Post by scrapaddict702 on Jul 23, 2019 1:56:41 GMT
My husband doesn’t mind me spending money on new supplies, but he makes sure to add that I should be purging old stuff supplies as I am buying new ones. He groups me with our two toddlers and thinks we have too much stuff in general. Meanwhile, his crap is in an entire spare bedroom, an entire part of the basement, on all the shelving in the garage, and in a cabinet in the laundry room. I seriously don’t have room for laundry supplies, because his car stuff needs to remain at room temperature (insert huge eye roll).
He also doesn’t give me the time to actually work on my hobby with the exception of 1 or 2 crops a year. I should always be doing something else or be “less boring.” With the heat this weekend, I was so excited to work on my new album in the quiet, but he threw a fit because I didn’t want to go out to the bars. Craft beers are one his hobbies, but he doesn’t know how to make friends, so I am stuck going with him. It was my invite for beers anyway, not his, so I should have had more control over saying yes or no. I am really peeved about the whole thing, if you can’t tell.
The short version is that my husband says that he is supportive of my hobby, but his actions say he really isn’t.
I have so many snarky things that I could say here, but since he isn't an ex, I won't. I do think you need to work on setting boundaries with him so that you have time for things that you like, though...it's one thing to enjoy every spare second you have with your family, it's another to feel forced to participate in what they like while you don't get to enjoy anything you like because you want to avoid conflict or being made to feel guilty.
It's not your job to hold his hand because he's not social and using you as a crutch so he doesn't HAVE to socialize means he is missing out on opportunities to converse with people who actually like what he likes. I'm very anti-social but I can EASILY have a simple chat with like-minded people in a venue focused on something me and the rest of the people in the room are all passionate about. That's the easy part of a venue catered to something specific...it's pretty easy to have at least one thing to chat about, even if your social skills are abysmal like mine.