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Post by mikklynn on Mar 15, 2018 14:28:12 GMT
Based on how you have described her so far, I'd tread lightly. People who think they know it all are usually pretty insecure, in my experience.
I think it's fine to say you love how well you and your coworkers work together.
ETA - I'm so happy you are enjoying your new job!
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 15, 2018 14:32:35 GMT
Do not do this. Seriously. This is NEW job for you. Do not make an enemy at of your supervisor with a hairbrained idea that you're going to educate her on how this office is run. She will either find her footing and settle in - or she won't and will be a PITA supervisor. Your attempts will not make a bit of difference in which direction she will go, but will absolutely make a difference on how she views you.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2018 14:38:16 GMT
ALL you have to say is your job duties and "nice to meet you".
ANYTHING else you have to say about how nicely things were running without her IS going to be taken the wrong way. There is no nice way to say it. You'll end up coming across as the one that is hard to work with instead of her. Just keep your mouth shut in the meeting and keep clicking along with your co-workers.
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 15, 2018 14:39:46 GMT
Okay!! Guess my ideas were not good.. LOL...which is why I asked! I will take this advice!  |
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Post by Darcy Collins on Mar 15, 2018 14:44:35 GMT
No I don't want to say anything against her and I wouldn't either.. I want to just put a positive spin when she asks me questions.. I don't want to go into things that have already been done. She apologized for the file movement and I can let that go, I just want to have positive things to say when we sit down so she can kinda see how the others have been. Something like "yes, I like working here. In my experience in an office setting this is a great place because everyone works well together and are team players." That kind of thing. You're looking for a passive aggressive way to say she's come in as a raging bitch and before she got here everything was great as no one "pulled rank." Your opinion of her is abundantly clear in your OP. If you think you're going to come across differently in a face to face, I seriously doubt it. Less is more - trust me. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 15, 2018 14:47:15 GMT
I can be good at passive aggressive!! HAHA... on the other hand I can't seem to get up the courage to tell my neighbor to quit throwing his ciggarette butts in the driveway (we share a driveway) and they blow into my yard. I am good at getting my gloves on and picking them up and throwing them into the back of his pickup.. is that not passive aggressive enough? HA
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Post by not2peased on Mar 15, 2018 14:49:04 GMT
I would keep in mind that she might be doing exactly what senior management wants her to do. There may be issues and concerns you know nothing about that she is addressing
I would just say something about having a great working relationship with peers and leave it at that. I would also ask what her plans are, what she likes about the organization, and what she envisions changing.
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Post by katelynr439 on Mar 15, 2018 15:28:29 GMT
I mean this as kindly as possible and with good intent. Several of your recent post a have included a lot of information about your job, which seems to be in a pretty sensitive field. It doesn't seem like it would be hard for someone to either figure out where you work OR a co-worker to figure out who you are if they happened across this board. Topics here do show up in google searches, and what if they were searching something related to issues happening at your workplace and it popped up?
I'd gently suggest either filtering what you post about work a little or finding a more anonymous way to post questions so they aren't all connected to the same account. You're giving away too much info about your job and it could come back to bite you.
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Post by newfcathy on Mar 15, 2018 15:33:57 GMT
I would keep in mind that she might be doing exactly what senior management wants her to do. There may be issues and concerns you know nothing about that she is addressing I would just say something about having a great working relationship with peers and leave it at that. I would also ask what her plans are, what she likes about the organization, and what she envisions changing. Definitely this!! I would ask what her goals for department are and how you can help achieve them. |
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Post by jenjie on Mar 15, 2018 15:38:29 GMT
I think it would be fine to say that part of the reason you enjoy working here is because everyone works so well together. It’s a great atmosphere. Period. Not this is how it was til you showed up.
Working with other people is hard. Everyone has different personalities. I had a meeting with my boss/bff today. We laugh because although we work super well together, we do get frustrated because we have different communication styles.
She is short and to the point. I have to process everything. Out loud. So let’s say, I’ll give her a suggestion and within the first 5 words she knows whether she wants to do it or not. She’s ready to move on, but I still have 20 more words left - the “because” or whatever - it will bug me if I don’t get to say them, and it will bug her if she has to hear them. 😂
So we’re learning. Together. We’re actually going to do some sort of personality test to help us understand ourselves and each other better. Not recommending this for everyone, it just so happens this is something she is getting certified in so she can teach it, and it gives her an opportunity to put it into practice.
