule is you feel bad, you go to the school nurse and she and I will decide if you need to be picked up.
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Post by scrappymum on Jan 18, 2017 22:58:57 GMT
My daughter was the same, and she suffered from terrible periods. I too, had terrible periods as a teenager, usually missing at least one day of school each month with them. I really felt for her, and felt terrible when I couldn't go get her at times. Most times she would struggle thru the day, but sometimes she would call me crying, she was in so much pain. I knew she wasn't faking, I had seen her the same at home. I took her off to the doctor to get some help for the periods. It still continued and it turned out she has IBS as well. She is 29 now, has help for her IBS, monitors her diet better, etc, but she went through a really rough time during high school.
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Post by cindytred on Jan 19, 2017 4:48:10 GMT
I'm a self-admitted helicopter mom. When my oldest was away at college I texted her everyday before it got dark to make sure she was alive and accounted for. Now that my youngest is in her junior year at college I've gotten lazy and I text her every night before 10:00 for her to check in. My kids don't mind. My current college student says that none of her friends parents do that and they are jealous that she and I are so close.
Now, the illness thing. The youngest can be dramatic - but when she texted me that her throat hurt and she felt like she was dying, I jumped on it right away. I called her back to make sure that she was just being dramatic and didn't need to see a doctor. Luckily, her college is only 90 minutes away so I can be there quickly if necessary. My girls are 29 and 20 and they just don't need me that much anymore. I'm happy to be there when they do.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 19, 2017 6:11:54 GMT
My mother was the ultimate when you die I will believe you mother.
Sent me to school with a 104 fever, told me if I didn't go then they would take me to the hospital, and since everyone I knew who had gone to the hospital died.... My teacher threaten to call cps if my parents did come get and take me to a doctor. I wish she did.
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