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Post by brina on Apr 8, 2019 21:41:58 GMT
They are a somewhat low-key thing here. There is usually a poster with some clever wording, but not the kind of over-the-top stuff I have seen online. I would say based on my facebook feed that they are dwindling.
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Post by JustCallMeMommy on Apr 8, 2019 22:03:43 GMT
At our school, it seems to be a thing more among people who are dating. The pressure is horrible for the poor child asking if they don't already know the answer! I was happy that DD's prom date just texted her.
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Post by bothmykidsrbrats on Apr 8, 2019 22:03:59 GMT
I hope so. DS got asked to Sadie Hawkins his Sr year with the big sign and balloons in the cafeteria during lunch, and the poor girl that asked him didn't know he had a GF at a neighboring HS. It was terribly embarrassing for both of them.
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Post by Zee on Apr 8, 2019 22:45:52 GMT
So dumb.
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Post by Zee on Apr 8, 2019 22:46:38 GMT
Except the one with the sign on the dog... that's pretty cute and it's free and not embarrassing for anyone except maybe the dog.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 8, 2019 22:59:58 GMT
![](https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190408/1554291abbff86048fe2a424c70010de.jpg) “Yes!” My son used this way also. She couldn't say no to a corgi. Simple and cheap and no animals were harmed.
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Post by janeliz on Apr 8, 2019 23:00:13 GMT
I’m not hearing about as many of them these days. My daughter has been with the same boy for a few years now and they just decided together that they wanted to go this year (her Junior year and his Sophomore year). No fuss, no muss.
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 8, 2019 23:02:38 GMT
My son graduated HS in 08. So very happy they were not a "thing" back then amongst his crowd of friends. As someone sitting on the sidelines, many of them seem ridiculously ridiculous to me. You have summed up being a teen. I suppose the things we did seemed that way to our parents also. Social media just really makes this stuff a bit more painful.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 8, 2019 23:47:49 GMT
My son graduated HS in 08. So very happy they were not a "thing" back then amongst his crowd of friends. As someone sitting on the sidelines, many of them seem ridiculously ridiculous to me. You have summed up being a teen. I suppose the things we did seemed that way to our parents also. Social media just really makes this stuff a bit more painful. Very true ![;)](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/Q_m8lDOvc_3Le3r1GKdf.jpg)
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Post by Sarah*H on Apr 9, 2019 0:24:57 GMT
It's still a think here but it's just clever posters. DS also did an office themed one this year - "Prom with you would be better than Pretzel Day. I like Pretzel Day."
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Post by kels99 on Apr 9, 2019 0:32:59 GMT
I just asked my 17 yo DS if he had seen any Promprosals at school. His answer, "I don't think so." Granted, he's not the most socially aware kid, but I would think even he would notice if there were big to-do's going on around the school. I'm guessing it's not much of a thing here.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2019 0:34:29 GMT
Did I mention DD is not a fan of being in the spotlight (bf is, of course)?? She'll handle it fine, but seems silly to me if it's a last minute thing. This is one of my DD’s litmus tests. If a guy can’t be bothered to know her well enough to know she wouldn’t like it and to consider her feelings on the public question asking then her answer is no. A public no. And my DD is right. If your DD’s boyfriend cared about her & her feelings then he’d ask her in a manner that did not make her uncomfortable. It’s not like it’s a guy she just knows who is suddenly asking her, it’s her boyfriend he should care wether or not he’s making her uncomfortable. Your DD shouldn’t have to deal with being asked in a way that makes her uncomfortable. That is a big clue that her boyfriend doesn’t know her well and or doesn’t care about how she feels. Eh, they are good. He's a respectful kid and if she asked him not to, he wouldn't. She will be happy to have one and will want pics (apparently the guys are helping each other so they can get pics of them) she's just low-key compared to him. I had just assumed he wasn't doing one and I've seen a lot fewer around here than I had the last couple of years. Maybe last-minute promposals is the new thing. He's put up with her wanting to go to dances with her friends instead of him and not doing anything for their 1st Valentine's Day (last year, it was a stupid holiday then this year it was okay ![:blink:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/pd7N3dneptLj3pbgz5Gd.jpg) ).