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Post by peabrain on Mar 15, 2018 15:44:39 GMT
I can be good at passive aggressive!! HAHA... on the other hand I can't seem to get up the courage to tell my neighbor to quit throwing his ciggarette butts in the driveway (we share a driveway) and they blow into my yard. I am good at getting my gloves on and picking them up and throwing them into the back of his pickup.. is that not passive aggressive enough? HA If you want to be pa about that a loud leaf blower early in the morning should do it. LOL |
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 15, 2018 15:50:31 GMT
I mean this as kindly as possible and with good intent. Several of your recent post a have included a lot of information about your job, which seems to be in a pretty sensitive field. It doesn't seem like it would be hard for someone to either figure out where you work OR a co-worker to figure out who you are if they happened across this board. Topics here do show up in google searches, and what if they were searching something related to issues happening at your workplace and it popped up? I'd gently suggest either filtering what you post about work a little or finding a more anonymous way to post questions so they aren't all connected to the same account. You're giving away too much info about your job and it could come back to bite you. true.. I can get carried away sometime |
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Post by crimsoncat05 on Mar 15, 2018 18:33:26 GMT
keep in mind, you said you don't know what she wants to meet about, either. She might want to talk about something totally different. It's her meeting; let her take it where she wants to go, and if you have an opportunity to give input about the teamwork environment, go ahead and do it- BUT don't interject that info into it if that's not what she wants to talk about; it's not the place for it, if she has a totally different agenda for the meeting. eta: man, I can write a really long run-on sentence, can't I?!? Don't you love how I make up my own punctuation rules, too?? lol!!  |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 15, 2018 19:16:47 GMT
No advice--just wanted to say good luck!! and try to be calm. I always hated those one-on-ones when one of us (me) didn't know what was going to be thrown at me!! |
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Post by utmr on Mar 15, 2018 19:27:42 GMT
I think I would stick with something very vanilla and let her lead the conversation.
If she asked my opinion, I’d go with something like “well, Betty Boss, I’ve only been here since January but I’ve really enjoyed it so far. Everyone has been very helpful in getting me acclimated, and I’m looking forward to working with you. What are your goals and priorities for our department? I’m happy to do whatever you need me to do to achieve them “.
Let her take the lead, smile, nod and be the agreeable professional worker bee.
Good luck, hope it goes well.
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Post by The Birdhouse Lady on Mar 15, 2018 21:36:54 GMT
Just checking in to see how it went.
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Post by Yubon Peatlejuice on Mar 15, 2018 21:53:58 GMT
I mean this as kindly as possible and with good intent. Several of your recent post a have included a lot of information about your job, which seems to be in a pretty sensitive field. It doesn't seem like it would be hard for someone to either figure out where you work OR a co-worker to figure out who you are if they happened across this board. Topics here do show up in google searches, and what if they were searching something related to issues happening at your workplace and it popped up? I'd gently suggest either filtering what you post about work a little or finding a more anonymous way to post questions so they aren't all connected to the same account. You're giving away too much info about your job and it could come back to bite you. I agree with this, and will also add that everytime I go away from the board for a few months and come back, you are always posting about a new job and either problems that you are having or problems that you are about to create. Please keep your head down for a little while! |
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Post by Nanner on Mar 16, 2018 2:05:24 GMT
Hoping it was a good meeting!
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Post by anaterra on Mar 16, 2018 8:58:41 GMT
I can be good at passive aggressive!! HAHA... on the other hand I can't seem to get up the courage to tell my neighbor to quit throwing his ciggarette butts in the driveway (we share a driveway) and they blow into my yard. I am good at getting my gloves on and picking them up and throwing them into the back of his pickup.. is that not passive aggressive enough? HA Passive aggressive-sure... but pretty much blahhh... because then all those butts fly out of his truck bed and land wherever... i mean I guess it's great they are no longer in ur yard... but yeah.. blahhhh... Good luck in ur meeting... i agree with moat others... just smile n nod.. no reason to say anything... it could potentially be misconstrued... |
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Post by gailoh on Mar 16, 2018 10:00:01 GMT
How did it go?
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Post by christine58 on Mar 16, 2018 14:50:21 GMT
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Post by gailoh on Mar 17, 2018 13:27:41 GMT
Update please
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Post by librarylady on Mar 22, 2018 15:42:19 GMT
Bump for update......please...you have left us hanging.
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Post by Linda on Mar 22, 2018 17:36:23 GMT
She is short and to the point. I have to process everything. Out loud. So let’s say, I’ll give her a suggestion and within the first 5 words she knows whether she wants to do it or not. She’s ready to move on, but I still have 20 more words left - the “because” or whatever - it will bug me if I don’t get to say them, and it will bug her if she has to hear them. - that perfectly describes my DH and me...he'll interrupt me with an answer and I'm still trying to finish my question/explanation workingclassdog - hope all went well |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2018 21:22:49 GMT
I agree with this, and will also add that everytime I go away from the board for a few months and come back, you are always posting about a new job and either problems that you are having or problems that you are about to create. Please keep your head down for a little while! HA.. that is funny... 20 years and never really posted about my job.. and then the last 3 years.. uggggg.... my head is down for sure and my trap shut (well except for what I am going to talk to her about.. but it isn't cringe worthy.. just related to a project) I just took it that you are very excited about this job!!! Altho I post that I worry that the insiders may find you They found my friend( a nurse) about 10 minutes after she was hired. |
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 28, 2018 17:36:42 GMT
btt for an update... |
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Post by Deleted on Mar 28, 2018 18:52:40 GMT
Weird.
I am glad it wasn't you!
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Post by Anita on Mar 28, 2018 18:55:15 GMT
How odd. Why not just make a public announcement to everyone?
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Post by anaterra on Mar 28, 2018 18:55:43 GMT
Hate to admit my 1st thought was oh no... not again... but i'm happy to see it's not gonna be you...
Keep on doing what ur doing.... maybe ur next supervisor will be a better fit for yalls team
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 28, 2018 20:12:31 GMT
Oh God no.. not me. I am loving it. Seems like I am doing a good job for them. Everyone gets along and blah blah blah.. I am even going to put in for a promotional job if it comes available in the same office (not her job..lol)
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