sassyangel
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Post by sassyangel on Mar 18, 2019 16:38:06 GMT
WOW! Just Wow! Police report and cameras (that you can monitor live) if you ever need to use a house sitter again. So sorry Merge. One of the hinky things this time was that she had unplugged our internet almost the minute she walked in the door (it was down/unplugged when we got home and the app I use showed it had been down since the 10th). Strongly suspect she was worried that we could see or hear her somehow if there was internet to the house. Ugh, that’s fairly premeditated doing that. We have cameras in our house, she probably thought you did too. I’m so sorry, it sucks when your trust is violated like that, especially by someone who had earned it till that point. I’m glad your dogs weren’t hurt at least, although it seems like they were stressed and upset. I’m so sorry about your rings, stuff that is sentimentally valuable is the worst, because it can never be replaced. I’d at least talk to the police, does she contract through an agency or anything? I’ve been there, on a very small scale, when a former friend of my husbands sit for us, that was upsetting enough - so I can very much imagine how you feel.
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Post by femalebusiness on Mar 18, 2019 16:40:16 GMT
One of the hinky things this time was that she had unplugged our internet almost the minute she walked in the door (it was down/unplugged when we got home and the app I use showed it had been down since the 10th). Strongly suspect she was worried that we could see or hear her somehow if there was internet to the house. Absolutely contact the police, and let them tell you what they can and can't take a report on. Also check all your meds and have the police check for evidence of drug use. Be sure to include the price of the meat and alcohol in the dollar figure you give them, as well as cost to rekey your locks. Check the car for drugs, too. So scary! Hey Merge, I wonder if you filed a police report you could write off the loss on next years income tax, meat destruction, and what you paid her.
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Post by thundergal on Mar 18, 2019 16:41:13 GMT
Merge... I gasped so loud at the amount of liquor gone that my boss across the hall looked up and goes, "WHAT?!?!" Oops. I am so sorry this happened. I'd need sedatives...I totally agree with the person who said she would be "wild". Perfect word for it. You certainly know that you are going to have to keep us all updated since you've got us all bowed up on your behalf! Ugh...just awful. Sending a hug!!
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Post by destined2bmom on Mar 18, 2019 16:41:51 GMT
I am right there with you Merge. I would be so mad! You need to make a police report and have them question her about what went on in your house. Your daughters have things still missing. It will let her know that what she did was wrong and even though you are a nice person; this will not be tolerated. Theft is theft. Whether you invited her in or not. I agree with PolarGreen12 you need to check your credit cards and bank account. You also need to check your medications and change your locks and codes for keypads. Look for the extra FOB or keys for your cars. She obviously had a party in your home. We use a service called Rover.com and we bring our dog to someone else’s house. They never come to our house. I understand that may be hard having 2 dogs and 2 cats. But you may be able to bring the dogs and have your next door neighbors feed and water the cats.
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Post by originalvanillabean on Mar 18, 2019 16:41:51 GMT
Oh my. I'm so sorry.
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Post by papercrafteradvocate on Mar 18, 2019 16:42:03 GMT
I’d be asking for your $$$$ back too!
She drove your vehicles without permission (what if she got a photo ticket? Or in an accident?) She drank a shit ton of booze (or at a minimum someone did) Your daughters clothes are missing Your rings are missing Your house was trashed Your dogs were mistreated Others may have been in your house
File a police report and let them ask her the questions—you might get your property back and it might lead to her ratting out others.
If anything, it will certain get her on record and possibly prevent anyone else from having to go through this if they try hiring her!
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MDscrapaholic
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Post by MDscrapaholic on Mar 18, 2019 16:43:06 GMT
I would definitely call the police. They could have been in an accident with your car and you won't know until you're served with papers. This really sucks all the way around.
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Post by bc2ca on Mar 18, 2019 16:48:57 GMT
I'm so sorry you came home to this nightmare. And your poor pups. Just my two cents, but I seriously doubt she has partied like this in the past and then cleaned up. IME, anyone partying this hard does just walk away from the mess. I'm suspecting she subcontracted the job, only checked in once or twice and is covering for her friends. Not that makes anything better or right. DD has been doing some subcontracting for her petsitting friend and the first question I asked her was if the homeowners know.
