Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Feb 14, 2017 14:42:21 GMT
I'm crowdsourcing. As a former Mormon, I'm navigating alcohol for the first time in my life. How do you store it? If you have teens/kids, do you keep it locked up? I'd kind of love a cool bar setup, but I'm not sure what's responsible... Bonus points for pictures!
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styxgirl
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Post by styxgirl on Feb 14, 2017 14:58:32 GMT
We don't keep it out. It's in a cabinet. What's in there is mostly left over from other people bringing stuff over when we have NYE or super bowl parties. We don't keep it out since it's just not used very often.
I don't lock it up as for now, I have no reason to.
My DDs are 14 and 12. I would like to say they know better. YMMV And MMMV!
I do watch the cabinet close when we have parties for them and lots of friends are over.
I have thought about buying a lock for that cabinet but haven't needed to yet.
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Post by malibou on Feb 14, 2017 15:00:53 GMT
I like to decant into pretty bottles for the plain old vodka, rum, gin. A lot fancier alcohols come in pretty bottles.
I have a fairly dorky 16 year old son. We don't lock up the alcohol. However, if we were leaving him overnight by himself, I might contemplate it based on my wild teenage days.
If you like the look of a bar cart, and who doesn't, you could set out just a couple of bottles and then accessorize with the pretty glasses, beverage shaker, jigger, a dish for nuts, maybe a small vase for flowers.
J
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Post by peano on Feb 14, 2017 15:01:54 GMT
I store everything in a cabinet, actually two cabinets; we have a lot of booze, not only because we drink it, but because I tend to bake with it at the holidays. I store vodka in the refrigerator because I enjoy a very cold martini. I love the way drinks carts look, but we don't really have a logical place to put one.
I have a 17 year old who is not interested in drinking at this point in his life, but even if I thought he was interested I wouldn't make any attempt to keep it under lock and key. You may not know this, but non-Mormon teenagers have managed to procure alcohol for themselves for years, so don't imagine that locking up your booze means they won't find another way to get it.
For some, it's their practice to offer their children a sample of alcohol while they're out at a restaurant or something, to remove the illicit/secret factor and to model responsible drinking in a supervised setting. My parents did this, and we have offered our son sips at restaurants, which he has always turned down. I know there have been heated debates here before on this topic.
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Post by jennyap on Feb 14, 2017 15:03:20 GMT
No kids. Wine is in a very utilitarian rack in the kitchen (or in the fridge!) Spirits on the bottom shelf of a glass fronted cabinet with glassware above:
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Post by hop2 on Feb 14, 2017 15:10:10 GMT
We have a bar and everything is out EXCEPT the alcohol. Glasses, mixers etc are on shelves but the booze is inside a locking cabinet. It's not my kids I don't trust but I don't want it 'out' Per see if/when they have friends over. The lock just takes the temptation away. Affords us some time to notice if they are mischievous
I'm out so can't do pictures right now.
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Post by lesley on Feb 14, 2017 15:15:16 GMT
At the moment, my bottles of booze just sit on the top of one of my kitchen cabinets. I have a tiny kitchen and there is nowhere else for it. DS19 has offered to store it in his bedroom, but that's a sure fire way for it to disappear altogether! I don't imbibe, but both of my kids enjoy a few drinks occasionally. I have never felt the need to lock alcohol away (from the kids anyway, ex-DH was a different matter. )
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Post by Deleted on Feb 14, 2017 15:17:12 GMT
We don't keep booze at home but I'd love something like this. or this
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Post by anonrefugee on Feb 14, 2017 15:20:10 GMT
I grew up in home with the classic wet bar, and DH's family used a cabinet. Neither one of us have ever thought about locking it up, although there was an alcoholic family member in DHs life.
I admit we've checked the levels a couple of times!
We only had the corner cabinet built in wet bar in this house, and removed it long ago. Ours is stored in a furniture piece, with some tools but no glasses. I think bar displays are cool, but there's not a good place for one in our house unless it's a party.
I guess we treat it like any other pantry item.
I normally say we model moderate behavior. But DH went through a period that's just ending. He was quietly drinking while watching tv., 2-3 drinks the past year or more. (ETA 2-4 drinks per evening when he did this, not total 2-3 per year!) Maybe not an alcoholic, but not healthy and definitely numbing and counter productive. He's stopped that and we've tried to include the escapism factor in discussions with our kids. It's an ongoing discussion.
I grew up trying a few gross tastes offered by my parents. DH remember really liking it when he was offered, so it's only with mid teen we've let him taste when he asks.
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Post by Dalai Mama on Feb 14, 2017 15:21:53 GMT
We keep it in the cupboard. I have two sons, 15 & 17 neither of whom will drink when offered so I'm pretty comfortable not locking it up.
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Post by LeaP on Feb 14, 2017 15:23:05 GMT
We keep it in a kitchen cabinet and on a wine rack. We don't have much and we live in a small house so no space for an actual bar.
