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Post by papersilly on Jan 28, 2019 22:43:08 GMT
no, i didn't. i was a non-traditional student who took the long, slow journey to my degree. i was married by the time i went back to school to finish. but i finished. it was a quiet, personal accomplishment that i didn't feel the need to celebrate. i got my graduation check or confirmation in the mail so i knew i was done. that's all that mattered. i didn't want to go to dinner with the family or have a party. when i got my diploma in the mail, i tucked it away somewhere and that was that.
ETA: i think if i had children by the time i graduated, i would have gone just to mark that family moment. since i didn't, it was a non issue for me.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 22:52:17 GMT
My youngest graduated a semester early and still went back and walked with all her friends and classmates. She was working a full time job by then. College grads aren’t usually a big tadoo, so just her parents, sister and grandparents were there. We went out to eat afterwards. Celebrating on the strip with your parents sounds very... different It was what he wanted for his 21st birthday too. My husband used to have conferences in Vegas in the summer, and the boys have been going every year or so since they were 5 and 7. They really had a blast as kids until they realized that Vegas is way different for grownups. My youngest is all about spending some time with his folks especially if there is a free flight, meals, and hotel in the plan.
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Post by kate on Jan 28, 2019 22:53:43 GMT
I went to both of mine. For undergrad, I don't know of anyone who would have skipped it (I'm sure there were some). It was a small, liberal-arts college where most people live on campus and finish at a traditional age and in four years - so most of us were just on the cusp of "adulting" for real. It was a big transition time.
My parents insisted I march for my masters. I know I never would have gone back to pick up my hood if I hadn't gone to graduation, so I'm glad I did. Some schools have their teachers march in academic regalia for convocation and graduation, so it's good to have the hood.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 22:53:59 GMT
I walked that stage with an extra spring in my step. I graduated college when I was 39. I had worked on my degree part time for 14 years. It was a long, long road that included struggles with Chemistry, a new baby, working, and a divorce my final semester. I ended up having to take a year off at that point. I had so much to celebrate and I was so proud because I had worked so hard. It was one of the best days of my life. <—- me crying happy tears. I think I would have walked across that stage like a peacock if that had been me.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 22:55:19 GMT
I did. Boring, boring, boring. However, even if he goes, it doesn’t mean that you are under any obligation to host anyone anymore than you would be if he decided to go. Yes, you haven't met the other side of the family. They love a graduation.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 22:56:28 GMT
I went to both of mine. For undergrad, I don't know of anyone who would have skipped it (I'm sure there were some). It was a small, liberal-arts college where most people live on campus and finish at a traditional age and in four years - so most of us were just on the cusp of "adulting" for real. It was a big transition time. My parents insisted I march for my masters. I know I never would have gone back to pick up my hood if I hadn't gone to graduation, so I'm glad I did. Some schools have their teachers march in academic regalia for convocation and graduation, so it's good to have the hood. One of local high schools has all of their teachers show up for graduation and they all wear the hoods. Actually the high schools purchased them years ago.
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Post by Ellie on Jan 28, 2019 23:02:37 GMT
Yes! I went through an extremely traumatic time in my early 20s and didn't graduate until I was 28. It went to a tiny liberal arts college and excelled. I wouldn't have missed it!
My favorite part? I was the first grandchild on my father's side to get a college degree and my tiny, fiesty, Italian grandmother made it there. She was so proud. I'll never forget the look on her face when she saw me in my cap and gown.
And our ceremony wasn't boring. Well, parts were. But it was intimate and pretty short. Oh, and there were bagpipes which aren't everyone's cup of tea but I love them.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 23:06:22 GMT
Yes! I went through an extremely traumatic time in my early 20s and didn't graduate until I was 28. It went to a tiny liberal arts college and excelled. I wouldn't have missed it! My favorite part? I was the first grandchild on my father's side to get a college degree and my tiny, fiesty, Italian grandmother made it there. She was so proud. I'll never forget the look on her face when she saw me in my cap and gown. And our ceremony wasn't boring. Well, parts were. But it was intimate and pretty short. Oh, and there were bagpipes which aren't everyone's cup of tea but I love them. This sounds much better than my university graduation. Can't remember how many people graduated (several thousand). It was more of a stand up when they call your area's name. When my son graduated from high school, he got to give a speech and gave a shout out to his 90 year old grandma who had made it every single one of her grandkid's (11) graduations. She passed away 7 months later, so it was pretty special.
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Post by kate on Jan 28, 2019 23:10:12 GMT
One of local high schools has all of their teachers show up for graduation and they all wear the hoods. Actually the high schools purchased them years ago. That is funny! Did they order them from each individual university?? The place where I got my masters didn't have a distinctive robe (many universities do - they're not all black), but the school's colors are on the inside of the hood, and the velvet border is the color of my field.
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Post by 950nancy on Jan 28, 2019 23:13:42 GMT
One of local high schools has all of their teachers show up for graduation and they all wear the hoods. Actually the high schools purchased them years ago. That is funny! Did they order them from each individual university?? The place where I got my masters didn't have a distinctive robe (many universities do - they're not all black), but the school's colors are on the inside of the hood, and the velvet border is the color of my field. They all wear black robes which is one of the high school's colors. Then they wear kind of a sash(ish) thing with their college colors. They are made out of velour, I think. My husband has his.
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Post by littlemama on Jan 28, 2019 23:50:12 GMT
Yes, dh and I each went to ours. DS so far has not even had the thought that he could choose not to go.
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Post by compeateropeator on Jan 28, 2019 23:51:58 GMT
No. I completed my degree in December and did not go to graduation that spring. I had left school and then went back after a few years and completed my degree. I lived off campus and a did not really have any ties to this school other than my classes and degree. I was also a few years older than many of the students by this time and just didn't want to go.
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Post by shannoots on Jan 29, 2019 0:03:47 GMT
I did not walk for my undergrad. I just didn't want to. I switched schools about a year before graduation and didn't feel like I really had any ties to the school.
I did walk for my graduate degree.
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Post by christine58 on Jan 29, 2019 0:25:01 GMT
I went for my bachelor's degree. Harry Chapin was the speaker.. Worked my ass off for that teaching degree so no way was I not going. Master's I skipped.
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Post by Fairlyoddparent on Jan 29, 2019 23:08:49 GMT
I didn't walk for my bachelor degree but, at the age of 53, received my masters degree and did do the ceremony. I worked so hard for that degree and made some good friends. I wanted to celebrate the achievement.
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Post by emarie on Jan 30, 2019 2:28:14 GMT
I skipped my graduation because it was winter and I had to move to a new city 3 days later. No regrets except I see all these awesome commencement speakers, and I wish I knew who our speaker was and what was said. Otherwise, it’s his graduation, let him celebrate how he wants. He did it!!! Congrats proud momma.
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Post by scrappinmom3 on Jan 31, 2019 3:50:11 GMT
Nope. I went back to school to finish my degree in my late 20’s, early 30’s and had a 5 year old and almost 1 year old when I finished and I just didn’t want to go. So, I didn’t.
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