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Post by mom on Mar 18, 2019 16:49:57 GMT
One of the hinky things this time was that she had unplugged our internet almost the minute she walked in the door (it was down/unplugged when we got home and the app I use showed it had been down since the 10th). Strongly suspect she was worried that we could see or hear her somehow if there was internet to the house. Absolutely contact the police, and let them tell you what they can and can't take a report on. Also check all your meds and have the police check for evidence of drug use. Be sure to include the price of the meat and alcohol in the dollar figure you give them, as well as cost to rekey your locks. Check the car for drugs, too.So scary! Oh my gosh, yes! I would report it just in case she was involved in some other criminal activity while in your car. What if your car is on video doing something illegal? Please call the police.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 16:54:09 GMT
Thinking about this further, you do need to report this. What if your vehicle had been used in a crime. It's no use telling the police when they come knocking on your door following up on the crime about what happened, they'll think it " convenient" to use what happened as an excuse....you have no way at that point that you can prove that you didn't give her or others permission to use your vehicle while you were away. But if they have all the details on record they'll at least see that it had already been reported.
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Post by phoenixcov on Mar 18, 2019 17:06:35 GMT
In the UK If you need to make a claim on your house contents Insureance you will need a crime number from the Police even if they can`t/ won`t proceed with an arrest. Might that be the same in the USA?
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Post by pjynx on Mar 18, 2019 17:19:47 GMT
Another vote for filing a police report. I've thought of additional damages you might still incur. I can't remember what area you live in, but if it's an area with traffic cameras that send car owners tickets for violations caught on camera (such as running lights), you may end up with tickets being sent to your house. Parking tickets? Any tolls in the area where you have a pre-paid account that registers the car as it goes through?
Pam
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 18, 2019 17:20:59 GMT
Filing a police report does not mean they have to go out and do something. It is documentation that something happened. You need that protection. I had forgotten about the use of the car and what could have happened.
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Post by papersilly on Mar 18, 2019 17:27:01 GMT
i would truly be pea LIVID if that happened to me! that is awful.
ETA: and it doesn't matter what's going on in her personal life. you can't bring that shit to work with you.
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Post by karinec on Mar 18, 2019 17:27:05 GMT
Wow, that is crazy. My first inclination is that she wasn't alone in this escapade. I would definitely change the locks and perhaps any passwords she may have access to.
I'm sorry you are going through this, I would feel terribly violated. I hope you get your rings back!
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Post by MichyM on Mar 18, 2019 17:27:40 GMT
I haven’t read the replies but holy COW! I’d be livid. Did you take photos? If so, I’d call the non emergency line and ask for an officer to be sent out and file a report. OMG.
I have a professional cat sitter (I’ve had her for 6 years) that comes by daily when I’m away. I trust her completely. The first time I used her services I was gone over a month, much of it spent in remote areas of Morocco with no internet or phone. She handled a flood in my condo (upstairs neighbor’s water heater failed) without input from me, and beautifully. We’re talking walls, ceilings, floors removed by a remediation company. Gawd, I came home to such a mess.
I cannot even imagine her doing any one of the things your sitter did. If I could clone her I would. Still amazed at how well she handled it all.
Anyhow, so very sorry this happened. I would feel incredibly taken advantage of if I was In your shoes
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finaledition
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Post by finaledition on Mar 18, 2019 17:31:16 GMT
Wow! I totally understand. We had an incident in 1999 and even this many years later we won't have anybody stay in our house. Long story short, we got a phone call from our phone carrier that alerted us to over $2.000 in phone sex charges (remember those 1-900 numbers back then?). We cut our vacation short and came home and are house reeked of smoke. We were reimbursed from the company as they were licensed and bonded, but never again!