We have teens but don't lock it up, I have this idea that I don't want them to think it is a mysterious, forbidden treat. Both have sampled wine and such. I don't want them to go out binge drinking in the world at large.
My girls were very amused when I showed them the bottle opener known as the butler's helper and explained how it works.
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Gennifer
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Post by Gennifer on Feb 14, 2017 15:25:15 GMT
I've offered my kids a sip of wine, mainly to deter them from wanting to drink right now. Right now, we have the alcohol in a cabinet above the wall ovens, so it's fairly high, but certainly where my teenagers could reach it if they wanted. I want to normalize drinking for adults, but I also don't want them to think that it's free game for them at this stage in their life. I just really have no idea what normal people do, since alcohol isn't a thing people in my life do, or have ever done.
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Post by auntkelly on Feb 14, 2017 15:26:10 GMT
We have a small built in bar w/ a small refrigerator in our living room where we keep beer and soda. We have built in wine racks for wine storage. Once we open a bottle of wine, it goes in the fridge (both red and white). We keep vodka in the freezer (the vodka doesn't freeze and the bottle doesn't break). We generally don't have many other types of liquor on hand, but when we do, we store it in the cabinet over the refrigerator.
When our kids were teens we didn't keep our liquor under lock and key, but we did keep an eye on the booze. It sounds like we have a ton of booze in the house, but we really don't. At any one time, my husband and I could tell you how many bottles of beer were in the refrigerator or how full the vodka bottle was, so I think we would have known if the kids were getting into our liquor. I'm pretty sure they found other ways to get liquor, but I don't think it was from our stash.
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Post by jengels999 on Feb 14, 2017 15:26:34 GMT
We mainly just have beer and hard cider, but we have a few other things, and we keep it in our cold food storage. It is nice to have it cold and waiting when we went it.
Janell
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Post by epeanymous on Feb 14, 2017 15:28:28 GMT
I keep most of mine in a built-in bar in our office. i have a bar storage end table that I use for seldom-used liquor that I don't really need to keep out (sweet vermouth for the occasional friend who likes Manhattans, eg).
My oldest is 14. She isn't interested in alcohol yet. If our lives restructure so that she is around the house with friends when we aren't home, I may start thinking about a locked cabinet (and I have no idea what the younger kids will be like as teens). My parents only kept beer around our house, so that was easy for them to track.
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Post by leannec on Feb 14, 2017 15:32:24 GMT
We don't keep a lot of alcohol in the house other than beer and wine ... that is kept in our second fridge so not locked up ... Dd#1 turns 18 this month which is the legal drinking age here in Alberta ... but I know that she doesn't like beer or wine so I don't worry about her drinking ours ... dd#2 is 13 and hasn't thought about it yet I hope I don't have the room for a cool bar cart but I wish I did
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Post by ahiller on Feb 14, 2017 15:34:55 GMT
We have a bar in our basement and keep some of the less used stuff down there. The rest is in a kitchen cupboard. Nothing is locked up, my kids are still little.
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Post by River on Feb 14, 2017 15:37:36 GMT
Ours is just in a glass front, but lattice work behind the glass, cabinet in the kitchen. All the pretty glasses and accessories are in the glass (front and back) cabinet atop the breakfast bar, so on display. We do not lock up or hide the alcohol. We are pretty open about drinking, addiction, binging and everything else a teenager should be thinking about. We've let our teenagers have a sip to test on occasion and so far the reaction has been to gag and quickly find something else to drink.
We are not naïve though, and watch the levels in the bottles, since we really only drink when company comes over. So far, the 19 year old shows no interest in drinking, even out with friends. He's never been very susceptible to peer pressure, so I hope he continues to avoid it. The 16 year old, I'll keep a closer eye on him. No interest for him either, but he is more susceptible to peer pressure. He's a popular jock too, so I know that can play a role in him trying things out.
We are very open parents though and believe that temptation is higher when something is/has always been forbidden.
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Post by smartypants71 on Feb 14, 2017 15:38:16 GMT
I have a built in wine rack for wine storage, and I keep booze in a cabinet. I am not really a drink at home type of person unless we are having a party, so my liquor cabinet consists of a bottle of Jack. We usually go out for cocktails.
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Post by brina on Feb 14, 2017 15:43:24 GMT
We have an old wood cabinet that we had refinished. It is not locked. I do keep an eye on levels in bottles. So far my teens have not touched it. Someday they will, but I am going to trust them until they give me reason not to.
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Post by red88 on Feb 14, 2017 15:51:14 GMT
Like you I grew up in a very mormon family, but with a twist...father is an alcoholic. Alcohol was the dirty little secret in our family, along with many other offenses. As soon as it was offered to me when I was about 15, I jumped on that as fast as I could, what kid doesn't love finding out why things are kept so secret. I drank a lot in high school.
