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Post by Patter on Jan 11, 2019 11:25:10 GMT
So very thankful for your latest update and that the family has been there for you. May you continue to feel optimistic, may he continue to heal physically and mentally, and may you feel God's strength in the days ahead!
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Post by liya on Jan 11, 2019 12:14:35 GMT
First post I check when I log on for updates. Thinking about you; your son and your family. Hoping for continued positivity.
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Post by roberta on Jan 11, 2019 13:34:12 GMT
Sorry for the pneumonia! Hope that clears soon. You and family are still in my thoughts and prayers. So pleased to hear he will be getting care when he is medically cleared.
For the other pea with a similar problem you and yours are in my thoughts and prayers also. - I am a strong introvert and I don’t share much in a public forum like this of what is important to me. It is not a trust issue here just a “against my nature “ thing. I don’t know if that is why you choose not to share details here but whatever the reason I want to validate your choice. Praying for a positive outcome for you and family.
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Post by piebaker on Jan 11, 2019 13:53:16 GMT
Thinking of you and your son and family.
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Post by quinlove on Jan 11, 2019 14:07:18 GMT
Sending some more love to you and the other pea. 💚
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 14:08:16 GMT
I cannot even imagine what you are going through. Big hugs and lots of prayers going your way.
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Post by christinec68 on Jan 11, 2019 14:16:16 GMT
I know there's a long journey ahead but I am glad things are looking up. Continued thoughts and prayers for you and our other pea going through this as well. (((hugs)))
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Post by Deleted on Jan 11, 2019 14:27:20 GMT
Grateful for your updates and, mostly, that you feel up to updates and that the news is positive.
Keep taking care of yourself.
I think about you many times a day and the other pea.
I am glad it cheers you to know so many peas are in your metaphorical corner with you - sending you our best thoughts and hopes for continued progress.
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Post by cannmom on Jan 11, 2019 14:38:26 GMT
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Post by twinks on Jan 11, 2019 16:30:21 GMT
Thanks for the update. Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Prayers and hugs going to the other pea and her family.
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Post by wezee on Jan 11, 2019 17:13:10 GMT
I'm thinking of all of you!
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Post by flute4peace on Jan 11, 2019 19:11:57 GMT
Chiming in to say that you and your son are still at the top of my mind. I'm glad he is stable and seems to be getting good care. Love you!!
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 11, 2019 21:07:32 GMT
Such extremes with two kids in such a short period of time is complicated trauma for you.
When you get past this - and you will - expect that somewhere down the line you will still be reacting.
It's all too easy to dismiss these enormous events as something that happened in the past when we get some time between us, but our bodies just don't react that way. They can hold onto the memories even if the mind tries to forget.
I say this because it truly does help to have something to point to as a cause, giving you a why when you feel bad or are having other troubles such as concentrating or dealing with anxiety. I have found that it takes effort to tack those true whys to the top of my thoughts so I don't slip into something that's more nebulous and ill defined. "I feel anxious and I don't know why," type of thing. You have reasons. This is why. You can understand how normal it is to feel anxious (or whatever you feel) because of these reasons. You are OK. Your reactions are OK. You will be able to deal with them and they will get better.
I really hope the inpatient transfer goes smoothly and your boy gets the help he needs. I also hope that this new year finds the help for your girl that benefits her the most.
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Post by iluvpink on Jan 11, 2019 21:16:11 GMT
Such extremes with two kids in such a short period of time is complicated trauma for you. When you get past this - and you will - expect that somewhere down the line you will still be reacting. It's all too easy to dismiss these enormous events as something that happened in the past when we get some time between us, but our bodies just don't react that way. They can hold onto the memories even if the mind tries to forget. I say this because it truly does help to have something to point to as a cause, giving you a why when you feel bad or are having other troubles such as concentrating or dealing with anxiety. I have found that it takes effort to tack those true whys to the top of my thoughts so I don't slip into something that's more nebulous and ill defined. "I feel anxious and I don't know why," type of thing. You have reasons. This is why. You can understand how normal it is to feel anxious (or whatever you feel) because of these reasons. You are OK. Your reactions are OK. You will be able to deal with them and they will get better. I really hope the inpatient transfer goes smoothly and your boy gets the help he needs. I also hope that this new year finds the help for your girl that benefits her the most. I can’t like this enough. We had a really rough year with dd two years ago. After things calmed down I started having anxiety. It got really bad, like panic attacks and I finally saw my doctor. She said it probably had something to do with that year and my body reacting. Good luck to you and your family.
