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Post by gmcwife1 on Oct 2, 2018 14:30:28 GMT
I’m sorry about your mums fall, injuries and all the issues it’s going to cause. I hope she heals quickly and completely.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Oct 2, 2018 14:33:56 GMT
Sending good wishes to your mom for a fast and complete recovery. While she's laid up... sell her ladder.
We have this same frustration with my father-in-law who has fallen off a ladder a few times in the last year or so and yet continues to insist he's okay to go up them. Argh.
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Post by bethany102399 on Oct 2, 2018 14:39:11 GMT
oh man pjaye, I'm sorry. I've had this conversation with my mom so. many. times. over shoveling the driveway. She refuses to take her cell phone with her when she goes out convinced she's going to have a heart attack on the pavement and not be able to use it. I totally get that you're stuck and there isn't anyone else to help. Hugs.
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Post by bethany102399 on Oct 2, 2018 14:39:51 GMT
While she's laid up... sell her ladder. Seriously. Do it.
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Post by quinlove on Oct 2, 2018 14:45:39 GMT
What bad timing. Sending hugs and love. ❤️
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Post by prapea on Oct 2, 2018 14:47:44 GMT
I am so sorry about your mum.
As soon as I saw the thread title, it totally freaked me out(for a lack of better word). Let me explain. I am in the middle of re-doing our closets. So I am using the ladder to break some of the top shelves and I almost lost balance and fell yesterday. DH came to help and he was like, you go rest I will do it. I told him nope. I am standing right here as long as you are in that damn ladder.
Thanks for the PSA.
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Post by pjaye on Oct 2, 2018 14:55:44 GMT
While she's laid up... sell her ladder. That made me laugh...not a bad idea though!
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 2, 2018 14:57:10 GMT
Although climbing is not good there are some times no alternatives. I live alone, I cannot reach past the second shelf in ll the kitchen cabinets. My windows are nice, but over 6 feet tall starting 2 feet off the floor ALL 10 of them... Who is supposed to hang/take down the drapes and curtains? And this is a new apartment constructed to be adaptable to accessible apartment. Hey, but at least I am finally on the first floor.
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Post by malibou on Oct 2, 2018 14:58:01 GMT
I wish your mom a speedy recovery and the wherewithal to stay off ladders and chairs in the future.
I think I would take her ladders away.
Guess I will be calling my parents today to remind them yet again to keep off ladders. Dad is a bit stubborn at 86.
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Post by malibou on Oct 2, 2018 15:02:09 GMT
revirdsuba99 respectfully, not you. Hire someone to take them down and rehang. In your case a fall in either direction is going to be a big problem. No ladders, you hear.
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Post by brenda89 on Oct 2, 2018 15:06:52 GMT
pjaye Sending healing prayers to you and your Mom!!
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Post by scrapmaven on Oct 2, 2018 15:09:45 GMT
pjaye, my thoughts are w/your poor mom. In the USA she would be placed in rehab if there wasn't a caretaker at home. She'll get full time care and physical therapy daily. It's a good option if your mom has access to it. Please don't feel guilty. You are recovering from back surgery and can't take the time off. If you could you'd be right there. I'm sure your mom understands. A big ladder fell on top of me as I was running by. My policy is to go nowhere near ladders. You don't have to be on one to have a ladder accident. Prayers for your mom. AussieMeg, you are a rockstar.
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Post by freebird on Oct 2, 2018 15:14:23 GMT
Although climbing is not good there are some times no alternatives. I live alone, I cannot reach past the second shelf in ll the kitchen cabinets. My windows are nice, but over 6 feet tall starting 2 feet off the floor ALL 10 of them... Who is supposed to hang/take down the drapes and curtains? And this is a new apartment constructed to be adaptable to accessible apartment. Hey, but at least I am finally on the first floor.
Is taking down the curtains something you have to do a lot? Because I can't remember the last time I took down a curtain in my house. Yes, they are dusty. That's like an every 2 years kinda job. Hire the neighbor kid!