As I grew up & left the mormon cult, I realized that drinking to get drunk is not fun & rather miserable. I also wasn't going to raise my kids the same way. My husband & I were very open about alcohol & other subjects. I only had 1 daughter try alcohol before age 21. My other 3 never did. My oldest daughter that tried it didn't really care for it & rarely drinks now days.
We do not lock up our alcohol & I store it in a cabinet that I purchased from Ikea. Wine is stored in the cabinet in a wine rack. The whiskey & other's are stored on top of the cabinet. I'm on the look out for a copper shaker set & copper tray.
I'm learning a lot about wine & food pairings. I enjoy this very much. I'm lucky enough to live in Oregon's wine country, so we go often to different vineyards & events.
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Post by bc2ca on Feb 14, 2017 15:51:38 GMT
We keep the hard stuff and liqueurs in a credenza in the living room. A ginormous bottle of Grey Goose vodka (gifted to DH) too tall for any cupboard sat on the credenza for a long time and is now on the floor of our guest room closet. Beer and wine are mostly stored in the garage. I grew up with all alcohol accessible and, TBH, it never occurred to me to lock it up from the kids (18 & 19). None of my friends have their alcohol under lock either. DD has legally been to bars when visiting with her cousins and I don't have a problem with her, or her brother, having a taste at home. DH would love a bar like this one from Crate & Barrel:
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Post by gryroagain on Feb 14, 2017 15:57:55 GMT
We have a fabulous beer fridge that is a Korean restaurant fridge. It is my most favorite piece of furniture. We keep beer and pop in it, hard alcohol (which is mostly gifts and for looks, lol) on top. I have never worried about the kids. My oldest dd accompanied me to a ball last week and had champagne and wine (she is 18) and did not care for either . They have the odd mimosa at Christmas but that is it, so locking it up never occurred to me.
It's just booze. It isnt meth. I do love ,y beer fridge though!
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Feb 14, 2017 16:13:58 GMT
I have a cabinet in the kitchen where I stole bottles. At this point, I don't have to worry about DD - she wouldn't touch it if I paid her. I would be more cautious if I was leaving her and friends home alone but that hasn't been an issue yet.
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Post by pastlifepea on Feb 14, 2017 16:14:04 GMT
Kept inside a cabinet. We've never locked it as neither kid was every really interested in alcohol. Only one left is 16 and we have let her have a sip of things probably the last 4 years or so. Most stuff she hates. Last weekend I got some hard grape and orange sodas. She tasted and liked those so maybe I'll have to hide them but probably not. I think whether you need to lock or not really depends on your kids. My parents should have locked but didn't.
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Post by anonrefugee on Feb 14, 2017 16:19:23 GMT
I've offered my kids a sip of wine, mainly to deter them from wanting to drink right now. Right now, we have the alcohol in a cabinet above the wall ovens, so it's fairly high, but certainly where my teenagers could reach it if they wanted. I want to normalize drinking for adults, but I also don't want them to think that it's free game for them at this stage in their life. I just really have no idea what normal people do, since alcohol isn't a thing people in my life do, or have ever done. Having grown up with it and raised kids that it wasn't for them, I first read your "free game" sentence as odd. Why would they think it was open to them, it's for adults. But then I realized I couldn't think of a comparable product! Cigarettes? Maybe for adults, but neither grew up with them or now. Cookies and ice cream? We let kids have some times, and teach them to stay out of it at others. I think I'm starting to understand how confusing your situation might be. I've no further help, except normalizing and demystifying most things removed a lot of the enticement.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Feb 14, 2017 16:20:27 GMT
We don't lock up our liquor. I've never seen the need, and unless our lifestyle changes - there really isn't a whole lot of opportunity. If we hit the point where we're leaving our teens over night or otherwise unsupervised for long periods of time, I might reevaluate. There's little we can do about the wine though - we have a pretty substantial wine rack - although they'd probably worry about grabbing the wrong bottle - or they damn sure should be.
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Post by annie on Feb 14, 2017 16:46:35 GMT
Ours is just out. Hard alcohol in a cupboard, wine in a wine rack. It's always been there, since they were little. I personally wouldn't lock it up because that's not the relationship I have with my kids. It is just a normal thing that's there for adults. Trust. My college kid drinks when he is away at school, just like I did when I was that age, but he knows better than to ask for it or take ours when he's home lol. I trust until there is a reason to not.
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Post by Why on Feb 14, 2017 17:07:42 GMT
If and when any of you find a need to lock up the bottles please make sure the hinges are on the inside of the cabinet. We reached that point with my DS's friends but they just knocked out the hinge pins
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Post by refugeepea on Feb 14, 2017 17:17:16 GMT
I understand what you are saying Gennifer . I'm still scared to try alcohol. It's more of not knowing how I'll handle it, what is my limit kind of thing. I feel like I have to always be very alert because of my son with special needs. My husband has a drink or 2 on the weekends. He doesn't lock up the alcohol.
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