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Post by leftturnonly on Jan 11, 2019 21:24:54 GMT
We had a really rough year with dd two years ago. After things calmed down I started having anxiety. It got really bad, like panic attacks and I finally saw my doctor. She said it probably had something to do with that year and my body reacting. Good luck to you and your family. Yes. That absolutely happens. And when it happens, it's all too easy for other people to dismiss what you are going through because they don't understand the cause and effect. I like to consider it like a migraine headache. Sometimes, people don't get the migraine until after the stress has passed. The body finally reacts as it begins to relax. IDK. Maybe it's "safer" that way. All I do know for sure is that this delayed reaction happens and it can be damned hard.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 11, 2019 22:34:18 GMT
Update: today has been a whirlwind. He was able to maintain his oxygen levels and that was the last thing to get clearance. When docs rounded at 10:30 they informed me they planned to clear him if he could maintain for a few more hours while he slept and that social work was going to work on a placement for us. He went to sleep and I ran home, took a shower, and packed his bag. My sis and I met up at the hospital and they said our very first choice place could take him this afternoon. They called me and went over a few things and then we told DS he needed to go and that he had no choice. He was angry, but no yelling. He accepted he was going and he cooperated. He did tell my sister and F you both.
But he went. I've been here filling out paperwork. He was in the room and making snide comments about the patient packet of information they gave him. They have separated us so they can evaluate him right now and I went through everything in his suitcase to make sure it was compliant with their rules. Now I'm waiting.
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Post by dewryce on Jan 11, 2019 22:41:21 GMT
Good, he’s where he needs to be. Another step successfully completed! I hope you are able to go home and crash, shut your brain down. Y’all have a long road ahead of you but if anyone can do it, you can,
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 11, 2019 22:42:33 GMT
Good, he’s where he needs to be. Another step successfully completed! I hope you are able to go home and crash, shut your brain down. Y’all have a long road ahead of you but if anyone can do it, you can, There is a glass of wine waiting for me when I get home tonight. I will get to sleep in my bed.
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Post by annaintx on Jan 11, 2019 22:43:17 GMT
Update: today has been a whirlwind. He was able to maintain his oxygen levels and that was the last thing to get clearance. When docs rounded at 10:30 they informed me they planned to clear him if he could maintain for a few more hours while he slept and that social work was going to work on a placement for us. He went to sleep and I ran home, took a shower, and packed his bag. My sis and I met up at the hospital and they said our very first choice place could take him this afternoon. They called me and went over a few things and then we told DS he needed to go and that he had no choice. He was angry, but no yelling. He accepted he was going and he cooperated. He did tell my sister and F you both. But he went. I've been here filling out paperwork. He was in the room and making snide comments about the patient packet of information they gave him. They have separated us so they can evaluate him right now and I went through everything in his suitcase to make sure it was compliant with their rules. Now I'm waiting. Steps in the right direction. I'm glad you got him into your first choice placement! He will be well taken care of. Hugs hugs and more hugs. Dont' forget to take care of yourself, also--your mental and physical health is important too.
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Post by inkedup on Jan 11, 2019 22:47:54 GMT
Update: today has been a whirlwind. He was able to maintain his oxygen levels and that was the last thing to get clearance. When docs rounded at 10:30 they informed me they planned to clear him if he could maintain for a few more hours while he slept and that social work was going to work on a placement for us. He went to sleep and I ran home, took a shower, and packed his bag. My sis and I met up at the hospital and they said our very first choice place could take him this afternoon. They called me and went over a few things and then we told DS he needed to go and that he had no choice. He was angry, but no yelling. He accepted he was going and he cooperated. He did tell my sister and F you both. But he went. I've been here filling out paperwork. He was in the room and making snide comments about the patient packet of information they gave him. They have separated us so they can evaluate him right now and I went through everything in his suitcase to make sure it was compliant with their rules. Now I'm waiting. I am so glad your son is receiving inpatient treatment and that he didn't fight you too hard. May this be the beginning of a new chapter for you all.
