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Post by Susie_Homemaker on Jan 6, 2019 20:59:52 GMT
so I’ve been out of work since Dec 21st. My employer closes for the week between Christmas and NY and I had a partial hysterectomy on Dec 26th (I’m doing very well!) and won’t go back for another week. All that to say that HGTV has been on a lot and they mostly show house hunting or renovation type shows. My question is who does so much entertaining that that is a huge consideration in the home choice?? I just don’t get it. Maybe we’re just antisocial (we’re not) or just think our home is meant for who lives here not who might be visiting. DH and I swear we’re going to make a drinking game out of how many times they say entertaining or open concept. I’m going to have to be drunk to hear ENTERTAINING one more time! I swear it’s possible to entertain without an open concept home! Who is doing all of this freaking entertaining?!?
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Post by ddly on Jan 6, 2019 21:02:02 GMT
Not me! Lol
Those shows are entertaining. I clearly live a different life than those people looking for new homes.
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Post by Leone on Jan 6, 2019 21:25:25 GMT
Yes...totally agree. I have been watching too much HGTV...if I hear one more man comment on the amount of natural light I want to barf. They imply that entertaining and having friends and family visit is all they do. My previous house...which was very nice...had eight different times when House Hunters over the years had some diva walk in and they zeroed onto something exactly in my house and she was dumbfounded how someone could live with that horrible thing. So...I moved to Florida two years ago to a lovely highly upgraded three year old house. Within a month, House Hunters zeroed in on my new backsplash..,I had never had a backsplash before this house...and the guy proclaimed that atrocity would be the first thing to be ripped out. I like my backsplash. Have you noticed that everyone now insists on a white kitchen...I remember when everyone had to have a red accent wall. BTW...I am starting to get sick of all the gray..,floors, walls, furniture....way too overdone.
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Post by julie5 on Jan 6, 2019 21:40:27 GMT
Totally agree. Drives me nuts.
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Post by iluvpink on Jan 6, 2019 21:47:04 GMT
I don't watch them because I'd probably get annoyed like that too. We recently moved because our previous house really was too small. But we were far more motivated by our every day living needs, not entertaining. Though I do find entertaining easier now. That said our entertaining consists of small groups of close family/friends. We do not do large or formal entertaining! We do have real wine glasses, but people are just as apt to grab a solo cup from our stash and use that for wine. Fancy, classy people we are not!
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Post by mikklynn on Jan 6, 2019 22:31:54 GMT
I agree. And, if I hear someone on House Hunter's say "Oh, it's a perfect spot to have a cup of coffee in the morning", I'll scream. I never use my patio for coffee. I have to go to work!
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Post by finsup on Jan 6, 2019 22:33:27 GMT
When it comes to parties, I'm a goer not a thrower.
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Post by AllieC on Jan 6, 2019 22:37:29 GMT
For me entertaining doesn't mean having parties or even big formal gatherings. We are building a house soon and our plans definitely have been made for indoor and outdoor "entertaining". This for us means family coming around for dinner, friends coming for a casual visit/drink etc and this happens often so we really wanted to set up that way.
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Post by basketdiva on Jan 6, 2019 23:20:16 GMT
We are “those” people that need room indoors and outdoors for entertaining. We love have friends over to watch Texas A and M sporting events (active alumni group) or bbq/ outdoor game parties. Sometimes we have themed parties and other times a casual evening of dinner or an 2ven8ng if dessert, dr8nks and games. 6
The husband and I enjoy our coffee on the patio on the weekends during the summer.
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Post by kibblesandbits on Jan 6, 2019 23:41:34 GMT
I've turned that phrase into a drinking game. With everyone identifying as "introvert", who the heck is doing all this entertaining? That said, we built a very large home recently expressly for entertaining. We have large family gatherings, fundraisers, events, super bowl parties, pool parties, NYE parties . . . our house is the party house. I can seat over 50 easily for a meal.
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Post by StephDRebel on Jan 7, 2019 1:00:24 GMT
I am.
During football season we have people over almost every Saturday for the game. I have a crafty night with girlfriends twice a month, we do progressive dinners in the village, and we do 3-4 parties a year with 40-50 people.
It sucks in our current home. Our forever home will be a much different design.
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Post by sharlag on Jan 7, 2019 1:04:10 GMT
When it comes to parties, I'm a goer not a thrower. YES! I want to be able to choose when to stop human interaction.
People stay way to long when they come over.
My mom has actually gone to bed and left guests in the family room for dad to deal with. They were drop in guests.
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Post by scrapmomof2 on Jan 7, 2019 1:09:44 GMT
We do a lot of entertaining. We have a small home though and I really wish it was bigger so we could be a little more comfortable when having family over. DH and I both have large families. I had both family Christmas parties this year (my choice, my turn!) and it was really cozy!!! Haha! It's about 30 people in an 1800 sq foot house, and we served a full sit down meal at both parties!! In the summer I love having friends and family over for pool parties. It's fun and DH is a huge help.