Pjaye, I'm sorry your mom is stubborn! Hoping she heals quickly (and you too!) My FIL is a stubborn, pig headed man. Love him, he's funny and a character but you can't tell him much of anything. I've started taking the hard line with him. He told me a story Sunday how he was standing on a CHAIR doing something and fell right on his back. Apparently he laid there for like 2 hours. Here's a thought, stay off the gd chairs. It wasn't even a step stool! Plus, he wears leg braces and can barely walk. WTF is he doing on a chair? He's 82!! A couple years ago he was going on about how he was going to put a couple ladders up to make a scaffolding to paint up around the top of the landing. I told him that when he falls off, he's going to a nursing home and wont' be coming out. You should have seen his face on that one. They live in a split level home and neither one of them can go up and down stairs very well. You can't even get out of the house without doing some stairs. sigh. They refuse to leave because "BIL was born there". No he wasn't. He was born in a hospital miles away. Plus he doesn't care. Plus he's thinking about moving out of state anyway!!
Having said all that, it'll probably be a ladder that takes me out. I'm not very graceful. And I'm 49.
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Post by bethany102399 on Oct 2, 2018 15:19:07 GMT
revirdsuba99 respectfully, not you. Hire someone to take them down and rehang. In your case a fall in either direction is going to be a big problem. No ladders, you hear. this! Is there family who could come do it? otherwise, I'd agree pay the neighbor kid. I'd put everything you need on the shelves you can reach.
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Post by pjaye on Oct 2, 2018 15:42:25 GMT
Although climbing is not good there are some times no alternatives I totally understand the kitchen one, but a couple of steps to reach the second shelf is different to the roof gutters. However make sure you have a decent stable ladder and non slip shoes on. Don't go up there with just socks etc. As a nurse I've seen a lot and it's not only the really dangerous obvious things that can give you serious injuries. We need to to mindful and careful about what we are doing, especially as we get older as we are more likely to break things and also take longer to recover. As for those curtains, please don't ever do that on your own, make sure someone is there to help you at the very least. Sunday how he was standing on a CHAIR doing something and fell right on his back. Apparently he laid there for like 2 hours. Here's a thought, stay off the gd chairs. It wasn't even a step stool! Plus, he wears leg braces and can barely walk. WTF is he doing on a chair? He's 82!! OMG that's so bad, gives me anxiety just thinking about it! They just think they can still do the same things they did when they were 30. Not having a phone with her was the other issue. She told me later she didn't even go out the front door she used the back door, so after she fell with her two broken feet she had to crawl to the other side of the house, up a couple of steps and all the way into the kitchen before she could get to the phone. And why she fell? She was using the hose to wash out the gutters, she fell because she slipped on the wet ladder plus she was trying to hold onto the hose because she didn't want to let it go "and get water everywhere". Outside. She was worried about water getting things wet...outside. So after she fell, of course she got soaked by the hose...sopping wet crawling through the garden and house with 2 broken feet. It sounds like a scene from an episode of Modern Family. You'd watch that and laugh but still think it's so stupid it would never really happen. Until you get that phone call and your mother says..."I fell off the ladder and think I broke both my legs".
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Oct 2, 2018 15:49:33 GMT
revirdsuba99 respectfully, not you. Hire someone to take them down and rehang. In your case a fall in either direction is going to be a big problem. No ladders, you hear. Thank you!
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Post by Deleted on Oct 2, 2018 16:21:59 GMT
Sorry to hear about your mom. When we helped our parents remodel their kitchen, we had to access the roof for DH to redo the exhaust vent hood. OMG, my father had the most antiquated, unstable 30 foot (?) ladder. That thing wobbled as you climbed on it and some of the rungs would flex from your weight. Well one day, DH and I were on the roof and here comes my dad to join us. After that remodel, we got rid of that ladder so he wouldn't ever be tempted to use it again. Time to make sure that ladder is gone by the time your mom returns back home!
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Post by marianne on Oct 2, 2018 16:48:31 GMT
Oh pjaye, I'm so sorry! Sending healing thoughts and good vibes that you both heal quickly and resolve the caretaking issue. I don't know what it is with some of us older folk - I guess the inability to accept some loss of independence. My dfil insisted on climbing up on the roof to clean gutters when he was 75 years old! Wore it like a badge of honor! My dmil climbed up on chairs to fix curtains and such. Drove me crazy! Their son inherited that same obstinant gene from both of them and thinks he can still do in his 70's what he did in his 40's. However, when we replaced the gutters on our home a few years ago, I made sure we got self-cleaning ones and got rid of our extension ladder as well. No more roof climbing for him! And that goes for you too, revirdsuba99 - no ladders!
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Post by Anne-Marie on Oct 2, 2018 16:50:15 GMT
I am so sorry. For your mom, for you, ugh. I would be frustrated too but I get it - no point in making her feel worse than she already does.
