scrappington
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Post by scrappington on Apr 9, 2019 23:23:52 GMT
I went to a crop / retreat put on by a company who just does retreats. We had heard good things and my friends and I signed up and went in October.
Now this company every year hosts a crop for cancer. Large crop lots of croppers and it raises a lot of money. One of the owners has had cancer and has been diagnosed again with another form of cancer.
So for our retreat they ask you to bring gentley used or new product to put on a table and croppers can leave money for what they take. All money goes to charity.
Now some people literally brought garbage and put it on the table. Was just embarrassing. I brought a brand new in package Tim Holtz mover and shaper die.
So Sunday morning the hostesses start gathering better product and packaging it for their cancer crop as silent auction baskets. Ok fine.
So fast forward I'm at a yard sale and one of the hostesses is a vendor and what do I see for sale on her table....my die I donated. And I know it was mine because I removed a price sticker and the reminents were still there.
So what do you think...
I want to know if my feelings are valid.
I personally don't think it's right.
One thing to be on the table at the retreat. One thing to be packaged for silent auction packages for the cancer crop. But to be sold at a yard sale that goes into her pocket.
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Post by mom on Apr 9, 2019 23:31:20 GMT
Yeah, I would have to ask her about it. And I would never go to a crop of theirs again.
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Post by Elsabelle on Apr 9, 2019 23:40:35 GMT
I would have had to ask at the yard sale if the proceeds were going to charity.
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Post by scrappington on Apr 9, 2019 23:45:36 GMT
Most of the stuff she was selling was ctmh stuff I guess back in the day she was a rep.
She promoted her being a vendor pretty good and usually she would say my sales go to charity.
She was quite clear she was selling off her personal stuff
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Post by leeny on Apr 10, 2019 0:37:04 GMT
You were asked to bring something and you did. Did you want it back if it didn't get purchased? If she lived in another city, you may never know what she did with it. I'd say you gave it to a cause, and it appears to be her.
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Post by Ryann on Apr 10, 2019 0:45:24 GMT
Is it possible she bid on (and won) a basket at the silent charity auction and it happened to include your item in it? Now she's selling off the pieces of the basket she paid for that she doesn't want to keep?
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Post by artisticscrapper on Apr 10, 2019 1:57:30 GMT
That’s just wrong. I’d be upset too.
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Post by joblackford on Apr 10, 2019 2:43:54 GMT
I understand your feelings, and if she somehow just took it to sell for her own benefit, yes, I would be pissed off too. It doesn't seem just, and that is naturally going to be annoying. Especially when you were much more generous than other people at the crop, which clearly irks as well. But on the other hand there may be a valid reason, like Ryann said. The only way to know would be to ask. And in the end, you did the good/right thing and you know it, and you can't control anyone else. |
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Post by 950nancy on Apr 10, 2019 3:31:14 GMT
I think what she did was in poor taste. I hope it doesn't bother you too much and just know that some people are smarmy like that. Then again it maybe didn't sell at the silent auction and she couldn't remember where it came from since it was donated. Who knows.
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Post by Embri on Apr 10, 2019 5:03:29 GMT
Is it possible she bid on (and won) a basket at the silent charity auction and it happened to include your item in it? Now she's selling off the pieces of the basket she paid for that she doesn't want to keep? This was my second thought too, but without more information it's impossible to know. Certainly doesn't look good, and in business that's often all that counts - even the appearance of impropriety is to be avoided. Selling off donations after-the-fact would be a conflict of interest unless that money is going to the original intended charity for which the item(s) were donated. I'd be curious to know how your item went from the auction basket to the hostess. Usually hosts aren't allowed to bid during their own events, again, because conflict of interest - they have access (presumably) to the bids, thus would know exactly how much to put down to win, and if there was an undervalued lot. Something doesn't pass the sniff test in all this. I'm sorry it looks like your charity was taken advantage of. :\ |
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Post by myboysnme on Apr 10, 2019 11:30:37 GMT
I would buy it back at the yard sale and tell her that it is the same one you donated to her crop and since then wish you had it back so now you are buying it back. Then I would say that I was going to take it back at the end of the crop but thought it was going into a silent auction for charity.
