zookeeper
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Post by zookeeper on Aug 25, 2017 23:22:58 GMT
I want to know how the young girl is whose pea mom posted recently about her daughter seeing a man following her around the house and bothering her when she is trying to rest.
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DEX
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Post by DEX on Aug 26, 2017 0:51:20 GMT
Frankly, I am worried about Luvinlifelady. She had so much going on and then poof. She was gone. I wish she would pop in and just let us know she is O.K. Of course, she is under no obligation.
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Just T
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Post by Just T on Aug 26, 2017 0:56:39 GMT
I have noticed that M in Carolina hasn't posted in a long time, and I've wondered how she is doing.
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scrappinmama
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Post by scrappinmama on Aug 26, 2017 0:59:20 GMT
It was. She hasn't posted since April. 😕 I hope she's ok. She certainly deserved better and hope she finds peace and happiness.
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Post by cindytred on Aug 26, 2017 2:17:46 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 26, 2017 3:05:11 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
Thanks for the update Cindy. In my opinion you have no reason to be ashamed, we all do what we have to survive and sometimes things do not work out as we hoped. I am glad that you have a little bit of peace and hope eventually you will be able to live the life that you dream of. I wish you happiness and peace. I am glad that your students get to have the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world...that is a true gift you are giving them.
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GiantsFan
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Post by GiantsFan on Aug 26, 2017 3:24:19 GMT
I've been thinking about donna. I hope all is going well with her chemo.
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Post by mom on Aug 26, 2017 3:51:57 GMT
I am curious for an update from the pea who's step daughter was arrested with her boyfriend and the peas husband wanted to bail them out of jail.
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Post by psoccer on Aug 26, 2017 4:26:52 GMT
I am the one with the bail question. According to my husband, they return to court in September. Also according to my husband that since the people he shot at have records, nothing is going to happen to the son in law because they are "bad people" (his words). It makes no sense to me, but I think my husband wants to believe what his daughter is telling him. They don't seem too worried. They just threw a party for their one year old complete with plenty of wine and beer. It was at a little neighborhood park with most of their friends. I was just surprised because if drinking got you into a pretty crazy situation then maybe you should stop, but they both were drinking. Yep, I judge.
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Post by scraphollie27 on Aug 26, 2017 5:05:31 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
I think you are very brave for actively trying to find a solution to improve your situation. It had an impact if you and your DH found a tolerable solution. Best wishes for this teaching year.
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Post by peanutterbutter on Aug 26, 2017 5:11:05 GMT
How about the pea whose teenage daughter had a heart attack? How is she progressing?
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Post by Lexica on Aug 26, 2017 5:12:36 GMT
I have been nodding my head in agreement at every one of these requests for update. I also hope everyone that has been mentioned as not being here in a while will check in with us to let us know how they are doing.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2017 5:12:52 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
Un this is called getting your ducks in a row!
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FurryP
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Post by FurryP on Aug 26, 2017 6:26:06 GMT
Did we ever find out what happened with the pea who the police came to see/talk to her son on New Year's Eve? (2016 Eve)
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Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2017 6:53:27 GMT
inkedup ...have you heard anything about your neighbor? Any apology or suspicious behavior? What about the pea with 23 acres and the neighbor tampered with the fence so his cow could graze on their property? That would be us, although with 35 acres. The neighbour has been keeping his distance. Except, he brought his bull back on to his property because it kept escaping at his parents place. Well his bull escaped and got into our pasture Again and we're pretty sure at least one of our heifers is pregnant. We're not set up to winter these heifers. My husband told him that. So if they are pregnant, our neighbour will be responsible for wintering them. He's already approached my husband about purchasing them so we'll see. Other than that, we have nothing to do with them.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 26, 2017 12:31:33 GMT
I was wondering how your elbow is Really Red ? Mine has flared up again and I am using the strap thing that several peas recommended and weirdly it is a help - who knew? 😀 Guess what? That strap was a MIRACLE! I did my exercises and used the strap and in a couple days I was much better. It still hurts and isn't perfect, but I can bend it and I was (more or less) able to move in my daughter last weekend. Yesterday I hauled two coolers to a soccer field. No way I could have done that without the strap. Plus, is it just me, or does that strap make me look a little badass? Probably just me! ETA: @nycmom I can't link to anything right now. I'm on my work computer (not at work!) and the only outside place I can get to is 2Peas - not even CVS! But it's a thin band that velcros just under your elbow and then has a hard 3" band that velcros on top of that. Whatever it does, it gives nearly instant relief from the intense pain. I wore it 24/7 for 1 week and now just wear it when I have to do a lot of work with my arm. But doing arm exercises is really important. They're easy, but super painful to do. I do those several times a day. It's basically just turning my wrist in several directions. gar - sorry! I missed your response! I love these update threads!
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Post by mikklynn on Aug 26, 2017 12:43:00 GMT
@nycmom and Really Red It is a strap for tennis elbow. Target, Walmart, and CVS all have them. linkMine was a repetitive stress issue, not tennis, LOL. They really work. My doctor recommended it.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Aug 26, 2017 12:45:48 GMT
Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience. If you are making that choice as an "eyes wide open" decision, it's a valid choice. We all just want what's best for you and for you to be happy. I wish you well.
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Post by Really Red on Aug 26, 2017 12:48:10 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
I agree with the other Peas. Never feel embarrassed in trying to change things. In fact, that's exactly what you did, right? It wasn't the same solution you originally set out to do, but it was a different solution. This community is far more supportive of each other than the old 2Peas was and it's great. We should all lift each other up. You're doing what you have to do and that in and of itself is pretty hard. I think every one of us can appreciate your struggle and decision. Come back and don't be embarrassed!!