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 17:36:49 GMT
In the UK If you need to make a claim on your house contents Insureance you will need a crime number from the Police even if they can`t/ won`t proceed with an arrest. Might that be the same in the USA? Not for all claims you don't only on incidents a burglary or criminal damage. To be honest I don't think any insurance company would pay out on a claim for something like this, she was there with the owners permission.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 18, 2019 17:47:33 GMT
Absolutely contact the police, and let them tell you what they can and can't take a report on. Also check all your meds and have the police check for evidence of drug use. Be sure to include the price of the meat and alcohol in the dollar figure you give them, as well as cost to rekey your locks. Check the car for drugs, too. So scary! Hey Merge , I wonder if you filed a police report you could write off the loss on next years income tax, meat destruction, and what you paid her. You can only write off losses due to federally declared disasters, so no.
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PrettyInPeank
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Post by PrettyInPeank on Mar 18, 2019 17:48:41 GMT
I am so freakin mad for you. I cannot even begin to imagine how violating it feels to have a stranger in your house.
I am most mad at the way they treated your dogs. They must have been so scared, hungry, confused. Man that makes me mad. I'm so, so sorry.
I hope you get your rings back. I would reconsider blocking her until things are resolved though because having her words in writing could be helpful down the line. She may admit to something you didn't even know was a problem or missing. Hugs.
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Heathen
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Post by Heathen on Mar 18, 2019 17:49:57 GMT
Hey Merge , I wonder if you filed a police report you could write off the loss on next years income tax, meat destruction, and what you paid her. You can only write off losses due to federally declared disasters, so no. I'm not sure that's true.
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Post by frenchie on Mar 18, 2019 17:54:28 GMT
So sorry you are dealing with this, it's just awful!
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Post by Linda on Mar 18, 2019 17:57:38 GMT
I would also make a police report - even though your rings only have sentimental value - if she tried/tries to pawn them, you'll have a better chance of getting them back.
((((Hugs)))) and prayers - I'm so sorry
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TXMary
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Post by TXMary on Mar 18, 2019 17:59:29 GMT
How awful. I would be so pissed off. Especially that this crap was going on around my pets. I would ask my neighbors what they observed and file a police report. She was driving around in your car and who knows if that was before or after the partying? What if she did something while driving your car? We had a somewhat similar situation happen to us once but it was FIL's caregiver and it was his house. It's devastating when you trust someone and they abuse it like that. I am so sorry you are dealing with this. We travel a lot and have cats so it's something I worry about a lot. Luckily, my sister lives right around the corner now and I am so lucky to have her to watch my cats. This story reinforces my being dead set against having a stranger stay in my house.
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Post by anniefb on Mar 18, 2019 18:04:28 GMT
I would also make a police report - even if they can't take any action and you end up not being able to make an insurance claim.
Depends on your policy wording but I know someone here in New Zealand whose insurance claim was declined after she had jewellery and cash stolen while she was away because there was no forced entry and the thief was either the house sitter or someone the house sitter invited into the house.
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Post by hop2 on Mar 18, 2019 18:10:08 GMT
OMG how awful. I hope you get your rings back. I hope yourboets are ok!
Yes file a police report. House sitting does not = theft of your stuff.
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Post by LisaDV on Mar 18, 2019 18:15:36 GMT
Oh that’s horrible! I wonder if she got into drugs or something to change her behavior that much. Or fell in with a bad SO.
Either way I don’t blame you for not having someone stay st your house in the future.
DH has said we could have his mom come watch the kids since we’re so close now. We could go away for the weekend. I said not unless we can lock our door as she’d go through all our stuff.
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Post by revirdsuba99 on Mar 18, 2019 18:17:35 GMT
I hope you get your rings back. I would reconsider blocking her until things are resolved though because having her words in writing could be helpful down the line. She may admit to something you didn't even know was a problem or missing. Hugs. Merge Something to add to the mix. A good idea too!
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StephDRebel
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Post by StephDRebel on Mar 18, 2019 18:30:58 GMT
Oh sweet baby jesus. I've got a house/dog sitter staying at my place for 2 weeks. I cant even imagine.
What in the world is happening in that girls life.
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Post by christine58 on Mar 18, 2019 18:38:06 GMT
DH feels like it's hard to show theft when you gave someone access to your home, and that the police won't be able to do anything about it. Who knows. Can't hurt to call them. It would be the same if you had friends over and someone took them. I would absolutely call the police
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