Or I would forget about buying it back and say it is the one I donated and since she didn't need it for the silent auction you'll just take it back. I'd rather donate it to Goodwill than have her profit even $1, but that's just me. |
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Post by scrappington on Apr 10, 2019 11:59:53 GMT
Is it possible she bid on (and won) a basket at the silent charity auction and it happened to include your item in it? Now she's selling off the pieces of the basket she paid for that she doesn't want to keep? Nope. The charity crop isn't until July. We are not attending any more of their crops, it wasn't all it was cracked up to be anyway. It just rubbed me the wrong way. |
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Post by mikklynn on Apr 10, 2019 12:55:49 GMT
I think what she did was in poor taste. I hope it doesn't bother you too much and just know that some people are smarmy like that. Then again it maybe didn't sell at the silent auction and she couldn't remember where it came from since it was donated. Who knows. I agree. |
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Post by amom23 on Apr 10, 2019 13:44:02 GMT
You were asked to bring something and you did. Did you want it back if it didn't get purchased? If she lived in another city, you may never know what she did with it. I'd say you gave it to a cause, and it appears to be her. I agree and would add that I usually don't care for these type of donation setups just because there is usually such a difference in quality of the items. |
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Post by mom on Apr 10, 2019 14:54:28 GMT
Is it possible she bid on (and won) a basket at the silent charity auction and it happened to include your item in it? Now she's selling off the pieces of the basket she paid for that she doesn't want to keep? Nope. The charity crop isn't until July. We are not attending any more of their crops, it wasn't all it was cracked up to be anyway. It just rubbed me the wrong way. There is 0% chance I would just let this go. |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2019 15:46:45 GMT
Thats disgraceful.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2019 15:57:52 GMT
Very poor taste, but she perhaps doesn't think so. I was at a baby shower recently where the mom-to-be opened a gift and said thank you, and then said "that one is for the regifting closet!" because she already had something similar. Manners and common sense people!
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Post by scrappington on Apr 10, 2019 16:14:08 GMT
Very poor taste, but she perhaps doesn't think so. I was at a baby shower recently where the mom-to-be opened a gift and said thank you, and then said "that one is for the regifting closet!" because she already had something similar. Manners and common sense people! Wow. That is horrible |
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Post by amom23 on Apr 10, 2019 16:16:49 GMT
Nope. The charity crop isn't until July. We are not attending any more of their crops, it wasn't all it was cracked up to be anyway. It just rubbed me the wrong way. There is 0% chance I would just let this go. I'm curious what you would do? |
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Post by jen on Apr 10, 2019 17:21:47 GMT
Very poor taste, but she perhaps doesn't think so. I was at a baby shower recently where the mom-to-be opened a gift and said thank you, and then said "that one is for the regifting closet!" because she already had something similar. Manners and common sense people! Yikes, that is awful! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 10, 2019 19:10:55 GMT
I would think she felt entitled and packed herself a goodie bag.
I would let it go though. I wouldn’t go to any other events put on by this group but once I have parted ways with something, such as a donation item, I just can’t spend time wondering about it any longer. You did a good deed. Let it rest at that.
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Post by kate on Apr 10, 2019 22:00:42 GMT
Is it possible she bid on (and won) a basket at the silent charity auction and it happened to include your item in it? Now she's selling off the pieces of the basket she paid for that she doesn't want to keep?  |
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Post by mom on Apr 11, 2019 0:50:25 GMT
There is 0% chance I would just let this go. I'm curious what you would do? I would probably pull her aside and ask. I wouldn't try to blast her on FB or anything, but say you noticed an item you had donated and recognized it by the tag, and was wondering if it had accidentally gone into the wrong pile or whatever because you intended it to be for xzy. |
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