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MorningPerson
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Post by MorningPerson on Aug 26, 2017 12:59:34 GMT
I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
I agree with the other Peas. Never feel embarrassed in trying to change things. In fact, that's exactly what you did, right? It wasn't the same solution you originally set out to do, but it was a different solution. This community is far more supportive of each other than the old 2Peas was and it's great. We should all lift each other up. You're doing what you have to do and that in and of itself is pretty hard. I think every one of us can appreciate your struggle and decision. Come back and don't be embarrassed!! Well said. cindytred, you're in a very tough situation and you're doing what works for you right now. I imagine the decision to throw yourself into your career is good for your mental health. You're a good example to those of us who may be dealing with our own hard situations. Hugs to you. SaveSave
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Post by gar on Aug 26, 2017 13:07:20 GMT
@nycmom and Really Red It is a strap for tennis elbow. Target, Walmart, and CVS all have them. linkMine was a repetitive stress issue, not tennis, LOL. I doubt many people's tennis elbow is actually due to tennis:laugh: I know mine isn't!!
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Post by Just Beth on Aug 26, 2017 13:54:56 GMT
I wonder how the Pea is who was constantly hearing loud breathing outside her door and windows. She was really scared, and I've thought about her a few times. I hope everything is okay. This is the one that I'm curious about also. She seemed just so distressed. It stuck with me and I feel bad for her.
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Rhondito
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Post by Rhondito on Aug 26, 2017 14:11:23 GMT
I am the one with the bail question. According to my husband, they return to court in September. Also according to my husband that since the people he shot at have records, nothing is going to happen to the son in law because they are "bad people" (his words). It makes no sense to me, but I think my husband wants to believe what his daughter is telling him. They don't seem too worried. They just threw a party for their one year old complete with plenty of wine and beer. It was at a little neighborhood park with most of their friends. I was just surprised because if drinking got you into a pretty crazy situation then maybe you should stop, but they both were drinking. Yep, I judge. People never learn, do they?
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Post by hop2 on Aug 26, 2017 14:33:16 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
You do what you have to do. There's no shame in that. I lived with my jerk for way longer than most women would simply because I felt my children should not suffer for his ( and my choices ) I figure, they'll have enough consequences of their own choices they don't have to suffer from mine. Take the time to get your ducks in a row. Pay debt. Maybe he'll pay his debt too. Fingers crossed, positive thoughts & prayers that you'll find a peaceful way forward no matter what you choose. {{{hugs}}}
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Post by anonrefugee on Aug 26, 2017 14:37:46 GMT
Did we ever find out what happened with the pea who the police came to see/talk to her son on New Year's Eve? (2016 Eve) High school son, about a girl? I wonder about him too.
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QueenoftheSloths
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Post by QueenoftheSloths on Aug 26, 2017 14:47:53 GMT
How about the pea whose teenage daughter had a heart attack? How is she progressing? I believe that is birdhouse lady? She recently posted some pictures from her son's wedding, and her daughter was in them and looking beautiful.
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momto4kiddos
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Post by momto4kiddos on Aug 26, 2017 15:47:32 GMT
I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
You do what you have to do. There's no shame in that. I lived with my jerk for way longer than most women would simply because I felt my children should not suffer for his ( and my choices ) I figure, they'll have enough consequences of their own choices they don't have to suffer from mine. Take the time to get your ducks in a row. Pay debt. Maybe he'll pay his debt too. Fingers crossed, positive thoughts & prayers that you'll find a peaceful way forward no matter what you choose. {{{hugs}}} Glad that you updated us. Agree with everyone else, no shame in doing what you need to do. I think a lot of us live in less than ideal situations for different reasons. I'm glad that at least things have become a bit more tolerable.
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Post by rainangel on Aug 26, 2017 16:13:10 GMT
I want to know how the young girl is whose pea mom posted recently about her daughter seeing a man following her around the house and bothering her when she is trying to rest. It might be me you're talking about. My 12 yo DD saw a shadowman when she was trying to sleep. I was going to post an update in the original thread. I'll do that right now!
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Post by peasapie on Aug 26, 2017 18:22:28 GMT
I want to know how Cindy (or is with an i) is doing. Lives in Florida and rented an apartment to leave her husband a few weeks ago? Hoping things are going well for you Cindy. I've been keeping a low profile around here because I'm ashamed to admit that I cancelled the apartment and I'm still living at home with husband and grown kids.
My plan when I put the deposit on the apartment was to stop paying my credit card bills and file for bankruptcy (not something I wanted to do but I was desperate). Then I talked to an attorney and he said that I would be responsible for half of our combined debt - not just my own. The thought of all that debt and the stress of creditors calling and the guilt of not paying my bills made me change my mind. And I could just imagine myself living on the street as an older person, homeless. So I told husband that me moving out would ruin our credit and he and I decided to live in peace.
We aren't arguing, but we aren't "in love" either. Since then its been a tolerable marriage of convenience.
I've decided to throw myself into my work and be the best damn 3rd grade teacher in the world.
Thanks for thinking about me.
It makes sense. I stayed with my ex for five years longer than I would have otherwise, so that I could be sure that when I left I wasn't taking any of his bills with me, among other reasons. Is there anything you can do now, legally, to assure that from this point forward neither of you are responsible for additional debt either accrues? I'm not sure if that's possible. Just a thought.
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Post by donna on Aug 26, 2017 19:06:20 GMT
I will start an update thread on me later but will update here as well.
My chemo is going well. I have my bad days but have more good ones than bad ones. I have taken leave from work . This was a hard decision to make but it was the right one. I think I am doing so well right now because I am not worn down by the demands of my job.
Thanks for wondering about me.
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