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Post by mnmloveli on Aug 21, 2018 23:57:10 GMT
My dad died Aug 15th. We’ve held the visitation, celebrated his life, and spent time with friends and family. I have been a daddy’s girl since day one. To say I was his princess, is an understatement! Even at 50 yrs old, he still treated me like his princess. (I am an only). My 2 adult sons are beyond devastated. He was truly my oldest’s best friend. He even asked his grandpa to be his best man when he gets married. He was 73 years old, but lived life as if he was a lot younger. He and my mom were very active- car shows w/their street rod on display, taking off on bike trips, planning family trips. Life is forever changed. My heart shattered in a million pieces. Not sure why I’m posting this here. Maybe for guidance on how to live without him? So sorry for your loss. Your grief needs to run it’s course one day at a time. It will get better but never goes away. Life becomes different. You must hold on to all your great memories and be grateful for the 50 years you had with him. It’s never enough time but hopefully your memories can help get you through this difficult time. I’m 58 and lost my dad at 26. I still think of him everyday and wish he was here to share so many things.
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Post by stampnscrap1128 on Aug 22, 2018 0:00:23 GMT
I am so very sorry. Surrounding your family and you with prayers for peace and comfort.
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Post by leannec on Aug 22, 2018 0:03:46 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss
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Post by destined2bmom on Aug 22, 2018 0:32:37 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers being sent to you and your family.
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Post by gale w on Aug 22, 2018 0:33:28 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by jayfab on Aug 22, 2018 0:42:15 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. (((hugs)))
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Post by kate on Aug 22, 2018 0:43:25 GMT
I'm so very sorry. God rest his soul and give comfort to your family.
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Post by lisae on Aug 22, 2018 1:00:14 GMT
I'm very sorry for your loss. I'm an only too and lost my father nearly a year ago. I try to focus on the good memories when he was doing all the things he loved and not on the last few challenging years for him healthwise. Take care of yourself and give yourself plenty of time. I'm glad your sons had the wonderful experience of having a grandfather.
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Post by librarylady on Aug 22, 2018 1:03:58 GMT
Sympathy to you and all who loved him.
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Post by iamkristinl16 on Aug 22, 2018 1:05:13 GMT
I'm so sorry.
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Post by ntsf on Aug 22, 2018 1:10:02 GMT
hugs.. it is never easy. take care of yourself..
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Post by zella on Aug 22, 2018 1:14:46 GMT
Couldn't read and not reply, though there's not much I can say. I'm so sorry for your loss, and the loss to your whole family. I hope that you will share memories of him with each other, and that this will bring at least a little comfort. Losing someone you love so much is awful.
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Post by peasapie on Aug 22, 2018 1:21:55 GMT
Awww big hugs to you. I remember the day my dad died, ten years ago, and I've been missing him ever since. I often find myself quoting him or remembering the fun things he loved to do around me - like riding a shopping cart for a few feet through the parking lot of the grocery store, LOL. Most of all I remember how he adored me and always made me feel so special.
For me, remembering all those good things helped a lot - but it of course doesn't replace that feeling we have when a parent loves us deeply and then is no longer with us, because there is nothing else in the world like it. Hold on to that love and remember that it doesn't die when our loved one passes on. It's ALWAYS there with you. Embrace it.
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Post by beebee on Aug 22, 2018 1:27:53 GMT
I am so very sorry for your loss.
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Post by Deleted on Aug 22, 2018 1:36:10 GMT
I'm sorry for your loss.
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Post by Skellinton on Aug 22, 2018 1:36:54 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. It sounds like he was a wonderful man and that you were all lucky to have him in your life, he was also lucky to be so loved.
Hugs.
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Post by scrapApea on Aug 22, 2018 1:36:58 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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Post by Basket1lady on Aug 22, 2018 1:37:05 GMT
I'm so sorry for your loss. When I lost my mom, at times it was almost like a physical punch to my stomach. Really, only time helped. I'm so sorry.
Eternal rest, grant unto him, O Lord, And let perpetual light shine upon him. May he rest in peace.
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Post by crazy4scraps on Aug 22, 2018 1:38:35 GMT
I’m so sorry for your family’s loss! Your daddy sounds like a wonderful man who was loved very much. May his memory be a blessing.
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Post by Mystie on Aug 22, 2018 2:00:14 GMT
I'm so very sorry. I think it just takes time to adjust and start to heal, but that doesn't make the aftermath any easier. Hugs to you.
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Post by sean&marysmommy on Aug 22, 2018 2:03:28 GMT
I'm so sorry. Sending you hugs....
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Post by vi on Aug 22, 2018 2:06:00 GMT
I'm sorry. You will always have a hole in your heart because you miss him. Let yourself grieve however which way feels best to you. Every day will be different and it can hit you suddenly at different times. Today happens to be the anniversary of my father's death. He died eight years ago. Hugs to you.
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Post by peasquared on Aug 22, 2018 2:14:36 GMT
I am so sorry! Your dad sounds like a great man and missed very much. Just take each minute, each hour, each day as they come. Some will be good, some will be horribly difficult.
There is a quote that I read all the time, that has helped me with a loss. "On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100%...and that's pretty good" Author Unknown
Maybe it will help you.?? Take care and remember the peas are always here for you. Hugs!
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Post by gsquaredmom on Aug 22, 2018 2:25:39 GMT
I am so very sorry.
I lost my dad a few years ago. I still miss him and wish I could pick up the phone to share happy news.
One day at a time. It feels like the grief will never end. Accept the grief for what it is. Normal, painful, and healing.
It was hardest at the three month mark. It seems like everyone I know has experienced this. The cocoon of shock begins to wear off and finality washes in. I am telling you because if you know it may be coming, you won't be as blindsided by it. I make it a special point to check on people at the three month mark.
Then one day, my thoughts changed from how much I missed him to how lucky I was to have known such a wonderful person my entire life, and how lucky he was to live to 80. I think Sandy Hook happened not too long after, and that put an unusual perspective on the loss. He had lived 10 times as long as those babies and had a full life.
It's hard to believe you will ever feel good again, but trust the process. You will. And if you need help, see a grief counselor. My dad's hospice offered it, though I never got to the point of needing it.
You will get through this. Again, I am so sorry for your loss.
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Post by compeateropeator on Aug 22, 2018 2:37:57 GMT
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts go out to you and your family.
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Post by teddyw on Aug 22, 2018 2:55:09 GMT
Do sorry for your loss
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Aug 22, 2018 3:08:49 GMT
I’m so sorry. Be kind to yourself. It takes a while to learn to live your new normal and your feelings of loss will probably come and go. Just when you think you’re doing fine something will happen that brings you right back to it. My sincere condolences.
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Post by lostwithout2peas on Aug 22, 2018 3:14:30 GMT
I'm so very sorry for your loss. It will be hard, but you will learn to live a new normal. And even though you start to be ok, weeks, months, years down the road, there will be times when you will be blindsided by a wave of grief that it feels like your back at square one. But these episodes will get further and further apart. Remember, grief isn't a straight line. Hugs to you and your family from one Daddy's girl to another.
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Post by cawoman on Aug 22, 2018 3:15:31 GMT
I’m really sorry. I lost my Dad 8 years ago and still think of him and my Mom who died 2 years ago daily. I wish I had some wise advice but there isn’t any really. I do try and think about the good times before they each got sick. And there were a lot of those as it sounds like there were for you. The image of him jumping on a shopping cart made me smile.
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Post by birdgate on Aug 22, 2018 7:54:28 GMT
He sounded like he had an active full life. Sorry for your loss.
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