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Post by Deleted on Mar 20, 2019 10:16:00 GMT
I've attended weddings of co-workers without DH. Granted the bride didn't know DH so it was a little different but the main reason was numbers. She did explain to us beforehand though. We all went and had a fab day. I would ask other co-workers if they have had the same.It's awkward to ask the bride herself because you are putting her in a difficult position if she has only invited you. On the other hand she would be embarrassed if she did intend your DH to attend. Generally, in the UK an invite is worded differently to what I've read on here as to how the invite is worded. Who the envelope is addressed to is irrelevant really as to who is invited. Here's an example, the host writes the name of all the invited guest(s) on the invitation itself so there is no second guessing whether the spouse and or children are invited. Makes things much easier than wondering if the host/bride has knowledge of etiquette or not.The top wording depends on who is paying for the wedding, the brides parents/Bride and Groom's between them or the wedding couple themselves.
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Post by MsChiff on Mar 22, 2019 15:36:44 GMT
It's extremely low class and mannerless to invite only one half of a married couple to a wedding, not to mention ignorant given that the sole purpose of a wedding is to celebrate two becoming one. It sends a message that "our getting married is important, but other people staying married isn't." When only selected guests/marriages are targeted as "worthy" of both spouses being invited (eg. family or friends vs coworkers) it's even more insulting to the invited guest. Being married is far more worthy than getting married as it takes a LOT more work and conviction to stay married than to get married. And that's not even touching on the proper behavior of a host. Then again, I'm of the mindset that if someone is important enough to be invited, they're important enough for their invitation to include a spouse/guest. I know many others are far more interested in putting on airs rather than hosting an event that fits both their budgets and proper etiquette/manners, and that's their choice and I'm not required to support anyone's choices but my own. Personally, I wouldn't give the OP's invitation a second thought. I'd decline attending and acknowledge their marriage as they acknowledged mine -- not at all. Wow! Low class? Other couples staying married depends on them attending one event together? Not giving the invite second thought? Why not tell us what you really think! "Other couples staying married depends on them attending one event together?" I don't know where you came up with this idea, but I certainly didn't state that. It is cheap and low class to only invite one half of a married couple to a wedding. And yes, I wouldn't give it a second thought. Not worth my time or trouble.
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scrappington
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Post by scrappington on Mar 22, 2019 15:41:52 GMT
I think in these situations the bride and groom need to put it in their own perspective. How would they feel only getting a solo invite.
I bet if they got one a couple years from now they would complain.
There comes a point you just need to cut your guest list.
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quiltz
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Post by quiltz on Mar 22, 2019 15:45:33 GMT
At my job working at a bank, the bride sent out invitations to co-workers to join Debbie and James at the dance reception, starting at 8:00 pm.
We could bring our spouses, enjoy a dessert style buffet later in the evening.
This was to me, a good way to incorporate everyone, keeping the budget in check for the couple. Everyone at the bank went together on a group gift to the couple.
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MorningPerson
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Post by MorningPerson on Mar 22, 2019 15:58:35 GMT
I haven't read any responses at all so maybe this has opinion has already been given -
Since it's you and several co-workers who have been invited without spouses, I wouldn't have any problem with going without my husband. Sounds like it could be a great evening socializing with work friends.
However, the bride should have spread the word before the invitations went out that she was doing it this way. Because if I wasn't aware that several invitations were going out to co-workers only (just as you weren't aware), I think my nose would have been a little out of joint that my husband wasn't included.
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Post by workingclassdog on Mar 22, 2019 16:20:01 GMT
It is odd but for me bringing DH to a wedding is like pulling out teeth and painful.
As long as I knew other people to have fun with I would rather go by myself.
One of our biggest fights in our marriage was at my best friend's wedding (HIS first cousin) He was an ass all night. Wouldn't dance, wanted to leave early.. I was SO mad. It was even before we were married. I was the MOH. I still can picture that evening. I tried my best not to be all emotional about it and have as much fun as I could but yeah, I vowed never again. At that time I was hurt, mad, pissed, you name it. We were young and I try to remember he doesn't like those things and is an introvert to the max.. I am opposite, but at the time ya know, we were still in the dating scene. That night I should have made the best of it, but all I wanted to do is dance with my boyfriend. Uggggg.. Can you say I never REALLY got over it.. hahaha..
I handle these situations much better now.. after 25 years of marriage.
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Country Ham
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Post by Country Ham on Mar 22, 2019 17:08:32 GMT
I have said it before. A wedding is a celebration of love between 2 people promising a life together. If there is ever an event where someone should be allowed to bring their husband/finace(e) that's the one.
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Post by katiejane on Mar 22, 2019 18:32:35 GMT
If it is a co worker of my DH, I would not be surprised if only he got an invite. Even if we saw them outside of work. If we regularly when out and socialized with the couple that would be different. Weddings are bloody expensive and brides and grooms are often drawn into inviting certain people due to family politics. It's not unusual to invite colleagues to attend without partners.
I see from the update that's what they have done. Go have fun with your colleagues, she must agree that you have a good relationship as you are on of the few invited
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