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Post by Spongemom Scrappants on Jan 11, 2019 22:53:03 GMT
I keep checking in to see how things are going. I'm glad to hear he's transferred to a treatment facility.
And as odd as this sounds, maybe it's good that he's still "fighting it" a bit. I think I'd be more worried if he were weirdly happy and compliant with the whole thing. I hope that comes across right. He's got to be true about the process and for him, for now, that's probably more the truth. He'll have hard work ahead of him to get to a better place in his head, but I'm glad you got your first choice of facilities to get him there.
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Post by peasquared on Jan 11, 2019 23:02:39 GMT
I have been away a few days and just saw this. I need to read the entire thread, but wanted to tell you that I will pray for you and your DS every day until he is better. Please, take care of yourself. Try as best as possible to eat and rest. You are going to need your strength.
You are such a kind pea, I hate to see you hurting! BIG (((HUGS)))
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Post by gar on Jan 11, 2019 23:05:01 GMT
Baby steps in the right direction- I am pleased for you that things are moving forward. Hugs 🙂
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Post by mom on Jan 11, 2019 23:06:23 GMT
Update: today has been a whirlwind. He was able to maintain his oxygen levels and that was the last thing to get clearance. When docs rounded at 10:30 they informed me they planned to clear him if he could maintain for a few more hours while he slept and that social work was going to work on a placement for us. He went to sleep and I ran home, took a shower, and packed his bag. My sis and I met up at the hospital and they said our very first choice place could take him this afternoon. They called me and went over a few things and then we told DS he needed to go and that he had no choice. He was angry, but no yelling. He accepted he was going and he cooperated. He did tell my sister and F you both. But he went. I've been here filling out paperwork. He was in the room and making snide comments about the patient packet of information they gave him. They have separated us so they can evaluate him right now and I went through everything in his suitcase to make sure it was compliant with their rules. Now I'm waiting. I am glad to see this update! Your son is getting what he needs and you get some time to take a deep breath.
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Post by shanni on Jan 11, 2019 23:29:28 GMT
Please, please, please remember that the things he is saying and doing right now are not him. It’s his Illness. I know it’s so hard, but try not to take it personally. The illness takes control and makes them do things they wouldn’t normally do. Big hugs, mom. You are doing great.
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Post by Patter on Jan 11, 2019 23:57:25 GMT
Glad he is where he needs to be now. Praying that you sleep AMAZING tonight, and that he gets wonderful treatment.
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Post by RosieKat on Jan 12, 2019 0:10:25 GMT
Just sending you more love! (And our other Pea family who needs extra right now, too.)
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Post by purplebee on Jan 12, 2019 0:15:50 GMT
Such good news that your boy got into your first choice for treatment! Keeping him and you and your family in my prayers for healing.
Thanks for all the updates.
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Post by Deleted on Jan 12, 2019 0:56:18 GMT
I'm pleased to read your latest update jeremysgirl and that your son got the placement you preferred for him and he has agreed to go. One day at a time, you and him will get through this. Enjoy your glass of wine and a good sleep in your own bed, peacefully, knowing he is being safely cared for.
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Post by jeremysgirl on Jan 12, 2019 1:13:01 GMT
Last update of the night. I just got home and everything went smooth. He started with a negative attitude and I signed papers while he looked over the patient packet. He made some negative comments and was a little irritating. But then they separated us and an intake nurse was talking with him while I got all his belongings checked in.
They put us back together while they processed everything and he lightened up considerably. We spent about an hour waiting and he thought it was a good time to test my geography by quizzing me on world capitals. I don't know very many and I made the comment that I was a fat girl and I like to think of countries by cuisine and that made him laugh. His attitude was much improved by the end. And he told me he was going to be a model patient so he could get out of there as soon as possible. So I feel like a million times better. And I can rest my head easy tonight.
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