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Post by slicksister on Jan 7, 2019 4:14:39 GMT
My house is less than 600 sq. ft and we entertain all the time. Never more than other 2 couples in the winter but that makes 6 adults in a tiny space. Our friends love coming over and hanging out even though it is cozy. It's not about the size of the house. It's about building community. It's often potluck but not always. I often have dinner and a movie night for my students and they would rather sit on the floor anyways!
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Post by janeliz on Jan 7, 2019 4:52:49 GMT
Yup. I spent some time watching Property Brothers yesterday. Perfect for entertaining, open concept, a kitchen island the size of a tennis court, and we must be able to clearly see each and every member of our family when we’re in the kitchen cooking!
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Post by ScrapbookMyLife on Jan 7, 2019 4:57:04 GMT
I think some people don't like being alone or alone with their significant other, so they always have people over. Drop-in anytime, always welcome.
As well as, as I know a few that like to be the "show off" type hostess, so they are always having gatherings so they can show off their house/decor.
I also know a few helicopter Moms that have made their home "the neighborhood house", so everyone hangs out there, because they don't want their kids going anywhere without them. It always like grand central station there. Kids, dogs, neighbors, drop ins....noise and chaos.
I also know a couple larger families/friends/everyone's welcome.... that gather for Sunday pot luck dinner weekly, and it is usually hosted at one of two homes.
I am not one to entertain or have people over. I like quiet and calm. If someone wants or needs to come over, they need to call first(preferably a day or two before...at the very least a few hours prior).....so that I can prepare for my quiet zone to be disturbed. LOL!!
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Post by Gennifer on Jan 7, 2019 4:57:24 GMT
I don't "entertain" in a traditional sense, but our house is the main gathering place for both sides of the family. I have 7 siblings, and DH has 5, so we are looking at anywhere from 30-50 people any time we have a family party, which is 5-6 times a year. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by crazy4scraps on Jan 7, 2019 5:34:41 GMT
We don’t host at home all that much, maybe a few times a year. Honestly I can say even though our house is fairly big, it pretty much sucks for a gathering of more than maybe 2-3 extra people unless we’re all outside.
Our family room is where we usually hang out but there isn’t space for more than three people to sit unless we bring in folding chairs and they’re not comfortable.
Our “formal” livingroom is across the foyer, so if someone was sitting in there you couldn’t be talking to them if you were sitting in the family room where the tv is because they’re totally separate. If someone is in either the family room or the livingroom, they can’t have a conversation with someone cooking in the kitchen. And there isn’t room in our eat in kitchen for a table that will seat more than six people.
So our entertaining is mostly done in the late spring or summer when we can all be outside together. We have a big yard and a decent sized deck, so that is where we usually plan to be if we’re having a bigger party or get together.
Needless to say, a LOT of these things were taken into consideration when we were putting together our plan for our cabin renovation. Once we’re done, there will be room for a big patio table and chairs in our screened in porch. There will be room for a big indoor dining table that is open to the kitchen, which will open out onto the screened porch and also open to the deck on the lake side. On weekends we regularly have dinner with anywhere from 6-12 people, and it will be really nice to be able to have everyone sitting together in the same space.
We recently had dinner at SIL’s house. She lives in an older (built in 1940), very traditionally styled home that is the exact opposite of open concept with everything very separate even moreso than our house. The kitchen is tiny. The dining room is small. The livingroom is decent sized but they have a baby grand piano in there that takes up a lot of space. She was having a taco night and with the seven of us there (four adults, two teens and one kid) it was cramped and hard to navigate with everyone trying to fill their plates in the kitchen at once.
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Post by lucyg on Jan 7, 2019 5:41:40 GMT
Not me, but my sister loves to throw parties. They did a huge add-on/remodel a number of years ago, partly to make entertaining easier.
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Post by busy on Jan 7, 2019 5:48:29 GMT
I think some people don't like being alone or alone with their significant other, so they always have people over. Drop-in anytime, always welcome. As well as, as I know a few that like to be the "show off" type hostess, so they are always having gatherings so they can show off their house/decor. I also know a few helicopter Moms that have made their home "the neighborhood house", so everyone hangs out there, because they don't want their kids going anywhere without them. It always like grand central station there. Kids, dogs, neighbors, drop ins....noise and chaos. I also know a couple larger families/friends/everyone's welcome.... that gather for Sunday pot luck dinner weekly, and it is usually hosted at one of two homes. I am not one to entertain or have people over. I like quiet and calm. If someone wants or needs to come over, they need to call first(preferably a day or two before...at the very least a few hours prior).....so that I can prepare for my quiet zone to be disturbed. LOL!! Yikes. Not everyone who like to have people over does it for ulterior motives! Some people just enjoy the company of others in their home ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
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Post by inkedup on Jan 7, 2019 5:57:41 GMT
I think some people don't like being alone or alone with their significant other, so they always have people over. Drop-in anytime, always welcome. As well as, as I know a few that like to be the "show off" type hostess, so they are always having gatherings so they can show off their house/decor. I also know a few helicopter Moms that have made their home "the neighborhood house", so everyone hangs out there, because they don't want their kids going anywhere without them. It always like grand central station there. Kids, dogs, neighbors, drop ins....noise and chaos. I also know a couple larger families/friends/everyone's welcome.... that gather for Sunday pot luck dinner weekly, and it is usually hosted at one of two homes. I am not one to entertain or have people over. I like quiet and calm. If someone wants or needs to come over, they need to call first(preferably a day or two before...at the very least a few hours prior).....so that I can prepare for my quiet zone to be disturbed. LOL!! Or, some people really enjoy hosting even though they love their spouse and aren't trying to show off?