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Post by Deleted on Apr 9, 2019 0:35:08 GMT
I hope so. DS got asked to Sadie Hawkins his Sr year with the big sign and balloons in the cafeteria during lunch, and the poor girl that asked him didn't know he had a GF at a neighboring HS. It was terribly embarrassing for both of them. Awww that's too bad for both of them!
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 9, 2019 0:39:51 GMT
At our school, it seems to be a thing more among people who are dating. The pressure is horrible for the poor child asking if they don't already know the answer! I was happy that DD's prom date just texted her. My son had been dating his gf for four years before they went to prom as juniors. He asked her using the dog. Senior year he made Rice Krispie bars in the shape of letters spelling prom. He knew his audience.
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Post by peabay on Apr 9, 2019 0:43:25 GMT
I hate them. Too much pressure for the askers and too much pressure for the askees (if they don't know it's coming.)
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Post by hop2 on Apr 9, 2019 0:45:48 GMT
This is one of my DD’s litmus tests. If a guy can’t be bothered to know her well enough to know she wouldn’t like it and to consider her feelings on the public question asking then her answer is no. A public no. And my DD is right. If your DD’s boyfriend cared about her & her feelings then he’d ask her in a manner that did not make her uncomfortable. It’s not like it’s a guy she just knows who is suddenly asking her, it’s her boyfriend he should care wether or not he’s making her uncomfortable. Your DD shouldn’t have to deal with being asked in a way that makes her uncomfortable. That is a big clue that her boyfriend doesn’t know her well and or doesn’t care about how she feels. Eh, they are good. He's a respectful kid and if she asked him not to, he wouldn't. She will be happy to have one and will want pics (apparently the guys are helping each other so they can get pics of them) she's just low-key compared to him. I had just assumed he wasn't doing one and I've seen a lot fewer around here than I had the last couple of years. Maybe last-minute promposals is the new thing. He's put up with her wanting to go to dances with her friends instead of him and not doing anything for their 1st Valentine's Day (last year, it was a stupid holiday then this year it was okay ![:blink:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/pd7N3dneptLj3pbgz5Gd.jpg) ). thats good to hear - I wasn’t quite sure from your original Post Thank you for explaining
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 9, 2019 1:28:41 GMT
Ds never did a promposal
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Post by scrappintoee on Apr 9, 2019 1:33:40 GMT
My son used this way also. She couldn't say no to a corgi. Simple and cheap and no animals were harmed. 950nancy.....Awww......I LOVE these examples of people using cute pets to ask ![:love:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/W4b_Om5roEadLiOzGo_l.jpg) . Any chance you'd like to share a pik of your CUTE corgi and the sign your son made?
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 9, 2019 2:13:42 GMT
My son used this way also. She couldn't say no to a corgi. Simple and cheap and no animals were harmed. 950nancy .....Awww......I LOVE these examples of people using cute pets to ask ![:love:](http://i59.tinypic.com/2eov0ps.jpg) . Any chance you'd like to share a pik of your CUTE corgi and the sign your son made? This picture so cracks me up. Can you tell all of the hard work he put into asking her? I about died when I saw it. He printed out the sign, put a bow tie on the dog, and found his kindergarten picture in my scrap room and tossed it in for good measure. How could she say no after all of that? ![](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/thumbnailer/hCxSKABSNcGvPwwdcFTB.png)
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Post by freecharlie on Apr 9, 2019 2:24:52 GMT
Ds never did a promposal. He and his gf just went
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 13:29:27 GMT
Update in OP ![:-S](//storage.proboards.com/forum/images/smiley/wavey.png)
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Post by gritzi on Apr 29, 2019 13:41:01 GMT
I loathe promposals! Loathe them! Thank God teen only has one more year of high school.