In my single mom days (and I wasn't 70 OR 50, lol), if I had to climb on a ladder, I would hand DD my phone and say "if I fall, who do you call?" and she would say "9-1-1 and then Gran". Yep, good girl. She never had to do it but I always thought preparing her was surely less traumatic than her finding me on the floor unconscious/in a pool of blood at some point.
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Post by katlady on Oct 2, 2018 16:50:45 GMT
Hope your mom gets well soon!
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Post by anniefb on Oct 2, 2018 16:53:56 GMT
So sorry to hear about your Mum. Hope her feet with heal quickly.
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Post by craftykitten on Oct 2, 2018 17:14:07 GMT
Ooh my gosh, how scary - for her and for you! I hope she heals quickly. And you too, from your surgery. What rubbish timing.
It's worth us all being mindful about ladders and just generally taking care when doing jobs.
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Post by jumperhop on Oct 2, 2018 17:17:34 GMT
Your poor Mom. I hope she heals quickly. Jen
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Post by bethany102399 on Oct 2, 2018 17:34:11 GMT
And why she fell? She was using the hose to wash out the gutters, she fell because she slipped on the wet ladder plus she was trying to hold onto the hose because she didn't want to let it go "and get water everywhere". Outside. She was worried about water getting things wet...outside. My grandmother fell and broke her hip (she'd broken the other one about 10 years prior) when she was in her early 90s. What was she doing? standing in front of the tv, balancing on ONE LEG, while putting her pajama pants on. not sitting on the convenient chair, not wearing a nightgown, and NOT wearing her life alert button that the assisted living place she was in at the time provided. She had to crawl to the phone, with a broken hip and tried getting indignant with my mom and her doc. They both about came unglued when she confessed to what had happened. She died at 98, having spent a lifetime of being unsteady on her feet (and breaking both hips and I believe her foot at one point) and my mom NEVER let her live it down.
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Post by jennrs on Oct 2, 2018 17:43:03 GMT
I hope your mom recovers quickly! It could of been so much worse for her.
I am 50 and don’t even feel strong enough to climb into our attic anymore. I know I can but it makes me nervous I’m going to fall, it’s really tricky climbing up there and it’s just not worth the risk to me.
My DH was doing some home repairs for a 94 year old man last week and the man was climbing into the attic and getting large bins down. My DH kept asking him if he needed help and he would not let him help him. He had to go back the next day and said he didn’t even want to be there because he made him so nervous worrying he was going to get hurt.
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Post by georgiapea on Oct 2, 2018 18:15:19 GMT
It seems so strange to me why anyone in my age range would jeopardize their well being by risking a fall or other injury. We all know as we age we become less stable so why are we rejecting this fact and pretending we are immune?
I use my HC placard so I'll hopefully have the energy to reach my car later. I've heard women say they don't have or use one as someone else may need the close spot more than them. Why has that person come to feel they are of lesser worth than some unknown person?
Why does an elderly person on a,ladder feel they don't deserve to be assisted with difficult tasks? The claim its independence doesn't wash with me because if everything goes to blazes we are suddenly WAY less independent. With broken bones preventing walking and eating.
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Post by katlaw on Oct 2, 2018 18:39:56 GMT
Your poor mom. It only takes a moment to make a decision you regret for years. I have had this conversation with my mom more than once. She is short and up until a few years ago she would pile phone books on a kitchen chair to wipe out her top cupboards! A disaster waiting to happen. Hopefully you are able to arrange some help for her.
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Post by purplebee on Oct 2, 2018 18:56:27 GMT
Oh no! Your poor Mama. Hope she heals quickly and is not in too much pain. I am 66 and I know I should stop doing some of the things I take for granted. Yeah...I did climb up on a chair last weekend hanging curtains. But your Mom's tale of woe is making me rethink stuff like that. Hope you heal quickly too!
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Post by chlerbie on Oct 2, 2018 19:03:36 GMT
I am 51 and wouldn't have an issue climbing a ladder, but would never do it when I was by myself. Luckily, I don't have too many occasions where I would feel it necessary and would definitely hire someone if it was some huge job. We have an 82 year old neighbor who FINALLY stopped climbing ladders this summer when her family put their foot down and took her ladder away.
I'm so sorry about your mom and hope that she'll heal quickly. And stay off ladders in the future.
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Post by annabella on Oct 2, 2018 19:15:46 GMT
Hope she recovers quickly!
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