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Post by Crack-a-lackin on Jan 7, 2019 6:16:40 GMT
For me, it’s not exactly entertaining in the party sense, but I want to have enough room so I can host bunco night or book club or a nice area to eat and gather with a neighbor or two.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 7, 2019 6:32:04 GMT
I used to entertain ALOT. in a very tiny house. Nobody every refused an invitation, snd it was impossible to get people to go home. so I must have been doing something right.
And then we moved and my car died, and you learn how many friends you really have when you don’t have a car.
I don’t miss entertaining. I don’t miss those people.
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Post by mom26 on Jan 7, 2019 6:36:59 GMT
I agree. And, if I hear someone on House Hunter's say "Oh, it's a perfect spot to have a cup of coffee in the morning", I'll scream. I never use my patio for coffee. I have to go to work! LOL! Years ago, DH and I used to drink our morning coffee on the back patio. We were smokers then, and didn't smoke in the house, so outside it was for that first smoke and cup of coffee. (We kind of miss those days, TBH. Not the smoking part - quit 7 years ago - but the quiet start to our day. These days it's TV on and nothing but bad news. *sigh*)
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Post by AnotherPea on Jan 7, 2019 12:01:54 GMT
We used to but that’s slacked off in the past 7/8 years. We’d have people in our home 2 or 3 times a week. Dinners with friends, family would stop by, scout meetings, craft nights, church groups, baby showers- all sorts of things. With our new jobs we fell away from a lot of itso we only have people over a couple of times a month now.
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Post by justkat on Jan 7, 2019 14:02:44 GMT
I guess I'm one of those people.lol We entertain as often as possible. Casual get togethers to dinner parties to football watching parties to formal galas,we love being surrounded by our family and friends. So yeah guess we'd be those people looking for a house with a good layout for entertaining.😊
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Post by maryland on Jan 7, 2019 14:16:45 GMT
For me entertaining doesn't mean having parties or even big formal gatherings. We are building a house soon and our plans definitely have been made for indoor and outdoor "entertaining". This for us means family coming around for dinner, friends coming for a casual visit/drink etc and this happens often so we really wanted to set up that way. I wish we had more friends coming over! But my husband isn't social, so it's just my friends. But now that our kids are older, many of them work, so no more having friends over. I miss that! I grew up with neighbors who were like family. They were always stopping over, the moms would get together for coffee after the kids went to school. They would stop and visit each other throughout the day! I am so happy to have a friend in my neighborhood like that!
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Post by workingclassdog on Jan 7, 2019 14:23:19 GMT
LOL.. I ask myself that question every time I hear someone says something about entertaining. I guess we did do some entertaining while the kids were growing up. It was always birthday parties, graduation parties, maybe a Superbowl party here or there, but that was the extent of it. But not once in my life I would buy a house in thoughts of how I was going to throw a party. We make due with what we have. We are not 'formal' people.. so it's either a garage party, or we plant ourselves on the couches and around the kitchen table. Use the office desk? Sure why not. In fact, I haven't had a party in years and my in-laws just invited themselves over for the Superbowl along with my BIL/SIL... so there ya go.. how will I ever manage.. hahaha
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Post by librarylady on Jan 7, 2019 14:56:38 GMT
As an aside, when I watch those shows, I have seen young couples who say "We have $40,000 - 80,000 to spend"-- How do young married couples have THAT much to put down?
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Post by AllieC on Jan 7, 2019 22:15:07 GMT
As an aside, when I watch those shows, I have seen young couples who say "We have $40,000 - 80,000 to spend"-- How do young married couples have THAT much to put down? My 21 year old daughter and her 22 year old boyfriend of 3 years have just bought a house. They had about USD 35k deposit so it can definitely be done. This was all their own savings.
He is a carpenter/builder and she found university wasn't for her (and had a flare up of a chronic illness that she couldn't get under control) so came back home after 3 months and got a permanent government job where she earns good money. She had saved USD14k in her gap year working at a restaurant so she still had about 10k of that left and built on that. She isn't a drinker and lived at home until she moved out, same with her boyfriend. It is a little house that is in a great area in excellent condition and he will do some small renos on weekends which will only cost them materials.
I'm very proud of them.
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