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Post by mellowyellow on Apr 29, 2019 14:05:39 GMT
I don't like them. I just think proms, homecomings, etc have just gotten way out of hand. It's too much pressure to try to out do others.
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Post by Basket1lady on Apr 29, 2019 15:29:17 GMT
Wow. What an update. I’m alternately sad for him, proud of your dd for not bailing on her BFF for a guy, and horrified at how over the top the proposal was planned to be!
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 15:48:06 GMT
Wow. What an update. I’m alternately sad for him, proud of your dd for not bailing on her BFF for a guy, and horrified at how over the top the proposal was planned to be! Yep, I agree. Except she did still bail on BFF...she was a wreck about it all and not in a mood to hang out with anyone. So grateful she could be sad for a night then let it go...I fully expected this to ruin the week before prom.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 15:57:06 GMT
Yep, they are totally a thing here. My DD was so hurt that she did not get one from her BF that she said she wasn't going to go unless he asked her. His mom texted me "Do you know why they aren't going to prom?" and I gently told her that DD wanted to be asked. I don't know that she wanted a full blown "promposal" the way some of her friends got asked, (a singing telegram was one of them, a note in a book in a litte free library was another, that was part of a treasure hunt) but she did want to be asked. So they went out to dinner at a Chinese place and her fortune cookie had a fortune in it that said "Will you go to prom with me?" I think his mom ordered it online. My DD was happy, but I was kind of annoyed at the whole situation, with her (DD) mostly, but with the BF too that couldn't just utter the words, "Hey do you want to go to prom with me?" I think she would have been happy with a note, or a card too. I don't know....
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Post by Deleted on Apr 29, 2019 16:18:40 GMT
Yep, they are totally a thing here. My DD was so hurt that she did not get one from her BF that she said she wasn't going to go unless he asked her. His mom texted me "Do you know why they aren't going to prom?" and I gently told her that DD wanted to be asked. I don't know that she wanted a full blown "promposal" the way some of her friends got asked, (a singing telegram was one of them, a note in a book in a litte free library was another, that was part of a treasure hunt) but she did want to be asked. So they went out to dinner at a Chinese place and her fortune cookie had a fortune in it that said "Will you go to prom with me?" I think his mom ordered it online. My DD was happy, but I was kind of annoyed at the whole situation, with her (DD) mostly, but with the BF too that couldn't just utter the words, "Hey do you want to go to prom with me?" I think she would have been happy with a note, or a card too. I don't know.... Really, how do these kids plan on going if they don't ask and talk about it. ![:crazy:](//storage.proboards.com/5645536/images/G0Qxztyjs53n1ic_fEBG.jpg) I think some of them are just freezing up from the pressure, but like your DD, mine would have been happy with something simple.
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Post by MichyM on Apr 29, 2019 16:25:32 GMT
All I can think is what a freaking hullabaloo just to go to prom. So grateful they were not a thing here when DS was in school. You went, or you didn’t. And going with a group of friends was perfectly acceptable. Oy!
Hope she manages to recover from the angst of it all. Good luck!
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Post by Country Ham on Apr 29, 2019 16:28:21 GMT
If your DD’s boyfriend cared about her & her feelings then he’d ask her in a manner that did not make her uncomfortable. It’s not like it’s a guy she just knows who is suddenly asking her, it’s her boyfriend he should care wether or not he’s making her uncomfortable. Your DD shouldn’t have to deal with being asked in a way that makes her uncomfortable. That is a big clue that her boyfriend doesn’t know her well and or doesn’t care about how she feels. Relationships are 2 sided. In your scenario why can't the girlfriend care about her boy friends feelings and appreciate he is a bit out there, a bit demonstrative and exuberant is how he expresses things? it's not like she didn't know he would plan something like this. Middle ground is best but so is give and take. Like you said it's not like they didn't know each others personalities well enough before this promposal.
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