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Post by shanniebananie on Jan 13, 2018 19:32:24 GMT
DS is attending a quinceanera tomorrow and we are wondering what to give as a gift. We aren't super close to the girl so I am uncertain of her interests. Is cash or gift card appropriate? What amount is good? $50 too cheap or just right?
Any insight is appreciated.
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Post by librarylady on Jan 13, 2018 19:48:47 GMT
I don't know your circle of friends to know if the $50 is OK, but I believe the gift card would be appropriate.
By that I mean--Warren Buffet's circle would think $50 is too small--my world is that it would be OK.
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Post by snyder on Jan 13, 2018 20:03:54 GMT
My circle of friends would think $50 would be a bit much for just an acquaintance. If it is just a friend of your ds, and not the entire family, I'd trim it to $30. $25 these days does sound a bit cheap.  $30 sounds so much more. Crazy reasoning. lol If she is a friend of the entire family, yeah bump it a bit, but maybe $35 or $40. I hate to say this, but is appears to me that most kids just blow the money they receive for these events and not put it back for college, car or future life, so I wouldn't go overboard in the amount. |
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Post by Dreamsofnyssa on Jan 13, 2018 20:09:45 GMT
It’s just a birthday party so a gift card is perfectly fine. Any amount is fine as well.
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Post by flanz on Jan 13, 2018 20:14:18 GMT
I think cash is almost always the very best gift, and I think $50 sounds right.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 13, 2018 20:22:31 GMT
Cash or gift card is fine, and I think if it's only your DS who is invited, $25 would be okay, up to $50 if you're more comfortable with that.
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Post by mnmloveli on Jan 13, 2018 20:36:34 GMT
Gift card or cash perfectly fine. Since it’s a special birthday, a quinceanera, I think $50 is the best amount.
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Post by pilcas on Jan 13, 2018 20:40:11 GMT
Gift card or cash would be the best. If the party is at a catered venue I wouldn’t go lower than $50 regardless of the type of acquaintance.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Jan 13, 2018 22:44:49 GMT
I’ve always sent my kids with $50 for a quince, and $54 for a bar/bat mitzvah.
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Post by monklady123 on Jan 13, 2018 22:57:13 GMT
I’ve always sent my kids with $50 for a quince, and $54 for a bar/bat mitzvah. Same here, unless they're close friends -- in that case I go up a bit. |
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Post by FurryP on Jan 13, 2018 23:12:55 GMT
I’ve always sent my kids with $50 for a quince, and $54 for a bar/bat mitzvah. Same here, unless they're close friends -- in that case I go up a bit. Is there a special reason for the $4 difference? |
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Post by AussieMeg on Jan 13, 2018 23:13:38 GMT
AussieMeg googles "quinceanera", discovers it is a 15th birthday party - Yep, $50 cash or gift card would be appropriate.
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Post by maureen on Jan 13, 2018 23:19:36 GMT
Same here, unless they're close friends -- in that case I go up a bit. Is there a special reason for the $4 difference? 54 is divisible by 18 which is a lucky number in Jewish tradition. |
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Post by FurryP on Jan 13, 2018 23:39:55 GMT
Is there a special reason for the $4 difference? 54 is divisible by 18 which is a lucky number in Jewish tradition. Oh, ok thanks! |
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Post by anxiousmom on Jan 13, 2018 23:42:44 GMT
Y'all...maybe this should be a spin off...but $50?? That is so FAR out of my budget for anyone that I didn't give birth to. That is like my weekly food budget.
If that is the norm, and it would be looked down on to do less, I wouldn't even go and be mortified by my gift.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2018 0:04:38 GMT
Honestly $2o cash is fine, unless he is part of the court or is part of the family. Then you are talking about $250 and that is considered cheap. ( well at least here it is).
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Post by snugglebutter on Jan 14, 2018 0:36:59 GMT
I don't know anyone who spends $50 on their kid's best friend, let alone an acquaintance. It's very generous but I think spending less is perfectly acceptable.
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Post by monklady123 on Jan 14, 2018 0:58:24 GMT
I don't know anyone who spends $50 on their kid's best friend, let alone an acquaintance. It's very generous but I think spending less is perfectly acceptable. But both a quinceanera and a bar/bat mitzvah are big deals. The quinceanera isn't a religious observance in the same way a bar/bat mitzvah is but it always involves a Catholic mass (well, traditionally...and the ones my kids were invited to did also) before the party. These are major milestones in the child's life and I don't think it's "very generous", it's just about right. Like I said, if it's a child of close friends, or if the child is close friends with mine then I give more. I still remember watching one quinceanera girl as she walked into the community center where the party was....this was a girl I'd known since kindergarten, daughter of two Salvadorian immigrants. The dad had been in danger of being departed some years ago when his green card came up for renewal simply because of ONE traffic ticket. One. And not a speeding ticket, but something like an illegal left turn. Anyway....the parents at one point were working four jobs between them to give their kids the life they could never have had in El Salvador. He cried when he watched his daughter walk into that party. And the rest of us parents cried when we saw him crying. Anyway...yeah, I'll happily give $50 for someone like that. Actually we gave more. And... unrelated to the thread subject, but that girl and her older brother both got full academic scholarships to a university in Pennsylvania. And thankfully both are American citizens so they're safe. \ |
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Post by Deleted on Jan 14, 2018 1:26:57 GMT
Gift card or cash would be the best. If the party is at a catered venue I wouldn’t go lower than $50 regardless of the type of acquaintance. Sorry, but where the parents choose to have the party, and how much they spend, has absolutely no bearing on how much my gift is. There is no way I would spend $50 on a gift for an acquaintance. Heck, I don't usually spend $50 on my grandchildren's birthday gifts.  |
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Post by lucyg on Jan 14, 2018 1:41:47 GMT
Gift card or cash would be the best. If the party is at a catered venue I wouldn’t go lower than $50 regardless of the type of acquaintance. Sorry, but where the parents choose to have the party, and how much they spend, has absolutely no bearing on how much my gift is. There is no way I would spend $50 on a gift for an acquaintance. Heck, I don't usually spend $50 on my grandchildren's birthday gifts. I agree that the venue (or cost to the hosts) has no bearing on my gift, and honestly, it makes my skin crawl when people start talking about "covering their plate." People, give the party you want and can afford to give, and your guests will give the gift they want and can afford to give. And no one ought to be worrying about how much someone else spent. anxiousmom, this goes for you, too. An expensive gift is never an obligation, and really no gift at all is. |
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Post by anniefb on Jan 14, 2018 3:46:56 GMT
Y'all...maybe this should be a spin off...but $50?? That is so FAR out of my budget for anyone that I didn't give birth to. That is like my weekly food budget. If that is the norm, and it would be looked down on to do less, I wouldn't even go and be mortified by my gift. That's just what I was thinking. $20 maybe. |
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 14, 2018 4:50:12 GMT
Y'all...maybe this should be a spin off...but $50?? That is so FAR out of my budget for anyone that I didn't give birth to. That is like my weekly food budget. If that is the norm, and it would be looked down on to do less, I wouldn't even go and be mortified by my gift. You’re not alone, I wouldn’t spend that much for my kid’s best friend much less someone they just happened to know casually. |
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Jan 14, 2018 5:15:07 GMT
I would give $30.
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$30 sounds so much more. Crazy reasoning. lol If she is a friend of the entire family, yeah bump it a bit, but maybe $35 or $40. I hate to say this, but is appears to me that most kids just blow the money they receive for these events and not put it back for college, car or future life, so I wouldn't go overboard in the amount. 
