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Post by Tammiem2pnc1 on Jan 12, 2018 19:27:43 GMT
I just need to type this out. I want to cry, scream..I don't even know anymore. We found out a few days ago that my momma has lung cancer. I knew then that the news was bleak. But sitting in her room at the hospital today and hearing the doctor tell her that it's metastasized into her liver and she only has a few months to live is just all to real and almost unbearable. I don't even know what to do. My siblings weren't there at that time and I had to be the one to tell them. I am a true momma's girl and always have been and I'm just totally broken over this. She wants to fight it which is great, but even with chemo it will only give her a little more time, most likely still less than a year.
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Update 1/13
Thank you all for your kind words. And thoughts and prayers to those that are dealing with such devastating things right now. While I'm still upset about my beautiful mom, I'm slowly coming to terms with her diagnosis. It's going to be a rough road emotionally though. Unfortunately more bad news came my way today. My sister called and told me that she just got off the phone with our dad. My parents have been divorced for about 20 years or so. Anyway, apparently he was at the doctor yesterday and was diagnosed with vascular dementia and we are told that the average survival rate after diagnosis is 3 years. He will have to go for further testing to see how far it's progressed at this point. How much more can I take, I have no clue, but I'm kind of wanting this year to be over now!
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Post by librarylady on Jan 12, 2018 19:29:48 GMT
I am so sorry that your family has this news. I am sure you are crushed.
I offer a prayer of comfort for you, your mother and family.
Sure--scream, cry, cuss and pray.........
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Post by Gravity on Jan 12, 2018 19:29:52 GMT
I so sorry for the bad news about your momma. Big ((HUGS)) to you and your family. Cancer sucks!!
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Post by YooHoot on Jan 12, 2018 19:30:00 GMT
I’m so sorry. Hugs.
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Post by cadoodlebug on Jan 12, 2018 19:30:19 GMT
I am so sorry.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2018 19:33:22 GMT
I am so sorry
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Post by Delta Dawn on Jan 12, 2018 19:33:27 GMT
This sucks. What I did or I should say happened to me was hospice contacted me and I went for pre-loss counseling and it helped. I am sorry the prognosis is is so bleak.
Take lots of photos and love her as much as you can.
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Post by finsup on Jan 12, 2018 19:35:29 GMT
I don't know what to say to try to make you feel better but I can tell you that I know just how you feel because I also learned just a few days ago that my mom has lung cancer and it's stage 4. I'm still reeling; it's awful. Hugs to you.
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Post by KelleeM on Jan 12, 2018 19:35:30 GMT
I’m so sorry. Hugs.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 12, 2018 19:35:55 GMT
I’m sorry for this heartbreaking news you and your mom have received. Many hugs.
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Post by maryannscraps on Jan 12, 2018 19:56:09 GMT
I'm so sorry for you and finsup. Sending gentle hugs your way. I agree with looking into Hospice. They provide support for the whole family.
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Post by jennrs on Jan 12, 2018 19:59:16 GMT
I’m so very sorry about your mom. Sending my thoughts and Prayers for you and her.
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Post by jameynz on Jan 12, 2018 20:05:57 GMT
I am so sorry for both you ladies, your families and the coming year ahead..
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Post by azredhead on Jan 12, 2018 20:08:06 GMT
HUGS and prayers to you and your family!! This board can be a great comfort to those who need a friend in times of trouble! Sometimes the words don't seem enough but it there.
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Post by rodeomom on Jan 12, 2018 20:09:53 GMT
Hugs to you and your Mom.
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Post by donna on Jan 12, 2018 20:11:35 GMT
I am so sorry your Mom and your family have to deal with this horrible news. I highly recommend the site cancer forums.net (no spaces) They have forums for different kinds of cancer. The people there are so helpful.
15 years ago I was the daughter who had to explain a stage 4 cancer diagnosis of my Dad to the rest of the family. I was still reeling from finding out myself, yet I had to explain things to my 2 brothers, my grandfather and multiple aunts and uncles. It was hard, but you can do it. Then in February of this year I received my own stage 4 diagnosis. Listen to your Mom. If she wants to fight, then let her.
I wish I could give you a big hug and let you cry on my shoulder. Hugs
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 12, 2018 20:13:45 GMT
Lots of love to you and finsup.
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Post by valincal on Jan 12, 2018 20:15:18 GMT
😢 I’m so sorry you and finsup have received this news. Big hugs. Take care.
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Post by gar on Jan 12, 2018 20:27:15 GMT
I’m so sorry for you both.
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 12, 2018 20:27:46 GMT
I'm so sorry. Cancer sucks.
Make sure her oncologist tests her for PD-L1. She may be a candidate for immunotherapy, such as Keytruda.
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Post by Mystie on Jan 12, 2018 20:32:00 GMT
I'm just so sorry.
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Post by GiantsFan on Jan 12, 2018 20:37:51 GMT
I am so sorry. In January of 2017 my mom was diagnosed with stage 4 pancreatic cancer. I was the one with her and my dad when the biopsy was taken and the results given. I had to tell the rest of the family. I sympathize with you, it's a horrible feeling.
Cancer sucks!
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Post by JoP on Jan 12, 2018 20:38:26 GMT
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Post by gailoh on Jan 12, 2018 20:50:15 GMT
Hugs and prayers...
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Post by LisaDV on Jan 12, 2018 20:56:21 GMT
@tammiem2pnc1 and finsup and GiantsFan, I'm sorry you each had to deal with cancer diagnosis of your parent. Hugs. donna, double hugs! I knew you were dealing with this, but that you had to go through it with your mom as well totally sucks double.
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Post by jenjie on Jan 12, 2018 21:07:22 GMT
Tammiem2pnc1, @giantsfan and finsup I am so sorry. I understand. It so hard. But you will get through this. One day at a time. Just be there for them. Love them. No regrets.
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Post by Zee on Jan 12, 2018 21:10:04 GMT
I'm so sorry for what you're going through.
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Post by Darcy Collins on Jan 12, 2018 21:22:07 GMT
I'm terribly sorry @tammiem2pnc1 and finsup - cancer sucks. I agree with mikklynn above that there are some newish tools in lung cancer including quite a few studies using immunotherapy and other targeted therapies. We were in a trial for EGFR - but you have to have the specific gene mutation, there was a different ones for those with the ALK mutation. My thoughts are with you and your families!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Jan 12, 2018 21:24:08 GMT
So very sorry for all of those who are going through this, whether patient or family.
For anyone who might have concerns about lung cancer, please contact your doctor if you are 50+ and are/were a smoker, exposed to smoke etc. They are offering low dose CT scan for a base line for possible lung cancer. I understand that insurance companies are now covering them, but if not there are programs for them to cost only $99.00, which is what I paid in 2014. Check with your State Cancer Institute.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2018 21:28:24 GMT
Hugs
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